If you want to get a hot girl you’ve got to be a hot guy. That’s how it works, and it should be self-explanatory. Still, there are plenty of men sitting out there in their own filth, wondering why they don’t have supermodels coming there way.
Let’s get one thing out of the way; you can be hotter than you are. You might never be on the cover of a magazine, but that doesn’t mean that you’re helpless. You should also know that as a guy you’re lucky, women have a more complex idea of what it means to be “hot.”
Consider all the famous rock stars, comedians, and actors who don’t look traditionally handsome. A woman might think a man with a beer belly is hot if he provides value in some other way.
So, let me ask you, do you want to be hot? It’s not going to be an easy task. If being hot was easy everyone would be walking around with glistening six pack abs, draped in the most stylish clothes. But every day people accomplish difficult tasks, you can too. So, let’s dig into how you can be a hot guy.
1. Start working out
Women are naturally attracted to strength. They aren’t looking for a man who is too skinny or too fat to handle physical exertion. This is just biology; it’s not natural for any creature to settle for a sickly looking mate.
Working out isn’t just about doing sit ups and jogging, it can be as simple as biking to work instead of driving. Try taking the stairs instead of the elevator. Get your body into motion, and you’ll start to become more and more attractive.
2. Lift weights
I know we already said you should work out but too many people settle for cardio and cardio alone. I know that the thought of lifting weights can be intimidating. When you go to the gym and see the type of dudes who spend all day pumping iron, it’s hard to walk into their area and start fumbling with weights.
But muscles matter, you don’t want to walk around with strong legs and arms that seem to be made of string. It’s also important to note that lifting weight helps increase your testosterone level. This is the “masculine” chemical that separates the men from the boys.
You’ll feel the difference when it starts pumping, and so will the girls around you. You will also find that it increases your sex drive, which will help inspire you to work harder at developing yourself into an even hotter man.
3. Trim your facial hair
Some women love a man with a beard, but that doesn’t mean they go for just any beard. If you let your hair just grow out naturally, it’s going to go crazy eventually.
Look around your city at the homeless men wandering the street. Your facial hair should not look like theirs. Everything about your look should be intentional, don’t just leave it up to nature to style your hair.
You should also look at what’s “in” at the moment. For example, in some circles, beards are in demand while others aren’t big on them. Take a look at the “hot dudes” around you and see what sort of facial hair they have.
4. Get cleaner
Are you showering every day? You certainly should be. You should also be using deodorant and a light cologne that is attractive without being overpowering.
Brushing your teeth is essential, but you should also consider carrying around mints so you can freshen up your breath between meals. It’s also worth investing in whitening strips for your teeth and mouthwash to kill germs that your toothpaste misses.
Good hygiene can get pretty complicated. Girls may not like guys who spend all day looking at the mirror, but if you put some effort into developing a good skin care regime, you can really improve your overall look quickly.
5. Find clothes that actually fit
Too many men walk around all day in clothes that don’t like fit them. In some cases, they are too small but more often than not they are baggy, completely obscuring the body underneath.
This is understandable if you aren’t happy with your body type but even if you are overweight, this isn’t necessarily helping things. Women can tell you’re husky even if you wear a t-shirt the size of a tent; the tent just makes you look like you have no sense of style.
6. Find a hot posse
They say that you are the average of the three closest friends. The idea behind this is that the people around you help to define what “normal” looks like. It’s the reason that you will have some families where every member becomes a professional athlete.
If you are hanging out with a bunch of unattractive people, you’re going to follow their lead. If no one you know dresses in anything but a graphic tee then you’ll get the idea that a button up is the height of fashion.
You don’t need to completely cut yourself off from your old friends, but if you want to see real results, you should look for people who will push you to be better.
7. Stand up tall
Body language says a lot and yet too many men don’t even think about it. If you are walking around slumped over and staring at the ground, then you aren’t as hot as you could be. You’d be amazed at how things can change if you just stand up straight.
Chest out, straight up, facing forward. It might feel stiff at first, but that’s just because you’re so used to acting like a troll your whole life. If you want to look like a superhero you need to start striking a pose like one.
Alright, maybe you don’t want to strike a crazy pose that should be accompanied with a big “boom pow!” Still, look around at the men around you who seem confident. Check out their body language and try and do the same thing.
8. Make eye contact
Here’s a little way you can practice confidence, as you walk around to try and look people in the eyes. You don’t want to mean mug them, just look them in the eyes and flash a smile. Maybe just nod if they’re a guy. This can be very painful at first, but eventually, you’ll notice that most people will break eye contact quickly.
In the animal world, eye contact is one way that alphas will establish dominance. It’s the reason that dogs get uncomfortable if you stare them at the eye, it feels like a challenge. True hot guys can look you in the eye without sweating. If you can look deep into a girl’s eyes, you’ll achieve a deeper level of attraction.
There’s a fine balance you need to strike. You don’t want to come off as creepy. Looking your best is an important step, girls are less likely to be creeped out by a hot guy. The other step is practicing a natural smile.
9. Show honest interest
All too often in this life, we spend conversations just waiting for our turn to speak instead of actually listening. Women don’t just want men who shut up when they’re talking, although that’s a good start. They want a man who shows actual interest in what they’re saying, asking questions and remembering the answers.
This can be tough if you’re talking to a girl who isn’t actually interesting. You can try and fake it for a while, but eventually, you’ll learn that hotness isn’t enough. If you aren’t honestly interested in a girl as a person, then you should probably move on. Your time is valuable, why waste it on girls with nothing to say?
10. Be bold
You might think that just looking hot would be enough to land you the girl of the dreams, but life is more complicated than that. Think back to all the stories you heard as a child, about the knights and their princesses. Did the knight just stand there looking hot until the princess showed up?
We might be living in a day and age where progressive publishers are producing those kinds of storybooks, but that doesn’t change nature. People don’t want to risk rejection, so girls will naturally be more inclined to wait for a guy to show some guys and actually ask her out.
That’s one of the reasons you see guys with girls who seem to be out of their league, that guy was willing to take a chance and put himself out there. Even hot guys get rejected, but if you aren’t willing to get rejected you’ll never get the girl you really want, you’ll end up settling. That’s not very hot, is it?
11. Live life to the fullest
We’ve focused a lot on what you should do to be attractive to women, but that can be a trap. You see, no girl really wants a guy whose life revolves around attracting women.
That’s what leads to those creepy bar hounds who spend every night out prowling for chicks. They may end up with plenty of notches on their bedpost, but they’re going to have a hard time finding anything more meaningful.
Find something you’re passionate about. Ideally, it should be something that’s also kind of sexy, spending your afternoons playing guitar is more likely to attract girls than picking up the accordion. Still, if you have a passion, you can’t deny then follow it. They may not be common, but there are accordion groupies out there.
Girls want to be a part of an epic story; they don’t want to be the story. If you’re living an exciting life, you’ll find that people will gravitate towards you, both hot women and interesting guys.
You might think that landing a hot girl is the most important thing, but eventually, you’ll see there’s more to life. To be truly hot you need to have an interesting life and a personality. That won’t just attract women, it will also lead to the sort of personal satisfaction we all crave deep down.