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If You Had a Dream of Someone, Is It Because They Think of You?


You keep dreaming about the same person every night. Even though you deliberately try to think of anything else before bed, they continue to show up in your dreams. If you had a dream of someone, is it because they think of you? Are your minds subconsciously linked in some way?

If You Had a Dream of Someone, Is It Because They Think of You?

Currently, science generally believes that dreams are caused by random electrical firings in your mind. These images, memories and thoughts are completely random, but your mind attempts to assemble them into some type of plot line when you wake up. Because of this, your dreams most likely just represent the people, images and things that you interact with or think about in real life.

Some people also believe that dreams can represent your psychological state. For example, if you think about a yellow room before bed every night, you are more likely to dream about it. If you have been stressed out from school, you may dream that you are at school or that you are in some type of stressful situation.

Often, you can figure out what is going on in your subconscious by analyzing your dreams. Your dreams can show the topics, feelings and people that keep coming up in your mind over and over again. Sometimes, these figures represent a feeling or another idea. Other times, they appear because you interact or think about that person a lot in real life. This is one of the reasons why your dreams tend to include people, thoughts and locations that you are at a lot in your real life.

There is an old superstition that people dream about someone because that someone is thinking about them. For example, you dream about your crush. According to the superstition, your crush must be thinking about you. Unfortunately, this is just not true.

The reason this superstition most likely developed is because of the odds. You are more likely to dream about someone you interact with a lot or think about a lot. That person also interacts with you a lot, so they are more likely to dream about you. Because of this, it is entirely possible that you would have a dream when that person is thinking about you. This is only because the situation makes your dreams and thoughts more likely to be about the other person; it is not because that person is thinking of you. Basically, we are looking at an example of correlation and not causation. These two experiences (the thinking and the dreaming) might occur at the same time, but they are not actually correlated to each other.

You could easily test this theory on anyone who has had a crush on a celebrity. Because of this crush, you are more likely to dream about the celebrity. Since that rock star or actor does not actually know you, it is next to impossible for them to actually be thinking about you.

If You Had a Dream of Someone

Dreams Reflect Your Own Thoughts

What your dreams really show is that you are thinking about this person a lot. You might have a crush on them, or they might annoy you significantly. Whatever the reason, it seems like they are on your mind a lot.

Now, your goal is to figure out why they are on your mind. There may be an obvious reason like how you feel about them. If not, you have to look at the role they play in your life. Do they represent a certain feeling? If you feel protected around them, their appearance in your dream might show that you want someone to love, nurture and protect you. If you feel afraid or intimidated by them, then it might mean that you feel that way in real life, so they appeared in your dream.

In some cases, people appear in your dreams completely randomly. You have memories of people from your entire life. Even though you may not think about these people anymore, they can still be pulled into your dream from time to time. Something you saw may have reminded you of them, or their appearance in your dream could have been completely random.

Ultimately, you are the best person for deciding what your dream truly means. If the person likes you back or is close to you in real life, then it is always possible that they were thinking about you at the same time as your dream. With that said, it is just as likely that they thought about you on any other day, whether you dreamed about them or not. To really figure out the exact meaning behind your dream, you have to look at exactly what happened in the dream, how you felt, where you were and how you acted.


  1. i dream about my ex almost every single day although we broke up 3 years ago. some of these dreams vivid other not. sometimes when i dream about this relates with some true issue happens to him for example today i dreamed that he and his cousin came to my home when i woke up i found out that mom already talked with him today before the dream and his cousin came my home after the dream. most of the dreams i see him regrets because he left me

    • Your dreams are reflections of your previous emotional connection with your ex. The two of you decided to end this relationship three years ago. This person is no longer interested in nourishing a relationship with you. Determine what you want for your future without this person. Focus your emotional energy elsewhere. Have a great day, Ruby!

  2. Im dreaming about this someone i have feelings to. I confessed to him but u nfortunately, he only treat me as a friend. I moved on from him and not thinking that much about him. But he’s the one im always dreaming about. Different scenarios that involves the two of us and has a happy ending. Now im confused again on what i feel. Am i falling again or what? Please help.

    • Your dreams are reflections of your previous emotional connections with him. You shared your thoughts and feelings with him. He explained that he is not interested in maintaining a relationship with you. It is possible that his feelings have changed over time. Determine what you want for your future. You may find benefit in allowing thoughts of him to fade. If he is in your life and has expressed interest in spending time with you, then reach out to him. Have a great day, Anna!

  3. Im dreaming to a person everynight but I am not thinking of Him. We have a relationship before but it’s already 6 years ago. And we ended up very peaceful. So how is that? Im so confused because We have our own families now. And he keeps popping on my dreams everynight. Please help!

    • These dreams are reflections of your previous emotional connection with him. Something in your life may have reminded you of him. It is possible that your thoughts have settled on him at this time. You have a family, so focus your emotional energy on your family at this time. You will find benefit in spending additional time with your family, as this will strengthen your connection. Have a great day, Amalia!

  4. I dreamt that I had sex with my boyfriend’s best friend… he was protecting me from something (I don’t remember what) and he took me home to his place where I would be safe. Then we were laying on his bed and somehow we got closer to each other and started kissing and undressing each other. Then we started having sex and it was very intense and intimate. What does this mean? I’m not even that close with my boyfriend’s best friend and I have never even thought of him in that way.

    • This dream is a reflection of your social relationship. Your emotional connection with your partner may have influenced this dream. Do no concern yourself with your behaviors in your dreams. Allow thoughts of your boyfriend’s best friend to fade. Spend additional time with your partner at this time, as this will strengthen your relationship. Have a great day, Anna!

  5. I had a dream this morning about my site coordinator from school. We are close, but I haven’t seen her in like a week. And i wont see her until again until sometime in August.We did see each other a lot and we mostly talked about our problems and issues that stress us out. But what I dont understand is why now, why did I dream of her now and especially in a very unfamiliar place. It was a school but everything looked completely different. Can you help me understand?

    • The two of you share a strong work relationship. It is likely that you developed a social or emotional relationship as well. Something in your life may have caused you to think about her. You may feel as though you experienced her stress. The setting of your dream may be a manifestation of the distance between you. Have a great day, Felicity!

  6. I had an intense dream about a guy who I have a crush on but we stopped talking. I think about him at times mostly wishing he’d reach back out to me. In the dream I was running and fainted. When someone ran to help me they noticed my name on my necklace and asked if anyone knew me. He ran over and said he did and took care of me. When I came to I was on his bed with him by my side. He wanted to grab me water and his dog ran towards me. I started to panic as I’m afraid of dogs and he came back to hold me as I was shaking. I awoke from the dream scared as if I was there. I don’t know what the dream means but it makes me want to reach out to him.

    • Your dream is a reflection of your social and emotional connection with this person. You are interested in developing a relationship with someone that makes you feel secure and happy. Allow this dream to guide you to share your thoughts and feelings with this person in your life. Give him a chance to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Mink!