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How To Approach A Girl You Don’t Know In High School


Approaching anybody that you don’t know can be quite nerve-wracking! Your palms get sweaty, your mind starts racing and you tend to start playing out different scenarios in your head. Like what if this person is uncomfortable with you just randomly coming up to them? Are they going to respond positively? Will they become hostile?

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There is no need to panic! Approaching someone, especially a girl that you don’t know in high school, can seem almost impossible. However, it’s really, truly simple… If you know what you’re doing that is. Of course, if you knew what you were doing in this situation, you wouldn’t be here looking for advice, would you? Probably not. But that is exactly why we’re here. To help you take this challenge on head first and succeed! With our tips you will go up to this girl with no problem, confidence, and feeling ready to take on the world! Well, maybe not the world, but at least your high school!

Confidence is going to be key here. So do your best to gather as much of it as you can as you read through these following tips on how to approach a girl in high school.

How To Do It

Wait For The Right Time

We know that you are probably uber excited to get this show on the road. However, we recommend waiting for the perfect time. You have some things to work on first. And besides that, you don’t want to approach her when she’s busy. Or possibly even when she is surrounded by a bunch of her friends. Why not? It’s not likely to happen, but if things go south between you, it’s better her friends are there to jeer at you or poke fun at this situation. So just wait. Wait until you have done the next three steps and then wait until you find her not busy without her friends around.

Practice First

This might sound silly, but you want to practice first! When they said practice makes perfect, they definitely weren’t lying. This is what works. You can practice in the mirror, by talking to yourself. Playing out how you want the conversation to go. Or if you are extremely shy, you might want to practice by talking to other people. Ask your mom or your best friend to spark up a random conversation. You can do a little bit of roleplaying as well, by asking them to pretend being the girl you want to talk to. This will help you prepare for the actual event when the time comes.

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Build Up Your Confidence

Like we said previously: Confidence is key. Without it, you will fail at completing this mission. Girls find confidence attractive. If you are a little shy, it’s okay, but you need to work on building up that confidence level so you aren’t stuttering or tripping over your feet when you approach her. Do everything and anything you can to become more secure in how you feel, how you talk and how you say what you want to say. This is very important!

Ask Your Friends To Hype You Up

Right before you make your move to approach her, ask your closest friends to give you a pep talk. They can help hype you up for the conversation that is about to happen. This might give you the confidence boost you need to be successful in this endeavor.

Have A Friendly Demeanor

Nobody wants to spend time talking to someone that possesses a hostile demeanor. Make sure you appear loose and friendly. Approach her with a smile on your face and make sure your arms aren’t crossed. Crossed arms can indicate you are nervous or upset about something, because they give you a ‘closed off’ appearance. You want to appear more open if anything. When speaking to her, keep your tone light and cheerful, too.

Find Your Opening Line

Yes, you are going to want to think about what you are going to say before you say it. Be weary of the first words that come out of your mouth when you speak to this girl you don’t know. Saying the wrong thing can lead to immediate termination of your shot at an actual conversation. So what are some of the wrong things you can say? Stray away from saying anything even slightly perverted. She is not going to respond well if you come on too strongly and insinuate something sexual. You two do not even know each other. She will most likely scoff, flip her hair at you and walk the other way. Try to avoid saying something about her looks right away. Although you might think that a compliment will work, it doesn’t always. A compliment based on her looks will just make her think that you are initially hitting on her. She might not vibe with that. Try to focus on finding common ground and using that to your advantage.

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Find Common Ground

Like we said, finding common ground is something that you can use to get things really sparking between this girl and yourself. A common interest is going to get her more interested in communicating with you. Did you see her reading a book that you also read? Have you noticed your parents drive the same cars? Are you both supportive of a certain sports team? Or maybe you spend time in the same class! These are all good things to use when you are looking for common interests to talk about.

Use Positive Body Language

Positive body language is so important when meeting someone new. We already talked about not appearing closed off and using your pearly whites. You may also want to consider making continual eye contact. Eye contact will let her know that you are focused on her and what she has to say. Use your hands to talk, but don’t do so too ferociously.

Don’t Try Too Hard

We know you are nervous and you really want to impress this girl. Yet it is crucial to not try too hard.  You want to be yourself. Refrain from lying about yourself to show off. This never ends well and usually a girl will be able to tell when you are not being honest. It will just blow up in your face.

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Exchange Information

The final step here is to ask her if you can talk to her again. Once you have been talking for awhile, you can ask her if you can hit her up on Snapchat, Facebook or text her.


See, that doesn’t sound too hard, does it? We have total faith in you! Good luck!


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