Relationships can go through their share of ups and downs. Sometimes, this means not feeling the same kind of desire that you had once felt for your partner. Being on the other end of that can be a little disheartening. But there’s no need for the relationship to fall apart.
When men’s desire for their partners starts to waver, it’s usually due to both partners having fallen into a type of comfortable complacency in the relationship. Perhaps you no longer feel the need to dress up for one another anymore, because the relationship has gone on for so long.
Luckily, there are plenty of ways that will help put the spark back in the relationship, and encourage men’s desires to return.
1. Make small changes
You don’t have to change yourself entirely for your partner – after all, that’s not what being in a relationship is about! But if you’re trying to get him to feel the same way for you as he did when you first got together, putting a little extra effort into how you present yourself can make all the difference in the world.
If you’ve been neglecting getting the hair cut, go ahead and get it and make yourself look brand new. Or, change up your makeup routine. If you’re used to just putting on a little mascara for your day to day life, try a bright red lipstick that’ll make it impossible for him to look away. Even just dressing up fancy for a date night can make him feel a familiar flutter in his chest.
2. Be positive
Even if you’re feeling stressed out or unhappy, try looking towards the positive things in life. You wouldn’t be feeling very connected to your partner if they were always in a bad mood, either. Take some steps to destressing your life so that you can feel more positive and happy.
He’ll be drawn right back to you when you start showing a happier and more positive attitude. It’ll be like a moth to a flame. People like to be around positive people, and when you feel happy, you’ll also encourage him to feel happy. Together, it’ll be a never-ending positivity feedback loop that will awaken his desire for you all over again.
3. Be subtle
If you’re trying to awaken his desire for you again, you want to make sure that you’re doing it in a way that will cause him to feel desire for you naturally. This means that anything you do, you’ll want to make it subtle.
There’s a time and place for being straightforward, but there’s always some fun in teasing and leaving things to the imagination. If your intimacy has started to stagger, try flirting through text messages, or sending him a racy photo – but don’t reveal too much! Just enough to get his blood pumping and to make him remember why you got together in the first place.
4. Compliment him
Men are often not the one’s who are seeking compliments out of their partners – but that doesn’t mean that men don’t love to be complimented every once in awhile. If you’ve been remiss in letting your man know how wonderful you think he is, it’s time to start sprinkling those compliments in your day to day conversations.
Everything from how much you love the way he looks, to how wonderful of a lover he is will have him remembering all the ways that he loves and appreciates you, too. If you’re trying to get your man to desire you all over again, make sure that you don’t underestimate the strength of a well-timed compliment.
5. Surprise him
Nothing can zap the excitement out of a relationship quite like a predictable schedule. And while predictability can be good for a stable relationship, there’s still fun to be had when you add a bit of surprise into the mix. If you’re looking to get your man to feel a new wave of desire for you, then surprising him is a surefire way to make that happen.
Buy a new set of lingerie that you think he might enjoy, or surprise him with a make-out session on the couch like you’re a couple of lovestruck teenagers! When you surprise him, you shake up the predictability of the relationship and jumpstart his desire for you all in one.
There’s nothing wrong with a relationship going through it’s slow patches – but the important thing is to make sure that it doesn’t stay there! Getting your partner to feel that same rush of desire for you as when you first got together is as easy as shaking things up a bit. Even if you’re both working a lot and have stressful things on your plate, focusing on intimacy is a good way to make sure that the relationship stays healthy and strong.