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Should I Tell Him I Miss Him?


Missing someone isn’t easy. And wanting to tell them that you miss them is even more difficult. Especially when you are not so sure it would be such a good idea or not. Sometimes it is simple. Sometimes you know that telling someone that you miss him is a great idea. You would have no problem calling or texting them right now and letting them know how you feel. Unfortunately, there are people that you do not feel that comfortable just blurting it out to. We get that those situations are super tough. They can really toy with your head and even your emotions. But before you get yourself all riled up about it, let us help you decide the right course of action. We can  help you decide whether or not you should tell him that you miss him. We know a good situation from a bad one. Don’t believe us? Take a look for yourself and keep reading below.

Should I Tell Him I Miss Him

A Good Situation

We all know that couples, even if they are not committed, will have no problems telling one another that they have been missing them. This is totally normal. You should not be scared to text or call him and tell him that you miss him if the two of you are in a mutually good situation. What would a mutually good situation consist of? We are glad you asked! A good situation is one where both of you are totally into one another. You talk on a consistent, if not almost always, daily basis and you have a bond growing between you. This does not have to mean that you two are dating or even exclusive. It just means that you both feel the same way about each other. Has he told you sappy things before? Or made advances for a more serious relationship? Does he let you know that he likes you or he misses you? In this case, sending him an ‘I miss you text’ will do no harm, because he probably also misses you. This is a great way even to strengthen your bond, because it will let him know how you feel about him. And it might even open up a doorway where he will tell it to you back!

A Bad Situation:

Yes, sadly there are times when it is not okay to send a text or call him to tell him that you miss him. Like if the feelings between you are not mutual. Meaning you already know that he just isn’t that into you. If he has made it clear in the past that he does not have the same feelings, telling him that you miss him might just end up making you look a little desperate. We know that probably isn’t the most pleasant thing to read, because we know that you are missing him. However, it is the truth. You want to save yourself the embarrassment. Do you two not talk often? Has he told you he doesn’t like you in that way? These are signs that it would be a terrible idea to let him know that you miss him.

There are other bad situations where it would be a no-go on the I miss you type of feelings. Like what? Well, if the two of you had been dating and things had ended badly. That would not make for a proper setup for saying these types of things to him. If you two were totally unhappy in your relationship or if he was a bad guy to you, don’t do it. We especially suggest not sending an I miss you text or giving the person a call if he was abusive. We know that sometimes you might miss someone, even if they were a horrid person to you, but hold back. We know you are strong enough to not do it. Don’t subject yourself to his awful behavior ever again. Do not open the doorway for communication or letting him back into your life in this situation. This situation would be the worse one. And no, you should not tell him that you miss him!

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A Neutral Situation:

What’s a neutral situation? It can be classified as a situation where you don’t really know what the heck is going on between you and him. This is a common thing when two people are first starting to get to know one another. You might have been talking/hanging out for awhile, but you are not sure where you stand relationship-wise at this point. It can be utterly confusing. We get that. Which is why we added this situation into our list. So what are you supposed to do if you are not sure how he feels? We say…. Go for it! Nothing is good or bad yet, so go ahead and let him know how you feel. The worst case scenario is that he does not feel the same way yet. But he might appreciate you telling him that. You never know, he might also be missing you, but wasn’t sure how you felt. So by telling him, you are letting him know your feelings and opening a gateway into this type of discussion!

Good luck!


  1. My situation is a bit different. My boyfriend and I are breaking up (at least that’s what I think). We are in a long distance relationship and had a fight about a month ago, a fight that resulted in us not talking. When we tried talking about it, we just fought all over again. So we decided we’d talk when we see each other, which is a few weeks away.. But I’m dying of missing him and not sure if I should tell him.

    • You are going to see him in a few weeks. At that time, speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. For now, determine what you want for your future. Decide what you believe is appropriate for a long distance relationship in regards to communication. Have a great day, Joe!

  2. In my case – we’ve been talking daily for several months becoming really close friends, and then we seeing each other every day for work related things. We are business partners. Three weeks ago things changed – we kissed, and since started having a sexual relationship. But he said we had to stop seeing each other in that way, I didn’t want to but accepted. So l pulled back, we still message each other for work stuff, but no longer call or meet un less is for work. Sometimes in the middle of the meetings he starts messaging me funny or, personal and random stuff.
    This weekend he sent me a picture of him at his brother’s birthday dinner, and I sent him a picture of me at my friends party. We started talking about us, and he told me he still daydreams about our encounters and talked until I was home and felt asleep. The next day I sent him a selfie, and he told me to stop, that we shouldn’t go that road again. I was thrown off do to the fact of all we talked the day before. So I stopped talking to him. Yesterday we saw each other at the gym, I was sitting with two guys (gym coaches) and my sister; he came to say hi and sat with us, we talked about self defense class and had a laugh about random stuff. Then I left because my class was about start, he stood up and hugged me, saying he would be leaving in a few minutes for his house. An hour later he sent me a funny video, to which I responded and then we started talking, he told me about his fathers death (a few years ago)that he still was very hurt to this day, and that he missed him, we talked until late night that I fell asleep.
    So I don’t know if I should tell him that I miss being with him, and that I want to see him, and I miss having conversations that are not work related.

    • The two of you share a strong social and emotional relationship. He has shared his deep feelings with you. This is an indication that he cares deeply for you. He may be interested in nourishing your relationship or maintaining a romantic relationship with you in the future. Make a decision about what you feel is appropriate and viable. Ensure that you share your kindness and compassion at all times, as this will draw positive people and energy into your life. Have a great day, Jojo!

