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If You Had a Dream of Someone, Is It Because They Think of You?


You keep dreaming about the same person every night. Even though you deliberately try to think of anything else before bed, they continue to show up in your dreams. If you had a dream of someone, is it because they think of you? Are your minds subconsciously linked in some way?

If You Had a Dream of Someone, Is It Because They Think of You?

Currently, science generally believes that dreams are caused by random electrical firings in your mind. These images, memories and thoughts are completely random, but your mind attempts to assemble them into some type of plot line when you wake up. Because of this, your dreams most likely just represent the people, images and things that you interact with or think about in real life.

Some people also believe that dreams can represent your psychological state. For example, if you think about a yellow room before bed every night, you are more likely to dream about it. If you have been stressed out from school, you may dream that you are at school or that you are in some type of stressful situation.

Often, you can figure out what is going on in your subconscious by analyzing your dreams. Your dreams can show the topics, feelings and people that keep coming up in your mind over and over again. Sometimes, these figures represent a feeling or another idea. Other times, they appear because you interact or think about that person a lot in real life. This is one of the reasons why your dreams tend to include people, thoughts and locations that you are at a lot in your real life.

There is an old superstition that people dream about someone because that someone is thinking about them. For example, you dream about your crush. According to the superstition, your crush must be thinking about you. Unfortunately, this is just not true.

The reason this superstition most likely developed is because of the odds. You are more likely to dream about someone you interact with a lot or think about a lot. That person also interacts with you a lot, so they are more likely to dream about you. Because of this, it is entirely possible that you would have a dream when that person is thinking about you. This is only because the situation makes your dreams and thoughts more likely to be about the other person; it is not because that person is thinking of you. Basically, we are looking at an example of correlation and not causation. These two experiences (the thinking and the dreaming) might occur at the same time, but they are not actually correlated to each other.

You could easily test this theory on anyone who has had a crush on a celebrity. Because of this crush, you are more likely to dream about the celebrity. Since that rock star or actor does not actually know you, it is next to impossible for them to actually be thinking about you.

If You Had a Dream of Someone

Dreams Reflect Your Own Thoughts

What your dreams really show is that you are thinking about this person a lot. You might have a crush on them, or they might annoy you significantly. Whatever the reason, it seems like they are on your mind a lot.

Now, your goal is to figure out why they are on your mind. There may be an obvious reason like how you feel about them. If not, you have to look at the role they play in your life. Do they represent a certain feeling? If you feel protected around them, their appearance in your dream might show that you want someone to love, nurture and protect you. If you feel afraid or intimidated by them, then it might mean that you feel that way in real life, so they appeared in your dream.

In some cases, people appear in your dreams completely randomly. You have memories of people from your entire life. Even though you may not think about these people anymore, they can still be pulled into your dream from time to time. Something you saw may have reminded you of them, or their appearance in your dream could have been completely random.

Ultimately, you are the best person for deciding what your dream truly means. If the person likes you back or is close to you in real life, then it is always possible that they were thinking about you at the same time as your dream. With that said, it is just as likely that they thought about you on any other day, whether you dreamed about them or not. To really figure out the exact meaning behind your dream, you have to look at exactly what happened in the dream, how you felt, where you were and how you acted.


  1. I had a dream about my old crush and in the dream he had came all the way from his school to visit me at mines. I had tried to hug him, because I really miss him, yet he didn’t let me and that hurt. He came all that way for what? I don’t understand. We haven’t been in contact for years and I used to have feelings for him. I kinda do now, but I’m trying to get over him. Then I have this dream about him. I don’t know if it’s because I miss him or not.

    • Sometimes, dreams just happen because you have memories of liking someone. It is also possible you want love in your waking life, so your subconscious gave you this dream. The fact that you still have some feelings for him makes a dream like this more likely, and it doesn’t necessarily mean you actually miss him in your real life.

  2. Hi.i’ve dreamed about my ex boyfriend this morning.We’re video calling at first,then suddenly I’m with him and his Mom and Aunt,then we’re talking and laughing then he touched my right ear and my infinity earring.What does it mean?Thank you.

