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6 Psychological Tricks To Make Him Obsessed With You


You might think that a man will either be obsessed with upon meeting you or never at all. Well, if you think that you are totally mistaken. What if we were to tell you that there are a few tips and tricks you could follow that might get him obsessed with you over time. Of course, you’d have to put a little extra effort into make it happen. However, if you have the dedication, he will be all over you in no time!

Getting into someone’s head isn’t the easiest task, but it’s more than possible if you know what you are doing. So use these following psychological tricks to get him obsessed with you starting right now.

Be Seductive

Being seductive is easy, right? Yes. But doing is subtly… Well, that is a whole different story now isn’t it? You’re probably thinking, ‘Why would I want to be subtle. I want him to know that I like him!’ Well of course you do, but the whole thing here is you don’t want him to know that you are actively trying to make him obsessed with you, remember?

So you really need to do your best to be subtle about it. If you come on too strongly, he might get scared off. And since this is the first step of many, be coy.

How do you be subtly seductive? It’s not as difficult as you might think it to be.

All you have to do is be conscious of what you are doing when you are around him. Use your body as your language between the two of you. He might feel as if you are being a little bit flirty with him. However, he won’t know that you are trying to make him fall for you.

First, be weary of what you wear around him. He’s might find you cute in a button down or a simple sweater. But that’s not what’s really going to get him going.


So what should you wear?

Luckily for you we have compiled a list:

  • Sheer Skirts: So maybe being super over the top with your sexuality isn’t your thing. That’s okay, because there are many subtly sexy options for you. One of them would be a simple sheer skirt. You can still be a little bit modest while wearing one, but it’s going to look super seductive at the same time. You can get some high waisted briefs to place underneath, that way your undies are showing. But it shows you legs in a very clever way. Give it a shot, we promise he’ll love it.
  • V-Necks: Not a fancy dresser? That’s okay, too. You can give a deep plunging v-neck a try. He will certainly have his eyes on your bosoms, but that’s exactly what you want! You want him to start noticing your sex appeal as much as possible. A v-neck isn’t too obvious, it looks pretty casual, but extremely hot at the same time. Make sure you are wearing a nice bra to hold your girls up if you take this option.
  • High Waisted Shorts: These are the perfect way to show off that booty without being too overtly sexual. You won’t seem promiscuous but you will definitely show off your figure and having him follow you everywhere.
  • Anything red or black: Red and black are proven colors that get people thinking about sex. Try it, it works!
  • Heels: Whatever you are wearing will definitely look more appealing with heels. Guys usually love a women in heels. It makes them appear more feminine and it also makes their legs look better by putting those muscles into action and giving them more length than they had before.

Besides clothes what else can you do to quietly seduce you? Like we mentioned before, use your body language.

  • Bite your lip when you talk. It won’t seem too obvious that you want him, but it will get him thinking about you as less of a friend and more of someone who is… Well, kind of turning him on.
  • Flip your hair. Men are definitely into the whole hair flip thing. It’s worked for centuries, so why would it not work now?
  • Touch him. Don’t just go straight for it. Do it very carefully and be cautious about where you place your hand. Try caressing his arm gently. It may almost seem accidental. You can also place your hand on his knee when the two of you are talking. These types of subtle touches will get his mind thinking about you more and more. Later when he gets home, he will start reminiscing about those touches and what they meant… If they meant anything at all.
  • Use Your Eyes. Bat those eyelashes girl. They are there to be used for many different things, not just to keep crud out of your beautiful eyes! The more you bat him, the more he will think of you as cute and innocent. Also, maintain eye contact. Don’t stare him down or anything, but definitely keep those peepers directed at his.

Be There For Him

Along with using your body as a tool to seduce him, you are going to want to use your personality too.

The more you are there for him when he needs someone, the more he will start thinking of you when you are not around. He will grow fonder of you if you just listen to him. That’s what a girlfriend does, right? So start being the perfect girlfriend before you are even his girlfriend by acting like one.

Don’t Give Too Much Away

For some reason men totally love a mysterious woman. Ever heard of word vomit? Don’t do that. Don’t get too anxious to tell him everything that you can. Of course, we know that you want to. You like him so you are going to feel the urge to tell him as much about you as you can. But he’s going to actually like it so much more if you let him ask you about yourself. You want to act like you are almost shy about your past or even your present. He wants you to be a mystery. It’s like getting a present. He wouldn’t want someone else to unwrap it for him. No, he wants to do it himself.

