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If You Had a Dream of Someone, Is It Because They Think of You?


You keep dreaming about the same person every night. Even though you deliberately try to think of anything else before bed, they continue to show up in your dreams. If you had a dream of someone, is it because they think of you? Are your minds subconsciously linked in some way?

If You Had a Dream of Someone, Is It Because They Think of You?

Currently, science generally believes that dreams are caused by random electrical firings in your mind. These images, memories and thoughts are completely random, but your mind attempts to assemble them into some type of plot line when you wake up. Because of this, your dreams most likely just represent the people, images and things that you interact with or think about in real life.

Some people also believe that dreams can represent your psychological state. For example, if you think about a yellow room before bed every night, you are more likely to dream about it. If you have been stressed out from school, you may dream that you are at school or that you are in some type of stressful situation.

Often, you can figure out what is going on in your subconscious by analyzing your dreams. Your dreams can show the topics, feelings and people that keep coming up in your mind over and over again. Sometimes, these figures represent a feeling or another idea. Other times, they appear because you interact or think about that person a lot in real life. This is one of the reasons why your dreams tend to include people, thoughts and locations that you are at a lot in your real life.

There is an old superstition that people dream about someone because that someone is thinking about them. For example, you dream about your crush. According to the superstition, your crush must be thinking about you. Unfortunately, this is just not true.

The reason this superstition most likely developed is because of the odds. You are more likely to dream about someone you interact with a lot or think about a lot. That person also interacts with you a lot, so they are more likely to dream about you. Because of this, it is entirely possible that you would have a dream when that person is thinking about you. This is only because the situation makes your dreams and thoughts more likely to be about the other person; it is not because that person is thinking of you. Basically, we are looking at an example of correlation and not causation. These two experiences (the thinking and the dreaming) might occur at the same time, but they are not actually correlated to each other.

You could easily test this theory on anyone who has had a crush on a celebrity. Because of this crush, you are more likely to dream about the celebrity. Since that rock star or actor does not actually know you, it is next to impossible for them to actually be thinking about you.

If You Had a Dream of Someone

Dreams Reflect Your Own Thoughts

What your dreams really show is that you are thinking about this person a lot. You might have a crush on them, or they might annoy you significantly. Whatever the reason, it seems like they are on your mind a lot.

Now, your goal is to figure out why they are on your mind. There may be an obvious reason like how you feel about them. If not, you have to look at the role they play in your life. Do they represent a certain feeling? If you feel protected around them, their appearance in your dream might show that you want someone to love, nurture and protect you. If you feel afraid or intimidated by them, then it might mean that you feel that way in real life, so they appeared in your dream.

In some cases, people appear in your dreams completely randomly. You have memories of people from your entire life. Even though you may not think about these people anymore, they can still be pulled into your dream from time to time. Something you saw may have reminded you of them, or their appearance in your dream could have been completely random.

Ultimately, you are the best person for deciding what your dream truly means. If the person likes you back or is close to you in real life, then it is always possible that they were thinking about you at the same time as your dream. With that said, it is just as likely that they thought about you on any other day, whether you dreamed about them or not. To really figure out the exact meaning behind your dream, you have to look at exactly what happened in the dream, how you felt, where you were and how you acted.


  1. I had a dream about my old crush and in the dream he had came all the way from his school to visit me at mines. I had tried to hug him, because I really miss him, yet he didn’t let me and that hurt. He came all that way for what? I don’t understand. We haven’t been in contact for years and I used to have feelings for him. I kinda do now, but I’m trying to get over him. Then I have this dream about him. I don’t know if it’s because I miss him or not.

    • Sometimes, dreams just happen because you have memories of liking someone. It is also possible you want love in your waking life, so your subconscious gave you this dream. The fact that you still have some feelings for him makes a dream like this more likely, and it doesn’t necessarily mean you actually miss him in your real life.