    • Even though you may no longer want to be with your ex-boyfriend, you may still miss some aspects of being with him. Because of this, you dreamed that he was being affectionate with you.

  3. I dreamed of my boyfriend’s best friend starting to talk to me again but in real life he’s been ignoring my texts. Does this mean I like my boyfriend’s friend or do I just want to talk to him again?

    • Since he is ignoring you in real life, it sounds like the dream is trying to give you the response that you wish would happen in your waking life. Unfortunately, there is no way to know from just a dream what can or will happen in your waking life. At the moment, I’d probably wait and see if he responds to your more recent texts. Good luck!

  4. Today, February 14, 2020, I dreamed of an ex female manager at a local restaurant. The dream was as follows: it was at night time, i was walking towards the corner of the building where I live. behind me, there was Wendoli just two feet away. She was afraid to turn the corner and hoping no one will see her. There was a tall White male. His description looked like a person from Europe. When he left, we went to my apartment. While Wendoli was there, she asked if i live alone because there were a couple rooms. I told her do not worry the person in one of the room will leave soon. She began taking off her clothes. She left her bra and panties on, got into my bed, and covered herself. She laid there with her head leaning on her hand waiting for me. The color of her undergarments was white. After that scene, I woke up.

    • It seems that the appearance of the woman in your dream is a reflection of various qualities that you find attractive in a partner. You may feel that you are interested in nourishing a romantic relationship at this time. If there is someone in your life that you want to reach out to, then speak with that person about your thoughts and feelings.

  5. Last night I dreamt of an ex we were laughing and enjoying each other’s company in a car ride. My daughter was there who is not his child. And it fast forwards to me sleeping in his apartment and him checking on me. I remember feeling super calm and comfortable. Like he was home for me. I’m married to someone different and we’ve been broken up for 13 years.

    • Perhaps your subconscious just misses the way you felt in that relationship, or you miss a particular trait. The dream could also be entirely random. Even though you are no longer together, you still have memories of him. Because of this, it makes sense that he’d appear in your dreams from time to time when you want a particular trait or feeling you had in that relationship.

  6. Repeat dreams about having sex with an ex fiance who physically assaulted and stalked me. I currently have a lifetime restraining order against him. My now husband tells me I call out my ex name in my sleep. I don’t think about this dude at all. Any ideas as to what this means?? It’s causing a rift in my marriage and it needs to end. Help

    • You still have memories of him, so it isn’t surprising that he might appear in your dreams from time to time. The mark he made on your psyche is most likely even stronger than a normal relationship because he was so terrifying after the relationship ended. I don’t think your husband has anything to be concerned about. If these memories appear frequently, it is only because you spent more time being afraid of him and angry at him.

  7. I don’t know why I dream about my ex-boyfriend every day I can say I never think of him but he always shows up in my dreams, and every day a different story like we were together in real life, and every dream always continue to the next day. Why?

    • The presence of your ex within your dream is a reflection of your previous emotional connection with him. This doesn’t mean that you are interested in maintaining a relationship with him, but rather that your shared experiences have influenced this dream. Make a decision about what you feel is appropriate, and behave in accordance to your desires.

  8. I have dreams every night about my kids daddy & his girlfriend idk why tho? Help me too understand why they keep popping up in my dreams

    • These dreams are reflections of your previous emotional relationship with your children’s father. You are aware that this relationship is in the past, so focus your energy on your children. You will find great benefit in sharing your kindness and compassion with everyone in your life.

  9. Well I keep having theses dreams about and ex that I dated and we broke up and moved on I still having dreams good n bad so what does it mean?

    • These dreams are reflections of your previous emotional relationship with your ex. The two of you made the decision to end your relationship, so you may find benefit in allowing this dream to fade. If you feel that it would be appropriate to reach out to him, then do so. If not, then allow thoughts of him to fade.

  10. I had a crush on this guy (he liked me back as well). I never told him. But then I had a dream about me and him having a relationship, but I don’t know what it means. Does it mean he still likes me?

    • This dream is a reflection of your thoughts and feelings. You may find that you are interested in nourishing this relationship, so take this time to determine what you feel is viable and appropriate. Speak with this person about your thoughts and feelings, and give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well.

