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She Never Texts First But Always Replies. What Does It Mean?

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‘Is she interested? Or is she telling me she isn’t interested?

It might start to get frustrating when you like a girl, but you don’t feel like she likes you all the same. We know this can be a major let down and leave your confidence feeling as if it has been drug straight through the dirt. Like when you are always the only one who texts firsts and initiates the conversation between the two of you. Surely this can leave you feeling a little in the dark about how she feels towards you. But then you start getting even more confused because even though she doesn’t initiate contact, she responds to your texts. What could this mean? Her not talking to you first makes it feel as if she doesn’t like you, but then again when she responds it seems like she does!

We get that this is a confusing as heck situation. Which is exactly why we are here to help you figure this whole mess out.

Remember that there is more than a black or white answer to this whole ordeal. There are other factors that you are going to want to consider before deciding what you think is going on with her. Let’s walk through what those factors are to help you decide whether or not she really likes you or if she’s just simply being polite.

She Never Texts First But Always Replies. What Does It Mean

The Factors

Your Relationship: What your relationship is to her is going to be huge when trying to figure this whole thing out. Have you known her for a long time? Are you friends? Did the two of you just meet? You might be wondering why this matters at all. Well, the longer the two of you have known each other the better chance you have at maintaining a relationship through texting, such as a friendship, with her. Meaning she just doesn’t think about texting you first, but it doesn’t mean that she doesn’t enjoy talking to you in response. However, if the two of you barely know each other then she is probably only responding to you because she feels obligated to or because she feels like she should be polite.

Timing: You will want to think about the timing of everything. What do we mean by this? We mean to think about how long it takes her to reply when you first text her. Also consider how many times you have to text her to get a response in the first place. More than likely if it is taking her hours to get back to you, she is probably not all that interested in talking to you in the first place. But it’s important not to jump to any conclusions, because you will also want to think about when you are texting her. If you are always texting her in the morning and not getting a quick response or getting a morning message from her, you might want to ask if she is up that early or if she has a job that keeps her busy at that time. If she takes a long time to reply, you might want to consider that she had other things going on at the time.

Then again if she is consistently taking hours to reply each and every time you text her, she might not be very interested in talking to you.

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Subject Of Messages: Another factor to consider is what she is saying when she responds to you. Are the messages short? Do they not really say much? Does she only ever say things like LOL or OK? Or are they full of substance? Do they have actual meaning to them. Think about whether or not she asks personal questions or if she keeps the messages she sends back as non personal as can be. The latter can be a sign that she is only responding to be nice, but not that she actually has interest in continuing a conversation with you.

Length Of Conversation: When you send a message to her and she responds, does she continue the conversation for a long period of time? Or does she just respond once or twice and then she disappears? When a girl likes you she will make the effort to hold a conversation with you. However, if she has no interest in you she will keep the length of time that you text to a minimum to prevent you from getting any wrong idea in your head.

Reasons She Might Respond, But Not Initiate

She Likes You But…: She likes you, but she is a very busy person. She might also feel nervous about being the first one to start the conversation. It could be that she is just old fashioned and thinks that a guy should start the convo first. Who knows! Some women are like that.

She’s Just Being Polite: She might only be responding to your texts because she feels it would be rude to stay silent. This usually is the case if she keeps the texts very short and impersonal.

Now you have all the info you need to help you decide what it means when she never texts first but always replies!

84 COMMENTS

  1. She tells me she is seriously into me, but when she is busy or busy and with friends, I get completely ignored. She has no time to text me, but has time to tweet or retweet tweets. Anyone please say it to my face, what is this?

    • When she is with her friends, she is interested in maintaining that social relationship. It is possible that she feels strong feelings for you. She may be interested in developing a relationship with you. She may not like to communicate over text. Determine what you want for your future, and speak with her about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share herself with you as well. Have a great day, Lurker!

    • She may feel as though you should understand what she is saying. If there are difficulties in communicating over text messages, then speak with her in person. Determine what you want for your future. Spend additional time with her in person, as this will strengthen your relationship. Have a great day, Max!

  2. We know each other from last 7 years.. And also it was the first time we spoke.. Then for next 6 years we didn’t talked to each other but there was this thing that, we both would stare at each other..,. We both are in sports n also she’s from different town.. So we meet only at the time of championship (i.e..,thrice in a year).. She was there for my very tournament (watching me)….but we never spoked to each other face to face for that 6 yrs…
    But last year we talked (after 6yrs) (when I stopped playing sports).. Then we started talking on social media.. (on Instagram n fb)… She has huge fan following.. Of which she follows very few (she also follows me)… Now it’s been months we have been talking to each other.. She talked to me about kind of relationship in which she believes n all… She replies to all my text but she never texts me first.. (I have to start conversation by sharing a post most of the times 😅on Instagram )…..( She’s lives different town..)… My friends think that she likes me (n they r 100%sure about it).. Yess I like her alot.. But don’t know if she likes me too..?.. So.. Is there any one who can help me out with this..?

