Guys have a lot of different ways of talking to girls and some of them have a tendency to freak us out quicker than you can say “what the heck”!
When you’re hanging out with a guy and he calls you by a pet name that you aren’t familiar with, it can make you want to turn around and run in the other direction. One of those pet names that wreak havoc is “mami.”
Is he calling you mommy? Is he having trouble with his mom and trying to shove you into that role? Is he proposing? Does it mean that he’s looking for something? Is he asking you to head back to his place?
A million questions can run through your head at that moment while you try and understand exactly what it is he’s saying to you without just outright saying it like you wish they would.
Before you head for the hills thinking he has abandonment issues, take a quick breath and let me help you decipher that guy talk. Besides, it’s really not as bad as it seems at first and once you get used to the idea, you might even be flattered when a guy uses it.
Seriously though, if a sexy TV character uses it, you’re already a puddle at his feet, so why not give a normal guy a chance and take a second to figure out what it actually means to you? Here are a few explanations from guys that explain what they are trying to get across and to help you understand the word.
1. “Mami” comes from the Spanish language and was used to mean mother, but now is a slang word used for other reasons.
2. Typically, Cubans, Puerto Ricans, and Dominicans use the slang word and not Mexicans.
3. It can also be used as “mamacita,” meaning little momma, “ma,” or “chula.”
4. It is the same as when someone calls their boyfriend “daddy” and obviously does not mean the traditional sense of the word. Kind of like how everyone has heard of the term “sugar daddy.”
5. He thinks you are sexy and doesn’t necessarily know anything else about you.
6. He is calling you a pet name, like girl, honey, or baby. Think someone like Cuban actor Adam Rodriguez from Magic Mike here saying it or Puerto Rican Ricky Martin. It doesn’t sound so bad then, does it?
7. He thinks of you as a sister and is showing you grown-up props to make you feel confident in yourself.
8. It is the spicier version of a sweet name. Yes, he really likes you, but he also thinks you are hot stuff! This is typically used when you already know the guy and he is saying that he likes who you are, but also what you look like.
9. It is most definitely a compliment even if it is used by someone you don’t know. No, that doesn’t mean that you have to feel flattered instead of creeped out, just that you know you look good.
10. He is not calling you mother in any sense of the word even though he is literally using the word.
11. It is a sign of respect for your femininity. Parents use it to talk to their daughters sometimes like when they ask “mami, how was school today?” When used like that, it is basically a way to help build self-esteem in others which, let’s be honest here, we could all use a little help with.
12. If you’re totally into him, “papi” is the return phrase, meaning daddy. “ai, papi” means “hold up baby” and “oh, papi” means “keep doing whatever you’re doing.”
So, you see, if you are okay with him calling you a sexy version of yourself, and who wouldn’t be, then this is not a bad thing. Mami is used as a respectful way of telling you he thinks you are sexy without being crass.
Unless he’s a catcaller, then he is definitely after only one thing like any catcaller calling out to you as if you would turn around and go to him immediately.
The important thing to remember here is that it will mean something to you when you hear it. If it makes your skin crawl, then put a stop to it because he’s up to no good. If it makes your heart flutter, then you know that he means is in a nice way and you want him to keep saying it.
If it sends a thrill right down to your toes, then you’d better get a hold of yourself, girl because it sounds like you have got a bad case of the “lord, that guy is hot” thoughts. Responding to that one with “papi” is bound to see you waking up at his place wondering how he used one words and got to you.