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The Most Alarming Signs Your Husband Doesn’T Love You Anymore

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Whether you have been married for a couple months, a couple years or a couple decades, there are going to be times that you start to question if your relationship is stable or not. We all do it, even those of us out there who have been married for a very long time. It’s normal to wonder if your partner loves you just as much today as he did when he got down on one knee for you. Although it’s a sad thought, it’s a common one.

There’s no need to jump to conclusions, though. Although we think we are ‘at one’ with our partners, they are still completely separate people from us. As much as we’d like to believe we can read their minds, we simply don’t have the magic to do so.

That’s why it’s crucial to think about the signs that come along with a relationship in turmoil.

Just because he stopped doing the dishes as much or forgot to give you a kiss when you got home doesn’t always mean that he suddenly stop loving you.

There are certain things that you should keep an eye out for if you have suspicions that your husband is falling out of love with you.

So what are these certain things?

Check out these 15 different signs to be on the lookout for when trying to decide if your husband doesn’t love you anymore.

  1. He Becomes Less Intimate
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One of the most important things in a relationship is physical connection. Although emotional connectivity is extremely critical to maintain, it’s just as crucial to keep strong intimacy in your partnership. They say that with marriage comes the end of your sex life. That’s simply not true at all.

Happy marriages often have strong physical connectedness even until both people involved are old and gray. It’s a myth that the elderly don’t have intercourse. Even when they get into their later stages of life, happy couples tend to continue to do the dirty deed. As long as they don’t have health related issues preventing them from doing so, that is.

If your husband previously was intimate with you five times a week and suddenly it turns into a big whopping zero times weekly, then you might have cause for concern.

Disconnecting emotionally can lead to less intimacy and therefore is a bad sign when it comes to marriage.

2. He Communicates With You Less

Communication is an essential key in any relationship. You have made vows to be with one another for eternity, so giving up the conversation is a bad sign, especially in newlyweds. It’s more common to see long-term couples have fewer discussions. However, if he stops communicating with you 85% of the time, you can incorporate that to mean something isn’t going well between you.

He should be telling you about his day, his dreams, his feelings, etc.

Silence isn’t only uncomfortable, it’s often the first sign in a failing relationship. Not continuing to strengthen your bond with communication will inevitably lead it to weaken and eventually it will fade away.



3. He Doesn’t Make Time For You

Sure, he might be a busy guy. Between school/work and hanging with his family/friends, it might be hard to make a plan to spend quality time together. That’s understandable. But if he has suddenly wiped you off his schedule and refuses to put you back on it anytime soon, it’s a problem.

A wedded pair cannot maintain a healthy partnership if they don’t spend time together.

Of course you live together, but take it as a red flag if you’re only seeing him when he crawls into bed to fall asleep.

Have you noticed he’s suddenly making plans with the gang every other day? Does he have a lot of business dinners and engagements that you are, for some weird reason, not invited to? He may just be finding any excuse to avoid spending time with you.

However, if he is making an effort to have dinners with you or plan dates, you shouldn’t really worry. He may just be busy, but at least he’s still fitting in time to spend with you.

4. He Doesn’t Check In

Remember when you were first dating and he would call you on your lunch break to see how you are doing? That’s something that doesn’t usually stop, just because you got married. Your husband should be concerned with how you are doing throughout the day, just like you are concerned about him.

It’s absolutely healthy to have space, but too much space and too many vague conversations usually point to trouble.

Take it as a bad sign especially if you are gone out of state or overnight and he doesn’t check in with you at all.

5. He Stopped Missing You

When you are married, you tend to miss your spouse when they are gone. You want to spend as much time with them as possible, so not having them around makes it feel like something is missing.

It’s annoying to receive ‘I miss you’ texts every ten minutes, but one here and there is a nice surprise.

When you come home at the end of the day, your partner should tell you at some point that they missed you. Even if they don’t outright say it, they will show it in their affection towards you.

If your husband no longer shows any signs of missing you when you are gone, he may not love you as much as you thought.

6. He Won’t Open Up To You

Marriage is described as a sacred bond between two people. They connect on multiple levels. Your spouse should be the person you look to when you have something important to say. When someone stops opening up about personal things, it usually means that they have started guarded themselves. That is a terrible sign in any relationship, let alone a marriage.

