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20 Signs A Man Wants To Be With You


Men can be totally confusing creatures. It’s hard to get a grasp on what they are feeling. But it’s easy if you know what to be looking out for. Like these 20 signs below that give away when a man wants to be with:

  • He Talks About The Future

There’s no doubt that someone a man who wants to be with you will constantly be mentioning the future. He will talk with you about his hopes, dreams and goals. What he plans to accomplish in the next year. And he won’t be shy of mentioning that you will be right there with him when these things happen. This is his way of letting you know that he wants you to stick around with him for awhile.

  • He’s Not Shy

A man who likes you will not hesitate to discuss what is on his mind with you. He will let you know how he is feeling and why he is feeling that way. He definitely won’t be shy about getting to know what is going on in your mind either. He wants to get emotionally close to you to develop a stronger bond.

  • He Gets Intimate With You

Just as he is getting emotionally intimate, he will also get more and more physically intimate. Guys are usually a bit more straightforward physically, so he will start doing things that you might notice. Watch where his hands go. Do you find that he often places a hand on your back or your thigh? These are signs that he really likes you. He might even be as bold as to hold your hand or give you a peck on the cheek.

  • You Meet The Important People In His Life

Does he really want you to meet his family? Or have you already? That is a good sign that a guy wants to be with you. Men with no interest will not care about you meeting the important people in their life. They would actually prefer that not happen. However, if he has feelings for you he will push for you to meet these people. People such as his best friends or his parents. It will definitely feel formal, too!

  • He Wants To Meet The Important People In Your Life

He will also want to meet your friends and family. He doesn’t want to go anywhere and probably thinks it’s a good time to start associating with these people. He also wants to make a good impression with them before he goes and asks you out.

  • He Ties All Loose Ends

A man who wants to be with you will cut communication with his former love interests and his ex-girlfriends. He doesn’t want them popping up again anytime soon, because he is serious about you. You will notice that the only girl he talks to these days is you. If he is still talking to his exes or former interests, he is not ready to date you just yet.

  • You Spend A Lot Of Time Alone

Maybe the two of you met at a party of mutual friends, but now you find that more and more of your hangouts are done solo. That is because he doesn’t want to spend time with anyone else but you! He wants you to feel comfortable alone with him and who knows, maybe even one day give you a kiss! Can’t do that with everyone watching, can you?

  • He Talks About Being Exclusive

Unless he is really blunt, he might not do this one. However, if you have been hanging out for a long while, he might start dropping subtle hints about how he wants to be exclusive. He might not necessarily say with you, but he will make it obvious enough.

I.E, ‘I’m so tired of being single and playing the game. It’d be nice to just settle down.

  • He Talks About Marriage And/Or Kids

Just like he’ll be mentioning exclusivity, he will also be dropping hints about a family in the future. This is more common if he is older and in a good place in his life. That means he will be financially stable and a little more serious when planning his future. He might mention that he’s always wanted three kids. Or he might start talking about what he wishes his wedding to be like. This isn’t something that men commonly discuss, so if he is discussing these things with you, you can be sure that he wants to be with you.

  • He Always Misses You

You will get ‘I miss you’ texts throughout the day or in the night time right before you go to bed. Even if it’s only been a few hours since you last saw one another, he will be texting you that he misses you. He might also say that he can’t wait to see you again. When he sees you next he will probably tell you that he missed being with you. These are all strong indications that he wants to be with you romantically.

  • You’re Conversations Are Never Ending

Sure, there was once a beginning to your conversation, but there does not seem to be an end. Meaning your texts never really have a formal goodbye. Or when you jump on social media, the talk starts where it left off previously. You will always be talking with each other. A man with no interest would not waste his time talking to you 24 hours a day. So if he is constantly conversing with you, you can be sure that he is harboring some heavy feelings for you.