  11. Tonight I had a dream me and my ex were at a festival (complications means she was sometimes at our camp). We were all sat round the campfire and we got eye contact, smiled and looked back away. Then, she had to put something behind me so I simply said sorry and moved out the way, to which she said “it’s okay, and thank you for not causing any implications between me and —“ (would rather not say his name), to which I said “it’s fine” not really wanting to say much on the matter. A lot of the rest was a blur until we must of had some sort of moment together where we held hands for a while and tbh that part of the dream I was happiest. Then, it skipped to a part the group I am no longer with FaceTimed me on way to town, her being there and she waved through camera with her boyfriend there. Next thing in dream is her social media blocks me.

    I’ve had multiple dreams lately around her and I know I still have feelings for her, even after 2 years!! (First love what can I say ahah), is it just something I should simply put to the back on my mind?

    • I would be careful about assuming too much from the dreams. While it is entirely possible that you still like her, it is also possible that you just miss being with her. You may also just miss having a relationship of any sort, so your subconscious mind used her as a placeholder for the kind of relationship or person you’d like to be with. Unless you are certain you actually like her still, I wouldn’t read too much into it.

    • The stranger who appeared in your dream could be a placeholder for someone else in your life. You will find that sharing your kindness and compassion with everyone in your life, as this will draw positive people and energy into your life.

    • Your subconscious mind has memories of liking both crushes, so it is only natural that you might dream about both of them. It is very easy to confuse dream feelings with real feelings, so I would be cautious about determining anything from your dreams because there’s a good chance you don’t actually have any real feelings for your old crush anymore.

  12. I usually have romantic dreams about a boy. He is my schoolmate and i think that he isn’t good person but I still have feelings about him. Also, I often see him in cafes or on the Street. I saw him 2 days ago and I can’t stop thinking about him. When I try to forget him he is always appearing in my life strangely. So what can I do? Please someone give me advice I really need it. And if you know why is it happening please tell me! I want to sleep right now but I’m afraid that I’m gonna see him there.

    • You feel that this person isn’t a good person, and you do not want to have these dreams about him in the future. You will find benefit in focusing your attention on something that interests you. If you have dreams about him in the future, then address him within the dream regarding his purpose. You may want to nourish a social relationship with someone else in your life by spending additional time with them in person.

  13. I had this dream last night that this guy were in my dream after we stop talking for like 3 weeks and I miss him a lot I had cry over him and the dream was that I was at he’s house on the bed talking to him and suddenly I started crying because when we first stop talking I was feeling rly sad and now that he knows he felt kinda bad. What does this mean

    • This dream is a reflection of your social and emotional connection with this person. It is clear that you felt that this conversation was beneficial and important. If you know this person, then nourishing your relationship by spending additional time with him in person. If not, then share your kindness and compassion at all times, as this will dream positive people and energy into your life.

  14. I had a dream of a guy I’ve know for a year now. I never thought of him anymore than just a friend but, I dreamt of us kissing and then he was taken away. Now I feel different anytime I’m around him like I have a crush on him. I honestly wasn’t thinking about him at all before I went to sleep so I’m confused as to why I dreamt of him and why we were kissing. Help?

    • Your dream could be a sign that you are developing feelings for your friend. It is normal for these feelings to grow when you spend time with someone. Take this time to determine what you want for the future of your relationship. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings, and nourish your connection by spending additional time with him in person.

  15. I had a dream about my crush ignoring me as usual then he took my hand and told me that he likes someone else. 😔 what should I do?

    • This dream could be a reflection of your concerns regarding the future of your relationship with your crush. You feel that he is ignoring you, so it is possible that he doesn’t have similar feelings for you. You may be aware his his behaviors indicate that he is interested in nourishing a relationship with someone else.

  16. I saw my crush in dream’ i wanted to talk to him but a lady came and took me to other room and tried to sell me some packages but i was feeling anxious and wanted her to leave and let him come see me?

    • Your dream is a reflection of your social and emotional relationship with your crush. It is clear that you want to spend more time with him, and it is possible that you feel that there are people preventing you from nourishing this relationship. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings, and give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well.

