Some guys have all the luck, they just walk up to a girl and bam, they have her number. If you’re reading this, you may not be that guy and that’s okay. Not everyone is so smooth when it comes to talking to women and no one said it was easy. Though, if you see a cute girl walking down the street or sitting at the bar if you’re going to approach her, you’ll need to know how to strike up a conversation. Yes, I know, you’re scared, but if you don’t talk to her, you’re going to miss your chance for possibly seeing her again. So, though you may be nervous, many men before you have done it and many men after you will do it – what you need to do is be one of those men. Not sure how to do it? Don’t worry, we’re going to tell you everything there is to know about approaching a girl and impressing her.
Leave the pickup lines at home
In the movies, pick-up lines might have worked, but in real life, they’re a death wish. No girl is going to respond positively to a cheesy pickup line. They may roll their eyes at you, walk away or laugh – these are all things you don’t want to see after approaching a girl. If you don’t know what to say, you can just start off by saying “hi.” She’ll appreciate that you’re not using a lame pickup to try to impress her. So, by not using a pickup line, you’ll impress her – knock two birds down with one stone.
Stop being fearful
You need to ditch the fear. Listen, the only thing fear is doing for you is preventing you from talking to the girl you like. You need to understand that rejection is going to come whether you like it or not. There will be a girl you like, you’ll approach her and she’ll say no. But from there, you have to keep pushing yourself forward. You think she’s the only girl walking this earth? There are plenty more women for you to approach. Sure, you may get rejected again, but that’s just a part of life. We’ve all been rejected but what’s important is that you don’t allow it to hinder your future.
Don’t be so eager to get her number
We all know what your goal is, you want to get her number and ask her out on a date. She knows I know, you know. But just because that’s the goal, it doesn’t mean you have to attack her right away for it. Why don’t you try to talk to her and get to know her for a little bit? Maybe she has similar interests as you, so, when you find this out, then you can ask her for her number. If you ask her too soon for her number, she’s going to say no. Why? Because you’re pressuring her without making her feel comfortable. You just look like this guy who is hungry for her number – it’s not a turn on. So, take it slow.
Once you get her number, leave.
So, let’s say that she gave you her number. Now that you have it, leave the conversation. Don’t get her number and run, but you should slowly exit the conversation. Say you’re going to grab a drink or say you need to go catch your bus – whatever the excuse, use it. The longer you stay to talk to her, the higher chance you’re going to say something that will blow it. What you need to do is talk to her, make her feel comfortable, get her number and then go. If you stay and talk to her for a longer period of time, you open up the window of opportunity for her to doubt if she should have given you her number or not.
Get your basic hygeine down
I’m not saying you need to look like Brad Pitt, but you need to look like you have yourself put together. You at least want it to look like that you know how to shower yourself and shave. This is always impressive for a woman. We like to see that a guy knows how to take care of himself, it’s a huge turn on. Now, we don’t like it when a guy spends more time in the bathroom than us, but if you look like you have yourself put together, she’ll notice. You don’t have to wear expensive clothes, you just need to make sure that they’re not covered in stains. When you approach her, walk with confidence – this is a killer combination.
Laughter is key
Now, if you’re not a natural comedian, that’s okay. Don’t try to be funny if it isn’t your thing. But, if you can make her laugh, it’s definitely a bonus point. Women love men who can make them smile and laugh. I mean, who doesn’t like to laugh? If you’re good at making people laugh, feel free to open the conversation with a funny line or observation. It’s a great way to let someone’s guard down and have them connect with you over something funny. If you make her laugh, she’ll stick around.
Don’t check her out
Listen, you know she’s hot, you know she has breasts and an ass. If you can not look at them, you’re in the clear. Women know when a man is checking them out, we’re not stupid. So, keep your eyes on her face – I know, you’re going to look once in a while, that’s okay. But don’t make it like you’re having a conversation with her boobs. This isn’t going to get you a number, instead, you’re going to get labelled as a creep.
Where are your manners?
At the end of the day, women love seeing a man who has manners. You don’t have to kiss her ass, but holding the door open for her or helping her with her coat isn’t going to hurt you. She’ll be highly impressed. When someone holds a door open for you, you always acknowledge that person and think of them someone who is a good person. So, why wouldn’t she think the same for you?
Keep the conversation where it’s comfortable
You may want it to go down a sexual path, but if she’s not vibing, then back off. You need to let the conversation flow naturally with topics that she’s comfortable talking about. If you’re interested in her, be interested in her, not what she has to offer you. Find out her interests and see if there’s something you two both like. You’ll be able to connect with her on an intellectual level which is important. Now, remember, you do want to get her number so you can talk about these things on a date, but it’s important to create some bond between you during the initial encounter.
This isn’t the time for you to talk about how you know Jennifer Aniston or how you ate lunch next to Kim Kardashian – no one cares. Don’t talk about your sports cars or how you’re making so much money you sleep on it. Sure, you may get her number but not for the right reasons. You want her to be interested in you for you, not what you have. Plus, if she’s an intelligent girl, she’ll get bored in the first ten seconds and make up an excuse not to give you her number. There are many girls out here that aren’t impressed by materialistic things.
Don’t overthink what you’re doing
When you approach a girl, don’t overthink what you’re doing. You need to think of her as any other girl, no matter if you think she’s the most beautiful girl you’ve ever seen. If you overthink the situation, you’re going to screw it up. Think of it like this, you’re not trying to make her fall in love with you, you’re trying to get her number. So, treat her like you would any other person. This is why I suggested making her laugh and talk about light topics – it’ll be less stressful for you at the end of the day which is important. When you’re nervous and stressed is when you make mistakes.
You’ll need practice
For some of you, the first time you do this, it’ll be a success, but the second time you do it, you’ll get rejected. This is just the way it is. You need to practice and talk to many girls in order to see which approach works the best for you. Maybe it’s a line you used that girls don’t respond to very well, or maybe it’s the way you walked up to them. It really depends, but, you’ll figure it out along the way. Though what I can say is that nothing comes overnight, so with some practice, you’ll learn what works for you and what doesn’t. Just relax and enjoy the experience.