You want to be able to wake up in the morning, look at your boyfriend and have him immediately turned on. This is what we all want to be able to do and you should be able to do this if you’re with someone who really likes you. Now, if you two have been together for a while, maybe the spark that you once had is now a small flame. But that doesn’t mean you can’t put the heat back into the bedroom. So, get your notepad out and write down some of these tips that’ll have your man going crazy for you. Here’s your complete guide to turning a guy on.
Seduction isn’t hard
Many people think that seduction is a major feat, however, all seduction consists of is making someone visualize being sexual with you.It’s basically all based on imagination. If you’re getting them to think about having sex with you, congratulations, you’re seducing them.
The great part about seduction is there’s no strict guideline to do it. You can seduce someone by being playful, mysterious, sweet or aggressive. You can be wearing a parka or a bikini. It doesn’t matter what type of personality you have, you’ll be able to seduce someone however you want, you just have to be comfortable with yourself.
Many people assume that in order to seduce, you have to act sexy and wear skimpy outfits, but actually, that’s only one way to do it. So, if you don’t like wearing high heels and shorts skirts, you don’t have to, you can be yourself and still turn on a guy.
You won’t be a professional at anything until you have the basics mastered. So, before we go more in-depth, get the basics down. These tools are what you can anytime, anywhere.
There is an endless amount of ways that you can talk to your man in bed. They usually depend on what you’re comfortable saying and what he’s into. However, if you really want to turn him on, you’ll need to get a little descriptive with your words. Let yourself go by telling him the dirtiest, naughtiest things that come to your mind.
You can say dirty phrases like:
- “I want your big dick inside of me”
- “I love it when you make me squirt with your big hands”
If you’re already a dirty talker, you can switch it up by doing the complete opposite and being really soft and polite. Not only will that surprise him, but that may turn him on even more since it’s something he’s not used to.
- “When you come home, I’m going to make your dreams come true”
- “I want to feel your body on mine”
- “I want to spend all day in bed with you”
Not every dirty sentence that comes out of your mouth has to be rated R. You can switch it up and keep him on his toes with what you’re going to say.
What do you like?
It takes two people to have sex, and you’re one of them. Yes, I know you want to please your man, but don’t forget about yourself. This seems to be a common problem among many women – they forget about themselves. So, you need to tell your man what you like in bed.
This helps the situation for two reasons, firstly, it tells him what you’re into so that he’ll do it. Secondly, it massages his ego. While he’s doing these positions, tell him how it makes you feel and that it’s turning you on. By doing this, it shows him how much you enjoy it and that he’s doing it right. So, for next time, you can be sure that he’ll be pulling out these positions.
You don’t always have to wait for your man to come and turn you on. In fact, it might be a huge turn on for him to see you take charge. If you’re feeling horny, don’t feel that you just have to sit in your bedroom and wait for him to notice. Instead, climb on top of him and start grinding on him with your clothes on. He’ll get the hint that he should take advantage of the situation and he will. He may be shocked initially, but he’ll get the message within a couple seconds of what he has to do.
You can answer the door naked, or leave a note on the stairs telling him to come to your bedroom with no clothes on. You don’t have to jump on him to take charge, you just need to tell him what he needs to do.
Find out what he’s into
Obviously, if you want to truly turn on your man, you’re going to have to find out what he’s into, this includes his kinks and fetishes. However, for many men, their sexual preferences are highly personal. That being said, if you ask him directly what turns him on, he may not be so willing to tell you or he may only tell you partial truths. If he’s your long-term boyfriend, directly asking him may work, however, if this is a fresh relationship, asking directly may not work.
So, if you want to find out what really turns him on, you’ll have to ask him indirectly. The best way to start a conversation about this is to tell him what turns you on. Once he hears what turns you on, he’ll be more willing to open up about the things that turns him on. You can tell him your deeper fantasies and fetishes, which he’ll probably respond with his kinks and fetishes.
Oral sex is a favorite for most men if it’s done right. You don’t have to have sex right away, instead, warm him up by giving him a blowjob. If you really want to turn him on, then have some go-to oral sex techniques in your pocket to use when the time is right. Trust us, if you use perform oral sex on your man, he’ll love it.
Now that you know the basics, you can go more in-depth and learn the various types of turn-ons and which method suits you best. Some of these basics you’ll find in the categories below, so you’ll understand how you seduce men.