7. He No Longer Does His Part

A marriage is like a well-oiled machine. You need all the parts cooperating together to run smoothly. However, if one part stops, the other one has to take the brunt of the excess work and usually stops working at some point.

Just like a part in a machine, a husband who stops doing his part risks the entire marriage falling apart. You are a team and should be doing things together. No one should be cleaning the house, running the errands or taking care of the kids by themselves if both partners are present.

If your husband stops trying to take care on his ends of things, it could mean that he simply lost interest in maintaining a life with you.

8. He Cheats

There’s no doubt that if he is cheating on you, he doesn’t truly love you anymore. You don’t cheat on someone that you love.

9. He Takes You For Granted

In a real marriage, both parties will never purposely take advantage of each other. Having your husband take you for granted is a terrible thought, but it is something he might do if he doesn’t love you anymore. He simply may not care about your feelings any longer. This might mean that he doesn’t mind using you to get things done or obtain money.

Take it as an even worse sign if he doesn’t seem to mind if these things put extra stress on you or upset you.

10. He Forgets Important Information

When you are in love with someone, you don’t typically forget the things that are important to them. You don’t seem to forget that they have a peanut allergy, because you no it can make them sick and you want them as healthy as possible.

You also won’t forget their birthday, because it is important to you to celebrate it with them.

But when you fall out of love with your spouse, you tend to stop giving a crap about them.

If your husband is falling out of love with you, he will forget anniversaries, birthdays and other important info.

11. He Doesn’t Surprise You

Have you noticed that the only time you get a gift is on a special occasion? And even then they aren’t very well thought out? That could definitely be a sign that your husband no longer has feelings for you. When you love someone you like to make them happy. That’s why you buy them their favorite candy when you stop to get gas or bring them flowers just because. Of course, you can’t expect to be spoiled, but it is a negative thing if the gifts and surprises stop completely.

12. He Is Annoyed By You

When you are head over heels for your lover, you will find them tolerable in most situations. Even when you wouldn’t tolerate someone you aren’t romantically involved with doing them. It’s not a good thing if you find that your spouse is suddenly annoyed by everything you do. From the way you talk to the way you cook dinner. Keep an eye out to see if this is happening more often, because it could mean that he doesn’t love you anymore.

13. He Stops Grooming Himself

Although being with someone for a long time can lead both parties to let go a little bit, there is a concern when one partner stops trying entirely. Even if you have been together for years, he should still try to keep himself cleanly for you. He should still wear his ‘nice’ shirt when you go out one on one. He will continue to try and impress you.

If you notice that he stops doing this, he may have disconnected from the relationship.

14. He Doesn’t Make Eye Contact

When things are nearing an end for one person, they lose interest in maintaining any sort of connection with their partner. If you start losing his eye contact, be wary.

15. He Isn’t Willing To Change

When something is bothering you, you should feel like you are able to tell your husband. The hope is that they will take what you said to heart, knowing that it is hurting you, and try to change. However, if your husband starts ignoring all your requests for change, he may not care about keeping the relationship going.

An extremely bad sign is if you request counseling for your marriage and he refuses to go.

58 COMMENTS

  1. You’ve literally described my marriage. I’ve desperately tried to change things and open up to my spouse about how I feel, and it has resulted in me feeling more lonely, alone and just plain stupid. A good process, however, as I now know there is no hope that things will ever change.

    • Take this time to determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak directly and honestly with your partner about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Attempt to strengthen your relationships with your family and friends at this time. Have a great day, Learning!

      • Thank you for sharing your positive comment. Please feel free to share more of your insights and experiences in the future. Have a great day, Missey!

    • My old man 👴 displays 10 out of the 15 signs, our marriage has been a roller coaster for 2 years now, he’s such a dick head at times, I’m soooooooo fed up with him

      • Thank you for sharing your insights and experiences. Please feel free to share more of your thoughts and feelings in the future. Have a great day, Ann!

    • Take this time to determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. If you find that he continues to treat you poorly, then focus your emotional energy on your family and friends. Have a great day, Missey!

  2. I can tick most of these signs off but my DH always shoves it off like I am crazy. I know he will probably tell me I am imagining things and just avoid the conversation altogether. He also has an obsession with wanting to prove he is the man in the house although I doubt he has any idea what it means and he has a total misunderstanding of biblical scripture stating the woman must be submissive. I am so tired and I don’t feel loved.

