No one said you had to be in a serious relationship. Some of us are only looking for something casual which is great. Many of you aren’t interested in a serious relationship or you may not have the time to invest into one. This is where casual relationships come in. Casual relationships are great when you just want to have fun without any strings attached. It’s the best way to play around without having to hurt anyone, some of us just want to have fun.
Whether you’re just looking to have fun or want a break from being in a relationship, you can always try out a casual relationship. But, before you do, you need to know the rules. That way, you’ll prevent yourself from any awkward situations.
You have to respect your partner
What happens a lot in casual relationships, sadly, is the one person will treat the other in a cold manner to show that they don’t have feelings for them. Well, it’s highly disrespectful and really shows that you think of this person as less. So, you should only enter a casual relationship if you respect the person. This means you don’t actively act like an asshole around them. If they meet your friends, it’s cool, if you see them when you’re hanging out with your brother, you say hi. You don’t treat them like they’re a door mat. So, if you respect and like them as a person, you can fuck them.
Don’t get in a casual relationship thinking of more
It’s called a casual relationship for a reason. Now, some people do end up being with the person they were casually seeing which is great. However, this isn’t the usual case. For many people, they sleep together for a couple months and then everyone goes their own way. Do not enter a casual relationship thinking that this will help you get to the next step into something more serious. If you’ve both agreed that sex is what this relationship is, don’t try to get all emotional with that person.
Whatever you two discuss, it has to be face-to-face. If you only want sex, tell that person. Don’t just test it out and see how it goes. This is why casual relationships fail. If you’re not up front and honest with that person, people get hurt. Now, if you have the feeling, no matter how big or small, that the person is doing this because they want to be with you, don’t sleep with them. I know you want to have sex with them, but, you have to show some respect and do the right thing. You don’t need to have sex with them and they don’t need to have sex with you, especially if they like you. To avoid this, really sit down with them and have a talk about what’s going to happen.
Find someone who matches what you want
If you want an amazing casual relationship, then you need to look for someone who wants the same things as you, both in and out of the bedroom. You want them to only be in it for the sex and you want them to want the same sexual experiences as you. If you want to explore threesomes, make sure you find someone who’s open-minded to that. This is your time to explore various sexual activities with someone you’re not in a serious relationship with. Your actual partner may not be into bondage, so, find someone who is either active with it or interested in trying it out. Oh and one big thing though, do make sure they’re single. Everything is easier when they’re single, plus, you won’t feel guilty or used at the end of the day.
Don’t get jealous.
If you see your casual relationship out on a date, don’t get jealous. Your casual relationship isn’t serious and is based solely on sex. I know people can become territorial and jealous when they see someone with another person, whether they really like that person or not. If you wanted to be with that person, you should have talked about it. If not, think to yourself, do you actually want to be with this person? Or is this just because you feel you have some claim on them? Think about this very hard before you text them or stop them on the street. This is where things can get a little messy.
Know that this will end
These relationships always have an expiration date – sorry to break it to you. Casual relationships usually don’t last more than a couple months, maybe half a year. You need to know when it’s a good time to end it. You want to make sure this relationship ends before you start getting bored and uninterested in seeing them. If you’re starting to develop feelings, you also want to then pull out of the relationship. Basically, what I’m trying to say is, know when to end it. You may want to continue seeing this person, but push your ego aside and really look at the relationship. These cannot go for long, especially if you two do not want to be together in something more serious.
If someone crosses the line, talk about it.
Okay, so you two have established boundaries. You guys know what to do if someone starts to get feelings, you know what to do if someone meets another person, you also know what to do when you stop wanting to have sex with each other. Everything has been discussed and agreed upon which is important. But, someone crossed the line. These rules you two have control over which are crucial. So, when someone crosses one of those lines that you established – either they have feelings for you and don’t tell you, they talk about their relationships, etc, you need to sit down and have a chat. Whenever you feel like this relationship is changing into something else, it’s time to have a talk.
I don’t even know why I need to tell you this, but it happens all the time. This is a casual relationship, there’s no need for mind games. I mean, this is one reason why people have casual relationships, they’re easy and simple. Do not say things that can easily be misinterpreted like “you’re the best thing to have ever happened to me.” Because that person isn’t. If they were, you would have been in a serious relationship with them. Don’t try to manipulate this person into thinking you want something more when you don’t. Screwing around with their mind isn’t cool nor is it fair. If you’re falling for them, talk to them about it. Manipulation only creates more problems.
No date nights
Date nights can muddy the waters. You want to keep this casual. If you two meet up for a beer before hanging out, that’s fine. But if you find yourself doing the whole dinner and a movie night, well, then I think you’re going off the path. A casual relationship is focused on sex. If you’re buying this person dinner and gifts, I think you’re missing the point. When you buy things for another person, it’s because you care about them and want to support and make them happy. Now, if you buy this person a beer, it’s not going to kill you. But to buy someone gifts, it’s pretty intimate. This may show that your feelings go a little deeper than just sex. So, if you catch yourself doing this, take a step back and think about it.
Accept that you are not the one
They do want a relationship, but not with you and vice versa. You two are simply each other’s stepping stones until you find someone you want to be with. This is something that your ego is going to have to get over. Don’t try to win their heart, this isn’t what a casual relationship is about. Keep your expectations low – remember this is about having fun and exploring your sexuality with someone you don’t have any attachment with. So, really take advantage of this.
Continue seeing other people
This is just casual sex. Now, I don’t know what your rules are, but usually, if you’re in a casual relationship you’re allowed to sleep with other people. Go out with your friends, talk to people, if you like someone spends the night with them or get their number. It’s called a casual relationship for a reason. Don’t give your casual relationship so much attention. Of course, you will see the person, but remember, this is temporary. In the meantime, play the field because they’re surely doing the same. You’re technically single, you’re just simply having sex with someone without commitment. Keep that in mind when you’re going out. Sometimes we have a tendency to pull back from meeting new people when we’re with someone. But, like I said before, you’re not actually with this person, you’re simply just sleeping with them.
Now that you know the rules about casual relationships, the next time you get yourself in one, you’ll know what to do. Casual relationships are a great way to take a break from serious dating and just have fun with someone who’s not looking for something more. These rules will give you the boundaries you need to allow you to have fun without getting any feelings involved. So, good luck and enjoy your casual relationship – they’re a lot of fun when you pick the right person!