The 3 types of turn ons
You probably thought there was only one way to turn someone on, but that’s not true.In fact, you have three different categories of turn ons: psychological, physical and behavorial turn ons. These three categories all have different effects on people and work differently in seduction.
Psychological turn ons plays on breaking down his mental barriers and drawing out his natural animalistic urges, putting you in his fantasies. But by doing this, you’re not trying to psychologically turn him on. In order to turn in on mentally, you’re not focusing on that, instead, you’re focusing on the conversation and energy between you two. Psychological seduction focuses on making the man feel safe, acknowledged, and wanted.
- Dirty talk
Like we said earlier, dirty talk is a great way to turn a man on. This works by giving him a visual of what you would do to him. Now, many women are nervous about dirty talk because they think dirty talk has to be said in a specific way.You can talk dirty in a style that suits you. If you’re more playful, then talk dirty in your own style. That way, it’ll be highly seductive.
- Sexual Innuendo
This is a great way to subtly move the conversation into a more flirty tone. Once he catches on, he’ll make a flirty or sexual comment, falling into your plan. Once this happens, he’ll continue the conversation down this path, thinking you’re not the one making the move.
- Talk sex
If you’re doing it right, the conversation will naturally move into a sexual realm. You won’t need to press heavy into it in order to get his attention. You probably won’t be discussing you two having sex, more so, you’ll be discussing sex in general. During this, you want to focus on keeping the conversation light, flirty and playful.
Physical turn ons are anything that has to do with your body and touch. It’s all about working on the visual aspect, in order to get his mind thinking about you. The mind is a powerful thing, so what you need to do is get those sexual thoughts triggered in his mind. You want to focus on your strengths and enhance those in front of him.
- It’s all about touch
Men respond highly to physical touch, which makes sense, it’s highly seductive. But, you have to be comfortable doing it or else it won’t come off as being natural. While you’re talking to him, you can casually touch his arm, hand, or chest. If that isn’t comfortable for you, touch him while you’re laughing – that way, it’s more natural for you and for him. Touching him will help lower his guard and make him more open.
- Show some skin
Now, this doesn’t mean you have to show up at his front door naked. You can show off as much skin as you want. It can simply be your arms or legs – it doesn’t have to be both. But whatever you’re showing off, you want to make sure you’re comfortable or else you’ll look insecure and awkward. That being said, if you’re comfortable showing no skin off, that’s also okay. It adds slight mystery to you.
- Be yourself
If you want to wear makeup, wear a sexy dress, put on high heels, you can do that. But you want to make sure that you feel comfortable and sexy in what you’re wearing. You won’t be able to seduce a man if you’re not yourself. You can be the hottest version of yourself, that’s fine, but you have to make sure that you’re comfortable in.
People love sexual behavior, it’s what really amps up the sexual desire. There are different ways to behave sexually, you can act bold or subtle. However, whichever way you choose to behave, you have to be comfortable doing so.
- Give the eyes
The “come fuck me” eyes is what every guy wants to see. After talking to the guy for some time, flirting and touching him, it’s time to show him what you really want. That look is filled with desire, however, it doesn’t come across as hungry. It’s a soft and playful look but packs a powerful punch.
- Show the sexual desire
There are an endless amount of body signals to show someone that you want them. These signs can be very subtle so that he actually ends up being the one to make a move. You can bite your lip, move your hair away from your neck, lean into him. Now, if you want him, you may end up naturally doing these movements. Just make sure you do these body gestures if you’re comfortable doing so.
- Start the conversation
If you strike up a conversation with a guy, that helps him see that you’re interested in talking to him. He’ll be more relaxed knowing that you’re the one making the initiative, so the conversation will be easy flowing. If nothing comes out of the conversation, that’s okay, but gives you an opportunity to see if something could happen from it.
Now that you know the categories of turn-ons and the basics, you’re all set for an in-person encounter. However, there will be times when you won’t be seeing someone in person and instead, you’ll have to seduce them via text. That being said, it’s time you learned the 100 different ways to sext a guy.
100 ways to sext a guy
- I can’t stop touching myself when I think about you.
- I hope you’re as good in real life as you are in my fantasies.
- Want to know what I’m thinking about? Here’s a hint. Me, you, naked.
