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If You Had a Dream of Someone, Is It Because They Think of You?


You keep dreaming about the same person every night. Even though you deliberately try to think of anything else before bed, they continue to show up in your dreams. If you had a dream of someone, is it because they think of you? Are your minds subconsciously linked in some way?

If You Had a Dream of Someone, Is It Because They Think of You?

Currently, science generally believes that dreams are caused by random electrical firings in your mind. These images, memories and thoughts are completely random, but your mind attempts to assemble them into some type of plot line when you wake up. Because of this, your dreams most likely just represent the people, images and things that you interact with or think about in real life.

Some people also believe that dreams can represent your psychological state. For example, if you think about a yellow room before bed every night, you are more likely to dream about it. If you have been stressed out from school, you may dream that you are at school or that you are in some type of stressful situation.

Often, you can figure out what is going on in your subconscious by analyzing your dreams. Your dreams can show the topics, feelings and people that keep coming up in your mind over and over again. Sometimes, these figures represent a feeling or another idea. Other times, they appear because you interact or think about that person a lot in real life. This is one of the reasons why your dreams tend to include people, thoughts and locations that you are at a lot in your real life.

There is an old superstition that people dream about someone because that someone is thinking about them. For example, you dream about your crush. According to the superstition, your crush must be thinking about you. Unfortunately, this is just not true.

The reason this superstition most likely developed is because of the odds. You are more likely to dream about someone you interact with a lot or think about a lot. That person also interacts with you a lot, so they are more likely to dream about you. Because of this, it is entirely possible that you would have a dream when that person is thinking about you. This is only because the situation makes your dreams and thoughts more likely to be about the other person; it is not because that person is thinking of you. Basically, we are looking at an example of correlation and not causation. These two experiences (the thinking and the dreaming) might occur at the same time, but they are not actually correlated to each other.

You could easily test this theory on anyone who has had a crush on a celebrity. Because of this crush, you are more likely to dream about the celebrity. Since that rock star or actor does not actually know you, it is next to impossible for them to actually be thinking about you.


If You Had a Dream of Someone

Dreams Reflect Your Own Thoughts

What your dreams really show is that you are thinking about this person a lot. You might have a crush on them, or they might annoy you significantly. Whatever the reason, it seems like they are on your mind a lot.

Now, your goal is to figure out why they are on your mind. There may be an obvious reason like how you feel about them. If not, you have to look at the role they play in your life. Do they represent a certain feeling? If you feel protected around them, their appearance in your dream might show that you want someone to love, nurture and protect you. If you feel afraid or intimidated by them, then it might mean that you feel that way in real life, so they appeared in your dream.

In some cases, people appear in your dreams completely randomly. You have memories of people from your entire life. Even though you may not think about these people anymore, they can still be pulled into your dream from time to time. Something you saw may have reminded you of them, or their appearance in your dream could have been completely random.

Ultimately, you are the best person for deciding what your dream truly means. If the person likes you back or is close to you in real life, then it is always possible that they were thinking about you at the same time as your dream. With that said, it is just as likely that they thought about you on any other day, whether you dreamed about them or not. To really figure out the exact meaning behind your dream, you have to look at exactly what happened in the dream, how you felt, where you were and how you acted.


  1. I had a dream of my person (currently in separation) he had added me to Facebook – in his profile picture he was wearing a light blue denim shirt. When I went to find him he was no longer there.
    It had then switched over to my Instagram where one of my ex’s (who I no longer have feelings for) had popped up and there was a picture of him and his now wife – I had commented something on the photo (which I can’t recall) and he had responded that we should have been married and it was all someone else’s fault that we were not.

    I had woken from my dream at 3:33am on the 11/11

    • You are currently separated from your partner. This means that this relationship may no longer be viable. Determine what you want for your future. If you ex is married, then allow thoughts of him to fade. If you want to nourish a relationship with him, then do so. If you want to maintain a relationship with your currently separated partner, then spend time with him in person to make a decision. Have a great day, Helen!

    • His behaviors and actions will indicate his feelings. If he is paying attention to you, being kind, and spending time with you, then it is likely that he is interested in you. Determine what you want for your future, and speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Lily!

  2. I keep having dreams about this guy that I haven’t seen in about 5 years, back then we both had feelings for each other but I’ve since moved away and we’ve only talked a limited amount over text. In my dreams he is usually how I remember him but he has changed a lot since then, last night in my dream he looked like what he does now, and we got close. After my dreams I feel confused and annoyed, and I think about him a lot afterwards. I also feel ashamed because I am in a happy relationship with my partner of almost two years and I don’t know why I feel the need to think about him when he definitely doesn’t think about me???

    • There is no reason for you to feel ashamed of your dream. This dream was a reflection of your previous emotional and social connection with this person. Allow thoughts of this other person to fade. Spend additional time with your partner at this time, as this will strengthen your relationship. Have a great day, Jessi!

  3. I had a dream about my ex. I’m currently with another guy that I’m very happy with. But my ex keeps showing up in my dreams. We fell off pretty hard. He was my first love and I was his and he left me for someone else. He came back cause he knew she wasn’t what he wanted and he came back acouple of times and I let him but he kept leaving. He always looks at me in the halls at school. My dream was us at the pool with some other classmates but mostly focusing on me and him. He was talking to me which I was shocked about because he hasn’t talked to me since last year. We where laughing and it was weird but felt so real. I got that happy feeling in my stomach that I use to get with him. Anyways I’m with someone else now and very happy but what does this mean

    • Your dream is a reflection of your strong emotional and social connection with your ex. These dreams are normal, especially for your first love. However, you are currently in a relationship, so allow thoughts of your ex to fade. Focus your emotional energy on your current partner. Spend additional time with him in person, as this will strengthen your relationship. Have a great day, Isabella!

  4. There is this boy who was my first crush but recently he told me that he doesn’t want a girlfriend at the moment and we usually text a lot yet we haven’t seen each other for a long time. I dreamt of him sitting on my lap, cuddling and we were reading a book in a car. It felt so real. What does this mean?

    • He has informed you of his feelings. Your dream is a reflection of your social and emotional desires. Nourish your relationship by spending additional time with him in person. Continue to share your kindness and compassion with him. This will help strengthen his feelings for you. Have a great day, Karry!

  5. I had a dream about a guy who I was talking to for a year. I found out on Facebook during thanksgiving about him dealing with another female due to pictures on Facebook. However, he posted more pictures during the new year and having since then. He texted me during thanksgiving, Christmas and new year. I even sent a text to him a week ago checking on him and he responded. However, I had a dream about him last night missing me. He was happy and we were having a good time being able to see each other. He mentioned in the dream how he was happy with his lady but it was me at the time and he was telling his friends. I am so confused about what happened and what this means. Please help and thank you

    • It seems as though the two of you are maintaining a social relationship. It is perfectly reasonable to continue being his friend. However, if he is currently in a relationship, then do not attempt to maintain a romantic relationship with him. Ensure that you always share your kindness and compassion with everyone in your life. Have a great day, Nicole!

  6. I had a dream about my cousin that’s in jail last night and supposedly in the dream he was out and we were hanging out talking and enjoying each others company but I haven’t thought about him at all..so what does this dream mean

    • Your dream may have been a reflection of your relationship with your cousin. You may feel that you are interested in nourishing this relationship, and it is possible that you are simply thinking about your previous interactions. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. If you decide that it is appropriate for you to reach out to you cousin when he leaves jail, then do so. Have a great day, Sarah!


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