    • Your friends have shared their thoughts with you. She responds to you, though she is likely too busy to reach out and may be uncertain about your thoughts and feelings. You can certainly continue to nourish this relationship. You may find benefit in attempting to spend additional time with him in person, as this will help your strengthen your connection. Continue to share your kindness and compassion with her. Have a great day, Nik!

      • There’s one thing I forgot to share yesterday which is… She asked whether I am single or not.. And after a month again she asked me if I have any gf… What is your opinion about this

        • She asked about your relationship status. This is an indication that she is interested in maintaining a relationship with you. Determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak with her about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Nik!

          • She shared her thoughts and feelings with you. You may want to speak with her about your ideas as well. Determine what you believe is appropriate and viable at this time. Nourish your relationship by spending additional time with her in person. Have a great day, Nik!

  3. We know each other from last 7 years.. And also it was the first time we spoke.. Then for next 6 years we didn’t talked to each other but there was this thing that, we both would stare at each other..,. We both are in sports n also she’s from different town.. So we meet only at the time of championship (i.e..,thrice in a year).. She was there for my very tournament (watching me)….but we never spoked to each other face to face for that 6 yrs…
    But last year we talked (after 6yrs) (when I stopped playing sports).. Then we started talking on social media.. (on Instagram n fb)… She has huge fan following.. Of which she follows very few (she also follows me)… Now it’s been months we have been talking to each other.. She talked to me about kind of relationship in which she believes n all… (Also she has asked me if m single or not… N also after few months she again asked me if I have any girlfriend) She replies to all my text but she never texts me first.. (I have to start conversation by sharing a post most of the times 😅on Instagram )…..( She’s lives different town..)… My friends think that she likes me (n they r 100%sure about it).. Yess I like her alot.. But don’t know if she likes me too..?.. So.. Is there any one who can help me out with this..?

    • Your friends have shared their thoughts with you. She responds to you, though she is likely too busy to reach out and may be uncertain about your thoughts and feelings. You can certainly continue to nourish this relationship. You may find benefit in attempting to spend additional time with him in person, as this will help your strengthen your connection. Continue to share your kindness and compassion with her. Have a great day, Yash!

  4. So me and my ex girlfriend recently started to have contact again, she broke up with me about 1,5 years ago. I was the one initiating the contact, after sending a couple of unanswered text I send one final and asked her out for dinner. She replied the next day and said yes We went out for dinner and out to a club and spend the next day at my place. I tried to call her but my number is still blocked, I’ve been blocked more or less since we broke up. We have been using WhatsApp. The next day I send her a message and she replied, so I have been the one initiating the communication and trying to keep it going. A couple of days ago I send a text asking her to go bowling and she said yes, however she wanted to know that I understand that we are just friends. I said sure, we are friends. Here replies are always late at night and they are short. So how should I proceed.

    • She has shared her thoughts and feelings with you. She wants to maintain a relationship with you as friends, and she is not interested in maintaining a romantic relationship. Determine what you want for the future of this relationship. You may continue this relationship as her friend, but do not expect that this relationship will grow. Regardless of your decisions, continue to share your kindness and compassion with her. Have a great day, Lars!

  5. Meet her at a her job (she’s a waitress). She gave me her (good sign) and we text. But when I ask her out she’s always busy. She never initiates texting, but will respond and converse for hours.. if I text first. But, if I go cold and don’t text her, she never will text. But if I see her at job and don’t sit in her section she’s not happy with me. I think she likes me (she says she does) but not sure. She says she misses me but I don’t know very confusing. Am I just a good tipper she wants to keep around? Or is she scared, shy?

    • The two of you share a strong social connection. She enjoys talking with you for extended periods of time. She has given you a reason for her behaviors. She is busy. She is likely not lying to you. She is working and likely has other responsibilities as well. Perhaps attempt to speak with her again about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Confused!

  6. I met this girl at her job, she’s a waitress. The attraction was instantaneous. Needless to say I kept coming back just to see her. She eventually gave me her number and we started texting. I think she likes me… at least she says she does. But she never texts first, ever. So, I backed off texting for a few days and still got nothing from her. Then I went to her job (a man’s gotta eat, you know!), but did not sit in her section. The next day I decided to text her again. She replies immediately. Very cordial at first, but then she tells me. in no uncertain terms, that she felt slighted that I didn’t sit in her section. And she tells me she misses me. I’m confused now. Is it really me she misses or is it the tips? I’m not the best tipper but I ain’t bad. Lol. What’s the deal.

    • She has informed you of her feelings regarding where you sat in her restaurant. It is possible that she is interested in maintaining a social or emotional relationship with you. She may be interested in nourishing your commercial relationship. You will find benefit in speaking with her about your thoughts and feelings. Give her an opportunity to share herself with you as well. Have a great day, Harold!

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