    • It sounds as though you are dealing with neglect based on a religious teaching. Take this time to determine what you think is appropriate for your relationship. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. If he ignores your or treats you poorly, then strengthen your relationships with you friends and family. If you decide that your relationship has run its course, then focus your emotional attention elsewhere. Have a great day, Derelle!

    • Same. Nearly all but one I can check off. And you’re spot on with the having some need to be the man of the house. The only thing I can add is everything is a competition with him. It’s like a constant battle of him having to be right. Down to simple things. I find myself often saying “honey why are you getting upset I’m literally agreeing with you”. Or “Honey I’m just trying to have a conversation with you not argue. I’m not starting anything just saying I’ve never seen it (insert random fact here like the placement of a breaker box) that way.”

      This morning I placed his hand on my inner thigh and he waited about 30 seconds before whipping his hand away and saying “well I need to go take a good shit….you want coffee or anything” as he ran to the door. I asked him to wait a second so I could tell him I wasn’t asking for the D (it’s been 2 1/2 years) just a little affection AND THEN I APOLOGIZED! Wtf is wrong with me 😭💔
      I feel so broken and lonely in this marriage…

      • Your relationship sounds as though there are some physical difficulties. There may be reasons why he is acting in this manner. Take this time to determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Ali!

        • Communication between us is stagnant. I try to engage in conversation about important issues or anything that pertains to us he shuts me down by saying these conversations can’t be sporadic or planned but have to happen organically.he gets visably annoyed with me. The only thing I can talk to him about is short conversations like what do you want for dinner. Would you like to do something together. For nearly a year now the answers are always, I don’t know can’t think about that right now and sure maybe later or not really. If I “press the issue” or show I’m disappointed he gets irritated. The only time I seem to make him happy is when I keep my thoughts to myself and look happy even if I feel like I’m dying on the inside. I told him tonight I worry about our future together because I feel like we’re drifting apart even more. He’s response was ” here we go with this shit again” the last time I brought it up was 2 months ago. I wrote it in my journal. I’m hurting so much right now, I love him and don’t know if I have it in me to leave. I cry and choke up at the very thought of separating. At the same time I feel like I’m losing my mind because he tells me I remember things wrong, maybe I am. I just don’t know what to do.

          • It is possible that your partner’s feelings have changed. He may be unwilling to properly nourish a relationship with you. Take this time to determine what you believe is acceptable for your relationship. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Ali!

          • That’s gaslighting dear. Look it up. Stop doubting yourself. You aren’t crazy. You have good instincts. Trust them and yourself. You can face this.

          • Thank you for sharing your insights and experiences. Please feel free to share more of your thoughts and feelings in the future. Have a great day, S!

  3. I don’t usually post anything on websites but I’m about to blast my relationship issues because quite frankly this site hit way too close to home, and I also have no friends and family isn’t really there except for around the holidays. I’ve been with my husband for 5 years married for 1. We’ve been through some very very hard times; he lost his baby brother in a motorcycle accident we’ve had to build ourselves up from nothing I lost in a custody dispute with my ex (we have joint custody and I had to fight his patents in court too because he’s a drug addict) we’re being sued by car hop etc. Major things. I know he loves me but he doesn’t help me with anything we both have full time jobs, we both care for our 2 year old, and he is involved with my daughter when I have her as well. But I’m the only one that does our budgeting, cleaning, laundry, yard work, organization, dishes, running errands, doctor appointments, I’m the one that mostly cooks, if our pipes freeze in the winter I’m the one under our trailer with a blow dryer, we smoke cigarettes but we roll them ourselves he helps with that but that’s pretty much it. Not to mention I need surgery on my foot, I have nerve damage in my back legs arms (all connected to whatever is wrong with my back) and I can’t bend or put pressure on my dominate wrist. He’s extremely jealous and we pay $100 a week in daycare flat rate. I like to use daycare even if I have the day off ( for 1 were paying for it either way, and for 2 who doesn’t need a break). I get a lot done when I’m alone, I don’t have a toddler taking everything I’m doing apart and I don’t have a husband telling me “that doesn’t have to be done right now” I tried to use daycare today to work on a dollhouse I got for my daughter for Christmas my husband told me he’ll let her know Zachary’s not coming to daycare and left for work. This happens every time I have a day off and want to use daycare. If he allows me to use it I get constant texts asking me what I’m doing or why it takes so long for me to answer if I didn’t realize he texted. I expressed how he’s making me feel: untrusted, betrayed in a sense, overwhelmed, stressed, depressed, exhausted, etc. Now we’re arguing and guess who’s to blame. He tells me things like I need to spend time with my son and I’m too busy for my family. In reality I’m just stretched too thin. I try to spend time with my family but mostly ends up me doing dishes while the kids play or something along those lines, Im only able to give about a hour a day of undivided attention. I love him and don’t want to leave but he refuses to help me out in any way and even when he does finally start to help or consider the way I feel it only lasts maybe a week at most. I still keep doing things for him my goal everyday is that he can come home to a clean house a good dinner and not have to worry about anything so we can spend time together as a family. I know I’ve brought a lot of this on myself by having that daily goal but we’ve talked about that and he offers to help but hardly ever does. Oh and as for gift giving forget it. Total for him for Christmas I spent probably $75 to $100 on him, I ordered myself another $3 wedding ring because my $12 ring I have now is pretty much copper now and pinches me because i couldn’t have it sized. Merry Christmas to me, yay! He’s telling everyone that was his present for me. Last time I got a rose ( yes one single rose but when I asked what he was sorry for he said nothing their just expensive) was a few months ago after an argument where I told him he shows me no affection and doesn’t even buy me flowers anymore. Any advice or insight would be very much appreciated and helpful.

