Dating can be one of the most confounding experiences a girl can deal with. There are some guys that will try and kiss you no matter how often you tell them you aren’t interested. Then there are the guys you really want, and it can feel like they never make their move when you want them to.
Of course, it’s worth remembering that guys are human beings who can’t be forced to do things against their will, but that doesn’t mean that you have to just sit back and wait.
If you know the right moves to make, then you can improve the chances that you’ll get to taste your man’s lips when you’re in the mood. Just be warned, once a man really wants you it can be hard to get him to stop kissing you.
1. Fix Your Lips
If you want a man to kiss you, then you want to make sure your lips look attractive. If your lips are dried out, chapped, or cracked then a guy might think twice about kissing you even if he wants to.
Keep your lips hydrated and clean your lips with warm water and a soft washcloth. Just make sure that the washcloth is for your body alone, you don’t want to use a washcloth from the kitchen and accidentally spread germs to your lips.
2. Apply Lipstick
If a guy is looking at your lips, then you’re one step closer to him kissing you. One of the best ways to improve your appearance and invite a lip lock is by carefully applying lipstick.
Remember, you want to highlight your lips without overpowering the rest of your face. Pick a color that isn’t too bright. Also, if you’re not used to using lipstick make sure to practice applying it before date night. Poorly applied lipstick can make you look crazy.
3. Get Some Alone Time
Being around other people can make romantic situations a little uncomfortable. If a guy feels like people are staring at him, then he might be worried about taking a chance and getting humiliated.
If you can get some time alone with your man, then the social pressure is off, and your chemistry can go to work. It will also help that he won’t have anyone else to distract him from you and your lips.
4. Draw Close
The closer you are to your man the more likely he is to make his move. You don’t have to crawl up on him, but you shouldn’t be too far away either.
If you sit up beside your guy, so that your body is just brushing up against him, then he’ll know that you’re comfortable with him. If you think he needs more of a hint, then try and touch him lightly and see how he reacts.
If he moves in closer, then things are going well. If he withdraws, then you should pull back and give him space.
5. Look at His Lips
If you stare at a guy’s lips, it does two things. First of all, it lets him know that you’re interested in him. More specifically, it says you’re thinking about his lips. Second of all, humans tend to mirror behavior.
That means if we see someone perform an action we are naturally inclined to do it ourselves. So if he sees you looking at his lips, then he’s going to feel the urge to look at your lips. It’s science.
6. Lick or Bite Your Lips
Once again, these moves are all about getting him looking at your lips. If they’re just sitting there, not doing anything, then he won’t be as drawn to them.
On the other hand, if he looks at you and you give your lips a seductive lick then he will have a hard time looking away. Just be warned that it’s harder to look sexy than the movies make it look.
You don’t want to stick your tongue too far out, and if you bit your lips, you don’t want to do it too hard, so you damage them. It’s all very light and subtle so that your impact on him is almost subconscious.
7. Give Him an Excuse to Look at You
It’s not easy being a girl but things can also be tough for men. They want to stare at pretty women, but they know that there’s a thin line between complimentary and creepy. Well, the smart ones know this, and hopefully, you’re going after one of the smart ones.
This means that men can be uncomfortable with looking at you for a prolonged length of time, even if they want to. To help ease this pressure give your man excuses to look at you. Start a staring contest, tell him to look you in the face, ask him if you’ve got anything on your lips at dinner.
The last one is a bit of a gamble. If he likes what he sees, it can pay off big but if you do have something gross on your face it can be a turn-off. Try and casually get a glimpse at yourself in a pocket mirror before pulling that one.
8. Make Him Comfortable
Remember that dating isn’t just about what you want, it’s about making the other person feel comfortable. Don’t try to push things too quickly. The media would have you think that all men are horndogs who want women to lunge at them.
There are certainly guys like that but even men who think they want that actually find it hard to deal with girls that are very aggressive. This doesn’t mean that you have to turn into a passive doll, it just means that you have to pay attention to your man’s behavior, tone, and body language.
If a man seems uncomfortable then give him some space. If a man likes you and you open yourself to him then eventually he will make his move.
9. Talk to Him
Some guys are social savants that seem to be able to read a woman’s mind and act accordingly. But most men are a bit thicker. You can put out all sorts of subtle signals, and he might still be totally unaware of what you want.
It’s important to remember that if a guy likes you, then he’s probably as nervous as you are. Only the cockiest people naturally assume others want to kiss them. If you want to make things clear, then put your feelings into words.
Ask him, “do you want to kiss me?” If he says yes but doesn’t’ follow through then reply, “then why don’t you?” If he doesn’t make his move at that point, then he’s pretty much hopeless.
10. Make the Move Yourself
This is the 21st century; women can kiss men if they want to. It can be nerve-wracking to put yourself out there and accept the possibility that your advance will be rejected, but when it pays off the rewards are incredible.
Just remember, there’s a progression to these things. If you just thrust your lips at a man right off the bat, you’re making a big gamble. You’ve got to feel things out, slowly drawing close to him and seeing if he pulls closer.
If you’re too nervous to kiss him on the lips, then try and kiss him on the cheek out of the blue. A cheek kiss shows your interest without going as far as a full kiss on the lips.