Whether the man was recently divorced or has had bad experiences with women, there are sometimes reasons why guys give up on relationships completely. In some cases, guys are anti-feminist and just hate women. In other cases, they went through a bad break up and just don’t want to put their heart out there again.
In nations like Japan, there are actually entire movements where guys just give up on dating entirely. In these nations, it is actually becoming a problem because the country needs enough babies to be born to support the retired population. When part of the population refuses to marry and have children, it becomes a practical problem. In the United States, we don’t really have that problem. While there are some guys who give up on women, there are not enough guys doing this for it to really affect the birth rate.
Why Would Some Guys Give Up on All Relationships With Women?
There are many potential reasons why guys might give up on women. While some of these involve past experiences with women, there are many other reasons that this could happen.
1. High Stress
This stress could be from work, societal responsibilities or a past relationship. If the guy is in a stressful job and works constantly, he may not have made a conscious decision to give up on women. His biggest issue is that he just does not have time for a relationship. Even if he tries to date, his partner feels lonely and left out because he is constantly busy. After experiencing a break up because of his work, he may just put off dating until some day in the future when he actually has time for it.
2. High Standards for Men
In the United States, there are more women with bachelor’s and graduate degrees than men. While most women do not mind marrying someone who has a lower degree level than them, the guy may mind. He may feel like there is no one on his level to date, so he gives up. If he has a self-esteem problem, then dating a woman who is out of his league may make him severely unhappy. Because of this, he may just give up on dating women entirely.
3. Traditional Roles
Some guys want a woman who can be a housewife and cook their dinner each night. Traditional roles are changing, so there are many, many women who want to have a career. If the guy just wants a housewife, he may not be interested in dating anyone who cannot fit this standard. On the other side of the coin, there may be guys who want a woman who is a go-getter and career oriented. If he can’t find a woman who matches his drive, he may give up dating women entirely.
4. Past Trauma
Our early experiences in life can greatly shape who we become. If the guy was betrayed by his mother or never had a strong female in his life, he may feel like other women will be equally disappointing. Even though a logical part of his mind realizes that this cannot possibly be true, he can’t get over his past childhood trauma and move on. Because of this, he can’t date anyone or can only trust a partner after years of her proving that she will not just leave him like his mother.
5. Divorces and Breakups
A divorce is one of the most traumatic things that you can experience. It ranks just after a death of a loved one in stress and emotional turmoil. If someone has gone through a bad divorce or a bad breakup, then they may give up on women entirely. While they know that the next person they date may be different, they just cannot take that risk anymore. They know exactly what it is like to lose everything in a divorce, and they don’t want to take that risk again.
6. They Were Cheated on
At some point, most people have been cheated on before. Some people are able to heal and move on, but other people just can’t. The cheating may have been with a trusted friend or it may have been a long-term affair. Whatever the case, the guy cannot move past it. Even if he tries to date someone again, he finds it impossible to let his guard down and trust a woman.
7. He Hates Women
While the other reasons are more common, it is also possible that he just hates women. He may have had bad experiences in the past or he may have been cheated on. In some cases, weaker-minded guys fall for the rhetoric of hate groups and anti-feminists. In these cases, they develop a deep-seated hatred of women that is hard to break. In addition to making the guy stop dating women, it also means that he is probably not someone that you should ever date. Even if he tries to get over these feelings, it can take years. These subconscious thoughts and biases can hang around for years, even if he is consciously trying to get rid of them.
8. Expectations Are Changing
Most people realize that cat-calling is not an acceptable way to hit on women. Making someone feel uncomfortable or in danger is never a good way to flirt. Unfortunately, some men do not realize that they can still flirt with a woman. They may be afraid of hitting on her because they are worried that she could say it was non-consensual or sexual harassment. Even when these views have no basis in reality, the guy may still be worried. Gender roles are constantly changing, so it is easy to become worried about what you can and cannot do. Knowing the proper way to make a move isn’t easy for everyone, and this causes some guys to give up altogether.
There are many potential reasons why a man may give up on having relationships with women. Unfortunately, most of these are related to deep-rooted views that take time to change. Until the guy is willing to change on his own, he may remain an undesirable date.