There is no easy way to break up with someone, especially when you still have lingering feelings for them. But there will come a time in your life when you realize that enough is enough, and that you need to move on before things get worse.
When you can’t muster up the courage to say goodbye to someone who meant so much to you at one point in your life, the most elegant way to do so is to write them a letter stating everything you feel. Pour your heart and soul out into a letter that you won’t dare recite in case you burst into tears.
So for all of you out there who want to say in writing that you can’t be with someone anymore, these letters might help
Goodbye to a Good Partner
There once was a time when you were everything I had desired. I would do anything for you. I would heaven and earth just to feel you love envelope me. And then everything else happened. I guess there will inevitably come a point in one’s life when love just won’t cut it. It’s not enough to keep two opposite people afloat. I guess what I’m trying to say is that things between us has changed so much that we’re no longer even a semblance of what we used to be. So now I have to say goodbye. Goodbye to a time when you were everything I ever wanted.
They say that having no reason to stay is a good enough reason to leave. I believe that wholeheartedly. What we had was great while it lasted. We had a good run. We made mistakes along the way and learned our lesson. But I think our time is up. We’re no longer getting anything out of each other, and I know you know that too. We’ve drifted so far apart that in the past couple of weeks you can hardly call what we have a relationship. This is the end for us, to save us the trouble of trying to rebuild something that was never meant to last.
I still love you. I know that’s the last thing you want to hear from me, but I have to be honest. They say that a person who truly loves you will never let you go, no matter how hard the situation is. But a person who wants the best for both will let go to save whatever it is you had. We had our good times. We had some of the most unforgettable moments. Let’s leave it at that. Let’s not allow that to turn into an angry whirlwind of hatred and despair. Let’s take this time to look back fondly on the times we had and be happy that it will always remain that way in our minds.
You’ve let go a long time ago, before either of us even realized it. It’s my turn to come to a realization that I’ve been holding on to something that won’t even keep me afloat. It’s time for us to go our separate ways because there’s nothing but sadness left for us here. You meant the world to me, and I will always cherish our times together. But our time is up, and it’s time to move on.
Saying goodbye is the most painful way to solve a problem, but it’s the only solution we have. We’ve outstayed our welcome in each other’s lives. It will be hard to move on from this. We might start to regret it after a while. But once that time has passed and we’re ready to face the music, we’ll know that what we’re doing is the only thing that makes sense. So goodbye, my lost love. You were everything to me, but we have nothing left for each other.
I’m sorry. That’s all I can say to you now. I’m sorry I hurt you, and I’m sorry I did what I did. This isn’t me asking to give us another shot. Instead, it’s me asking you to save yourself the trouble of staying with someone like me. You don’t deserve this train wreck I keep bringing in. You deserve to be with somebody who makes you happy, someone who won’t complicate your life. You deserve to feel all that love has to offer, and not just a mangled visage of what love could feel like. You deserve someone better, and that someone isn’t me.
You were the most important person to me just a year ago, and I swear I would have traded everything in my life to keep you with me. But look at us now. We’re no longer the naïve youth of yesteryear. Our eyes are open, and our hearts and torn. We were good to each other, and love was there. But none of that was enough to face the hand we were dealt with. We could have had it all, but it all shattered when we learned that love would never be enough.
Goodbye to a Bad Partner
The worst thing you could ever do was listen to what I have been through and then put me through it again. I wish I had been smart enough to see the signs at the start. I wish I could take it all back and save a bit of my sanity while I still had the chance. You knew how I was, and yet you still chose to take advantage of my vulnerability. But they say that experience is the toughest teacher. So I have learned my lesson by being with you. I know I no longer deserve this.
Always remember that I didn’t lose you; you lost me. You will search for me in every person you feel like you could love and find only a semblance of what I could have been to you. I could have been the perfect partner to you. All you had to do was exert a tiny bit of effort to keep us afloat. And yet you couldn’t even do that. So here I am telling you that you will always see me. In the smile of someone you love, in the laughter of someone you adore. But all of that is a mere visage of the person you let down during the folly of your youth.
One day, I hope you look back at what we had and regret every single thing you did to let it end. You ruined us. It wasn’t just one big unforgivable thing you did. It was a bunch of tiny little cuts and barbs that dug deep until it strangled what we had. What was once a beautiful relationship devolved into something malformed and ugly. It crept its way into our lives and the lives of everyone we loved. We did this to each other, and we must suffer the consequences. But the best way to do this is by doing this apart so we can find ourselves again.
You didn’t love me. You never loved me. Maybe at some point you liked being with me, but whatever it was, it was never loved. I was good for your ego. I was good for keeping you company on cold, lonely nights. I was there to make you feel better about yourself. But none of that was love. Because no matter how bad or miserable or lonely a person may be, they wouldn’t completely destroy someone they loved.
Look at what we have done to each other. We used to be Bonnie and Clyde, Romeo and Juliet. But like those star-crossed lovers, we were bound for the inevitable. We were never destined to have that happy ending. All the love we had for each other has been washed away with bitter tears and drowned out by the sound of our screams. Lies and deception are all that’s left of us, and there’s no turning back from this. We ruined us. And we now know that we’re better off apart.
It took me a while to realize that we’re not in this for the long haul. We can’t be with each other for longer than we have without breaking each other into tiny little pieces. I trusted you and I loved you. But each time I offered my heart to you, you kept breaking my heart into tiny little pieces as I cried and wished I had more to offer you. It’s maddening being with someone you love so much and yet not being able to get even the slightest bit of love in return. I can see right through you now. All the charms and romance, all the grand gestures. They mean nothing without love behind it. All I wanted was the warmth of your love, and all I got was the emptiness of your promises.
I’m leaving you. No, I don’t hate you. But I sure as hell don’t love you anymore. What I have is the opposite of love, which is not hate. It’s indifference. I no longer care about you or about us. It’s hard mustering up the energy to care when you know that the other person on the line has given up a long time ago.
A heart broken now is better than a heart that you’re still slowly shattering each day you’re together. If your relationship is no longer doing either of you any good, break it to them gently with a letter.