When you become friends with a guy you don’t always have it in mind that you two could possibly become something more. In fact, a lot of co-ed friendships are platonic, so why would you assume it’d go any farther? However, every once in awhile a good friendship inevitably lays bricks that pave the way into a blossoming romance. You feel it, but the real question here is does he feel it? And if he does feel the same way as you, how on Earth are you supposed to tell? Men are difficult to read. They’re much better at hiding what they are thinking or what they are feeling compared to women in most cases. .Women, not all but a lot, are very verbal and expressive about what is on their minds. Men are not. That’s where this article comes in handy for you. We will go through twenty different ways that guys do when they like someone as more than a friend. It may take a little bit of time to witness these things, but there are many different things to keep an eye out for that will tell you whether he’s digging you or if you’re just in the friend-zone. There’s even a few tips and tricks in there along with the signs that will help you get this romance going in the right direction as soon as possible! Don’t lose hope if your special friend doesn’t display each one of these signs. There’s a good chance he likes you as more than just his friend if he shows even just a few of them to you.
Sign #1.) He Takes Interest In You
Sure, when you’re friends with someone they have interest in you. They care about how you are and what’s going on in your life. But when a guy likes you as more than just a friend he will start showing a lot more interest in you than he did before. You will notice the change in him (if you’re paying attention when it happens) when he transitions over from caring like a friend cares to caring like a potential partner would. You know how couples always say they tell each other what they eat everyday when they get home? Well, even if you haven’t heard of it, it is definitely a relationship-y thing that people do with each other. If you notice he starts asking you if you’ve eaten that day or if he asks you what you had to eat, then there’s a good chance that he really likes you. Most people don’t care what they’re friends eat. People who are dating certainly do, though. Not only that but if he has feelings for you he will start asking you more personal questions. He’ll dig into your childhood, figure out your favorite movies or the best way to cheer you up when you’re sad. He’ll want to know all the small details about you that friends find out through time, not through asking.
Sign #2.) You Have His Undivided Attention
Not the kind of attention where he can hold a conversation with you, although that’s great, but the kind of attention that goes a little bit deeper. Meaning he starts actively listening to you. Active listening will let him concentrate on you, respond to and remember what you are saying to him at all times. Not only will he be a great listener, but he will focus on creating great topics for you to discuss with one another. It will feel as if you never run out of things to talk about. When a guy doesn’t like you he won’t put that much effort into discussion with you. He will not notice when things about you when they change. However, if he likes you as more than a friend he will certainly notice when you cut your hair or buy a new shirt.
Sign #3.) He Makes You A Priority
When you hang out with him do find the two of you hanging out with other girls or even other people in general? If not then that is a pretty strong sign telling you that he likes you more than you previously thought. When a guy is dedicated to one girl he doesn’t typically spend any time with any other girls, especially not when he’s with you. You will notice that your hang out sessions start becoming more inclusive. He will start to plan activities for just the two of you. You may find yourself watching movies together or going out to eat alone. There’s a small chance he isn’t into you if he only hangs out with you around other people. That’s not saying that if you hang out with a group of people every now and then he doesn’t like you. It’s just saying that if you hang out with other people more often than you hang out solo it’s not a good sign.
Sign #4.) He Flirts With You
You could say this is the dead giveaway top sign that tells you whether a guy sees something more in you than friendship. But it’s really not. Men flirt with women all the time and may not actually have any real interest in them. Some people are just natural flirts. So you’re probably wondering: ‘How in the heck am I supposed to decipher if he’s flirting just to flirt or if he’s flirting with me because he really likes me?’ That’s a great question to ask because here’s the answer: He will be genuine about it and he may even be a little nervous! That’s right! Guys get nervous when they’re around someone they really like, just like women do. You won’t hear any cheesy pick up lines coming from him either. If he likes you he won’t want to turn you off and scare you away with uncomfortable pick up lines.
Sign #5.) He Wants To Get To Know The People You Love
Most people don’t tend to enjoy meeting other people’s parents or spending time with their most annoying friends just for fun. No, that’s only something you do when you really dig someone. Like truly like them. Really want a quick way to know whether or not a guy likes you as more than a friend? All you need to do is invite him to run an errand to your parents house or tell him your bestie needs someone to hang out with and ask him to tag along with you when you go. More than likely if he declines these types of offers he probably doesn’t like you that much yet. But if he jumps at the opportunity to get a casserole from mom or visit Nana in the nursing home it’s a great sign!
Sign #6.) He Wants You To Get To Know The People He Loves
And just like he wouldn’t mind getting to know your friends and family, he will be insistent that you hang out with his friends and family, too! This means he will start inviting you out with the guys and introducing you to them. Usually these will not be mutual friends, but only his friends. If he invites you to meet his parents or any family then he’s most likely crushin’ on you pretty darn hard.
Sign #7.) He Gets Jealous
Obviously a guy who views you as only a friend won’t give a darn if or when you spend time with another dude. However, when he does start to view you as more than a friend he will not like the fact that you hang out with any other men. He may bring this up to you or even tease you when you talk about these guys that you’ve been seeing. You might even see him get moody or start pouting when he finds out you were spending time with someone else or if you tell him yourself. When a man likes a woman he tends to become protective of her, as well as jealous.
