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How to Make Her Miss You After a Fight

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When you fight with your girlfriend, it can feel like the relationship is entirely over. Thankfully, if you play your cards right, this does not necessarily have to be the case. You can learn how to make her miss you after a fight, and she will hopefully decide to return to you.

Why Does She Need to Miss You?

If you do not miss having someone around, why would you want to be with them? More importantly, this technique is probably one of the best things that you can do. If you become clingy and text her constantly, it will only push her farther away from you. By learning how to make her miss you after a fight, you get her to start thinking about all of your good qualities and why she wants to be in the relationship. As long as you don’t do anything that pushes her away, this should work if any part of her wants to be with you. If she is genuinely through with the relationship, you don’t have to worry about doing the wrong thing because nothing you could do or could avoid doing would change the situation.

1. Avoid Being Clingy

This is the most important rule on the list. When your relationship is going well, wanting to be around your girlfriend is a good thing. After a fight, the same behavior could make you seem clingy. She needs space to cool down and heal from the fight. If you constantly text and call her all the time, she won’t have that space. Worse still, she will start to see you as an obligation and a boyfriend who she really doesn’t want in her life.

2. Stay Positive

Do you like being around people who are always gloomy and unhappy? If you are like the majority of people, probably not. She is never going to miss you if you spend each moment together moping about the fight or angry because she has not gotten over it yet. If you want her to miss you, you need to remind her of just how great you are.

This means that you need to be upbeat and positive when you do get to be around her again. If you are always in a good mood around her, she will feel happier. Before long, she will associate these positive feelings with you. She will feel drawn to you because she likes how positive she feels when she is around you.

3. Avoid Getting Jealous

After a fight, it is fairly normal for a girlfriend or a boyfriend to want a night out with their friends. They naturally want to relax and blow off steam. Are you worried that guys will hit on her when she’s out on the town with friends? Absolutely. If she was amazing enough for you to date, other guys would have to be incredibly dumb not to make a move. With that said, guys hit on her all the time. She doesn’t respond to these advances because she loves you and wants to be with you. That won’t change because of just one fight, so relax and give her a chance to unwind.

The worst thing that you can do is be jealous about what your girlfriend is doing or where she is going. If you text her a dozen times while she is at a bar with her friends, she is going to feel suffocated. If her friends notice all of the texts, they might even suggest that you are not the right guy for her. Basically, being jealous will always backfire, so don’t do it. If she loves you, she will come back to you and all of your worries will be for nothing. If she has chosen to stay with you, the only thing that will push her away is you.

4. Slow Down on the Calls and Texts

How can you miss someone if they are still there? Impossible, right? If you are texting her and calling her constantly after a fight, she will never have a chance to miss you. The fact that you are looking up this article shows that your fight was more than a run-of-the-mill argument about socks on the floor. Clearly, she needs a little space to cool down. While you should never play mind games in a relationship, holding off on a few texts is not playing a mind game. It is giving her the space and thinking time she needs to recover so that she can be a loving, amazing girlfriend again.

There is a caveat to this, however. If she texts you, don’t ignore her forever. Ghosting someone and the no-contact rule will not make her miss you. If you stop talking to her entirely, she will actually heal and move on. You have to find a careful balance where you are still responsive to her, but you give her a little extra space. When you do get to be around her, make sure it is a positive experience that shows how much you care. That way, she will start to miss all of the amazing qualities that you bring to the relationship.

5. Give Her Some Space

After a heated argument, it is easy for your emotions to get away with you. The same thing goes for her. She might have said things or done things that she did not really mean. You need to give her some space so that she can process the argument and have a chance to see your side of things. Let her cool down. Once she is calm again, she can start to remember why she loves you so much and how unimportant the argument really was.

When all else fails, don’t be afraid of breaking up. Essentially everyone will go through at least one break up before they find their future spouse—and about half of people will still go through a break up after that. If you two cannot get over an argument and learn to see things from each other’s point of view, it might be an indication that the relationship just won’t work for the long run, and that’s okay. Until you get to that point, give her some space to miss you. After that, the outcome is up to both of you.

16 COMMENTS

    • Thank you for sharing your positive comment. Please share more of your positive comments in the future. Have a great day, Mytskit!

  1. Absolutely correct. This is exactly what happened to me. I had a quarrel with y girlfriend but was calling and texting her frequently and everything became worse but I just decided I won’t call her again, and boom she was the one now started calling and disturbing me.

    • Thank you for sharing your experiences and insights. You will find benefit in not viewing her contacting you as a disturbance. If you want to nourish this relationship, then be happy with her attempt to reach out to you. If you not longer wish you maintain a relationship with her, then inform her of your feelings. Have a great day, Mike!

      • Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings. We look forward to your supportive comments in the future. Have a great day, Lutho!