Share Common Interests

Okay, so normally we wouldn’t recommend lying for any reason. But if you are trying to get him obsessed with you, it’s okay to bend the truth just a teeny tiny bit. So when he states what he likes, you should totally get into it, too. Even if you aren’t the biggest fan of football, it’s okay to tell him that you love watching it! Maybe he will even invite you to watch a game with him sometime. Maybe he’s into painting. Ask him to have a painting session with you. Maybe you can even be his model! We aren’t saying pretend to be totally obsessed with the things he loves. But just feign interest. It will definitely get him into you in no time.

Be Spontaneous

Unless of course he seems like a very chill dude, then maybe don’t get too crazy when it comes to your adventures. But show him your spunky side by showing that you are up for anything! Do something crazy with him. Get his adrenaline going. And don’t be light on the surprises! A man loves when a woman can show she is up for pretty much anything. He’s going to be pleasantly taken aback to find out that you are so adventurous.  

Be Passionate

Showing him you have passion is a great way to get him obsessed with you. He will love that you have something you are dedicated to. This will definitely remind him that you are a strong woman with goals and ambition. He will dig it, we promise!


    • If she is no longer speaking with you, then she is sharing her thoughts and feelings with you. She is unable or unwilling to respond to you. Do not reach out to her at this time. If she reaches out to you, then share your kindness and compassion with her. Have a great day, Rob!

    • Take this time to determine what you want with this relationship. Determine how your actions may effect your daughter and her education. You may find benefit in attempting to spend time with her teacher in person. Speak directly and honestly with her about your thoughts and feelings, if you think it is appropriate. Have a great day, Kam!

    • If he wants to have a more deep conversation with you, then attempt to spend additional time with him. This will ensure that you have a better understanding of his desires. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Seiji!

    • Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Determine what benefits there are to be shown off. He may not feel comfortable sharing you off, as some people are less interested in public displays of affection. This may be for a variety of rational reasons. Have a great day, Ann!

  1. I am in love with a boy that leaves me all the time with mixed signals, it seems as if he likes me but is not willing to tell it. Plus he has a girlfriend, but is emotionally attached to me. P.S. I already told him I care about him(some months ago). What should I do?

    • He is in a relationship. Allow thoughts of him to fade. Do not attempt to maintain a relationship with him. Take this time to determine what you want for your future without him. Treat everyone in your life with kindness and compassion. If his relationship ends and he reaches out to you, then speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings at that time. Have a great day, Phoenix!

  2. I just broke up with my boyfriend of three years because he never wants to show me off. He hates taking pics with me, he hates the movies we only went once in three years, I pay for dates and he’s only paid for three. He doesnt want to have sex we might have sex twice a month if that but he wants me to give him oral. I’m so over it. I love him so much I just cant take this anymore. I totally changed my phone number and cut him off. Its only been two days so far what to do? Did i make the right decision to move on? There’s some good things about him too but that’s not the issue that I have with him so I’ll leave the good out. Thanks.

    • You were not happy in your relationship. Your partner was not physically, emotionally, or intellectually satisfying your needs. You decided to end this relationship. There is no reason to reach out to him. Focus your attention elsewhere and determine what you want for your future without him. Have a great day, Lily!

        • Thank you for sharing your comment. We always appreciate our community members sharing their thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Lily!

          • I have a boyfriend he always request from me and I will give him whatever he want materially not sex, he is not giving me space to request anything from him, So I’m thinking whether he will care for me if we become husband and wife in future

          • If he asking numerous things of you and expects you to give him what he desires, then he should respect you and offer the same benefits. It sounds as though you are a giving person and he is taking from you. This may make you feel concerned that he will be neglectful in the future. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. If he ignores your needs, then decide if you believe that his behavior is appropriate. Have a great day, Mercy!

  3. Im going out with this guy who’s workin in the army. Im 31 and he’s 37. We’ve been out for 4 times already and I met him a month ago. the way he looks at me is like really looking into my eyes and he usually touches me everytime we are talking. And he even hugged me. But the thing is I dunno how to ask him whether he likes me or what? i dunno whether i still go out with other guys or just stick to him.why some men are so shy to tell or express how they are feeling. So frustrating

    • When he is with you, it is clear that he enjoys sharing his emotional affections. He likely is interested in developing a strong relationship with you. It is certainly likely that he is busy with his career, and he may have many conflicting requirements in his life. It is possible that he is aware that he may need to move in the future, and he does not want to harm you. Determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Eynah!

