When it comes to the Cancer man, you have to be patient. This sign is often called the shyest of all the zodiac. Because of this, the hardest part about having a relationship with a Cancer man is actually getting to know him. He tends to be quite closed off, and he is not going to open up easily. Part of this is because he finds it difficult to trust people. If he has been betrayed by a friend or a lover before, it will be even harder for him to open up.
This is not the guy that you will find at the center of a room surrounded by people. Cancer men are rarely accused of being the life of the party. If he is forced to be in the limelight, he will do his best to fade away as soon as possible. Even when you talk to the Cancer man, it can be hard to get him to talk back. He is picky about who he talks to and who he opens up to. Despite his shyness, he is actually quite good at understanding how people feel. If he does start to talk to you, he can often intuitively tell if you are interested in the conversation. While he might be emotionally all over the place at times, he has a traditional nature that makes him a great lifetime partner.
The Kind of Woman a Cancer Man Needs
With his shy nature and intense emotions, the Cancer man wants a kind, gentle woman. He needs someone who will love and accept his romantic gestures. When he does something kind, he wants a partner who is grateful and does not take him for granted. This is not a sign who puts up well with nagging. If you seem angry or nag him in some way, he will curl up in his shell to wait out the storm.
If you want to be with a Cancer man, you have to be patient. It takes him time to open up to someone, even if he is head-over-heels in lover with her. The right woman will be patient and ready to take things slow emotionally until the Cancer is comfortable. Don’t bother with this sign if you are not interested in a long-term relationship. While Cancers may occasionally try to play the field, it is really not in their nature. Ultimately, they want a long-term relationship with a loyal partner, a happy family and a comfortable home.
The Cancer Man in Love in Relationships
You will rarely (and probably never) find a Cancer man in a relationship with a woman he just met. It takes the Cancer man a while to trust someone, so he needs to get to know you well before he even considers a relationship. Because of this, many Cancer men end up dating women who started out as their friends. He is looking for someone who makes him feel comfortable and seems trustworthy. He will not open up or consider a relationship until he is sure that you are worth his trust. Until then, he will remain distant, shy and closed off. It could take weeks or months until your Cancer man starts to open up.
The good news is that this man is certainly worth the wait. When he does become comfortable with you, he is basically the stereotype of Prince Charming. He will hold the door open for you and show up with flowers when you least expect it. If you are cold, he will give up his warm jacket so that you are toasty and warm. He is the quintessential gentleman and takes pleasure in acting chivalrously toward his dream lady. If you are patient enough to have a relationship with him, he is quite the catch.
Once he is in a relationship, the Cancer man in love just wants to make you happy. If you are depressed, he will move heaven and earth to see you smile. He wants to help his partner out in any way possible. If you are tired after work, he’ll secretly wash the dishes and do the laundry so that you can relax. When he does these little acts of kindness, let him know how much you appreciate it. Like most people, he wants to be appreciated by the ones he loves, and he will feel hurt if you don’t notice all of his efforts.
The even better news is that the Cancer man is quite romantic. Once he has committed to you, he will dream up new ways to show you how much he loves you. From firework shows to beautiful poetry, he will find a way to show you how much he cares. Once he is in love, the Cancer man is unlikely to cheat. He wants a long-term relationship and will be completely loyal to his partner.
The Downsides of the Cancer Man in Love
By this point, you have probably realized that it takes your Cancer man a bit of time to emerge from his shell. What you might not realize is his moodiness. His emotions can change in an instant. He can be happy right now, but completely depressed and closed off in an hour. You can never know when his next mood swing will happen, which is quite frustrating for anyone who dates a Cancer man. The only positive aspect of this is that he understands the moods of other people. He is often intuitive in his ability to sense how the people around him are feeling.
With his mood swings, you can probably guess that he is a guy who is easily hurt. He tends to read too much into a simple comment. You might have meant something to be a compliment, but he takes it the wrong way and remains moody for hours. This trait can get on people’s nerves, but it is something you have to get used to when you are with a Cancer man.
The last downfall of the Cancer man is how he acts in a relationship. It takes him a while to trust you and commit. Once he is committed to the relationship, he can become over-committed. He wants to be with you every moment of every day and does not understand if you need an hour alone. This can lead to neediness and clinginess at times. It also makes the Cancer man quite difficult to break up with because he will just refuse to understand that you want him gone. When this quality exists in moderation, it makes for a loving, attentive partner. When his clinginess goes into overdrive, it can drive you and everyone else nuts.
A Cancer Man in the Bedroom
Innovative and risk-taking are generally not the words you hear when people talk about a Cancer man in the bedroom. He might not be particularly adventurous, but he is extremely sensual. This is a guy who tends to like romantic things like scented candles, romantic dinners and hot bubble baths. He is the guy who puts rose petals on your pillow, but he is probably not going to bring a sex toy or karma sutra anytime soon. If you are looking for a sensual lover whose only goal is to give you pleasure, the Cancer man is your guy.