  17. I’ve been dreaming about the same guy for about 4-5 years now. Sometimes they stop but they always come back. Even on days he doesn’t cross my mind or if weeks go by where I don’t dream of him he always comes back. And it so weird because every dream is a continuation of the dream before. My dreams are so vivid, and intense they effect my feelings for the man I’m with now… I wish they would stop honestly but they never do.

    • These dreams are reflections of your social connection with this person. You are no longer interested in having these dreams, so you should take action to remove him from your thoughts. If you dream about him in the future, then address him regarding his purpose within your dream. This may help ensure that these dreams don’t arise in the future.

  18. why do i keep dreaming of my crush in different but good way but knowing its never gonna happen and it just hurts me but i like that i can have him in some way im stuck and dont know

    • Your dreams about your crush are reflections of your social and emotional desires. If you don’t want to have these dreams anymore, then you need to focus your thoughts elsewhere. If you have similar dreams in the future, then address your crush within the dream regarding their presence. This will reduce similar dreams from appearing in the future.

  19. I ran into a crush at the mall on Saturday and Wednesday night I had a dream we ran into each other again I went to shoot my shot when I did I was asked to go for a car ride in a Chevrolet chevelle muscle car. Told me to drop at work and return when off when I got out to take a photo of the car my real phone ring woke me out of my sleep. I don’t dream often so please help interpret.

    • The dream seems to show that you wish you could see your crush and be around them. It is only natural you might want to be around your crush or have them like you back. Unfortunately, a dream only shows your own state of mind, so there is no way to know from just a dream how your crush feels in your waking life.

  20. Hello, I dreamed about about my crush, he’s also my friend it’s just that we talk very little, We used to be good friends but we drifted a po alart now I only see him once a week.
    So the dream was like this. I was sitting at my desk and he suddenly appeared next to me we started to talk we were ok, flirting VERY little. But still my questions are do I like or do just I miss him? The fact that dreamed about, does this mean he was thinking about me? And was I telling myself to just stay friends with him?

    • Dreaming about him just shows that you have feelings for him and wish that he would flirt with you. He may not make a more obvious move in the dream because you aren’t confident about how he feels in your waking life. Unfortunately, a dream only reflects the dreamer’s hopes, fears and desires, so there is no way to know from just a dream if he likes you back or not in your waking life.

  21. My ex girlfriend I and ended things about 4 months ago. And it actually didn’t end on bad terms/vibes. But I had an amazing relationship with her 6 year old son. And she had a growing relationship with my 11 year daughter. My parents loved my ex. And her family loved me. I keep having these dreams of she, I, and her son being in her home discussing strategies on how to raise him. We have continued a great friendship, and talk from time to time. What does this all mean. If you can assist me in this matter? I would greatly appreciate it.

    • You planned on being together for longer and became a part of each other’s families. It is only natural that your subconscious would struggle to just let all of that go. The dream probably reflects how close you once felt to her and her son as well as the fact that you still feel close to her as a friend.

  22. Hey, I dreamed about a special someone. In that dream, I was exhausted from all the activity I forgot what happened next, the next thing I remembered was I was laying unconscious in the beach, two person appoarched me, my uncle and him (that special someone). He carries me to his resort room… the next thing I know is that we kissed passionately and ta dah I WOKE UP!

    Hahahaha and by this special someone was my childhood sweetheart. Actually, we had a thing 6 years ago but it didn’t work out. I recently this year (February 2020 to be exact) visited to the town where I was born in, then we met again after 6 years. When I met him again, I still had that same feelings to him like I had 6 years ago, so was him because he told me he does still have a feelings for me tho BUT it didn’t end the way what you think tho. The timing was wrong, the moment was not right. So, I tried to forget everything when I came back to the city.

    Sooooo, yeah. That’s it I just wanted to share my f***ing dream. AND this article was helpful, I just need to stop denying myself that I’m still thinking about him.

    • It’s possible you are still thinking of him or have residual feelings for him, but it is also possible that you just have memories of liking him a lot and never had closure because of how things ended. Your subconscious mind may have given you this dream so that you could get closure, or you may have had this dream because you wanted a romance of some sort and your subconscious used this past crush. Whatever the case, I wouldn’t read too much into it. If the relationship was meant to be, it would have worked out before.

