Just because girls like to talk a lot doesn’t mean we like to talk about ourselves too much. The truth is, many girls keep their deepest desires and secrets a big secret and don’t actually open up until we’re asked about them.
That being said, sometimes we need a little push to get us to tell you who we really are. You never want to end up in a relationship with someone you don’t even know very well and that’s why you have to start asking personal questions once you’re comfortable with them.
If you really want to get to know a girl, asking these 40 personal questions will help you understand them on a much deeper level than you think. They’re the best way to get her to open up and tell you more about who she is as a person than she would otherwise.
- What’s your biggest fear?
Everyone has a lot of fears in their lives, but their biggest can tell you a lot about the way they act. Be ready for an onslaught of different answers and a long discussion when asking a girl this question. But you will be thankful you did.
- What’s the funniest thing you’ve ever heard?
Knowing a girl’s sense of humor can really help you in the long run with winning her over. If you don’t know her sense of humor and start joking, she may be insulted by some of the things you say. For that reason, always ask this question.
- What’s one of the most embarrassing things to ever happen to you?
Girls may have a lot of embarrassing moments simply because we care more about what other people think. That being said, knowing just how sensitive a girl is can ensure that you don’t say or do the wrong thing around her.
- What’s the most awkward situation you’ve been in?
Awkward moments happen to everyone but you should definitely ask this question to hear a funny story from a girl. This will also help you understand just what’s truly awkward to her and what topics or situations to avoid around her.
- What’s the worst thing a guy can do to get your attention?
Guys are always doing things to get a girls attention and I bet she’ll have a lot of different things to answer this question with. This will help you better understand the type of person she’s looking for and what not to do when trying to get her attention.
- What would you do with a million dollars?
There are two different types of people out there and asking this question can help determine which this girl falls under. If she buys herself something first, you know she’s more materialistic. Knowing whether or not she values her family or charities more will help you understand her better.
- If you could travel anywhere in the world, where would you go?
Many people are happy where they are but asking a girl this question will make you understand how adventurous she is and how happy she is being where she is. If she would rather be traveling the world, you know she likes a bit more adventure.
- What makes you cry tears of joy?
It’s known that girls are much more emotional that guys and asking this question will get her to open up about what makes her happiest. Tears of joy are pretty rare and if you know what triggers them in her, you know the way to her heart.
- What are you most passionate about?
Passion is crucial when it comes to getting to know someone. Knowing what drives them and what makes them happiest is going to give you an inside view to their world and how they’re living it. It also helps you know just what they value in their lives.
- Do you think being spiritual is important?
Spirituality can be very difficult to get someone to open up about because it’s something that is very personal. However, asking if they think being spirituality is important is a perfect way to understand their views without crossing a line and having them shut you out.
- How often do you see your best friend?
Girls are very different when it comes to how much they rely on someone else. If they need to see their best friend every day, chances are they’re very dependent on other people. If she only sees her every now and then, you can expect her to be independent.
- Who’s the most important person in your life?
This can be very revealing about what’s important in her life. Is family the main thing she focuses on or are her friends more important? This can help you determine if she’s the one for you or if you need someone different.
- What do you think you’ll be doing in 20 years?
Everyone has a view of themselves 20 years in the future. Knowing how a girl sees herself that far into the future can help you know just what she wants out of life. Does she want kids? Does she want a stable career? This question will tell you just that without you just straight up asking it.
- If you died tomorrow, what would be your greatest accomplishment?
This is a great question that’ll make a girl think hard about her life and what’s most important to her. Knowing the answer to this question will give you insight as to what she’ll also be focusing on in her life down the road because it’s what’s valuable to her.
- Who was your biggest hero growing up?
If she names a superhero, you’ll know just how much she relied on imagination to shape who she is but if she mentions a real person, you’ll be able to know who she aspires to be like and how it shaped her into who she is today.
- Have you ever been in love?
Love is a really powerful emotion that doesn’t come along every day. If you want to know if this girl will be guarded or more in tune with her emotions, asking if she’s ever been in love can answer those questions easier. It’ll also help explain a LOT about how she acts around someone she likes.
- What’s the worst thing about being in a relationship?
Girls seem to think there are millions of amazing things about relationships, but if you really want to know what not to do, ask what’s the worst thing about being in one. It can also help you know more about her past relationships and where they went wrong without you asking about it.
- What’s something you would redo if you were given the chance?
We all make mistakes and we all have regrets. Girls just aren’t really willing to open up about them as easily. But knowing what she would change will give you more insight as to who she was and who she would like to be so it’s a no brainer to ask this.
- Would you rather be poor and happy or rich and miserable?
Again, some people value material things over emotional things and asking this question will help you understand which side she falls on. You always want to make sure you have your values lined up with someone you think would be your potential significant other.
- What a secret you’ve never told anyone?