  3. My situation is very different. I met this guy at a party and he invited me and my friends over to a pool party the next day. We went for it but I saw him dancing with another girl so I decided to go home but my friends thought that I was being irrational. So we stayed and I approached him and he was really welcoming and charming. We danced and started talking about life, our lives and then he told me he was in my city for a couple of weeks (3) and he lives in a different country. He was really kind and a gentleman and we were hugging and holding each other so close but I didn’t kiss him. We left that place and we meet a couple of times after that. He told me he had a girlfriend back home and I openly told him about my broken relationship with my now ex boyfriend. And after this he called me a couple of days later saying he wanted me to sleep over and also that he had argued with his girlfriend. I found that really disrespectful and I told him about it. Because I felt like a rebound tbh. He apologized and I forgave him. We met again and went for movies and I stayed over at his house after a week of knowing him. We had met 4 times before that. Constantly. I didn’t sleep with him because I’m waiting but I didn’t know what he was expecting. I left the next day and over the next week things got slow. My friends said it was because I went over to his place so fast I didn’t think that that was the reason.He wouldn’t text as much or call often. I don’t usually text guys but I tried to text him and he responded like everything was ok. I confronted him about it and he said he had immigration problems and had to sort them out.So in the last week we went to church together because it was his first time. It was an amazing experience for all of us.
    A couple of days later I went over to his house and I stayed over for two nights. The chemistry between us is insane. He made me laugh and we had a similar sense of humor. We talked about us and he said things were complicated with his girlfriend and he didn’t want to add me to that situation, I told him I was only looking for a summer fling and I didn’t want anything serious which is true. But I wish I had told him then because now I have questions in-my head. We enjoy each other’s company and on the last day I slept with him. I wasn’t expecting it too. And it’s a big deal because he’s my first.
    I was a little pissed afterwards because I couldn’t believe I had just slept with him so I decided not to see him again. But I realized I had developed feelings for him. So it was hard. We never talked about it until now. When he texts he says I’m nice and chill to talk to. That makes me feel like I’m 12 years or something. He treats me like I’m his girlfriend though. We hold hands in public, he introduces me to his friends and he makes me feel like a woman. He compliments my body, my skin, clothes… He’s a dream when he isn’t acting weird. I went home the next day and little did I know that was the last time I’d see him.
    We scheduled to meet before he left. He made plans to come to my house in the morning but shifted it to the night because he wanted more time. That was a Saturday btw and he never showed up nor texted. He sent a video the next day from the airport. Apologizing saying how he had to do immigration work and all but I don’t know which government offices work on Saturday. I said it was alright and he promised to come back. He went home two weeks ago and he comments on my what’s app profile pictures and statuses but never really starts a conversation. I like this guy but I’m confused. I don’t know if I should tell him how I feel like now I really miss him. Regardless of the fact that he stood me up, he was my first and we shared something special. What do you think I should do? Should I tell him I have feelings for him or I miss him or I should just move on??

    • I would probably start by seeing if he plans on coming back to your country. If he isn’t coming back, it will be incredibly hard to make this relationship into anything. Otherwise, I would probably share how I feel. If you don’t share, he’ll continue thinking it’s just a fling and move on. If you do share, he’ll either end things completely or decide to pursue a relationship. Basically, the only chance you have of making this into something more is by taking a risk and telling him how you feel. Good luck!

  4. My case is a little different, I met this guy months ago, we’ve been hanging out, visiting places with him, partying and eventually had sex once. Since then we haven’t been meeting, we do talk occasionally and he likes asking me out but due to my busy work schedule, I usually cancel. I think this has made things hard for us, he’s been distant lately but he still pops in once in a while to check on me and tells me how beautiful I am. My biggest problem is I don’t know where we stand,he has never told me to be his galfriend, I have strong feelings for him but I don’t know about his, I feel like expressing my feelings to him but then my ego won’t let me. I’m confused and I miss him terribly 😥

    • He may be hesitant about asking you to be his girlfriend because he knows how busy you are. Considering the fact that he has been more distant, he may be rethinking where he wants this relationship to go. I’d tell him how you feel right now. If he knows you really care and aren’t just blowing him off all the time, he may be more willing to commit. And if he isn’t interested in a relationship with you, telling him how you feel will mean you get to find out what’s possible right away instead of having to wait to find out.

  5. Hi…i guess everyone’s situation is quite unique….n so is mine. So i me this guy ONCE 4 months ago….n v have been texting eachother daily ever since. He lives in a different country n i have no idea whats going on between the 2 of us. However, i notice that im really starting to like him. What do i do?

    • The two of you share a strong social and emotional connection. Take this time to determine what you want for the future of your relationship together. Figure out what you believe is viable and appropriate. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings, and give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well.

  6. This guy and I have been talking a lot. He told me I was his girlfriend but I didn’t reject nor accept whatever proposal it was. After 4days of this encounter, I sent him a hi message which he hasn’t responded for 10 days now. I miss him so much… Should I text him again that I miss him?

    • The two of you haven’t spoken in ten days. Determine if you want to reach out to him again. If you do, and he chooses to not respond, then you should be aware that this relationship has concluded. Ensure that you share your kindness and compassion at all times, as this will draw positive people and energy into your life in the future.


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