Being able to flirt with a girl is a necessity if you want to get a girl to like you or to find out if she is interested. If you do not flirt with her, she may hold back on making a move because she will think that you do not like her.
At the very least, you need to try being friends with a girl. While this could land you in the friend zone for good, it is also your only chance at being with her if you cannot bring yourself to flirt around with her.
No matter what option you choose, the girl will sooner or later pick up on the fact that you like her. Flirting will signal that you want to be with her, and she will be able to flirt back or not depending on how she feels.
While you can try to just be friends with her and hope that she makes a move, do not count on this method actually working out. If she thinks that you just want to be friends, she may not feel comfortable about making a move and getting rejected. Basically, you have to try flirting with her because it signals to her that she is interested. It’s like a chess game where you make the first move and see how she responds. If you want to test the waters first, try flirting subtly initially until you see how she responds to your advances. If she shuts you down, move on. If she flirts back, you are ready to make your next move.
1. Spend Time Alone With Her
When you are surrounded by people, it can be stressful for you to make a move. Plus, she may feel self-conscious about flirting back with you. The best way to flirt with her is to find some time when it is just you and her. This gives both of you a less stressful environment to flirt and see if the other person is interested.
Plus, flirting in a group of guys and girls can end up confusing her. She may think that you are flirting with another girl in the group. If this is the case, she will just think that you are a player and not actually interested in her. You need to flirt with her when she is on her own so that she knows that she is the girl you like. You can still flirt with her a bit when she is around people, but you definitely have to step up your game when it is just you and her alone.
2. You Have to Be Viewed as Dating Material
Flirting will help get her interested and help boost her attraction to you, but it is not enough to make her want to date you. She may see you as just a flirt, or she may just doubt that you would be boyfriend material. Once you have flirted for a while and things seem to be going well, you should drop hints that you want to have a girlfriend. She will either assume that you want to date her, or this will at least make her immediately wonder what it would be like to go out with her. Either way, you are getting her to start thinking about the next step in your relationship.
3. The Power of Touch
Touch is an extremely powerful sensation that can bring people closer together. Obviously, you cannot jump right into kisses or hand holding right away. A touch on the shoulder could be a good place to start. If her hair falls down from her ponytail or braid, push it back gently. As long as she doesn’t pull away (a sign that she is definitely not interested), allow your hand to linger slightly longer on her shoulder than it needs to and gaze into her eyes for a moment more than you would with just a friend. This is an extremely easy, natural way to flirt and will signal that you like her and would like to make a move later on.
4. Be a Good Guy
If you are smart, you have picked a girl who is amazing and who seems just slightly out of your reach. You want to be with your dream girl, which means that you have to be her dream guy. There are plenty of amazing guys in the world, so you really have to show her that you are different. Be a good guy. If you are talented, goal-driven, kind, passionate and intelligent, you will find it much easier to get a girlfriend than you ever imagined. People tend to date their equals, so you have to be awesome if you want a girl who is awesome to be with you.
5. Tease Her a Bit
You can’t spend all of your time touching her shoulder or gazing longingly into her eyes because it would be weird. You need to mix things up a bit by teasing her. To really be a flirting master, you have to make her laugh and make her relax around her. Teasing her or engaging in friendly banter will her her to relax around you and enjoy your company.
6. Call Her
At night, give her a call. She will feel more relaxed at this time of day, and there is something about the nighttime that always feels more romantic. Plus, most friends do not call at night and spend hours on the phone. Even if she finds it hard to believe that you would even be interested in her, late night calls will make her start to realize that you do like her. In addition, your calls are another chance for you to flirt with her and get to know her better.
7. Give Her Compliments
There are stages in the types of compliments you can give her. If you are not dating, you should probably stick to thinks that are safer like complimenting her outfit, telling her she has beautiful eyes or complimenting her perfume. If she responds well, you can move on to complimenting her looks—stick to compliments like, “You look so pretty today,” and avoid anything too sexual.
Most women get complimented on their looks a lot, so you may want to change things up by complimenting her intelligence or one of her talents. This will make her feel valued for more than just the way she looks and can give you an edge on any other guys who are interested in her.
Be careful with the way you compliment her though. If you tell her that you like the way her dress fits her body, it is going to seem creepy and weird if she is not dating you. As a rule, you can generally compliment her eyes, face and general looks without it being too weird. For anything more sexual, wait until after you have been dating for a while.
8. Get a Little Dirtier
By this point, you should start to have a clear idea if she likes you. Does she flirt back? Does she go out of her way to be around you? Does she seem to enjoy your time together? If it seems like she likes you, you can step up your flirting from casual compliments to a few sexual remarks. Make this switch carefully and gradually to see if she responds in kind or seems to enjoy the more sexual tone to your conversation. If it seems to make her uncomfortable, back off.
9. Be Funny
In many ways, this is the hardest tip on the list. After all, how can anyone “be” funny? It seems like you either are humorous or you are not. Unfortunately, humor is a hard skill to learn. If you can figure out ways to be funny, go for it. If not, try to smile more and be generally happy because positive attitudes are attractive.
If you can be humorous, you have an excellent chance of getting her to like you. Everyone likes to laugh and smile, so she will want to be around you more. Humor is attractive, and girls want to be with someone that they can have a good time with. You do not have to tell jokes to be humorous. All you have to do is recall funny events from your day or joke about things to lighten the mood. A good sense of humor will make getting close to your crush even easier.
10. Ask Her Out!
When you are flirting with her, ask her out! Ask her if she wants to watch a movie with you. You could also ask what she is doing that weekend, mention that you are seeing a movie and ask her if she wants to join if you want to casually ask her out without appearing like you are doing so.
Whatever the case, you need to make a move at some point. If you have been flirting with her and calling her at night for a while, then she probably already guesses that you like her. If she is still trying to be around you and seems to flirt back with you, then she probably likes you as well. Now, you have to take your relationship to the next level by asking her out.
If you are afraid of being rejected, make it seem like you are just casually asking her to hang out. If she says no, then go back to flirting for a week or two. She may have been busy that day, or she may not have realized that you liked her. If she just realized that you are interested, she may need a couple of weeks to decide how she feels and figure out if she wants to be with you. After a week or two, try asking her out again. If she accepts, you’re in: you have finally got the girl of your dreams to go out with you.
If she rejects you outright, you have several options. One of the first things to do is ask her why. If she has a reason that seems legitimate (like being busy with school), ask her if she would like to meet up for a date in the summer. If it seems like she is just making up a reason to avoid hurting you, then you may have to move on. You can’t make someone like you, so you may have to move on to another crush if your current crush is not interested.