Sometimes you don’t have the opportunity to chat with a guy in person but rather you’re left with talking to him via text. Which isn’t totally bad, you’re given more time to think about what you want to say and how you’re going to say it. Texting with a guy can be a lot of fun if you know how to do it properly. All you need to know are the right ways to do so and you’ll be having the time of your life talking to him. Plus, the next time you see him, you two will be more comfortable with each other since you’ve been flirting via text. So, let’s not waste any more time. We have to get you going and teach you how to flirt with a guy over text.
Don’t be nervous
So many women get nervous when it comes to flirting with a guy, but you can’t get nervous. Think of it like you’re talking to one of your friends. If you become nervous it’ll take over the way you’ll talk and you’ll overthink everything. So, before you start texting with him, just take a breath. You don’t have to reply in ten seconds, take your time to think of something witty and flirty to say. There’s no rush when it comes to this.
Don’t go overload with the smileys
I know putting a wink face or happy face is cute and I’m not saying not to do it, but don’t go overboard with it. If you overdo it, it just comes off as a little too much. You can use them to flirt and be cute, but, use your words as well. If you’re having a hard time starting the conversation, you can use a smiley face, it always works. So, the rule of thumb, use smileys, but not to the point where you’re talking about smileys.
Say his name
Say my name, say my name. People love hearing others saying their name, maybe it’s an ego thing, but it doesn’t matter. Use it to your advantage instead. Say their name in a text, it’ll create a sensual and intimate experience for them. You can say his name within a compliment or on its own, it doesn’t matter. He’ll love that you’re using his name, plus, he’ll imagine you saying it which will turn him on even more.
Keep your texts short
No one wants to read a paragraph, but really, no one. You can be flirty and sexy by only saying a couple words or sentences. You don’t need to write a romance novel. Don’t explain yourself in every text, keep everything short and to the point. It’s also okay to leave him in a confused state. If he doesn’t understand, you don’t need to explain it, leave it a little mysterious. So, keep your messages short and sweet. Let him do the talking.
Don’t ask him out too many times
I know you want to go out with him, but don’t push it. You can ask him out, there’s nothing wrong with that, but don’t make it that you’re the only one making the first move. Remember, it’s a two-way street, so if you ask him out and he doesn’t say anything, leave it. If you ask him out again and nothing happens, then stop asking him out. It’s okay to make the first move, but you don’t want to look like you’re desperate and needing him. Because let’s face it, you don’t need him. So, let him work a bit to see you.
Don’t be the one to always text him
I know you like him and it’s okay to text him first, but don’t make it become where he assumes you’re the one who’s always going to make the first move. You need to keep him on his toes. If he doesn’t reply to you until hours have passed or he barely replies, then stop writing him. Don’t become pushy and clingy, you don’t need that and honestly, he doesn’t want it either. The golden rule is, if he likes you, he’ll reply. So, don’t get stressed out, if he doesn’t reply, he’s not the last guy walking this earth..
Know when to end the conversation
You two have been talking for a while but that doesn’t mean the conversation has to continue. If it’s now going into the “haha, yeah” stage of the conversation, it’s tie for you to end it. If he writes back “yeah” or “lol” don’t reply. Why reply? What are you two possibly going to talk about? It;s time to end the conversation. He’ll write you if he wants to talk to you. So, once the conversation starts to get a bit dull, which is normal, just stop. That way, you keep the conversation upbeat and ending on a high note. Don’t think of it ending, just think of it as a healthy pause.
Now, not all the time. But you should throw him and compliment every now and then. Make sure that you mean it though, there’s nothing worse than a compliment that doesn’t come from the heart. He’ll love the attention and it’ll boost his ego a bit. Just don’t get it to the point where he thinks he has the biggest dick in the world, then you over did it. So, compliments are nice, but like anything, don’t overdo it.
Turn him on indirectly
You’re probably wondering what this means, no worries, I’ll explain. So, instead of saying to him, I’m thinking about you right now while I touch myself. Which isn’t a bad thing to say, but perhaps you’re not at that level yet. So, instead, you can say something like, I’m just about to take a shower or I’m just trying on bathing suits. We all know what he’s going to be thinking about when you say that, yet, it isn’t so direct. You can save the directness for later when you two become intimate and comfortable with each other.
Send a photo
No, it doesn’t have to be a nude photo, but we’re living in the time of Snapchat and Instagram, so you can send a photo to him. If you two are flirting, why not send him a photo of what you’re doing or maybe the bathing suit you bought. Men are very visual, so, sending them a photo only helps the imagination. Plus, it’s a fun and sweet way to excite the conversation. If you’re not a huge texter, then send photos instead, it’s easier and gets the point across of what you want to say.
Don’t try to flirt in a style that isn’t suited for you, I know you want to be sexy, but being yourself is sexy. So, be yourself. You’ve seen guys who try to act cool, they never get girls. If you’re naturally flirtatious, then great. If not, that’s good too, just don’t try to be someone you’re not. You need to show him who you are without pretending to be someone else. So, just relax – it’s only flirting. Who knows if you’ll even end up dating the guy, so you have nothing to lose. Be yourself and have fun with the experience.
Now that you know how to flirt with a guy, it’s time you went and practised. Don’t take it so seriously, rather, go with the flow. If it’s going too fast, you have the power to control the topic, the speed and where you want the conversation to head. Remember, you’re in control.