Men can play games just as well as women when it comes to relationships. Often times, trying to figure out if a guy is falling for you or just interested in a casual fling can be a riddle all it’s own. You may find a man who is charming, treats you right, and seems interested in you – all until you find out he’s just trying to charm his way into your bed.
Finding a serious relationship can be difficult in the age of instant hook-ups. However, there’s still a way to figure out if he’s into you or if he’s just into what you two can do together. Physical attraction is an important component, but it isn’t the only one!
1. He wants to please you
When a man is falling for you, he becomes eager to please. He’ll go out of his way to help you. He wants you to be happy, so he’ll do whatever it takes to make that happen. Even if he’s just got home after a long day at work, if you need him, he’ll be there. This is a sign that you’re worth more to him than just a quick fling. It’s a sign that he’s falling head over heels in love with you.
2. You’re always on the phone together
A man who’s in love with you will talk with you at length on the phone when you can’t be together. He loves the sound of your voice, and he loves your opinions, thoughts and ideas. He’s an active listener, and doesn’t just humor you with a few noncommittal grunts. If he’s falling for you, it means that he practices active listening and engages in the conversation with you.
3. He uses pet names with you
While many guys will do this, the ones who are just interested in a casual fling will resort to stereotypical pet names like “babe” or “sweetheart”. A guy who is falling for you will choose something a bit more personal. His nickname will have special meaning between the two of you, and it may even be an inside joke. The pet name that he choses will make you feel special, and it describes you perfectly.
4. He remembers the things you say
This shows that he’s listening and that he actually cares about your thoughts, feelings and opinion. Guys who are only interested in a fling will most likely not remember your opinion on an obscure cult classic movie. But a guy who is falling in love will be able to repeat what you said word for word- and he’ll appreciate your thoughts and ideas!
5. He remembers your clothes
A guy who is falling in love with you takes notice of the things that you wear. He’ll remember exactly what you wore on your first date, or your favorite sweater. Men who aren’t serious will only remember something if you look hot it in. But a guy who is falling in love? He will know the exact pair of sweats that you like to wear to lay around the house in.
6. He makes up excuse to talk to you
He just can’t get enough of what you have to say, and he’ll definitely find a reason to call, text to even send an email. As long as he gets to talk to you, he’s happy. Even if he just asks a question that you both know that he knows the answer to, it doesn’t really matter. He’s head over heels and all he cares about is getting to talk to you again.
7. He calls you when he can’t sleep
Rather than ringing you up at 3 am for a booty call, he’ll call you in the middle of the night when he can’t sleep. It means that you’re the first thing on his mind when he wakes up in the middle of the night, and that talking with you helps settle his mind and get back to sleep. A guy who calls you up in the middle of the night usually only wants one thing, but if he’s falling in love with you then he usually doesn’t suggest you meet up for a quickie.
8. He’s chivalrous
When a guy is falling for you, he makes sure that you’re comfortable all the time. He may pull doors open for you, pull out your chair, and offer to help you and get you things. A guy who is just in it for a quickie might offer to do these things to, but it usually doesn’t last. You can tell when a guy is genuine because he’ll be consistent in his selfless behavior- because he genuinely wants the best for you.
9. When he sees you, his face lights up
It might as well be Christmas in July. He just can’t help the dopey look of love that crosses his face whenever you’re around. He doesn’t look at you like a conquest or someone to be wooed into bed. Rather, he looks happy that you’re around, like he already can’t wait for the next time he gets to see you. If it’s obvious to you, then it’s obvious to everyone around you, too. Even strangers will notice that he’s falling for you- hard.
10. He sees everything
No, this doesn’t mean he’s stalking you! He’s hyper aware of you. If you’re struggling to carry something and he’s around, then he’ll notice and be right by your side to help you. He also sees when you’re feeling more stressed than usual, and offer to be an ear to listen to. He sees your quirks, your flaws and your accomplishments, and he adores all of them. He sees you – inside and out!
11. He’s always bringing you gifts
You can tell a guy is falling for you when he finds little reasons to bring you something nice. This can range from a cup of coffee, to flowers on your birthday. No occasion is two small for when to bestow you a token of his blossoming and ever growing love. If he goes on vacation, you can be sure that you’ll be brought a souvenir. A guy who is just in it for a casual fling won’t be as interested in spending money on you unless it’s to buy you drinks at the bark.
12. He’s protective of you
Whether he shows this by fending off creepy guys at the club, or guides you carefully throw a crowd, a guy who is falling in love will always be there to make sure you’re all right. You may notice that he’s always the first to offer you his jacket when you mention that you’re cold. You know that you can always count on him to be there when you need it. If you ever need a ride at 3 am, he’s the one you call.
13. His friends like you
And what’s more, his friends treat you with respect. This means that he’s already had a talk with them about how important and special you are to him. They won’t make jokes about you behind your back or to your face, because they know that you’re the One. When a guy is falling for you, his friends are the first to know. It may be a stereotype that guys don’t share their feelings, but bros will always know when their bro has got it bad for a girl.
14. He’s interested in you
No matter how long you talk on the phone, or how late you stay at the diner, he just can’t get enough of everything you have to say. He is genuine in his interest and he loves listening to you talk, and sharing ideas with you. He’s interested in your input on everything from movies to books to politics. No conversation is off limits for you two.
15. He’s making plans for the future
Nothing crazy! He’s not planning your wedding or anything. But a good way to tell that a guy is falling for you is if he’s making plans for you together a few months into the future. Perhaps he’s inviting you to his family reunion in three months, or wants to discuss where you’ll both spend the Christmas holidays. A guy who is falling in love sees you in his life for the foreseeable future- and that’s just the way he likes it.
Determining whether or not a guy is falling in love with you may seem confusing, but after you go down this checklist you may realize how head over heels he is for you already! If he doesn’t hit even one of these points, he’s probably not worth the worrying over. A guy who is is in love will undoubtedly show it in his actions, even if he has a hard time showing it with his words.