‘Is she interested? Or is she telling me she isn’t interested?’
It might start to get frustrating when you like a girl, but you don’t feel like she likes you all the same. We know this can be a major let down and leave your confidence feeling as if it has been drug straight through the dirt. Like when you are always the only one who texts firsts and initiates the conversation between the two of you. Surely this can leave you feeling a little in the dark about how she feels towards you. But then you start getting even more confused because even though she doesn’t initiate contact, she responds to your texts. What could this mean? Her not talking to you first makes it feel as if she doesn’t like you, but then again when she responds it seems like she does!
We get that this is a confusing as heck situation. Which is exactly why we are here to help you figure this whole mess out.
Remember that there is more than a black or white answer to this whole ordeal. There are other factors that you are going to want to consider before deciding what you think is going on with her. Let’s walk through what those factors are to help you decide whether or not she really likes you or if she’s just simply being polite.
Your Relationship: What your relationship is to her is going to be huge when trying to figure this whole thing out. Have you known her for a long time? Are you friends? Did the two of you just meet? You might be wondering why this matters at all. Well, the longer the two of you have known each other the better chance you have at maintaining a relationship through texting, such as a friendship, with her. Meaning she just doesn’t think about texting you first, but it doesn’t mean that she doesn’t enjoy talking to you in response. However, if the two of you barely know each other then she is probably only responding to you because she feels obligated to or because she feels like she should be polite.
Timing: You will want to think about the timing of everything. What do we mean by this? We mean to think about how long it takes her to reply when you first text her. Also consider how many times you have to text her to get a response in the first place. More than likely if it is taking her hours to get back to you, she is probably not all that interested in talking to you in the first place. But it’s important not to jump to any conclusions, because you will also want to think about when you are texting her. If you are always texting her in the morning and not getting a quick response or getting a morning message from her, you might want to ask if she is up that early or if she has a job that keeps her busy at that time. If she takes a long time to reply, you might want to consider that she had other things going on at the time.
Then again if she is consistently taking hours to reply each and every time you text her, she might not be very interested in talking to you.
Subject Of Messages: Another factor to consider is what she is saying when she responds to you. Are the messages short? Do they not really say much? Does she only ever say things like LOL or OK? Or are they full of substance? Do they have actual meaning to them. Think about whether or not she asks personal questions or if she keeps the messages she sends back as non personal as can be. The latter can be a sign that she is only responding to be nice, but not that she actually has interest in continuing a conversation with you.
Length Of Conversation: When you send a message to her and she responds, does she continue the conversation for a long period of time? Or does she just respond once or twice and then she disappears? When a girl likes you she will make the effort to hold a conversation with you. However, if she has no interest in you she will keep the length of time that you text to a minimum to prevent you from getting any wrong idea in your head.
Reasons She Might Respond, But Not Initiate
She Likes You But…: She likes you, but she is a very busy person. She might also feel nervous about being the first one to start the conversation. It could be that she is just old fashioned and thinks that a guy should start the convo first. Who knows! Some women are like that.
She’s Just Being Polite: She might only be responding to your texts because she feels it would be rude to stay silent. This usually is the case if she keeps the texts very short and impersonal.
Now you have all the info you need to help you decide what it means when she never texts first but always replies!