When it comes to asking a girl to be your girlfriend, you can’t just do it at random. Girls like a lot of build up to something so special and we like it to mean something more than just, “hey, will you be my girlfriend,” while you’re having dinner. If you want to impress a girl and make sure she becomes your girlfriend, you have to put more effort into it.
Now, that doesn’t mean you have to go out and spend hundreds of dollars on roses and chocolates and jewelry. You just have to put some time and effort into how you ask her and that will be enough to impress her. So if you really want her to say yes and be your girlfriend, these tips can help make that happen.
- Take it slow.
You can’t just jump right into asking a girl to be your girlfriend when you haven’t really taken the time to get to know her. Truthfully, you should know a LOT about her before making it official. Why? Because you don’t really know if she’s the one for you until you know her inside and out. For that reason, you have to take it slow. Take your time and spend it getting to know just how compatible the two of you are before asking her. This will ensure she’s ready to date you, too.
- Make sure she likes you.
Don’t just be that guy who asks a girl to be your girlfriend when you don’t actually know if she even likes you or not. Doing this will basically ensure you get a big fat, “No!” from her when you do ask. You have to make sure she likes you and if you’re not sure if she does or not, you’ll have to do some research to figure out the signs that show she does. You can also work to make her like you so you’re sure she does when you ask.
- Tailor it to what she likes.
Every girl is different. All of us like to be asked out in completely different ways. This will always be true. Therefore, you have to know what a girl likes in order to tailor your question to what she likes. For example, if she’s the type who loves adventure, take her to an amusement park to ask. But if she likes romance, set up a picnic and then do it. If she’s in an environment she likes, it increases her odds of saying yes.
- Don’t go overboard.
There are far too many guys who make SUCH big deal about asking a girl to be their girlfriend that they just go way overboard. There’s no need to fancy dinners and expensive jewelry. If the girl likes you and you like her, asking her should be enough. You just want to make sure you make it special in some little way and she’ll be more than happy.
- Plan a date day.
A lot of times, dates are something that both people put equal amounts of effort into. However, if you just take charge and make the plans for the entire day, it’s extra special for your girl. If you really want her to say yes, then you have to make sure she sees just how much you care about her and about making her happy. The easiest way to do this is to just plan an entire day of fun things for you guys to do. Show her you can make her happy all on your own, then ask her.
- Use a love letter.
Some may say love letters are too cheesy or cliché, but those people are wrong. There really isn’t much better than knowing someone took the time and energy to write down just how they feel about you. If you’re someone who doesn’t communicate their feelings very well through talking, then a love letter is the way to go. You can even give it to a girl while you’re on a day and watch her read it. Then just ask her to be your girlfriend. It’s as easy as that.
- Take her somewhere memorable.
A great way to make a girl feel special and make her want to say “yes” to being your girlfriend is to take her somewhere memorable. Don’t just go to the same restaurant you always do and ask. You want to take her somewhere that she’ll remember for a long time. Take her ice-skating on an adorable pond, take her hiking and overlook the sunset, take her on a walk along the beach. These things are not only romantic, but they’ll resonate with her long after you leave.
- Do it in private.
Some girls don’t like to be showed off in public. If your girl is shy or an introvert, making a big scene and asking her to be your girlfriend with a bunch of other people around won’t go over well. Instead, ask her in a private setting where you’re away from everyone else. This makes it much more personal and a lot more special to her. Of course, if she does like to be showed off and you know she’ll say “yes”, you can risk it a little.
- Get creative.
Anything that you hand make in order to impress a girl and ask her to be your girlfriend is always a great idea. You don’t even have to be great at it. If you just try your best and make something really cute and creative, she’ll see how much effort you put into it. And girls LOVE a guy who puts in effort to make her happy.
- Just tell her how you feel.
Sometimes, simple is best. If you’re someone who can articulate your feelings very easily and have no problem putting yourself out there, then just tell her how you feel. Explain to her how happy she makes you and how incredible you think she is. Then you can go ahead and ask her to be your girlfriend. This works really well and will definitely impress her because not everyone has the guts to be vulnerable in that way. It’ll definitely leave an impression.
Tips for Impressing Her
Sometimes it’s just not enough to ask a girl to be your girlfriend and you have to do certain things to ensure she says “yes”. These tips can help impress her and make her want to be yours.
- Be yourself.
I know this sounds super cliché, but it’s only used so much because it’s true. If you try to be someone else, it’s usually really obvious. What’s more impressive than trying to play a really “cool guy” is when you’re just yourself. Nobody wants to end up dating someone who is completely different than what they thought. So if you really want to impress a girl, you’ll just be who you really are around her.
- Have confidence.
Confidence will go a long way in impressing a girl. The truth is, finding a confident man is just hard to come by. There aren’t too many out there who are truly happy with who they are. So if you just act confident and love you who are, you’ll definitely impress a girl and make her want to be your girlfriend.
- Be honest.
Liars and people who aren’t truthful are just a huge turn off. Not only that, but many women can very easily tell when someone isn’t being honest. For that reason, when a guy is very upfront and honest, it’s impressive to us. We respect the honesty and we would rather be in a relationship with someone who is truthful with us than with someone who would rather lie about everything. So be honest and she’ll find you impressive.
- Trust your instinct.
Your gut instinct is usually right. The trouble is, people hardly ever listen to it. If you really want to impress a girl, then just go with your gut. Trust your body and your instincts to lead you in the right direction. If you suddenly feel like a girl is pulling away from you, then stop what you’re doing and don’t push her further. If you just listen to yourself and trust what your body is telling you, it’ll be impressive.
- Accept if she says no.
You may not think this is impressive and it might be contradictory to the purpose of these tips, but trust me. If you do end up asking her to be your girlfriend and she says no, just accept it. If you end up getting upset and angry and blowing up at her, your chances are ruined forever. However, if you’re a gentleman and respect her choices, she may just see you in another light. Accept what she says and move on.
Getting a girl to be your girlfriend isn’t easy work. If you want to make the most of it and make sure she wants to be yours, these tips are crucial to making that happen.