  2. Hi.i’ve dreamed about my ex boyfriend this morning.We’re video calling at first,then suddenly I’m with him and his Mom and Aunt,then we’re talking and laughing then he touched my right ear and my infinity earring.What does it mean?Thank you.

    • Even though you may no longer want to be with your ex-boyfriend, you may still miss some aspects of being with him. Because of this, you dreamed that he was being affectionate with you.

  3. I dreamed of my boyfriend’s best friend starting to talk to me again but in real life he’s been ignoring my texts. Does this mean I like my boyfriend’s friend or do I just want to talk to him again?

    • Since he is ignoring you in real life, it sounds like the dream is trying to give you the response that you wish would happen in your waking life. Unfortunately, there is no way to know from just a dream what can or will happen in your waking life. At the moment, I’d probably wait and see if he responds to your more recent texts. Good luck!

  4. Today, February 14, 2020, I dreamed of an ex female manager at a local restaurant. The dream was as follows: it was at night time, i was walking towards the corner of the building where I live. behind me, there was Wendoli just two feet away. She was afraid to turn the corner and hoping no one will see her. There was a tall White male. His description looked like a person from Europe. When he left, we went to my apartment. While Wendoli was there, she asked if i live alone because there were a couple rooms. I told her do not worry the person in one of the room will leave soon. She began taking off her clothes. She left her bra and panties on, got into my bed, and covered herself. She laid there with her head leaning on her hand waiting for me. The color of her undergarments was white. After that scene, I woke up.

    • It seems that the appearance of the woman in your dream is a reflection of various qualities that you find attractive in a partner. You may feel that you are interested in nourishing a romantic relationship at this time. If there is someone in your life that you want to reach out to, then speak with that person about your thoughts and feelings.

  5. Last night I dreamt of an ex we were laughing and enjoying each other’s company in a car ride. My daughter was there who is not his child. And it fast forwards to me sleeping in his apartment and him checking on me. I remember feeling super calm and comfortable. Like he was home for me. I’m married to someone different and we’ve been broken up for 13 years.

    • Perhaps your subconscious just misses the way you felt in that relationship, or you miss a particular trait. The dream could also be entirely random. Even though you are no longer together, you still have memories of him. Because of this, it makes sense that he’d appear in your dreams from time to time when you want a particular trait or feeling you had in that relationship.

  6. Repeat dreams about having sex with an ex fiance who physically assaulted and stalked me. I currently have a lifetime restraining order against him. My now husband tells me I call out my ex name in my sleep. I don’t think about this dude at all. Any ideas as to what this means?? It’s causing a rift in my marriage and it needs to end. Help

    • You still have memories of him, so it isn’t surprising that he might appear in your dreams from time to time. The mark he made on your psyche is most likely even stronger than a normal relationship because he was so terrifying after the relationship ended. I don’t think your husband has anything to be concerned about. If these memories appear frequently, it is only because you spent more time being afraid of him and angry at him.

  7. I don’t know why I dream about my ex-boyfriend every day I can say I never think of him but he always shows up in my dreams, and every day a different story like we were together in real life, and every dream always continue to the next day. Why?

    • The presence of your ex within your dream is a reflection of your previous emotional connection with him. This doesn’t mean that you are interested in maintaining a relationship with him, but rather that your shared experiences have influenced this dream. Make a decision about what you feel is appropriate, and behave in accordance to your desires.

  8. I have dreams every night about my kids daddy & his girlfriend idk why tho? Help me too understand why they keep popping up in my dreams

    • These dreams are reflections of your previous emotional relationship with your children’s father. You are aware that this relationship is in the past, so focus your energy on your children. You will find great benefit in sharing your kindness and compassion with everyone in your life.

  9. Well I keep having theses dreams about and ex that I dated and we broke up and moved on I still having dreams good n bad so what does it mean?

    • These dreams are reflections of your previous emotional relationship with your ex. The two of you made the decision to end your relationship, so you may find benefit in allowing this dream to fade. If you feel that it would be appropriate to reach out to him, then do so. If not, then allow thoughts of him to fade.


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