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How To Talk Dirty To A Guy And Turn Him On!


When you want to turn your man on, you’ll need to bring out the big guns. When I mean the big guns, I mean, you’re going to have to turn on the naughty girl in you. You want him to feel your sexual energy even if he’s on the other side of the world. Most girls think that the best way to turn him on would be to send him nudes. Though it’s effective, you can turn him on without getting naked. Make him work for it, make him visualize you and your body.  If you want him to use his imagination, you’re going to have to use your words. You can easily get him turned on by talking dirty to him. Not sure how do it or what to say? Don’t worry, that’s why we’re here. Here’s how you turn him on through dirty talk.

Don’t be shy

If you want to turn him on, you have to speak what’s on your mind. Let yourself go and tell him everything that you want to do to him and that you want him to do to you. If you want him to get horny, you need to release yourself through your words. So, whatever comes to your mind, write it down or say it out loud.

Describe everything

Pretend that you’re writing a book and you want the audience to feel what you’re feeling. You’re going to have to be descriptive. You just can’t write “you spank my ass”. Well, you can but you want to go into more depth. Does he spank it? How hard does he spank it? What do you do when he spanks it? So whatever you’re thinking, make sure you paint him a picture of what’s going on in your mind.

Don’t go overboard

Talking sexy is a turn on, but if you go overboard with trash talk, it can be a huge turn-off. Make your conversation sexy and playful, make him work for it and tease him a little. But, don’t make it overly vulgar, unless he’s into it. If he’s not into that type of talk, this will work the opposite for you and will completely have him turned off.

Sext if you’re horny

If you’re not horny, your partner is going to notice. To have a solid sexting conversation, you need to be mentally and emotionally involved. If you’re not, well, then it’s going to be lack-luster. When you’re horny, it won’t matter what you say because your partner’s going to feel it. You’re probably wondering how they’ll feel it through the phone but it’s amazing how perceptive we are when we’re horny. So, don’t try to fool him because he knows, especially if you two have been dating for some time.

You can use dirty talk in-person

You don’t have to save the dirty talk only for sexting. In fact, whenever and wherever you can dirty talk, you should do it. While you’re having sex if you want to amp up the energy, start talking dirty. Tell him how you love his hard cock inside you and you’ll see him starting to thrust harder and harder. You can use dirty talk as foreplay to get your man excited while he’s coming home from work. Dirty talk can be used for an array of things, so, whenever you can use it, use it.

Mix dirty talk with physical action

You don’t always have to start with dirty talk. You can just come up to him, suck on his earlobe and give him the look. You know what look I’m talking about. Maybe you two will start to make out or maybe he’ll go directly to take your pants off but then you can add some dirty talk to get the fire going. Say how much you’ve wanted him all day and how he made you wet at work. These small sentences actually have a huge impact on a man.

Don’t make sex the goal

The sex will come when you dirty talk with him, so, don’t focus so much on having sex with him because it’s going to happen. Instead, take some time and enjoy this moment that you have with him. See what dirty sentences or words turn him on and mix it up with some touching, kissing and licking. Remember, be in the moment and you’ll both have an amazing time.

Send him teaser pics

If you want to send him nudes, you can. No one is stopping you and there’s nothing wrong by doing it. But you can also drive him crazy by sending him clothed pictures. You can send him a picture of your cleavage or you in your underwear. He’s going to ask you for a nude, but you have to stay strong and tell him to wait until he sees you. When the clock strikes 5, he’ll be running home as fast as he can. He wants to know what’s underneath that sexy top you showed him. Leaving a little to the imagination is a great way to turn him on while teasing him at the same time.

Sext him during an inappropriate time

Getting a steamy sext during a business meeting will certainly ignite his sexual desires. He knows how wrong it is but he can’t help but react. What if he’s at the doctor’s office and you send him a text saying how wet you are. It’s a great way to not only pass the time but do something on the riskier side.

Be vocal

If you two are making out while talking dirty to each other or he’s fingering you, you can let him know you’re enjoying it. You don’t have to literally tell him, “this feels really good,” you can, there’s nothing wrong with it, but you can also moan. Moaning is a great way to let them know you’re loving it and it’s sexy as hell to hear it. It gives your man an ego boost and makes him even more invested in making you orgasm. It’s amazing how a simple moan can be so effective. So, don’t be scared to let yourself moan, he’ll love it.

