We are told a lot of different things when we are growing up. As children we may be made to believe that outer beauty is of the utmost importance. Some of us are raised with quite the opposite told to us. Some people are told inner beauty is the most important thing to tend to. Others are told both are equally vital in our lives.
However, the truth of the matter is that inner beauty is the one we should be focusing on all of our lives. Because in the end, it’s what is the most important. Outer beauty fades as we age, but our inner persona never goes anywhere.
Inner Beauty Vs. Outer Beauty: What are they?
“Some people, no matter how old they get, never lose their beauty – they merely move it from their faces into their hearts.”
— Martin Buxbaum
Inner beauty is, in plain terms, the beauty we have inside. This has nothing to do with our physical appearance. It does not matter what your complexion is, what your hair is like or how much makeup you wear. On the contrary, it has nothing to do with looks. Inner beauty is a combo of your characteristics, originality and moral compass. Inner beauty is how you treat other people around you and it’s the attitude that you project into the world. Inner beauty, unlike outer beauty, can be changed with a little effort. That means that if someone has terrible inner beauty or none at all, they can work on themselves to improve it. Although it may be harder for some to do so and it can take a lot of time, it’s not impossible for anyone.
“Outer beauty is a gift, but inner beauty is an accomplishment.”
Outer beauty is the beauty that we have on the outside. Our physique, looks, style and demeanor. This is claimed by a lot of people to be as important, if not more, important than inner beauty. However, that is simply not the truth. Outer beauty does not last forever. Trends change, style preferences don’t stay the same and we all get less attractive as we age. Outer beauty is nice and all, but it doesn’t help with your attitude towards other people. It doesn’t make your soul grow. Not even one bit.
Media, tv, movies, advertising, etc. What do they all have in common? They all teach us, especially women, that outer beauty is crucial to surviving life. Unfortunately this is a misconception that is used to sell products to us and it fuels the fashion world.
It’s definitely okay to be proud of your outer beauty, but don’t get it wrong- It’s not as important as the beauty that we hold on the inside of us.
“Your outer beauty will capture the eyes, but your inner beauty will capture the heart.”
— Steve Aitchison
Another thing to keep in mind is that even if someone has outer beauty, without inner beauty they still won’t be truly attractive to others. Being attractive is more than just being ‘hot’ or ‘sexy’ or having good looks! Being attractive means so much more than having a pretty face or good body. It’s about how you project yourself from the inside out. Now, of course, if you don’t take care of yourself… Like having bad hygiene or dressing like a slob constantly… You might not be attractive just based on your inner beauty. It’s about having a good balance of both. Just because you are not blessed with the perfect bone structure or shiny immaculate hair, does not mean that you cannot be attractive by simply taking care of yourself.
Why Inner Beauty Is More Important: Getting to the bottom of it all.
“Beauty is how you feel inside and it reflects in your eyes. It is not something physical.”
— Sophia Loren
Inner beauty is definitely much more important than outer beauty.
Yes, we have already gone over that.
But you are still probably wondering why.
One word: Confidence. Confidence is key to doing anything in life. Without it you will never succeed at much of anything. You will not excel in your career or in the dating pool. Maybe not those things, but whatever it may be, you won’t be able to accomplish it without having true confidence in yourself.
You might think that outer beauty is what makes you feel good, and even sexy, about yourself. The exact opposite is true. All of this comes from confidence that you derive from your inner beauty. Without this confidence, you will not find yourself beautiful in the first place.
“Beauty is a light in your heart.“
— Kahlil Gibran
What are some other things that you cannot do without inner beauty? You can’t make friends. Or, at the very least, you can’t keep the friends you do make.
Yes you read that right!
You think that being attractive on the outside will keep friends coming around and around?
Without inner beauty it is hard to maintain healthy connections with anyone, even your family members. Inner beauty is going to be the main thing that draws people into you. Without it, no one will want to invest in you on a deeper level. The only exception to this is if you are not a good person who gets friends by instilling fear. Also known as bullying.
However, that dynamic usually only holds up in your younger years, such as in high school. Once you graduate and grow up that just simply won’t work for you anymore. You will end up very lonely if you have a terrible attitude towards others or a bitter inner beauty set up.
We have one last thing to tell you about why having inner beauty is so important. And it’s that its hard to maintain a romantic reltionship.
Yup. Getting married might be a huge problem for you if you cannot sort out what’s going on inside of you. Being physically attractive is one way to draw someone in, sure, but keeping them around will never work if you are not a good person.
Of course looks have a huge part in finding a partner. Our biology tells us to find someone that we are physically attracted to. But most people will not stay in a relationship with someone that has nothing to offer past the surface.
Signs You Have Terrible Inner Beauty
- You Treat Others Badly: You cannot have a good inner beauty complex if you go around being horrible to the people around you. Especially if they are the people that you claim to love.
- You Have Low Self Esteem: You can tell that your inner beauty is lacking when you are no longer feeling confident in yourself. Your low self esteem is a key factor in determining how you feel about yourself. When you feel this way, you don’t have a strong sense of inner beauty.
- You Only Care About Looks: Like we said previously, beauty is about having balance between inner and outer beauty. You cannot only care about one over the other. You must tend to both.
- You Believe You Are Superior: There is nothing beautiful about thinking that you are better than other people. That’s just being arrogant. And being arrogant does not promote a strong inner beauty… At all.
- You Have Bad Morals: Inner beauty is all about having a great moral compass. Being a good person is all about doing the right things when necessary. Doing bad things or hurting people and not considering the consequences, might mean that you have a bad moral compass. Which defers you from having beauty on the inside.
“Remember you create beauty with your attitude, behavior and by the actions you make.” — Unknown