So it’s time to stop messing around and get serious, is it? There comes a point in every relationship where one person decides it’s time to get down to business and make a commitment to the person that they have feelings for. However, sometimes the person that they love does not feel the same way just yet.
That’s bad news, huh?
Well, don’t worry too much, there is good news, too!
There are a few different things that you can try to get your partner wanting to commit to you in the near future.
Follow this guide below to help you learn how to get him to commit:
Make Sure It’s What You Want
Before you dive into any of the following, please be sure that this is truly what you want. Getting someone to commit to you is you making a commitment to them as well. It’s never a good idea to toy with someone’s emotions and string them along. So if he is one of many guys that you are going after, don’t put in all this extra effort to get him to commit to you. Commitment is a serious thing and should be taken seriously, too.
Make Sure He Makes You Happy
So you are totally, one hundred percent sure that he is the one you want to commit to you and vice versa. Great! But also consider whether or not he makes you happy. Will getting him to love you more be worth it in the end? Or will it leave feeling unfulfilled and just wanting to move on as soon as you possibly can? These are important questions to ask yourself before you go through with any of this.
Make Sure You Want To Make Him Happy
And just like you want him to make you happy, you should also go ahead and make sure that you make him happy. You can either ask him or just simply use your best judgement. There is no point in going forward trying to make him commit to you if you don’t make him happy. If you do, you might just be wasting your time and his! Try to ensure that both of you are happy with one another before proceeding.
Take Your Time
Falling for someone and getting them to fall for you is easy, but getting them to commit to you might take some time. This means that you should be patience when it comes to this process. Some people are absolutely afraid of commitment. It may be because of issues they had in their childhood or it could be because they have been hurt too many times before. Be prepared to be especially patient if he has just gotten out of a long term relationship. This might make him a little weary of getting into something deep again so soon.
Rushing him might only push him further away from committing to you.
Peak His Interest
He might not seem interested in being committed to you, but it is totally up to you get him going on it. How do you do that? Make it seem like you are ready to be with him in a more serious way, but at the same time you don’t want to be overwhelming. Just let him know that there will be more to the relationship once he locks you down officially. You can tease him about it. He might say he wishes things were different and you can say, “Well they might be if we become official someday.”
Be There For Him To Lean On
One thing that is very, very, very critical when you are trying to get someone to commit to you is being their person. What do we mean by ‘be their person’? Simple: You want to be his shoulder to cry on, his hand to hold, etc. If you can’t show him that you are always fully there for him, he might not want to settle down with you. You want to make him feel like the bond that you have is secure and sacred. Show him that you will stand by him no matter what happens and you will always have his back in any situation.
It is understandable that if he hasn’t taken the time to commit you that you might be feeling a little insecure. The most important thing to remember though is that you should not let that show. You want to remain calm and collected. You also want to give the appearance that you are standing tall and confident. This makes him understand that you are not as affected by the lack of commitment than you really are. This doesn’t make him feel rushed! Which will also lead him to be more inclined to want to settle down with you in the near future.
Show Him You Are Independant
And just like you want to remain confident at all times, you want to give off the image that you are independant. You want to get him to understand that even though you want to be with him, you also can be patient and do your own thing while you wait for him to make up his mind. We aren’t saying wait forever, but you will need to have a little bit of patience to make this all work.
Show Him You’re Ready To Commit
Let him know that you are ready whenever he is. Without pressuring him into doing anything too quickly, that is. You want him to know that you are ready to move forward with your relationship. It might be just the push he needs to make up his mind once and for all.
Let Him Know You Are Serious
When you let him know that you are ready for commitment you will also want to make sure he knows that you are completely serious about it. Anyone can say they want to be serious, but acting like you are and meaning it are two different things. You have to do both to get your message across to him. It could be that he is hesitant because he is nervous you aren’t being totally honest with him or yourself.
Meet The Important People In Your Lives
There are many factors to showing someone just how serious you are. One of those factors is integrating into his life completely. Showing him that you want to be a part of his world is important. So you want to spend time with his family and his friends. When you do it’s crucial to try and make a positive impression. Even if you and his mother/father/friend don’t really get along, try your hardest to make nice for his benefit. He will see how hard you are trying and absolutely appreciate it.
Spend A Lot Of Time With Him
Showing someone you are ready for commitment means that you want to spend as much time with them as you possibly can. Make them feel as if they are actually a strong priority in your life. He’s going to take that as a sign you are ready to get serious with him.
Don’t Give Attention To Others
Giving attention to another male in your life, or males, is not a great way of showing him that you are ready to commit to him. It’s okay to have guy friends, of course, but you don’t want them to take priority over him. It’s best to give your attention all the way to him until you guys finally settle down and get committed with each other.
Leave The Exes In The Past
Also, try to not mention your ex around him or bring his exes up. This only comes off as childish and puts both of your minds on other people. Like we mentioned, make your relationship the number focus and priority as of right now.
A good way of letting him know that you are serious about your relationship is making sure that he knows you are there for him and you appreciate him. If he doesn’t feel appreciated by you, or you by him, he might lose interest in the whole thing.
Don’t Try So Hard
Pushing him too hard to settle down might be a bad idea. It might give him cold feet and put too much pressure on the both of you. Let things flow at their own pace, but every once in awhile you can give the whole situation a gentle nudge. Being overbearing about it might scare him off.
He might think that if you are serious you will be patient. He would think right.
Make A Case For Yourself
Be sure to make him aware of all of the reasons that you think it is a good idea to get serious with each other. It might be just what he needs to persuade him to get on board. Maybe he is just waiting for you to tell him these things. Who knows? Give it a try and see what happens.
Be Totally Honest
Don’t lie about it when you do make a case for yourself. Don’t make false promises just to persuade him further. Being honest is a good way to start a relationship, where as lying is only going to lead you to trouble. Maybe not now, but definitely later on down the road.
Put Your Charm On
You might want to blow up at him for taking so much time to decide. We suggest you keep calm and stay charming. He is going to be more inclined to want to be with someone who can maintain their cool even when they are kind of stressed out.
Don’t Be Clingy
Although you want to be there for him and be in his life, you don’t want to get clingy. We know that being worried you will lose him, because he hasn’t committed yet, might make you want to grab onto him for dear life. Don’t do that. Keep yourself under control and let him do his own thing while you two are figuring this out.