  23. It’s been more than 5 years and I still dream about my crush, actually I already confessed him that I like him and we chatted in ig, he is not single and I revealed him everything and he knows me now and he was curious too but he was acting cold , he even asked my no. but I refused to give him actually he wanted to know me well so he asked my no. but he already knows everything and I still keep dreaming about him liking me back and being curious, texting me and I dreamt about him continuously?? M so curious, I try to get rid him from my mind but he keeps on popping in my dream 😭

    Please interpret??

    • Your dreams and thoughts are related to your feelings for this person. It seems that you need to make a decision about your future. You can choose to reach out to your crush and speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Or, you can allow these thoughts to fade. If you dream about him in the future, and you no longer want him to appear, then address him regarding his presence within your dreams.

  24. I had a dream of my ex and I’m a senior in highschool so I dreamt about her and me at prom and I was just happy and laughing and smiling, we were having a great time, I remember me telling her how beautiful she looked and how I was happy that I took her to prom. Then for some reason we were jumping off onto a brick wall and I jumped first and made it.. and then she jumped and fell face first .. I ran over and helped her get up and she thanked me .. I then was in a yellow room with her seated while she was in her prom dress .. I still see her at school and have classes with her. Even though I dated her I still feel like I like her and crush on her .. Before I had this dream I was texting her and went to bed with her in my mind and I sleep in a room with yellow walls .. I dont understand it .. do I still want her or like idk .. I feel like I do but I just need a little clarification..

    • This dream seems to be a reflection of your previous emotional relationship with your ex. She fell, but you came to her aid. This may be a sign that you are interested in being a kind and supportive person, even if you are aware that your relationship has concluded. Ensure that this dream guides you to share your positive energy with the world, as this will draw positive people and energy toward you.

  25. I just dreamt of my high school teacher flirting with me. I was hugging my sister as I was completely appalled with what he was saying to me in my dream, like he wants to impregnate me and such (I don’t exactly remember the other things he said, just that one lol). I have neither seen nor talked to him in years.

    • There may be many reasons for this dream. It is possible that his behaviors when you were his student have influenced your dream. He may have been a placeholder for someone else, as you are aware of sexual harassment. You may have experienced such inappropriate interactions in your life. The presence of your sister could be a sign that you feel comfortable and safe with her.

  26. Hi I’ve been dreaming about my ex for a while now.. We ended last october.
    And been dreaming about him almost everyday it would go away for maybe week or two then he comes back in my dreams. Sometimes he’s sobbing like crying his eyes out. Sometimes we are just having fun as usual.
    Yesterday was first time in the dream I was aware of the break up we had. We were hugging in bed and I remember thinking “I finally got him back!!” and was so happy. And I could just feel him in my arms.
    I don’t know, it might be just a dream. I thought he was fading away but when I’m starting to forget about him it seems like he’s just coming back in some kind of way..
    I want to hear a opinion thank you

    • This dream is a reflection of your previous connection with your ex. There may be various reasons for why this dream appeared. There may be something in your life that reminded you of him. You may have been thinking about him. It seems like you need to make a decision at this time. Consider what you want for the future. If you want to reach out to him, then do so. If not, then allow your thoughts and dreams of him to fade.

  27. Today I dreamt about someone who I used to like before , I mean we loved each other before. That was really long back. And now , I don’t even think about that person but today I dreamt about him. He was nice and loving in the dream as well just like how he was before. In the dream and in reality, we’re having our own separate family life. But I don’t understand why did I dream about him today.

    • There may be various reasons for why this person appeared in your dream. Something may have reminded of you him. You may have been thinking about your social and emotional relationships. Allow thoughts of him to fade, but ensure that your dreams guide you in a positive direction. You will find great benefit in sharing your kindness and compassion with everyone in your life.

  28. I had a dream last night with a guy where in that dream we are so very happy and sweet I don’t know why i had a dream with this guy
    What does that mean?

    • Your dream may be a reflection of your social and emotional desires. It is possible that this person was thinking about you as well. Take this time to make a decision about what you want for your future. If you want to strengthen your connection, then spend additional time with him in person.


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