Sign #8.) He Pampers You
Friends are definitely nice to each other and might even offer to pay for the check to your meal once in awhile. But when this friend starts offering to pay for most meals it’s pretty clear he started to take a deeper liking to you. Not only will he pay, or offer to anyways, for meals, he will also start getting you tiny gifts or paying for events you go to. Not every guy does this, but some do. Even though you may decline these offers, take into account that this is one of the stronger signs to look out for.
Sign #9.) He’s Always With You
Do you notice the two of you are spending more time together? Does he have a hard time wanting to go home or wanting you to go home? Do you find that even when he leaves he comes back to hang out in the near future? If you answered yes to any of those questions you can definitely start thinking that he likes you much more than is being let on. You will find that you two never want to leave each other’s sides!
Sign #10.) You See His Personality Change
You’ll notice him become less nonchalant and start paying more attention to you. Especially when you two are in public. He won’t ignore you to chat with his friends and he will make sure you are comfortable at all times. You’ll also start to notice that he pays more attention to what you’re doing at all times. He may become more polite or take any of your complaints and change to fix whatever is bothering you. These are all signs that he has started to like you as more than just a friend. You can test out this sign and see if it’s real by mentioning something you need or want while the two of you are out. You can say that you are cold or thirsty and see how he responds. Does he run to get you some water or offer you a jacket? Good, that probably means he likes you.
Sign #11.) He’s Always Touching You
Not necessarily sexually, either. This could mean that he’s begun to put his arm around you when you walk together or that he brushes your hair out of your face. Sometimes he may try to hold your hand. Whatever it may be, if a guy likes you as more than just a friend he will always find a way to touch you. Even something as subtle as your knees touching when you sit together is a strong sign he has feelings for you.
Sign #12.) He Talks To You Every Day
Do you find yourself talking to him every day? Or more importantly do you find that he goes out of his way to talk to you every day? Measuring your communication with each other is a good way to tell whether a guy truly likes you or not. When they really like someone, guys tend to check in with their love interests often. It also won’t be something as silly as just a hey or what’s up, he will actually put effort into the conversations you have to try to keep them interesting.
Sign #13.) He’s Always There To Help
A man who really likes you will always pick up his phone when you call to talk about a bad day. He will also always come to the rescue when your car breaks down and you need a ride. Do you need help moving? Ask him to help out and see if he is happy to give you a hand. If he is, then he’s more than likely head over heels for you.
Sign #14.) He Doesn’t Take His Eyes Off Of You
When you two are out do you notice his eyes wandering to every pretty girl that walks by? Unfortunately that’s a sign that he doesn’t really like you as more than a friend. However, if he does like you, he will make effort to keep his eyes on you, at least when you’re looking. He will not be afraid to make eye contact with you when you two are conversing, either. He won’t want to make you feel unnoticed if he’s trying to build a relationship with you.
Sign #15.) He’s Active With You On Social Media
Okay, so this sign doesn’t apply to every guy on the planet. That’s because not everyone takes interest in social media or uses it. However, if a guy is tagging you in memes or snapping you on and off all day that is a good way to identify his feelings for you. Most guys won’t take the time to do that stuff with girls they don’t really like.
Sign #16.) He’s Chivalrous
A friend may make you open the door for yourself, but a guy who likes you will typically (at first anyways!) open the door for you. He will walk you home at night to make sure you get there safely. He may even come to your honor when someone offends you.
Sign #17.) His Body Language Says It All
It’s proven that when two people feel in sync romantically they will start to mimic each other’s behaviors. When you shift your position, does he as well? When you walk fast does he also speed up? Keep an eye out for any of these things to help you identify whether he really likes you or not.
Sign #18.) He Makes Plans With You
And not in the, “Hey, want to get ice cream next week?” kind of way. More in a, “Do you want to be my date to my sister’s wedding in June?” kind of way. When someone feels intensely about someone else they will start making plans in the more distant future with them. That’s because they feel committed to the bond that is shared between them. They don’t plan on you going anywhere anytime soon! That’s a great sign, don’t you think?
Sign #19.) He Kisses You
It’s pretty safe to say that he likes you as more than a friend if he plants a big one on your lips. But the way to tell the difference between a lustful kiss and a romantic kiss is by paying attention to the way he does it. Did he set up a good atmosphere? Was it slow, polite and charming? Or was it quick, sloppy and in a subpar atmosphere? The latter means he doesn’t really like you that much, but that he is just lusting after you.
Sign #20.) He’s Your Support System and You Are His
The final sign that a guy has begun to like you as more than just a friend is that he makes himself emotionally available to you. That’s difficult for a lot of men to do if they don’t like you on a more personal level. They don’t tend to open up to just anyone that says hey. They will reserve opening themselves up like that for someone they care about deeply. They will also become your support system and be there for you when you need to emotionally open up to someone, too. They won’t turn you away and they will be your shoulder to cry on in times of need.