- I’m laying in my bed thinking dirty things to do to you.
- I’ve been so naughty today, I deserve a spanking.
- Every lick of my ice cream cone reminds me of you.
- I want to be naked with you right now.
- If you were beside me right now, where would you want me to touch you?
- There’s an empty space between my legs that needs to be filled.
- I had a naughty dream about someone last night…guess who was in it?
- Have you ever had a wet dream about me?
- If you could do anything to me, what would you do?
- If I could do anything to you, what would you want me to do?
- Work is going by so slowly, all I can think about is you inside me.
- If you’re having a hard time right now, I can give you a hand…or a mouth.
- Your mouth is magical.
- I just had a shower and let me tell you, it was wetter than usual.
- Can you help me put some sunscreen on?And then later help take my bikini off?
- Just had dinner, but there’s some room for dessert – come over.
- What’s the dirtiest thing you’ve ever thought about doing to me?
- I can’t wait for you to come home from work, I have some dirty things planned.
- I want to be in bed beside you right now.
- Have you touched yourself today?
- I think it’s time we tried ____.
- Just touched myself thinking about you.
- What do you want me to do to you?
- I want you to eat me.
- You can do whatever you want to me.
- You better be naked by the time you walk upstairs.
- I’m going to make you come so hard.
- I have a surprise for you.
- I want you inside me right now.
- I’m so wet right now.
- Too bad you’re not here right now.
- I can’t stop thinking about last night.
- I can’t get enough of you.
- I love how you feel inside me.
- Talk dirty to me, baby.
- That turns me on so much.
- I want you to make me come.
- I’m going to make you beg for it.
- You looked so sexy in that shirt last night.
- I’m not going to wear any underwear on our date.
- Tonight I’m going to slap you, choke you…
- I want you to scream my name.
- You’re not allowed to come until I say so.
- I want you to come on my ____
- You’re not going to be able to move after I’m done with you.
- I want to drain every last drop of come out of you.
- Lick my ____.
- I want you to dominate me.
- I’ve been a bad girl.
- I can’t focus on work/studying, all I’m thinking about is your dick inside me.
- What kind of underwear do you want me to wear?
- Is anyone going to be home later? I have a surprise.
- Cancel your plans, I’m coming over to blow you.
- I’m addicted to your dick.
- I’m not wearing a bra today, just thought I’d let you know.
- My roommates are gone this weekend so we can be as loud as we want.
- When I see you tonight, I’m going to unzip your pants, take your boxers off and tie you to the bed.
- Can’t wait for you to take off my clothes.
- Do you have any fantasies?
- What’s your favorite thing that I do to you in bed?
- You came to my mind and I suddenly became wet.
- Baby, I’m so horny right now.
- What are you wearing right now?
- Are you alone tonight?
- You can look but you can’t touch…yet.
- Can we skip dinner and you can eat something else?
- I want to be your slave.
- There’s this really cute guy that I’ve been thinking about all day long, what should I do?
- You’re not very good at pretending that you don’t want to fuck me.
- You looked so hot today, I just wanted to rip those clothes off of you.
- We would have so much fun if you were naked next to me right now.
- Do you want to feel my underwear to see how you make me feel?
- I want your hand in between my legs.
- I know someone who may want to fuck you right now.
- Did you dream of touching me last night?
- Roses are red, violets are blue, come over please so I can fuck you.
- Can you send me a naughty picture?
- I’m addicted to you inside of me.
- Want to do a live rendition of “Fifty Shades of Grey”?
- I want your hard/wet ____ on/in my _____.
- I squirted all over my bed thinking about you.
- I’m feeling so naughty right now.
- Ever had a threesome?
- I want you to make me moan like an animal.
- I know that you’re secretly a dirty boy.
- I’ve never wanted anyone so badly before.
- I feel drunk off of your dick.
- I know what you really want.
- Is that a tie? Let’s use it.
- Don’t waste all your energy today, you’re going to need it for tonight.
- Let’s play cops and robbers, I can tell I’ll need to frisk you.
- I can’t wait for you to bend me over and make me scream.
- I want to taste every inch of you.
- I want to lick my come from your lips.
- If you don’t do what I say, you’re going to be punished,
- Do you know what it’s like to fuck a bad girl?
- Do you know how sexy you are?