    • It sounds as though you have many experiences that need to be addressed in your relationship. Take this time to determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak directly and honestly with your partner about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. If this relationship continues to degrade, then focus your emotional energy on your friends as family. Have a great day, Heather!

  4. All the descriptions above sum my relationship status.
    This is sad. I don’t know what to do anymore. I want to leave, but there is something that kept me in this relationship and I don’t know what. Maybe I still love him, I don’t know if I do.
    We both financial stable, but our relationship is a mess. He cheated on my for 6 weeks and treating me like I’m just a maid in the past couple years, specially in front of his friends. It’s very painful. I tried to talk about this to him, but all he does is ignoring all my concerns.
    He already said 6 times that he wanted me leave and divorce. But I still want to try to work this out. From the way he act, I think he does have a bipolar disorder, but he doesn’t want to admitted.
    I already talked to him and wanting just to be friend and just be nice to each other, but he said he wants to work this relationship. He wanted me to forget about his relationship with the other lady and drop everything and move on. But I still unable to forgive him, it hurts to the core of my heart.
    I just want to run away sometimes, but I don’t want to leave because of the security that we have for our future. I also think if we separated, I will lose both of my dogs because he will try his best to take them away from me. I’m alone in this country, I don’t have family around that support me and give me love, attention, and affection that I need as a human being.

    We are going to vacation in 1 week, in my mind I’m thinking to be nice to him for this vacation and come back, and I’m thinking to leave after that. Because I don’t know if I can stand the pain and the way he will treat me in the future. It’s just been very hurtful and I don’t think he will change or he will try to change to make things better between us. I can see on his eyes that there is no more love left for me.

    • It is clear that he is abusing you and neglecting you. Take this time to determine if you believe his inappropriate actions are acceptable to you. Take this time to strengthen your relationships with your friends and family. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. If he chooses to treat your poorly, then take appropriate action. Best of luck, Cecil!

  5. This is exactly what my marriage is now. We’ve been together for so many years and we always got along great. One time I disagreed with the worst decision he ever made all alone and that hurt me so much. He hasn’t been the same person who I married since then. It started with emotional abuse, psychological abuse and quickly escalated to physical. The name calling is horrible and he talks about our marriage to Everyone who will listen. He constantly says that everything bad that happens here is always my fault, that I make things up and lie – it was never like this. That one day, he didn’t even try to make it work after that, I’m disabled and can’t stand this anymore but I also have no where to go. I’m stuck in the worst situation I’ve Ever been in or heard about. Thanks for listening, no one else will, not here and not to me.

    • Thank you for sharing your experiences and insights. Because of your disability, it may be difficult for you to reach out to your friends and family. Attempt to focus your emotional energy on your family. There may be help for you with the government. Best of luck, Shirl!

  6. 4,5,9 and 12. But some of these things have always been the norm because he’s a loner. I constantly question whether he’s lost love for me and he says no, but then he nitpicks everything like #12 references.

    • Take this time to determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Decide if you believe that his actions are appropriate for your relationship. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Taylor!