Send him a porn clip

It doesn’t have to be of you if you have any. You can send him a porn clip and tell him that this is what you two are going to do tonight. Or you can just send him the porn clip with no caption. He’ll know what this means and if he doesn’t get hard by that porn clip, well, then something’s wrong. Porn clips are great things to use if you don’t feel like sexting and you just want to get straight to the point.

Stay away from emojis

Emojis are becoming very popular right now for communication, however, keep them out of your sexting. Emojis don’t make people wet or horny. Plus, very few people know how to use them properly while sexting, so take our advice and stay emoji free. If you’re talking about anal sex, you don’t want the poop emoji at the end of your sentence, it’s a buzz kill.

Dirty talk before sex

If you’re working up the sexual energy before sex, you’ll want to use some of these phrases. They’ll certainly ignite the spark and make him hungrier for you. So, give some of these phrases a try and see which ones he reacts to the best.

“I need you inside me right now”

“I was thinking about fucking you all day at work”

“Remember that time when we (insert dirty memory)”

“I want to suck your dick so badly”

“I want you to do whatever you want to me tonight”

“I want you to you kiss every inch of my body”

“Are you going to tie me up tonight?”

“Guess what I’m wearing right now?”

“When I think about you on top of me, I get so wet”

“I bought this dildo, it hasn’t been used yet… want to use it on me?”

“I love seeing your body on top of me, it makes me so wet”

“I’m just laying in bed alone, thinking about you…”

“I can’t wait until we’re alone tonight, the things I’m going to do to you”

“If you were in bed next to me, what would you be doing?”

“I had a very naughty dream about you last night…”

“I’m touching myself right now, want to help me?”

“I was thinking about you last night while I was having a shower”

Dirty things to say during sex

While you’re having sex, you can say some dirty words or phrases to make your man even more turned on. This will help keep the fire inside him going until he ejaculates. Now, don’t overdo it with the dirty talk. Try to find the balance where you say enough to make him horny but not to the point where you’re constantly speaking.

“Why don’t you just lie back, relax and let me please you”

“I love how you feel inside me”

“Keep going, baby!”

“Oh my god, you make me so wet”

“I love the way you taste”

“I could eat you all day”

“You make me feel like an animal when you’re inside me”

“I want you to fuck me hard”

“Don’t stop, it feels so good”

“Finish on my (insert body part)”

While you’re dirty talking, you want to be mindful about a couple of things. Now, if you’ve been dirty talking for a while, then you’ll know what works and what doesn’t. However, if you’re new at this, keep these things in mind.

Your tone

Your tone is crucial. Even in everyday life, the way you say something can drastically change the meaning. If you’re partner us having aggressive sex with you, then having a soft tone won’t work. You’ll want to make your tone more aggressive and strong. However, if you’re wanting to build the sexual tension, then your tone should be more soulful and sensual. This will create more intimacy between you two. So, you’ll have to test it out, but you’ll find a tone that suits each sexual experience.

The speed of your speech

Are you blabbing away at speeds where no one can understand you? This isn’t the sexiest way to talk during sex. In fact, it makes people more anxious if anything. You need to slow down the way you speak while having sex. If you speak slower, people respond to that better. It’s definitely more effective while having sex than talking fast.

How you’re moving your body

Sex isn’t only about what you say, but it’s also how you move. If you’re telling your partner that you love his ass, but you’re not grabbing or spanking it, your actions aren’t matching your words. Body language is extremely important when having sex, so whatever you say, you have to genuinely mean it. Eye contact and touching are crucial for intimacy and propelling sexual engagement. If you’re not touching him, then maybe you shouldn’t be having sex with him.


After you two have had sex, let him know what you thought about it. Be honest with your partner. If you like the way he fingers you, throw in a little dirty talk and tell him how you loved his fingers inside you. It’ll most likely make him horny again but it’ll also let him know what he’s doing right. If you don’t like the way he does something, you can say, “baby, the ___ you did was okay, but what really turned me on was the ___” He’ll get the hint that what he was doing wasn’t working out, so he’ll try something else.

Now that you know how to talk dirty to your man, it’s time you went and practiced. Remember, it’ll take some time to find your own style, so be relaxed and just enjoy the experience.