Navigating the rough waters of relationships is never easy, Fortunately, you don’t have to go it alone. That’s what we’re here for, to help you out with our experience and giant minds.
One situation that keeps many girls up at night is the possibility that their crush will catch onto them. That’s just what happened to one girl who wrote us with this conundrum:
“My crush knows I like him and he keeps looking at me. What do I do?”
The first thing to do is take a deep breath. Freaking out is a pretty natural next step, but it isn’t going to help things. You need to play it as cool as a cucumber. Whatever that means. The point is, you don’t want to let him see you sweat.
Once you’ve regained your composure, you need to figure out what you really know about the situation. Are you sure he knows that you like him? When emotions and hormones are going crazy, it’s easy to jump to conclusions. What exactly happened? Did you tell him how you feel? In that case then yeah, he probably knows.
On the other hand, if you think he knows because he can see it in your eyes then the situation is a bit trickier. Guys can be pretty slow to catch onto these things, I’ve had to physically throw myself at men to get them to realize I was interested.
If you are confident that he’s onto you then it’s important to remember a simple fact, guys aren’t that different from girls. Yeah, there are all sorts of differences between men in women in modern society. But at the end of the day, we share more commonalities than differences.
That guy you like could be just as freaked out as you are. You might feel like it’s impossible for a guy to like you, but you need to knock that stuff off right now! If a guy is looking at you, then your face clearly doesn’t physically hurt him. This means you have a chance, whether you believe it or not.
Remember that guys aren’t mind readers. I know I said men aren’t that different, but in general they do tend to have a harder time reading emotions. It has less to do with biology and more to do with the fact that men are taught to be more stoic, and guys don’t share emotions with their guy friends the way girls do.
So even if a guy thinks you like him, he might still be worried that he’s misreading the situation. No one likes rejection. It never gets easy, but it’s especially hard to deal with when you’re young. Remember, if you’re waiting for the guy to make the first move then you’re waiting for him to risk embarrassment and rejection. Keep this in mind.
You have to decide what you want to happen. If you’re willing to let things continue the way they are as you wait for him to make the first move, then you can certainly do that. You know he’s looking at you so try and look your best and be on your best behavior.
Dressing up and putting on a bit of makeup wouldn’t hurt, but remember you need to remain true to yourself. No guy is worth sacrificing your personality. Still, you can be yourself and flash a smile at your crush whenever he looks at you.
Waiting for him to move is the low-risk move, but that doesn’t mean it’s stress-free. Women have wasted years of their lives standing around and looking their best for men who weren’t really interested or were too afraid to make the first move. Sometimes you have to put yourself out there. This doesn’t mean that you have to run up and throw your arms around him.
Just casually saunter up to your crush and start up a conversation. Ask an honest question, give an honest compliment, make a stupid joke. If a guy likes you he’ll think it’s cute even if it isn’t really funny.
Having a crush is stressful. There will always be questions; human beings aren’t robots that behave in predictable ways. And young men can be especially hard to understand. But that’s also the beauty of love and human relationships in general; you’re interacting with a unique bundle of hopes, aspirations, and emotions.
You should try and appreciate this about the men you like even if they don’t return the favor. Finally, don’t feel like you need to sacrifice who you are for a guy. You might have to push yourself a little out of your comfort zone or learn new skills, but don’t do anything that feels wrong. You deserve a man who will love you for who you are.
Keep putting yourself out there, and you will find a man like that. It might be your current crush or it might not be. Life is long, and there are lots of men out there, but you’ve only got one life to live. If you’re bold, persistent, and true to yourself, you will find love.