  7. I am going thru a lot of these. Makes me question myself as a women. I tried talking to him how i felt. He just said i was with him for the sex. Mind you I just asked for more than 1 every two weeks as we are newly married and dont feel the spark should be going out so quickly. I feel like I have to beg him to even think about me sexually. It has gotten to the point where i do not want sex any longer with him.

    • If you are no longer interested in maintaining a physical relationship with this person, then take this time to determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Determine if you believe that his actions are appropriate. If you feel as though you would not be sexually satisfied in this relationship, then decide if his companionship is what you desire. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Tricia!

  8. Also am facing bad condition,where am staying with children of my husband and it reach to time he is not give us money not even caring about me and is abusing me ,beating me and told me that the unborn baby which am waiting is not even his

    • He is abusing you. If you are able to leave, then leave immediately. Take this time to strengthen your relationship with your family and friends. Abuse not only damages you, but also your children. Leave as soon as possible. Contact the authorities and visit the hospital if you are currently injured. Have a great day, Mukagatare!

  9. My husband has been ignoring me for three days, following an argument. Ive tried reaching out but nothing. It hurts, I feel like a prisoner in my own home

    • Take this time to strengthen your relationship with your friends and family. Take this time to determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Joy!

  10. My husband pretty much fits the bill here, he has no eye contact, ever, never shows any non sexual affection. He constantly lies and covers up everything that he thinks is questionable, hides his drinking, even though I know he drinks too much and have never demanded him to stop. I’ve only asked him to take better care of himself for our future. He does not do anything I ask(meet my needs that I specifically ask) he just throws out excuses or begins to criticize me in an effort to deflect , I guess. Just the other day I asked him why he can’t ever tell me “your beautiful ” his response ( very angrily) “I don’t say that to anyone”!!!!!! Oh ok, we’ll never mind then. He doesn’t care that I’m hurting so bad from our lack of closeness and all his lying has broken any trust left that I have had in him. 31 years of lies and throwing things back in my face and screaming at me , throwing and breaking things when he doesn’t want to communicate!!!! I can’t take it anymore! But my grown children want us to stay together and would be very upset if we divorced. He says he doesn’t want a divorce but he will not do anything to assure me that he is in love with me. I feel hopeless.

    • Speak directly and honestly with your children. Explain his action and behavior to them. However, if you are being abused and neglected, then you need to take action. End this relationship. If your children are adults, then they should respect your position. It important that take care of yourself and your self worth. Have a great day, Carol!

  11. All of the above is my husband. Two weeks after our one year anniversary he said he wanted a divorce, that he didn’t love me anymore. He said the last 3 months of our marriage he was sick of the arguing.I found out he has been talking to another women. That same day I took a handful of sleeping pills and went to the hospital. This is the lowest ive ever felt in my life. I am so devastated I can hardly breathe and he could care less. Everything is my fault and he wont even go to counseling. I never ever thought this man would treat me like this. I just don’t know what to do.

    • He has chosen to treat you with disrespect. He is unwilling or unable to nourish a relationship with you at this time. Take this time to strengthen your emotional connection with you friends and family. Decide if his actions are acceptable for this relationship. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Joyce!

  12. My husband does everything except cheat. I know he isn’t doing that cause there’s no signs of it. But when I fix up with full makeup and cute clothes he doesn’t hardly pay attention. So most days I just wear no makeup and sweats cause what’s the point when he doesn’t notice when I’m fixed up? He does not compliment me anymore and there for about 5 1/2 months he gamed so much that he never knew if I was in the room with him. He hardly communicated then and still hardly communicates now. I’m in the process of getting a job after some health issues and he thinks I’m lying. He smarts off to me and for once in our marriage I’d just love to hear him say he appreciates me or that he believes in me. I have a dream I’m wanting to fulfill but how can I when the one person I need support from won’t support me? I’m still going to try to shoot for that dream but I just crave for my husband to love me like he used to.

    • It is possible that his feelings have altered. He may be uncertain or confused about his feelings. Take this time to determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Determine what actions you believe are acceptable. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Kaitlyn!

