Finding a cute guy to crush on isn’t always the easiest task. So when you finally do find one, you cling onto him like he’s your last hope. The tricky part? Figuring out whether he feels the same way or not. We all know guys are difficult to read when it comes to their emotions. Sometimes they send us mixed signals. It can be frustrating trying to read into what a guy is thinking. You might start to think, ‘Does he really like me? Or do I just want him to so badly that I’m being delusional?’
Sometimes you might find yourself grasping at straws. Was that a friendly smile? Or did it mean something more? Why is he hanging around me so often and not any other girls? What does this mean!?
We feel your struggle in this situation. We really do.
But that is why we’ve decided to go ahead and look into this scenario. So we could help the struggling people out there figure this stuff out! Because heaven knows it isn’t easy to do alone.
Let’s get started, shall we?
What You Need To Ask Yourself
FIguring out whether or not he likes you is going to be tricky. It’s super important to pay attention! Don’t just go with your feelings. You have to try identifying his feelings, too.
To do this, you will need to ask yourself a few things. After you do, you should have your answer.
- Does He Ask/Talk About You?
If there is one thing we know, it’s that people love to talk about themselves. Except when they are truly interested in getting to know somebody. When a guy actually likes you, he will make an effort to ask you about yourself and your life. He will want to know what you like and dislike, about your family, etc. However, if he isn’t interested in you, he won’t do any of that. Maybe occasionally he’ll ask in response to something, but he won’t make a habit of it.
- Has He Mentioned Relationships Before?
What has he said about relationships so far? Has he mentioned that he absolutely loves being single or that he can’t see himself getting close to anyone? You might brush this off, because you have hopes he is going to madly fall in love with you. But we suggest not thinking that. ‘Cause usually when a guy says he doesn’t want to get close to someone, he has already made up his mind and there is no changing it!
Maybe you’ve heard him say he’s just waiting for the right one to come along or that he just hasn’t found anyone he’s compatible with. If so, he is definitely open to the idea of relationship. So it might be that he is leaning towards being affectionate with you. Especially if he brings this stuff up to you without being asked about it first.
- Does He Invite You Around His Friends/Family?
A good sign that a guy likes you and you are not just delusional, is that he invites you to meet his friends and family. Emphasis on the family part, though. Bringing a girl around your family is generally a big deal to most dudes! That means he doesn’t see you going anywhere, anytime soon!
- Does He Only Invite You To Group Hangs?
Yes, meeting his friends is a good thing, but only hanging out with his friends is not. Meaning: If you never spend any time alone together it’s probably safe to say he doesn’t have any romantic feelings for you. If he did, he wouldn’t want his homies hanging around constantly. How will he ever make a move in that atmosphere?
- Is There Any Physical Intimacy?
Speaking of making a move… Has he made any physical connection with you yet at all? You might be a little delusional to think he likes you if you have never been intimate at all with him. If he likes you, you will at least see him attempt a hand hold or a kiss or a ton of hugs. Something at least! Even if it’s just him sitting super close to you so that your legs touch. There will be something. But if he avoids these things at all cost, he probably just wants to be friends with you.
- Are You In His Future?
Has he invited you to a wedding that’s a little far down the line? Or maybe he invited you to his family’s cabin next summer and it’s only fall right now! These are signs that he definitely likes you. He sees you in his future and doesn’t planning on you going anywhere. Or at least that’s what he’s hoping. Also these are the type of events that require a ‘date’ not a friend.
Now that you have asked yourself these questions, you should have a better idea of whether or not he likes you or you’re just being delusional! We hope it’s not the latter!