  4. I’m in a situation I’ve been around this person for almost 7yrs. at the Beginning I didn’t know he was with someone until I received a call of course he denied her but I researched and yes he was with that person, then he told me he really didn’t care for her that he was with her cause she needed help and he also want it to help her children, at that time he didn’t live with her,any way Its been on and off, I send him out my life he comes back I accept him,all these years have been the same, and he does the same to her,The worst part was that he took her and the children to.live with him and when they started to have problems he looked for me again and I accept him knowing he’s a liar, cheater, controlling, negative, Toxic. I had accepted this cause I’m a widow and at one point I was vulnerable but now I know what this is all about and I’m not into him that much, althought he knows Ido care and I told him I fell in Love with him, Well I thought. He still is in the picture. Now there’s someone interested in me that is serious hes single and knows what he wants, he asked me on a date which I said yes, The question is how do I her that person out of my life, Do I tell him I loved forward my concern is that he doesn’t accept it and starts bothering me. Help with advice Thanks

    • You have made a decision to date someone else. Your previous partner is in a relationship, so it is beneficial for you to end that relationship. Speak directly with him about your decision. Abstain from reaching out to him at this time. If he reaches out to you in the future, then share your kindness and compassion with him. Look forward to your new relationship. Have a great day, Liz!

  5. How do I get over my fiance? I thought ibwas ober him but if someone brings him up I walk away and cry or if certain songs play I cry. Even writing this is making my eyes water. We broke up in Dec. I should be over him. He’s bi polar and schizopreenic and I’m severe anxiety atypical depressive disorder bpd. I knew it would of never worked out and he’s the one that asked me out and proposed a year later and then he went to jail and got out and he didn’t say anything to me he went to Kansas and when I got an email. I felt my heart shatter and literally fell to the floor crying and I layed thier hoping I’d would die. But I didn’t. I just wanna be or try be happy

    • Your emotional relationship with your ex partner was strong, and your psychological makeup influences your behaviors as well. This remind you of him and you feel that emotional memories. You are aware that you want to reduce these thoughts, and you will be able to do this by focusing on your future. Ensure that you share your kindness and compassion with everyone in your life. The more you practice this, the less you will have negative emotional reactions due to your thoughts. Have a great day, Anthony!

  6. So there’s this guy I’ve known for a while. We are kinda friends, but he seems like he likes me. Like I’ll catch him staring at me, and today he started walking towards me then got nervous and veared off. I think he wants to ask me out, but he seems to be too shy.

    • It is likely that he has similar feelings for you that you have for him. He may have been attempting to reach out to you, but was unable to make the final decision. Perhaps you will be more willing to make the first move. Determine what you want for your future. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Josie!

  7. There’s a person I really did love and care about I can not get her out of my head.it pains me to see her I wish I knew where it all went wrong.i am not sure what I should do if anything or if I should I’m not big on sharing how I feel but she made me happy and feel human all I wanted to do was the same for her.i just miss her.

    • You care for this person. For some reason, she is no longer close to you. If the two of you interact, then share your kindness and compassion with her. Learn lessons from your relationship and apply those lessons to your future relationships. If she reaches out to you in the future and attempts to nourish a relationship with you, then speak with her about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Unknown!

  8. there is a very important guy in my life it started as a mutual fling my feelings have developed beyond occasionally hooking up, which I have expressed with him. by the way this man is much older than I am.. we are both consenting adults. he replied with emotionally unavailable. understanding his situation I decided to continue our occasional relationship he has recently expressed to me how admired he is by me and how strong and intelligent he believes me to be, as well as pointing out basically all the things he is attracted to me for. however continuing his emotionally unavailable status.. enlightened, I have decided to subtly “make him obsessed with me” he is a very stubborn man, he loves to tease me and love the game his mixed signals play with me. I play this game back and forth all to well with him. I keep telling myself with time he’ll realize that he does infact have emotions for me, however im growing impatient and don’t want to come on to strong… I’ve learned a thing or two from this article but am wondering if you have any advise for me?

    • The two of you share a strong social and emotional relationship. Each of you are attracted to each other. He has shared his thoughts and feelings with you. It is certainly likely that his feelings will grow as the two of you spend additional time together. Determine what you want for your future. Decide what you believe is viable. Continue to nourish this relationship by strengthening your physical and intellectual connections. Have a great day, Angel!

    • It is highly unlikely that he will not like you. He will enjoy kissing you. If you want to practice kissing him, then inform him of your feelings. It is certain that he will happily teach you his style of kissing. Have a great day, B!

  9. Hi,I started dating a guy about a month ago and we really bond well and have great conversations,im also attracted to him and vice versa but I’ve been putting off sex because I feel it might affect us and I feel it’s too soon .
    Am I just being paranoid?

    • The two of you are currently in a relationship. There is no reason for you to maintain a sexual relationship with him at this time. Determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Ensure that you respect his desires for your relationship. Have a great day, Rachael!


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