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6 Psychological Tricks To Make Him Obsessed With You


You might think that a man will either be obsessed with upon meeting you or never at all. Well, if you think that you are totally mistaken. What if we were to tell you that there are a few tips and tricks you could follow that might get him obsessed with you over time. Of course, you’d have to put a little extra effort into make it happen. However, if you have the dedication, he will be all over you in no time!

Getting into someone’s head isn’t the easiest task, but it’s more than possible if you know what you are doing. So use these following psychological tricks to get him obsessed with you starting right now.

Be Seductive

Being seductive is easy, right? Yes. But doing is subtly… Well, that is a whole different story now isn’t it? You’re probably thinking, ‘Why would I want to be subtle. I want him to know that I like him!’ Well of course you do, but the whole thing here is you don’t want him to know that you are actively trying to make him obsessed with you, remember?

So you really need to do your best to be subtle about it. If you come on too strongly, he might get scared off. And since this is the first step of many, be coy.

How do you be subtly seductive? It’s not as difficult as you might think it to be.

All you have to do is be conscious of what you are doing when you are around him. Use your body as your language between the two of you. He might feel as if you are being a little bit flirty with him. However, he won’t know that you are trying to make him fall for you.

First, be weary of what you wear around him. He’s might find you cute in a button down or a simple sweater. But that’s not what’s really going to get him going.

So what should you wear?

Luckily for you we have compiled a list:

  • Sheer Skirts: So maybe being super over the top with your sexuality isn’t your thing. That’s okay, because there are many subtly sexy options for you. One of them would be a simple sheer skirt. You can still be a little bit modest while wearing one, but it’s going to look super seductive at the same time. You can get some high waisted briefs to place underneath, that way your undies are showing. But it shows you legs in a very clever way. Give it a shot, we promise he’ll love it.
  • V-Necks: Not a fancy dresser? That’s okay, too. You can give a deep plunging v-neck a try. He will certainly have his eyes on your bosoms, but that’s exactly what you want! You want him to start noticing your sex appeal as much as possible. A v-neck isn’t too obvious, it looks pretty casual, but extremely hot at the same time. Make sure you are wearing a nice bra to hold your girls up if you take this option.
  • High Waisted Shorts: These are the perfect way to show off that booty without being too overtly sexual. You won’t seem promiscuous but you will definitely show off your figure and having him follow you everywhere.
  • Anything red or black: Red and black are proven colors that get people thinking about sex. Try it, it works!
  • Heels: Whatever you are wearing will definitely look more appealing with heels. Guys usually love a women in heels. It makes them appear more feminine and it also makes their legs look better by putting those muscles into action and giving them more length than they had before.

Besides clothes what else can you do to quietly seduce you? Like we mentioned before, use your body language.

  • Bite your lip when you talk. It won’t seem too obvious that you want him, but it will get him thinking about you as less of a friend and more of someone who is… Well, kind of turning him on.
  • Flip your hair. Men are definitely into the whole hair flip thing. It’s worked for centuries, so why would it not work now?
  • Touch him. Don’t just go straight for it. Do it very carefully and be cautious about where you place your hand. Try caressing his arm gently. It may almost seem accidental. You can also place your hand on his knee when the two of you are talking. These types of subtle touches will get his mind thinking about you more and more. Later when he gets home, he will start reminiscing about those touches and what they meant… If they meant anything at all.
  • Use Your Eyes. Bat those eyelashes girl. They are there to be used for many different things, not just to keep crud out of your beautiful eyes! The more you bat him, the more he will think of you as cute and innocent. Also, maintain eye contact. Don’t stare him down or anything, but definitely keep those peepers directed at his.

Be There For Him

Along with using your body as a tool to seduce him, you are going to want to use your personality too.

The more you are there for him when he needs someone, the more he will start thinking of you when you are not around. He will grow fonder of you if you just listen to him. That’s what a girlfriend does, right? So start being the perfect girlfriend before you are even his girlfriend by acting like one.

Don’t Give Too Much Away

For some reason men totally love a mysterious woman. Ever heard of word vomit? Don’t do that. Don’t get too anxious to tell him everything that you can. Of course, we know that you want to. You like him so you are going to feel the urge to tell him as much about you as you can. But he’s going to actually like it so much more if you let him ask you about yourself. You want to act like you are almost shy about your past or even your present. He wants you to be a mystery. It’s like getting a present. He wouldn’t want someone else to unwrap it for him. No, he wants to do it himself.

Share Common Interests

Okay, so normally we wouldn’t recommend lying for any reason. But if you are trying to get him obsessed with you, it’s okay to bend the truth just a teeny tiny bit. So when he states what he likes, you should totally get into it, too. Even if you aren’t the biggest fan of football, it’s okay to tell him that you love watching it! Maybe he will even invite you to watch a game with him sometime. Maybe he’s into painting. Ask him to have a painting session with you. Maybe you can even be his model! We aren’t saying pretend to be totally obsessed with the things he loves. But just feign interest. It will definitely get him into you in no time.

Be Spontaneous

Unless of course he seems like a very chill dude, then maybe don’t get too crazy when it comes to your adventures. But show him your spunky side by showing that you are up for anything! Do something crazy with him. Get his adrenaline going. And don’t be light on the surprises! A man loves when a woman can show she is up for pretty much anything. He’s going to be pleasantly taken aback to find out that you are so adventurous.  

Be Passionate

Showing him you have passion is a great way to get him obsessed with you. He will love that you have something you are dedicated to. This will definitely remind him that you are a strong woman with goals and ambition. He will dig it, we promise!


  1. Hello am Stella.
    I have a boyfriend who i love very much and am willing to make things better between me and him.
    But the problem is,i have never been used to a committed relationship or used to dating someone who is really interested in me? He has done nothing but love me,care for me,appreciate me,respect me and you can name it all but i seem to be the problem cause I sometimes and somehow bring up little issues which makes him angry and i feel sad. I have cheated on him many times but he doesn’t know it hurts cz i am trying to be in a committed relationship but it seems hard. He want me to be open to him and tell him everything that goes on in my life and mind but am scared cause there are some things going on that are bad n I can’t tell him. Right now our relationship is on the edge of breakup and i don’t want it to happen cause i love him so much and i see a future with him. Please help me

    • I am curious–while I can understand making a mistake and cheating once, what led to you cheating multiple times when you love your boyfriend so much and know that you are already on the edge of a breakup? It will be extremely difficult to fix the situation at this point because he will most likely leave for good if you tell him the truth, and you will be overwhelmed with guilt if you don’t tell him. What you do next is up to you, but it is going to be hard to make this situation work.


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