  • He Tries To Get To Know You Better

Meaning he is always asking you personal questions. His goal is to get to know you on the deepest level he can. You might find the two of you staying up late talking about your most embarrassing high school moments. Or he may even inquire about what your home life was like growing up. You can be sure that he really likes you if he goes as far as to ask you about your past love affairs. A man who wants to be with you will want to get every single detail about you that he can.

  • He Takes You On Dates

There will be no more Netflix and chill from this point on, until the two of you are actually dating. Why? Because he is trying his hardest to impress you. You will notice an increase in the amount of activities that you will do together. He will always be trying to change it up for you. That way you won’t get bored with him. You will go on a lot of outings together and some of them might be extremely formal. Be sure to pay attention to where he takes you to eat. A man who wants to be with you will let you pick the restaurant most of the time. When he does not let you pick, he will surprise you by taking you somewhere extremely nice.

  • He Pays For Your Dates

And for the time being, he will probably also pay for your dates. This all goes along with him trying to impress you and woo you in every way he can. You might also take note that a man with a crush on you will bring you presents and surprises whenever he can. He might have just gone to the gas station and returned with a Snickers, because he remembered that you told him it was your favorite candy bar!

  • He Makes Plans With You Long Term

Did he ask you to attend his sister’s wedding… That’s exactly six months from now? Take that as a good sign that he wants to be with you as more than just friends. You might notice that he is planning things with you that pan out to a few months from now. That means he doesn’t think that you will be going anywhere, anytime soon. A man that doesn’t like you romantically will not be asking you to any important events. He doesn’t want to risk losing his date to those events by planning with someone that is not serious about.

  • He Finds Common Ground

If he likes you a lot, he will constantly be trying to find the things that you have in common. Once he figures out what they are, he will use them to his advantage to try and make you feel comfortable around him. Did you tell him you love dolphins and now he is planning a trip to the zoo? Do you both love beer and now you are touring every brewery in your state? That’s great, because it means that he is listening to what you like and trying to make you happy by using that information to impress you.

  • He’s Always On Time

When you make plans with each other he will always show up on time. If he is late, he will definitely apologize. He might even try to overcompensate for his tardiness. You might notice that a man who wants to be with you will also let you know if he is not going to be on time for a pre planned activity. He does not want to make you upset in anyway. This is, of course, the trial period in which he trying his hardest to make you happy.

  • You Have A Drawer At His Place

This is one of the best signs that lead you to believe someone wants to be with you as more than just a friend. He will open up space for you at his apartment. He may even clear up space at your apartment for him. This means that you will get your own drawer and even a place for your toothbrush. You might notice that his fridge is becoming more stocked with the things that you personally like, but that he doesn’t.

  • He’s Always Emotionally Available

You will never have to worry about finding a shoulder to cry on. Why is that? Because he will always be there for you. He will always make sure that you know he is there for you, too. When you are having a bad day, he will be there to cheer you up. Or when you are having a good day, he will be right there rooting you on.

  • He Doesn’t Want To Leave

No matter what the two of you are doing, he will never want to leave! Saying goodbyes will seem almost painful. Getting him to want to go somewhere that you aren’t is going to be quite a task. This is a true sign that a man wants to be with you.


  1. at city I find it hard .many of the ladies .can not.tell when feel her and for a long term.for that reason I still find my self a lone.

    • Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings. We always appreciate when members of our community share their positive comments. Your kindness and compassion will bring many benefits in your life. Have a great day, Nyamai!

    • Thank you for sharing your insights and experiences. We always appreciate when members of our community share their supportive comments. Have a great day, Anjali!

    • @Anjali….its ok if you dont have much to say. I’m extremely quiet and suck at small talk. I’m more of an in depth conversationalist. I envy those that can just spark up a conversation. At those moments you can grab his/her hand. Just so they know you are just quiet and not a million miles away. But being quiet could be a sign that you are comfortable and content and just being in their presence is enough for you.

      • Thank you for sharing your supportive comment. We always appreciate when members of our community share their thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Cyndi!


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