Secrets are something girls hold near and dear, however, we are willing to open up to certain people about things we’ve never told anyone. Asking this question will most likely result in a secret only very few people know but nevertheless, it’s important to her.
- What’s the one thing you will never talk about?
Everyone has off-limits topics that they just don’t ever want to discuss. Knowing that very topic can really save you from a huge blowout and even ruining your chances of being with that girl. So be sure to ask this to make sure you know what you’re getting into.
- What’s the hardest thing you’ve ever done in your life?
People have different things that are harder for them to get through. Knowing the types of situations that are hardest for the girl you like can help you react a certain way when she’s going through something similar.
- What did you aspire to be when you were little?
Most people don’t grow up with the same goals as when they were little but it does give you an idea of how much she’s changed and how big her dreams were when she was little. Truth be told, big dreamers usually stay big dreamers.
- If you could be someone else, who would it be?
If you really want to know what type of person this girl is, then ask her who she would want to be given the chance. If she wants to only be herself, you know she’s got a high self-esteem and loves who she is – which can be really important.
- What’s something you would change about yourself if you could?
I think we all have little things we’d like to change but depending on her answer, you’ll be able to tell how confident she feels or how much she doesn’t like herself. If she has a long list of things, it’ll also help you know what to compliment her on to make her feel better about herself.
- What’s the first thing on your bucket list?
I think we all know what a bucket list is but that very first item on it can tell us a lot about a person. It’s basically someone’s greatest aspiration. If they were to die, that’s the very most important thing they’d like to accomplish and you should definitely know what that is.
- Do you have a good relationship with your parents?
Whether or not a girl is close with her parents can help you understand where she is emotionally. Many people who aren’t close with their parents are typically more distant people, but they usually crave that closeness the most.
- What’s your favorite memory?
Girls hold onto the memories that mean the most to them more than guys do and unearthing that memory can help you understand just what in her life she finds worth remembering. If it’s happy or sad or just something silly, it’s important to know.
- Do you prefer being in big groups or with only a few people?
This is the type of question to ask if you want to know how much attention someone needs. Usually if they like big groups, they tend to want more attention than if they don’t mind only being with a few people. It’ll also help you see if she’s introverted or extroverted and that can be a huge difference when getting a girl to like you.
- What do you think happens when we die?
This may seem like a weird question to ask someone, but it’s something many people have a strong opinion about. It’ll also help you understand her religious or spiritual views if you really don’t want to ask those questions up front.
- If you were invisible for a day, what would you do?
This really is a fun question to ask that helps you see her sillier and devious side. You never know just how malicious a girl can be until you ask a question like this. Perhaps she’s actually really good and would just do fun things, but maybe she would rather do naughty things, too.
- Would you like being famous?
I think this question is the best to find out what kind of attention a girl wants. Does she need to be admired by many to feel good about herself or does she prefer to only take the opinions of those she cares for deeply. This question answers both of those easily.
- If you could give yourself advice when you were younger, what would you say?
Everyone has a past they wish they could change or they wish they knew more about. If you ask her this question, be prepared to understand her childhood more than you do. Knowing what someone did wrong when they were young helps you understand how much they’ve matured since.
- What’s the worst memory you have?
The worst thing in a girl’s life has changed her and there’s no denying that. If you want to know just how much something has affected her and how much similar future situations would affect her, ask this question.
- What’s your favorite possession?
If it’s an object she has that doesn’t have much meaning, you can safely assume she’s a material driven person. But if it’s something that has a lot of sentimental value, you’ll be able to know just how much the little things mean to her.
- What’s your relationship deal breaker?
If you want to know what to avoid doing or even if the two of you are compactable for a long-term relationship, this question will help you understand her. This also helps you know what she values in a relationship. It can also help you see where her past relationships went wrong and how they affected her.
- What is your go to favorite movie?
A favorite movie is like a sneak peek into someone’s most private life because it says so much about their personality and what they want most out of life. Knowing what movie she enjoys the most can help you see where she places her values and what can make her happiest.
- What do you find attractive in a guy?
This is another question that helps you understand just how mature or shallow a person is. If she’s just listing off physical traits, you can assume she’s not looking for something too serious. If she talks about someone’s values and personality, she’s matured a lot more.
- What are three things you would wish for if you met a genie?
If you want to find out what someone is lacking in their lives and what they wish they had more of, this is the question to ask. It may seem silly and like a goofy thing to ask to start a conversation, but it’ll help you see what they really want in life and what’s missing from their lives now.
- Do you prefer nature or a city setting?
There are people who like a little bit of both, but knowing this can help you understand what she finds beautiful. Does she embrace nature and enjoy the little things in life or does she needs more of a hustle and bustle atmosphere to feel at home? This can help you see just how compatible you two are.
Sometimes getting to know a girl has to be done in a very sneaky way. No girl will say she’s superficial or really sensitive so you have to ask the right questions to find out the things you really need to know.