In movies, the guy likes the girl, he tells the girl, and she admits that she likes them too. It’s simple. But in real life, there are a ton of ways that guys can make mistakes and scare off the girl he’s got his sights set on. On the other hand, you can’t just stay around and hope that she suddenly knows you’re interested.
And you certainly can’t expect her to ask you out because of it. If it were the opposite way around it would be a lot easier because guys are never put off by anything women say when it compliments their egos. Women are certainly not that way so I wouldn’t sit around and hold your breath.
People, in general, have a hard time telling people about their feelings because it’s always awkward no matter what emotion it is. They stare at us, we feel embarrassed, and the whole thing goes south. Other people always enjoy learning that someone likes them because it boosts their self-esteem, but for some reason, everyone dreads being the teller.
No one wants to be that person who is always regretting never confessing their feelings to the one that got away. So, grow a set and just tell her what’s on your mind. No matter how it ends up, she’ll appreciate your honesty and like you at least a little bit for it.
Now, before you go running to her, screaming out your feelings, and scaring everyone within a 1000 feet radius, there is a strategy that you need to get planned out. Trust me, it works and you’ll be happy with the results. Either you’ll get that date, or you’ll find out that you don’t really want it and start looking elsewhere.
If you just skip straight to the last step, you’re bound to send her running in the other direction totally creeped out. Which is entertaining to all of your friends, but not to her and it won’t help you in the long run. Here are some things you should do to let her know how you feel and get a date that you’ll actually enjoy.
1. Being random is not your friend here
Please make sure that you know this girl well before you go professing your love for her. Women do not like strange men coming on to them at all unless they’re in a bar and obviously scouting.
Besides, telling a woman you hardly know that you like her is the same as telling her that you only like her for her looks and that never ends well if we’re all being honest. At least have a strong conversation before you ask her.
2. You can’t like a girl that you rarely talk to
You won’t know anything about her. Just relax and converse with her in a group setting to figure out more about her. Keep it simple and talk about the little things until you get on more serious terms.
Make sure the two of you have a few things in common before you take any leaps or you’ll regret it if you do get that date. You may get out and discover that you have absolutely nothing in common which makes for one terrible date that you won’t want to repeat anytime soon. Neither will she.
3. Once you’ve established a baseline of meaningless conversation, try to dig a little deeper and learn a few things about her
The easiest way to start this kind of conversation is by asking her about what she does with her free time. If she plays sports, or volunteers at a shelter, then you suddenly have not only something more to talk about, but also learn a lot about her. What she does in her spare time can tell you everything you need to know.
4. The friend zone is not a bad way to start despite popular belief
If you’re friends with the girl first, then it won’t be creepy when you tell her that you’re interested in her. You’ll also already know a lot about her and who she is.
All great romances begin with friendships. Spend some time with her and try to make her laugh a lot. Girls love their friends with a sense of humor more than all of the others. (Just don’t go telling the others about it.)
5. Get to know her friends
A girl’s friends are her buffers and she tends to run everything past them. If you ask her out without getting to know her friends, they will be suspicious of you.
If you’re friends with her, then you already know her friends too, so it should be pretty simple to hang around them. Just don’t get too cozy with any of them or you’ll be out. But that should really be self-explanatory to anyone with common sense and morals.
6. Pay her compliments, but not overstated cheesy ones
Don’t tell her she’s gorgeous, but tell her that her shirt is cool, or the song she played was a good one. Subtle compliments are the best kind and won’t put her off. Everyone likes being complimented, but no one likes it when sleazy guys pay them fake compliments just to try and get into their pants.
All women know good and well when a guy is just trying to get them in bed. Sometimes we still bite when we’re in the right mood for a little fun, but mostly we don’t because we do have pride.
7. Sharpen your flirting skills
Flirting with a girl makes it a whole lot easier to tell her that you’re into her. It also prepares her for the chance that you might so that she’s not shocked and can consider a way to react ahead of time.
Plus, flirting always adds an element of fun as it normally draws a few laughs and playful banter. Although she might be laughing at you. Honestly, it may be a really long time before you ever know whether it was at or with you.
8. Keep in contact with her
You’ve got to get her number which you should already have if you’re friends. Shoot her an occasional text and see how it goes since that’s easier than face-to-face conversations for you. Just be sure that you don’t blow up her phone and annoy her.
Light, casual texts are what I’m talking about here, not sexting and dirty pics please because no woman wants those. Seriously, stop sending dirty pics to women who don’t ask.
9. Her friends are her best source of information so let it slip to them that you’re interested in her
Something subtle like “I wouldn’t mind getting to know her better” can work wonders. Her friends will hardly be able to hold it in and will tell her long before you ever could.
That will also give her time to prepare and decide if she’s into you for a romantic relationship. Honestly, sometimes women just need time to weigh out the pros and cons of being with you because we really do work that way.
10. Be honest with her
Just get her alone and tell her that you think she’s really interesting and funny and that you’d love to spend some more time with her. This can work by itself, but if you’ve followed the previous steps, it will certainly work! The best way to go about this one is to do it in a room full of people.
That way she doesn’t feel pressured, and if she says no, the two of you have a buffer to stop the awkwardness. You may even be able to settle back into the friend zone comfortably and look elsewhere for romance. Maybe she’ll introduce you to someone that you would most definitely like and would like you too. You never know how fate will work out.
You now have all the information you need if you’ll just put it together and try it out. Yes, this takes a little more dedicated time, but if you’re really into her, then it’s worth it. Remember, you don’t want to look back later in life and regret that you never took the time to get to know her.
There is literally nothing that sucks worse than wishing you could have the opportunity to go back and try that relationship out. Try out my method and live a happy, full life.