  2. My girlfriend and I went through an enormous trust breaking point when she suddenly started to feel for her ex. I broke apart entirely, before I used to be extra easy but after that incident I became allot insecure as I saw her keeping weak commitments. Still she herself came back to me and apologized and I also never left her hand and we were together again. But things were not the same entirely, I started to have insecurities and trust issues and she too which lead to dark times. Now when we fought last, she blocked me and I also decided to go silent. I will never leave her hand but still, my always presence and support somewhere made her to take me for granted. Maybe she will realise and come one day. But till then, I’m just silent. By the way we are in long distance relationship.

    • She has decided to block you, which means that you are no longer in a relationship. She is no longer interested in speaking or communicating with you. She is aware that her actions have hurt you. Make a decision about what you want for your future without her, and focus your emotional energy elsewhere. Ensure that you share your kindness and compassion at all times, as this will help draw positive people and energy toward you. Have a great day, Prakash!

  3. Whoa! Hold on before any of you reading this decide to not reach out. Some arguments can stem from inattention and neglect from either partner. Let’s say Brian decides to back off after he has a fight with his girlfriend which involves a charge that he is not putting any effort into the relationship. If he gives her space and time to calm down and resists texting or calling, that is just going to show his girlfriend that he doesn’t care and it will bring further damage to the relationship. It isn’t about winning, saving face and gaining the upper hand by not texting first. Who started the fight? What was the problem being addressed? Who really needs to apologize here?

    I’ve broken up with a partner or two for not being responsive enough after a fight, “holding off on a few texts” can come across as distancing oneself or even ghosting, avoiding and ignoring. Tread carefully.

    • Thank you for sharing your insights and experiences. It is always beneficial when members of our community share their supportive comments. Please share more of your thoughts and feelings in the future. Have a great day, Carla!

  4. I once have a fight with my girl over her babe daddy after then disrespect is what I received everyday talk to me any how I decided to tell her not to talk to me without respect or back me like a kid for over a week I haven’t texted her and she hasn’t texted me as well what should I do to regain my respect

    • You had an argument with your partner about her previous partner. It is clear that the two of you maintained a relationship together, but you have not spoken for a week. It is acceptable for a romantic partner to share their feelings with you. Informing someone – anyone – that they can not share themselves with you is wildly inappropriate. Learn from your behaviors, and apply that knowledge to your future relationships. Have a great day, Louis!

  5. I had a fight with my girl over her babe daddy after then disrespect is what I received everyday she talk’s to me any how she likes I caution and told her to stop talking to me like a kid for over a week I haven’t text her and she hasn’t text as well what should I do to regain my respect should I keep the silence

    • You had an argument with your partner about her previous partner. It is clear that the two of you maintained a relationship together, but you have not spoken for a week. It is acceptable for a romantic partner to share their feelings with you. Informing someone – anyone – that they can not share themselves with you is wildly inappropriate. Learn from your behaviors, and apply that knowledge to your future relationships. Have a great day, Louis!

  6. I am into a relationship from last 4year and few week ago we had a fight.we went on trip and on last day of trip I was drunk and due to her family member our night got spoiled and I shouted on her as she was not ready to admit her family mistake. Next morning before leaving I said sorry’ and after that also I said sorry’to her n number of times.she said it’s over and she don’t want to be with me with any emotional string attached. she is ready to be with me but without any emotional strings attached. I lover her alot and she do such kind of things every two months. is she is disturbed becz of anything in World bt she always make me to pay for that by saying bad thing to me or doing break-up blockted. Then I request her make her relaized how good we are when we are together and she again came back bt after some time again she do breakup say I don’t love you and later again she came back and says I didn’t mean to say that it just I was disturbed and you are one on whom I shout and put my anger to make my self calm..
    I love her so I always forgive her and do all that makes her Happy bt I am tired of being her punching bag .I don’t want to leaver her as I lover her more then myself bt why she do such thing with my after every three four months.Right now she want me to be in her life bt she is not feeling any emotion for me or anyone even for her family bt she want me to be with her as I mean alot to her and she don’t want to lose bt she don’t want a love relationship also .I never bad a clue that what wrong I did that now I am facing this as when she don’t talk to me I have to take medicine to keep my mind calm and compose.
    When things are good she says she wanna marry me and after sometime she said she don’t .then again she says she wants Marry.
    What she is upto what she want and what should I do I have no clue and how to make her understand that how much I love her so that she won’t do breakup without my fault.

    • You made the decision to treat your partner poorly. She informed you that she was no longer interested in maintaining an emotional relationship with you. Her decision is appropriate, as you caused her deep emotional harm. You are not her punching bag, as it is clear that you have made decisions that have harmed her as well. Make a decision about what you want for your future, and share your thoughts and feelings with her. Ensure that you respect her decisions and desires. Have a great day, Sachin!

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