True love is unlike anything else out there. Many people look their whole lives and never find it. Some of those people may have actually had it once before but were too blind to see that it was actually true love. Therefore, you have to be educated on what exactly true love is.
You may think you know what love is, but you’re probably wrong. Many people go through most of their lives without actually realizing what makes love real and true. They think being attracted to someone and laughing together is enough to make a relationship last. It’s not.
If you really want to know what makes for true love, you’ve come to the right place. These are all the signs of true love in a relationship that you have to know about if you want to make it last. Know love when you find it so you don’t risk losing it forever.
- Acceptance of the good AND bad.
Your partner is not going to have every single great quality you’re looking for without having a few you dislike. There’s just no “perfect” person out there for you. You’ll have to face certain characteristics of theirs that you’d rather not but the difference between a random fling and true love is that you accept those bad things. You take all of the good qualities they have and accept them along with the bad. And you realize that not everyone is perfect and not everyone will be everything you want. Accepting their flaws is definitely a sign of true love in a relationship.
- Being yourself.
I know this one may sound cheesy, but it’s 100% true. If you can’t be yourself with someone, then what’s the point? I know you may think you can get away with acting like a certain person around your partner and then truly being someone else, but do you really want to do that for the rest of your life? You can’t. And you shouldn’t have to. When you find true love, you’ll feel comfortable just being completely and 100% yourself.
- Making sacrifices.
No relationship can fully function without making sacrifices and you will never find true love unless you run into situations that make you sacrifice something for the sake of the relationship. True love doesn’t come easy. You have to give up a lot to make it work. But what makes you realize it’s true love is if you’re willing to sacrifice certain things in order to find that true love.
There has to be equality within a relationship for it to be true love. One person shouldn’t put in more effort or care more than the other person. That’s not true love at all. When you’re with someone who treats you as their equal and care about your opinion just as much as you care about theirs, that’s true love. When you find someone like this, you’ve found the one.
You might be thinking that this one is false because “true love doesn’t have fights”. That way of thinking is completely wrong. True love definitely has arguments, they’re just different than when it’s not real love. How, you ask? Well, when you’re truly in love with someone, you fight to find a solution to the problem and to work toward harmony. When it’s not true love, you just argue so the other person sees your point of view and says you’re right.
- Effort from both people.
Like I mentioned above, true love isn’t one sided. If it is, then it’s not real at all. You have to have a relationship where both people are equally as invested in it and they’re putting forth the same effort. When one person is obviously doing way more than the other, this isn’t true love. Why? Because the other person is basically showing you that they don’t care as much as you do. And when you don’t have mutual love, it’s not true love.
- Ultimate trust.
If you don’t completely trust the person you’re with, you can’t possibly love them for real. True love comes with a level of trust that you just don’t have with everyone. Sure, you may have your doubts and be concerned when certain situations arise, but if you know 100% that you can trust them with anything, that’s a sign of real love. You won’t feel this type of trust with everyone you date so when you do, pay attention.
- Sharing their pride and happiness.
When your partner accomplishes something amazing, how do you feel? If you feel proud and excited for them, it’s a sign of true love. When you care about someone deeply, their emotions become yours. You end up being happy when they are, sad when they are, and also really proud of them and their accomplishments. There should never be any jealousy or animosity when they accomplish something they’ve been working for. You should be happy and proud of them.
- Their happiness is more important than your own.
At the same time, when you truly love someone, their happiness becomes more important than your own in a way. If you give up certain things that make you happy just so they can have happiness, you truly love them. However, there is a limit to this. If you are always thinking about their happiness and they’re unconcerned with yours, this isn’t true love. This feeling has to be mutual for it to be true love.
- No matter the struggles in your life – you’re happy by their side.
You could be going through the shittiest time of your life but if you have them by your side, you’re happy. This is true love. No matter what you’re going through in life, if you can say you’re happy simply because you’re with that one person, then you’re really in love with them. The bad times become bearable with the person you love at your side. Because while you’re going through a hard time, that person is there to help you get through it and to lift your sprits.
- Even when you’re mad, you still love them unconditionally.
Some people get mad at their significant other and immediately claim they don’t care about them and even do things that will hurt them. This isn’t true love. No matter how angry or upset you are with someone, if it’s true love, you’ll always love them deeply no matter what. There’s nothing that can take that love away from you. You could be the angriest you’ve ever been and yet, you’ll still feel a deep love for them. That’s what true love is and if you feel this, it’s a sign you’ve found the one.
- Working hard to make the relationship function smoothly.
True love is not all roses and butterflies like you see in the movies. The truth is, true love is a lot of work. Your feelings for the other person may be easy but if you really want to be with them and only them, you have to put in a lot of work to make it happen. You’ll run intro troubles from time to time and you have to work hard in order to smooth out those road bumps so you can have a healthy, happy relationship.
Tips for Making True Love Last
It’s not enough to just have true love and expect it to last forever. In reality, you have to put in tons of work to make even the best of loves last. That’s why we have these tips for making your relationship last.
I know you’ve probably heard this before, but it’s so important that it needs to be said over and over again. Communication is the backbone of a healthy relationship. Even if you have true love, you’ll never make the relationship work if you don’t communicate. You have to be open about what you want and need from them. This won’t always be easy, but it’s definitely worth it. Don’t be afraid to talk to your partner about how you’re feeling at all times. Make a point to discuss your relationship every now and then just to make sure both of you are happy with it.
You also can’t stop trying. I know it may seem like you’ve “won” them and don’t’ have to try any more, but you do. If you just give up and stop putting effort into the relationship, it’ll start to dwindle away and you’ll be left with nothing – even if you’re with someone you truly love. For that reason, you always have to be doing something to make them happy. It doesn’t have to be anything big. You can simply buy them their favorite candy or just tell them they’re hot every day.
Last on this list is honesty. You can’t have a functioning relationship without being honest with your partner. This has a lot to do with communication but even more so, you have to be able to tell your partner everything. They may not be happy to hear everything you have to say, but being honest with them will open the doors of communication and give you a much better relationship. So make sure you’re telling them the truth when they ask you something and don’t hide the important stuff from them.
True love is no game. It’s not just a walk in the park. In order to find out if your love is real or not, these signs can help you. Don’t make the mistake of thinking some fleeting romance is the real thing and then bypass true love when it’s right in front of you.