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My Boyfriend Never Wants to Do Anything With Me


This is a bit of a problem. You are dating him because you like to be around him, but your boyfriend never wants to do anything with you. There are a number of reasons why this can happen, and your solution will vary based on why this problem is happening.

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First, you should look for reasons why he might not want to do anything with you. People are busy a lot of the time, and work takes up a significant part of the average person’s week. If he is working overtime, then he has very little time to do anything. Plus, he is probably coming home exhausted and just wants to veg out in front of the television. If there is an obvious reason like working a lot or taking night classes, then there probably is not a problem in play. Unfortunately, there probably won’t be an easy solution either. Unless his schedule frees up, he just does not have time to do anything else.

He Does Not Like Doing the Same Things

This is another common reason why your boyfriend might not want to do anything with you. He might have plenty of free time, but he does not want to spend it at a club. If he hates dancing, the last thing he wants to do on a Saturday night is spend time and money at a dance club. If you have different interests, then it might be hard to find something that you can do together.

In this scenario, your best bet is to talk to him about it. Perhaps you could trade weekends. On one weekend, you go to a dance club or enjoy a nice dinner party like you want to do. On the next weekend, you watch a football game or go hiking like he wants to do. Just talk to him about how you feel and find a workable solution. If he genuinely cares for you, he will be willing to go dancing every once in a while—just don’t expect it every weekend.

He Doesn’t Have the Money

If you have been dating for a while, then he will probably just tell you if he does not have the money to do things with you. When you have just started dating, he might feel uncomfortable about having a money talk. He wants you to think that he is amazing and successful, so he does not want to let you know that he lacks the money to back it up.

You have two main options in this scenario. Option one is to find something cheap or free that you can do together. The other option is to just pay for the event yourself. If you are the one who really wants to go to a concert or sporting game, it is only fair that you would be the one to pay. Once you have dated for a while, you can also talk more about money and what you two can afford to do as a couple.

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He Doesn’t Care

While this tends to be a less common option, it does happen. Perhaps he is only interested in the sex or just likes the convenience of being with you. If he does not see you as a long-term partner, then he is naturally going to avoid putting too much time, money or effort into the relationship. You can see if this is the reason by looking at his other actions. Does he rarely text you? Does he only show up for a booty call before returning to his own home that night? Does it seem like he avoids spending any time with you?

If you are fairly certain that he does not care about the relationship or has already checked out, then you really need to re-evaluate why you are still in the relationship. If he is certain that you are not the “one,” then there are few things that you could do to change his mind. You really might want to consider a break up.

He Is a Homebody

Some people love the energy of a crowd. They enjoy going to a party or dancing the night away at a trendy club. Other people do not. They want to relax, watch Netflix and enjoy alone time with the ones they love. There is nothing wrong with this, although it is difficult to have a relationship if two partners are entirely different.

If he is more of a homebody, then he is not going to be happy if you drag him along to another party or event. This does not mean that you have to resign yourself to weekends at home every week. You can plan ladies’ nights with your friends. Every once in a while, you can also get your boyfriend to do things with you. Since he won’t actually enjoy doing those things, try to limit how often you go out. He will go to events because he loves you and you expressed how much you wanted to go, but don’t be surprised if he does not truly enjoy them.


  1. My boyfriend and I has been together for a year and 4 months he has literally never taking me on a date or done anything with me at first he seemed all into me and now as the time goes by its like he doesn’t want anything to do with me ….. It’s tearing me apart

    • If his behaviors have indicated that he is not interested in nourishing a relationship with you, then determine what you want for the future of this relationship. He may not be aware that you want to go on a date. If you have not shared that with him, then speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Renee!


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