Isn’t it amazing how you become friends with someone? You just meet one another and find out that you have a common interest. Then you’re simply like, “Yup, I like this one. This one’s going to be my friend.”’ And all of sudden you two are off doing fun things together. And soon even mundane things become more fun just because you are doing it with them. Friends are awesome and the process of getting to know them is even more fantastic. That is exactly what makes losing a friend all the worse. The process of coming together is easy, but the process of falling apart is as tough as nails. It’s such a strange feeling to have to let go of your ‘other half’. We tend to believe that soulmates come in forms other than lovers. And losing your platonic soulmate can be absolutely devastating.
What typically rips apart these strong bonds? There are many things, but today we are going to focus on the problem of having fake friends. This is one of the most common reasons that friendships come to an end. Having a fake friend can definitely be a trying ordeal. Especially when you are still working on figuring out whether they are a real friend at all or not. But how can you spot a friend who isn’t really your friend? What kinds of things give them away? Luckily for you, it’s easier to figure out than it seems. You just need to have an idea of what to be on the lookout for. Which is exactly why we have compiled a list of 15 things that will tell you if your friend is a phony or not. 10 simple signs that will give you all the answers you need in a situation such as this one. All you have to do is keep reading and soon you’ll have all the information you could possibly need.
10 Simple Signs To Tell Your Friend Is Fake
No one enjoys finding out that a good friend of theirs is a fake, but sadly, it happens all the time. Don’t feel too badly about it though, it happens to the best of us. Thankfully there are lists like these to help us figure out which people are toxic, fake and needing to be thrown out of our lives! These 10 signs will help you decide if the friend on your mind is a true one or not.
- They’re A Little Too Competitive
A little friendly competition is never a bad thing. Heck, it’s even fun! Playing Monopoly should only slightly make you upset when you’re playing with your friends… It shouldn’t tear you apart. Fake friends tend to be competitive with their other ‘friends’. They will always want to be the head honcho and be number one at everything. They may hear that you’ve signed up for an art contest, then signed themselves up as well because they simply want to see you fail. True friends will always want you to succeed, while fakes will sit in the corner and wait for your demise. They are never happy for you when you accomplish something. And it will be clear in their tone or face when they are ‘congratulating’ you.
- Passive Aggressive Is Their Best Trait
What is being passive aggressive? It’s when some denotes a type or behavior or personality. They will do it in an indirect way, so as to avoid a direct confrontation. They will go out of their way to tell you something positive, but it will have a negative spin on it. This is not generally something that a real friend would do. However, a fake friend will jump on any opportunity to be passive aggressive towards you. Why do they do this? It’s all part of their severe need to be in competition with you and some of it even comes out because of pure jealousy.
Examples of being passive aggressive:
“Wow you’re doing so good in school… For someone who only got a general education diploma.”
“Ohh, come on! It was only a joke. You were never good at taking a joke.”
“Wow that ‘homemade’ pizza was great. Now tell us, which delivery service did you use?”
- They Will Always Throw You Under The Bus
No matter what you do, or didn’t do, for that matter, a fake friend will be quick to throw you under the bus. Especially if it means they will get to avoid taking blame for something. Say that someone broke the neighbors window. And when asked about it, your friend tells the neighbor that she was sure she saw you throwing a football around earlier. This might be an example of her throwing you under the bus. Whether or not she was even aware of what you were doing earlier that day.
You may also see this behavior when it comes to social construct. Like if there is a rumor floating around that someone stole someone’s makeup bag. Your friend might imply that she saw you with a new lipstick she’d never seen before.
A true friend will never make assumptions or bad mouth you simply to see you get in trouble. These are definitely signs of toxic friends who are nothing more than fakes.
- Rumors And Gossip Are Their Second Language
Real friends don’t usually talk badly about their friends to other people. This is because the possess some sort of loyalty to them. They want to see you talked about well, because they hold you to a higher standard themselves. However, a phony friend will never hesitate to say something negative about you. They might go run around and tell people that you said something stupid the other day. They may think it’s funny to watch other people laugh at your mistakes. You will also notice they like to talk about other people, too. Gossiping comes naturally to them and they absolutely love participating in spreading rumors.
- Your Friends, But Only On Their Terms
Have you ever heard of a ‘conditional friendship’? This is a friendship that only works under certain conditions. Though you have no conditions, a fake friend definitely will. You might hear something like, “Well, if you can’t give me a ride to work/school everyday then I don’t think that we can stay friends.” Or, “You need to start sharing your snacks with me or I don’t think the friendship is going to work out between us.”
This is a positive sign that someone isn’t really your friend. Real friends don’t expect anything out of their other friends. They are simply in this relationship because they enjoy who you are and spending time with you. They won’t need extra perks.
- They Make No Attempt To Reconcile
When you get into a fight with this so-called friend… What happens? Do they ever make an effort to reconcile with you? Do they ever attempt to apologize… Especially when it was their fault that the two of you were fighting in the first place? The answer when you are dealing with a fake friend: Of course not. A fake friend couldn’t care less if the two of you stop talking for now. They don’t feel like they should have to take the blame for any mistakes, because they simply do not care about your feelings.
- They’re Quick To Leave You Behind
Did you just get a new student in your class that seems so cool and interesting? Your ‘friend’ will jump right in their to try and butter them up. They’ll forget entirely about you as well. Once something better comes along, a fake friend will leave you behind without even a glance back. They will find someone who they can use even more than they use you. Say the new student has a nicer car, or more money, etc. This would be a prime opportunity for them to make a new friend and exploit them.
- They Make You Feel Used
Like we just mentioned, a fake friend will always befriend someone that they feel they can exploit. You might start to notice that this friend will only hang out with you when they feel like they’re getting something out of it. Like only hanging out with you when you buy them their drinks downtown or their food when you go out to eat. They may only use you for rides or materials. It’s a cruddy feeling, but this is definitely a major sign you are dealing with a friend who is faker than a cutout cardboard celebrity.
- Their Life Is More Important Than You
No matter what you do with a fake friend, they will always truly believe that their life is more important than yours. You will find they carry an air of arrogance around them at all times. They might always choose to help themselves over helping you. It’s such a disappointing feeling, but that is just what untrue friends do. They disregard the things that are important to you when something else is more important to them.
- They Never Really Listen
A real, true friend will always be there for you when you need them. They will have an open ear and a shoulder to cry on if need be. However, a friend who is fake will not be there for you. They will not listen to what you have to say or what’s bringing you down.
Now you have 10 simple signs that let you know whether you are dealing with a fake friend. These signs will be easy to spot, you just have to be paying attention to how your ‘friend’ acts towards you! Good luck!