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She Never Compliments Me


Getting compliments make us feel really good about ourselves. And when we start dating someone, or seeing them even casually, one of the things that draws us to the person is the way they make us feel about ourselves. Which should be generally good, right? Come on, who wants to date someone who makes us feel crappy or subpar about who we are? No one, if you ask us. However, sometimes you might find yourself intertwined with someone that just does not have a flattering bone in their body. They simply do not dish out compliments, even though they are more than willing to receive them. This can be difficult for the person that they are dating. When the girl you are dating never compliments you, what are you to do? Is this normal? And if it isn’t, how do we fix this problem? These are all great questions that we are sure you have. And thankfully we have the answers you may have been searching for! Want to know what they are? Just keep scrolling my friend and soon you will know exactly why she never compliments you!

my spouse never compliments me

The Reasons

Building your partner up by inducing strong self esteem is extremely vital to maintaining any healthy relationship. And just like it is important for you to build them up, it’s just as crucial for them to build you up. Relationships start to fail when you don’t feel like your partner believes in you or thinks highly of you. But why wouldn’t they? Why would they never compliment you? Well, we have a few different reasons that might be happening…

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She Doesn’t Even Realize:

There is a strong chance that she does not even realize that she is not giving you compliments. This happens a lot with people who don’t dwell on things and have short attention spans. It isn’t that she doesn’t believe you’re great at this or that or that you aren’t special. It’s just she doesn’t remain on any subject long enough to comment on it. This is not her fault. It could be a characteristic she obtained when she was growing up. This would be more of an environmental factor if this was the reasoning behind why she never compliments you. She could think highly of you and think you are the best at whatever, but she just doesn’t think to say these types of things out loud. If you think this is the reason, the best course of action would be to just to talk to her about it! Don’t be afraid to let her know how you feel. If she truly cares for you, she won’t mind. You can mention that it is affecting your self confidence levels in a negative way.

You’re A Little Arrogant:

We don’t tend to like to think about ourselves in such a negative manner as to where we call ourselves arrogant. Many people with this trait do not even realize that they have it… That is all a part of being full of yourself. No one really likes to admit it, but if you are having issues with getting compliments out of her, you might want to consider that this could be the reason. Why would you being this way prevent her from complimenting you? Well, she probably thinks your confidence is sky high as it is. She doesn’t want the things that she says to go straight to your head. And therefore, you become ever more arrogant, because now you think you are even better. We know this isn’t something you want to hear, but if you are a strong personality who truly believes highly of themselves, please give this reason a thought. How to fix this? Don’t let things boost you up too much. Especially when you are in front of her. Try out being humble. And see if that helps get those compliments a’rolling.

my girlfriend never compliments me

She Only Gives What She Gets:

Now, if neither or those were the reasons, you can next try thinking of how often you compliment her. Why? Because if you are not consistently raising her self-esteem, she might not think that it is necessary to do the same for you. Although they say an eye for eye makes the world blind, it does not mean that she takes that phrase to heart. She might think that unless you are complimenting her often, she does not need to do the same with you. This one is a simple fix. Give complimenting her more frequently a try. See if that prompts her to participate in the same behavior. This is a partnership, so both partners should be participating!

She’s Self-Centered:

Or you might just have to consider that you are involved with someone who is so self-centered that they never compliment anyone. Does she ever praise anybody? If not, you might want to take this in as an option as to why she never gives you any compliments.


  1. My wife used to compliment me in the beginning, but once our marriage started she stopped, in fact she stopped focusing on the marriage itself, and began focusing on her then 15 year old child (now 17). I used to thrive off of these compliments because they were encouraging, but it only lasted until we got married, and once we got married I kept up the compliments until I stopped completely. My wife was married for 11 years, and the man that she married had some medical complications and he passed away, a year and a few months later she accepted my hand in marriage, we moved from one state to another, we have had many arguments that could have very well ended up in a separation or divorce. I actually went back to telling her that I am proud of her accomplishments, since we have been married now for 2 years she has complimented me all of 4 times. I go out just to do simple things and I get complimented, and or hit on. I go to work, and even my coworkers have more encouraging things to say about me than my wife does. How can I fix this before I do something bad.

    • The two of you have been married for two years, and you have only noticed four compliments. This means that she is not the type of person who compliments her partner during her marriage. It seems that you are concerned that this may mean something else. Perhaps you should speak with her about your thoughts and feelings, and give her an opportunity to share herself with you as well. You may need to make a decision about what you feel is appropriate for the future of this relationship. Have a great day, Me!

  2. I’ve been dating with one of my bestfriends for almost 2 months and sometimes I wonder if she even thinks that I’m handsome or anything close to that. Like I don’t want to sound arrogant but she never complimented me in that way (even before we were dating) but with other friends she does it. I’m the type of person that shows my emotions quite often, so I usually say how much of a beauty she is, is it something that could be interfering with it? Not wanting to sound like a drama queen but yeah.

    • It sounds like you are looking for validation, which may be related to your insecurities. You may want to speak with your partner about your thoughts and feelings. Give her an opportunity to share herself with you as well. The two of you are dating, so it is likely that she is attracted to you. It is possible that she feels that she doesn’t need to tell you that you are attractive, because she may assume that you already know how she feels about you. Have a great day, Sunne!

  3. My girlfriend isnt really affectionate and rarely, if ever, compliments me. I do everything I can to keep her spirits up and help her with her own confidence, but it feels one sided. Shes also good at noticing and admiring certain things in her guy friends, qualities that I have, but never saying those positive things to me. I hear plenty of criticism and things I need to work on, just rarely ever hear about what I’m doing right.

    • This sounds like something you should talk to your girlfriend about. If she is never complimentary to you, tell her. Try to be honest and calm when you tell her so that she doesn’t feel defensive. She is obviously hurting you by the way she acts, and the best thing you can do for your relationship is to nip your hurt feelings in the bud before they fester.

  4. I’ve been dating my girlfriend for about 4 months now and I love complimenting her. She doesn’t accept my compliments or always disregards them but I still try any way I can to slip in a few. I’m not arrogant but I’ve had past relationships that led me to be insecure about who I am. Though I am confident in what I do I do appreciate any complement my partner could give me but she just doesn’t seem to do any of that… I’ve tried the old “Oh I’m ugly” (beyond those lines) trick but she’d either say she is too (which she is definitely not) or disregard it. I can’t help but feel my confidence being lowered and I have a low self esteem. I just want to know I’m appreciated and that I’m someone valuable to her.

    • It seems that you would like your partner to be communicative. This is a reasonable desire, though it may be an aspect of her character to not share her feelings with you. Speak with her about your thoughts and feelings, and give her time to share herself with you as well. If you feel that there is something else that needs to be addressed, then be certain to raise that concern with her as well.


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