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He Texts Me Everyday But Never Makes Plans To Hang Out


Texting someone that you like on a consistent basis is always such a wonderful feeling. Especially when the conversation is great, the replies come fast and neither of you have a blip in your flow with each other. But even with all of those cool things happening, there can sometimes be something that might still be bothering the crap out of you. Like, if the two of you are doing so well with your texting, why has he not made the move to make plans with you to hang out? What is stopping him from taking the next step? Doesn’t he want to get to know you more in person? These are all definitely valid questions to have in this situation. We can understand where your concern might arise from. But don’t panic. It does not always mean that he does not like you. There could be many other things behind it that are prompting him to say no to a hang out session with you. What are they? Well, we will walk you through them shortly here! Just take a look below to get started.

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The Reasons


He Has Been Busy

Let’s face it- We all get busy. Some weeks are definitely busier than others. And some months just seem never endingly packed with stuff to do. Even if we don’t really want to be doing it and would be rather doing something else… Like hanging out with the person that we have been texting lately! You might have to come to understand that this guy that you have been texting on the regular is just a busy man, with a very busy life. He might have a lot of other things going on. So, it might not actually have anything to do with you, it might just be that he lives a very full life on a day to day basis. How can you figure out if this is the reason that he hasn’t made plans to hang out? Girl, just ask him! Ask him how he spends his weeks. It might be the answer you are looking for.

He Wants To See Where It’s Going

Yes, you two seem to have hit it off right off the bat…  Or so it seems to you! He might still be a little skeptical about how things are going between the two of you. It could be that he just simply is not ready to hang out with you too much in person. He might want to continue talking for a little while longer, because he wants to see if you two are truly a match or not. Texting first for a long period of time gives you both a chance to get to know one another. He is probably weary at this point and would like a little bit longer before diving into a more physical relationship of any sort. This happens more often than we think. And no, it does not mean that there is anything wrong with you. He just wants to make sure you are right for him first!

He Has A Girlfriend Already

This is definitely our least favorite on the list, because it would mean that he is one shady man. However, it does happen. And you should be prepared for the possibility. Although you should not jump to any conclusions! Instead remember that this is only a small possibility. You might want to think about his behavior. Does he seem to disappear for long periods of time without explanation? Does he refuse to add you on social media platforms? These are signs that he might already be seeing someone. And since he, most likely, does not want you and her to collide, he is going to have you on different schedules. So there is going to be times where he is nowhere to be found.

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He Is Too Shy

Or your poor, cute, crush might actually just be a shy guy. This means that he just hasn’t yet mustered up the courage to come out with you just yet. He might feel overwhelmed or even intimidated by the idea! Thinking about meeting you could even go as far as to give him anxiety. So it might take him some time to warm up to the idea. He certainly enjoys talking with you if he talks to you every day and keeps the conversation up well. But he does not yet know how to act on those feelings. He will eventually! You just need to have patience with him. Or you can make the first move and try to plan something with him! Take the risk and see what he says!

He’s Just Bored

Lastly, we want to mention this reason because, even though it’s an awful one, it definitely is one to be aware of. Guys (and girls) sometimes only text people consistently because they are simply bored. This means that they never truly had any intention of hanging out with you in the first place. This is most likely the reason if you are always trying to get him to hang out, but he always rejects the idea.


  1. Met this guy online we went out to dinner after 5 days and I haven’t saw him since but he text me everyday sometimes three times a day but we don’t do anything else but that he even called me his wife you’ll say good night wife or good morning wife I was calling me sweetheart a baby but he won’t agree to Simi person won’t talk to me on the phone for you to text me everyday

    • It sounds as though he feels an emotional connection with you. He may be interested in nourishing this relationship. It is uncertain why he is unwilling to meet with you in person. This could be an indication of an outside influence on his actions. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Verdie!

  2. Hi…
    I met a guy online and we meet up two weeks after talking on the phone and texting. The first time we meet it was wonderful he had flowers for me he was a gentleman. After the date he said he had fun and we wants to continue seeing me and see where it goes. So I meet up with him two more times after that which I initiated it and they were wonderful. He text me everyday..I get a good morning text every morning with something inspirational and we text all day and he calls me every other day but I have a problem because he hasn’t asked to see me again and I have a problem with that.. I asked was he communicating with other women and he told me that he was and I’m fine with that because he is not my man but we are getting to know each other and I have expressed to him if he wants to get to know me I acquire more than texting and on the phone I require for us to hang out… I’m trying to see if he’s going to ask me out this weekend and if he’s not I’m just going to fall back but I just wanted to know if this guy is really into me is he stringing me along or he’s just not interested.

    • It is possible that he is interested in developing a relationship with you. He may have been uncertain or confused about your feelings toward him. He may be determining what he wants for your relationship at this time. If he does not reach out to you before this weekend, then speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Crystal!

  3. This guy at work Goes out of his way to come flirt with me and tell me how beautiful I am every day, he asked for my number, if I’m single, etc. The first day he text me, it was alot. He kept asking questions saying he wanted to know everything about me, blah, blah…. since that day he only texts how my day is going then maybe one or 2 replies and then he doesn’t text back until the next day right before work with the exception of one day he text about 2 hours after I got off. He mentioned that he wants to hang out with me so bad, I replied that he seemed cool to hang out with, then he said he knew we’d have fun and again no response until the next day and he never did ask me out. Weve only been texting for 2 weeks but I’m already tired.

    • If the two of you have been texting for two weeks and have not met up, then determine what you believe is appropriate for your relationship. He may be shy and uncertain about how to make the first move. Perhaps speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. You may want to spend time with him in person, if you want to nourish this relationship. Have a great day, Megan!

  4. we have texted daily for over a month and went out a couple of times. however i am always the one who asked to hang out.

    is he interested? or is there anything i should do? thanks!

    • It is possible that he is the type of person who does not reach out. He may be responsive when you reach out to him. There may be a variety of influences in his life. If you want to maintain a relationship with him, then you will find benefit in speaking with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Hazel!

  5. Me and this guy just met in college through one of our classes. However, we do sit across the room from each other so we don’t get to talk much during class. I shot him a message first… at first we weren’t talking as much. I ask him to meet me for a study session because we had an exam, needless to say we didn’t get much studying done, because we just sat and talked. I found out he works part time,full time student and he also games a lot like all 19 year olds do. Now we text almost everyday and i ask him to hangout if he has time, he told me he barely has time but okay.

    • Sometimes, it takes people a while to work up the courage to ask someone else out. Hanging out with someone in person can be difficult if you like them and feel nervous around them. It is entirely possible that he is just nervous about being around you in person–plus, he sounds incredibly busy with his work. I’d be patient for a while. If he doesn’t make a move in the next few weeks though, it is also possible that he just isn’t interested in pursuing a relationship right now.


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