Not every crush or relationship is going to work out how we want. We can try so hard to make things work but sometimes they just fall flat and we’re left heartbroken and can’t seem to stop thinking about that special someone. We’ve all been there before.
The crappy part is that it’s REALLY hard to stop thinking about someone you still like because everything around you seems to remind you of them. The good news is that although it’s hard, it’s still possible. All it takes is some willpower and a few tips.
This won’t be easy and you’ll have moments where you may think you’ll never be able to stop thinking about this person, but trust me when I say you will stop. Here’s how to stop thinking about someone you still like.
- Stay Busy
The worst thing you can do when trying to stop thinking about someone you like is to be alone with nothing to do BUT think about them. You have to stay busy so your mind doesn’t have the opportunity to turn to this person. Be distracted with friends, fun shows, a great book, or more to keep your mind off them.
- Talk To Friends
In order to stop thinking about someone, you first have to get everything off your chest. Go seek support with your friends and just take a night to vent all of your feelings about this person to them and get their feedback. Once your mind is refreshed, it’ll be easier to push those thoughts aside.
- Join a Club/Sport/Group
This is definitely the way to go if you want to forget about someone. When you join a new activity, you have to spend your time learning it, practicing, and being around people who have nothing to do with him.
- DON’T Watch Romantic Movies
This is the worst idea possible if you want to stop thinking about someone you like. Why? Because all those romantic movies will force your thoughts in their direction and actually make you really sad and miss them even more. So don’t watch them at all.
- Stay Away From Couples
Just like romantic movies will make you think about the person you still like, being around lovey-dovey couples will do the same. I’m not saying to avoid being around your friends if they’re all in relationships, but avoid going out with all of them if you’re the third or fifth wheel – especially if your ex used to join all of you in those nights out.
- Delete Their Social Media
The very last thing you need right now is to be opening your Facebook or Instagram and seeing their pictures pop up first. This will obviously force you to think about them and it’ll more than likely put you in a sour mood. So just delete or unfollow them on all social media platforms – at least until you’re completely over them.
- And Their Phone Number
Just get rid of it. If you scroll through your contacts to text a friend and end up coming across their name, you’ll start thinking about them and won’t be able to stop. Therefore, you should just get rid of it altogether so that’s never a problem and you’ll also avoid drunkenly calling them on a night out with your friends when you miss them.
- Find Closure
If there’s one thing that will keep your mind on someone you still like, it’s not having closure for why you’re no longer together. You need to know why they didn’t want to be with your or why they ended things in order to stop thinking about them because if you don’t know this, you’ll be obsessed with it. You won’t be able to stop thinking up scenarios in your head – most of them bad.
- Think About Someone Else
Now usually, I’m not really for the whole rebounding thing, but in this case I’ll make an exception. The thing is, when you get distracted by thinking about someone new who gets your heart pumping, it’ll make forgetting the person you still like so much easier. That’s why this is the time when I think it’s a good idea to find someone new to keep your mind off your ex – even if it’s just for a little while. It doesn’t have to get serious with this person. They’re just a means to keep your mind on them and not someone you still like.
- Stay Away From Their Favorite Places
If you know the person you still like will go to certain places often, don’t go there and sit around waiting for a glimpse at them. This is a cop out because you miss them and want to see them. If you want to stop thinking about them so you can move on, then don’t go to the places they frequent. Find a new coffee shop or local diner to make yours and stay away from their spots until you’re over them.
- If You Do Think About Them, Think of the Bad
You can’t always avoid thinking about someone who means so much to you. It’s just not possible when you’re still getting over them. That being said, you can redirect your thoughts to think of the negative aspects of them. For example, you will often start thinking about how attractive they were or how much they made you laugh. Instead of dwelling on this, start thinking about all the ways they made you cry or how badly they treated you at times. This will make you think of them less because your mind won’t like being in such a negative state.
- Learn Something New
This is another distraction technique that will help get your mind off them. You can honestly learn just about anything new, but if you keep with it and actually try to master it, you’ll have forgotten them without realizing it. This can be anything from a new language to an instrument you’ve always wanted to play. You’ll be so busy learning this new thing that you won’t even remember who it is you thought about so much.
- Take a Vacation
Everyone needs a vacation sometimes and if you can’t seem to escape the thoughts of someone you still like, it’s the perfect time. Getting out of the environment that reminds you so much about them will kick-start the process of forgetting about them altogether.
- Don’t Even Talk About Them
SERIOUSLY. I know there are far too many of us who just want to sit and talk about the people we like but if you can’t have them or they don’t want you, this is only harmful. In order to stop thinking about them, you have to avoid talking about them because once you start, it’ll be too difficult to stop and you’ll spend hours doing so – if your friends even let you.
- Pretend to Have Fun
Having fun may be really difficult at a time when you can’t seem to stop thinking about someone you really care about. That’s why instead of just going out and having fun, you may have to pretend to have fun until you actually are. Your mind is a powerful tool that can actually change the way you feel after you’ve been pretending for so long. Fake it until you make it, right?
- Stay Away from Their Friends
When you were with this person, you may have actually become friends with their friends. This may be the most difficult thing to do, but if you’re desperate to stop thinking about someone you still like, this is the way to do it. Their friends will most likely end up talking about them and they’ll always remind you of them. So just avoid hanging out with them until you’re over them.
- Change Your Train of Thought
This is something that takes a lot of practice but once you have it mastered, it’ll make forgetting the person you still like really easy. Whenever you start thinking about them, stop yourself and start thinking about something even more complex, instead. For example, every time they pop into your mind, start thinking about the universe and how big it is and if there’s life out there on other planets.
- Think of the Positives of NOT Thinking About Them
Think of all the benefits of avoiding thinking about them. You’ll be happier, you won’t feel insecure, and you’ll avoid falling into a pit of despair. This will help you become motivated to actually forget about them.
- Don’t be Alone
Being alone will only make you think about how lonely you are with them not around. So go and be with friends or family all you can because they’ll even help keep you distracted and away from thinking about them.
- Remember that the Pain will Pass
The pain of thinking about someone you still like is fleeting. It won’t be around forever and remembering this will help you to stop thinking about them. It’ll give you hope that it won’t always be like this and you’ll find your happiness in someone else someday.
The secret to stop thinking about someone you still like is to avoid anything that has to do with them altogether. These tips will help you forget all about them so you can move on.