There are few things as frustrating as a crush. You’re just gliding through life when suddenly something hits you. All of the sudden this person has taken up residence in your brain. And the worst thing is that she might not feel anything for you. You’re stuck in limbo, wondering if there’s any way that she can feel what you’re feeling.
We aren’t psychics who can tell you if your crush likes you, but we can give you some other advice. With our tips, you can improve your situation. There’s no way to make a girl like you but there are things you can do that will encourage positive emotions and give yourself a fighting chance. Let’s look at some.
1. Clean yourself up
No one likes a dirty man. Nobody. It’s time to step your personal hygiene game up! Your crush should enjoy the smell of you. That means a thorough shower, a good deodorant, and maybe an understated scent.
Don’t try and pour on the Axe body spray and assume that it’s as good as a shower. You should also clean up your living space and clothes, many men have blown their chance by taking women back to a pigsty of an apartment.
2. Get your hair in order
Women love a man with good hair. You want something that compliments the shape of your face. It’s also important to trim up any facial hair. A beard can be sexy, but not if you look like a homeless person.
Find a stylist who can fix up your hair and tell you how to properly maintain it. Good hair isn’t something you buy and forget; you have to take care of it. Sure, it’s work. But if you want the girl of your dreams you have to work to be the man of hers.
3. Suit up
A dirty t-shirt and pair of ratty jeans might be comfortable, but they aren’t much of a turn on. If you want to attract a woman you have to dress the part. This doesn’t mean you have to put on a thousand dollar suit, but it does mean that you need clean clothes that work together and fit your body.
Women dig guys with muscles. It’s only natural, men have more muscles than women as a rule, and throughout history, men have been in charge of the heavy lifting.
We might live in a society that is big on equality, but when it comes to attraction, it’s the animal parts of our brains that have the final say. Working out builds muscles and releases masculine chemicals that make you more aggressive and attractive.
5. Work on your posture
There’s a reason that all the creepy guys in movies are hunched over while the heroes stand tall with their chest out. Body language can tell your whole story before you even say a word.
Stand in front of a mirror and force yourself to stand up tall. At first, it might feel unnatural but keep practicing.
6. Be confident
This is key. If you don’t feel like you’re special, then it’s going to be hard to convince her that you are. For many people, this is the hardest step. You don’t have to be a cocky jerk; you just have to be as comfortable in your skin as you can.
If you are having trouble feeling confident try and act like a confident person you know. It might start out as an act but if you act like you have some pride eventually you might find it was always inside of you.
7. Make the approach
Eventually, you need to actually walk up to your crush and say something. The longer you wait, the harder it will get. You also have to make sure you aren’t just lurking around her. Women notice more than you realize, if you’re always around her trying to steal glances, she will notice and will eventually feel creeped out.
That’s the last thing you want, so as soon as possible you need to walk up and start talking. You could just say your name or ask her some question. You don’t need to have some line; you’re just trying to get your foot in the door.
8. Have fun
If you are having a good time, then she will probably have a good time around you. If she has a good time around you, then she’ll want to be around you more often. That’s exactly what you’re going for.
Make jokes, tease her, find ways to amuse yourself. Once again, you might have to act like you’re having fun if you can’t get over the stress but acting like you’re having fun can lead to actually having fun.
9. Get her to talk about herself
It’s no secret that women love to talk, but you need to remember that they talk to people they are comfortable with. You’ve got to build comfort as you ask them questions. Start small and build, showing that you’re interested.
You’ve got to show them that you are interested in who they are as a person. If they think they’re just another pretty face then they’ll see you as just another creep in the crowd.
10. Reach out and touch them
Physical contact is absolutely essential. It’s one of the main things that separates friends from boyfriends. After all, would you be stressing so much over your crush if you didn’t want to kiss her? Of course, you can’t go straight for the kill.
You have to start small, touching her lightly from time to time in ways that might be completely accidental. If she’s receptive, then you can escalate things. If she seems like she might be creeped out then pull back, this is a delicate dance.
11. Have some self-respect
Too many guys think the way to a woman’s heart is giving her everything she wants. That’s exactly wrong. Do you know what they call a man who is always at a woman’s beck and call? A butler.
If a girl asks you for something, make it clear that you aren’t just going to give it to her because she’s got a pretty face. Don’t be afraid to say no, to disagree with her, to tease her. You don’t want to put her on a pedestal; you’re just as much of a prize as she is.
12. Don’t think too much
This may sound like silly advice after we’ve just given you 11 things to keep in mind, but it’s the truth. Think of it like sports; you get the basics down off the field, so you don’t have to think so much on the field.
Now is the time to come up with a plan, but when you actually go up to the girl of your dreams you need to be present. Relax and follow your gut, if you overthink things you’ll be more of an actor than a real person. That’s no fun for anyone.
13. Get the digits and use them
Getting a woman’s phone number used to be the main goal of approaching women but now things are a bit more complex. Today you can also get in touch with a girl through social media. The problem is that you don’t want to be just another guy stalking her over Facebook and liking her old bikini pics.
You need to find out how to talk to her and make use of the information. It’s hard for men to imagine how many men are competing for the average pretty woman’s attention, unless you keep in touch with her you’re going to get lost in the crowd.
14. Ask her out
You’re a man, it’s your job to ask her out. It may not seem fair in today’s world of gender equality but tough luck. No one likes rejection, of course, women are going to use any excuse they can to avoid risking rejection. You’re doing the same thing if you haven’t asked your crush yet. Come up with a date idea and ask her out.
15. Live your life
This is a big one. So many guys get caught up in this romantic comedy idea that when you’re in love your life should revolve around the other person. In truth that’s the opposite of what any girl likes.
No woman really wants to be the center of a man’s life, that’s way to much pressure. What they want is to be a part of an interesting and full life. It’s the reason women fall for busy artists, athletes, and musicians.
You don’t see a lot of high-quality women with broke men who can live their life for the woman of their dreams. That’s just sad, don’t even think of it. If you’re living an attractive life you won’t just attract women; you’ll be able to feel pride and satisfaction.
Plenty of Fish in the Sea
Following this advice will make it a lot easier to attract a woman. But in the end, none of these will force a woman to like you. You probably know a few women you’d never date even if they did everything they could to please you. Women are the same, at a certain point relationships need to be built on attraction.
Always remember that this isn’t your last shot at love. It’s a cliché, but there are plenty of other women out there. If you’re like most guys, you’ve already had at least one other crush that occupied all your attention.
How often do you think about your old crushes now? Your current crush might be the love of your life, or she might be forgotten in a few months, the important thing is that you are true to yourself and live without regrets. If you do that, then women will be attracted to you.