  13. I’m in the same boat my husband hasn’t told me he loved me for five years now..for a year now he can go more than a month without the deed I have to literally beg him anything happens to me I tell him he always blames me like I crashed the truck I passed out driving I got yelled at he totaled his truck drunk driving and I told him see everyone makes mistakes and he yelled at me for even saying anything to him.. he doesn’t care I’ve had two bras for 6 months now I every holiday I buy for him and he never buys for me this was our first anniversary I asked him to take me to my favorite restaurant he promised I got ready he got home instead I looked like a fool dressed nicely and a sitter paid for for nothing he didn’t even say I was pretty.. I cut my hair thinking he would look at me all he said oh u cut your hair I’m sick of it

    • It is possible that his feelings for your have changed. He may be confused or uncertain about his feelings. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. If you want to remain in this relationship, then do so. Take this time to strengthen your relationships with your friends and family. Speak directly and honestly with your partner at this time. Best of luck, Santiago!

  14. We have been together for 21 years. We have not been intimate for 17 years. He blames my weight and so do I. I can’t do anything right and when I point it out to him on how he makes me feel he says that I’m always judging him. What? He complains about how I hand a cashier money at the supermarket. Put the money in their hand. He tells me not to say “Thank you, my friend”. When I thank a complete stranger. He complaints about my driving when he refuses to drive because he’s tired. He undermines my contribution to our household. I dust, I clean, I cut the lawn, do the laundry. Take our puppies to their vet appointments and groomers. I also work a full time job and he says that I don’t help enough financially when is because of my job we have medical insurance. So more money comes out every week to pay for it. I have no money saved up. How do I start to get out of this unhappy marriage? I wouldn’t know where to start.

    • It is clear that he has chosen to treat you without respect. Strengthen your relationships with your family and friends at this time. It is clear that you not longer want to nourish this relationship. Save your money and attempt to end this relationship if appropriate. Have a great day, Broken!

  15. I have been married to my husband for almost 28 years. During this time, I have been cheated on, ignored, yelled at, and have done everything in this relationship for him. I am tired. I have asked for him to leave and he pouts and refuses to go.I have asked for him to go to marriage counseling. He says he will go. Then he goes and refuses to talk. I dont want to be treated like this anymore. I told him that I will no longer be cheated on, even emotionally,I wont be lied to, I won’t have him be secretative or have no communication. I told him if he is willing to do these things that I will stay. That this is a yes or no answer not an I don’t know answer just to get out of answering the question. He still said I don’t know. I told him that since he wont make a choice I will for him. I think he was shocked because I didn’t beg for his answer over and over again while he made me wait for it. I just said then I will make it. It’s been a few days and he is angry. I asked him why did you say I don’t know. He wouldn’t answer me. He told me he doesn’t want a divorce. But he has never done anything to show me that he doesnt. He thinks that if he just waits and treats me nice that I will forget the last 28 years of heartbreak and sadness. That I will just given in again. I give him a chance. He says he will do anything not to get a divorce. I tell him get a marriage counselor. He has until Monday night to contact one and set up an appointment. I told him no exceptions. I will not give him another life saver. I wonder what excuse he will give me.

    • You have made the correction decision. He has treated you without respect and has chosen to not attempt to nourish your relationship. Continue on the path that you have chosen. Continue to set high standards for your relationships. Have a great day, Christine!

  16. My boy friend of 6 years say that I nag him all he do is come home get a cold one and fall to sleep don’t come for lunch we argue a lot I accuse him of someone else we SLEEP in different room when we do SLEEP together

    • Your relationship has reached a point where the two of you rarely speak, argue often, and sleep in different beds. Take this time to determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Cassandra!

  17. Sounds like my life in 15 little nutshells. I don’t want to even talk about it with him. I will be made out to be the crazy one. Never pleased blah blah but all I really want is to feelnof value to feel of worth. I will not place my happiness any longer on the actions of how he makes me feel. It’s up to me to be happy. Is it even possible to be happy and in a loveless narcissistic relationship? I don’t know. I’m probably the one who deserved this lonely life and if it weren’t for my kids I’d just give up. I don’t know what good it does to keep out Family together and show our kids an example of what love and marriage is because they will not learn it from us obviously. it. Iv been neglected so long I don’t even care. I’m emotionally dead. My kids are old enough to see it. Two side with him because he makes me look crazy my oldest sees it for what it is and asked me why I put up with it. I’m scared that my kids will be so emotionally shut down in their adult life because that is what we are.

    • This relationship has influenced you to find this article. This may be a reason for you to think about this relationship and what you want for your future. You may want to determine how this relationship is influencing your children. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. Speak directly and honestly with your husband about your thoughts and feelings. If he ignores you, then that is his way of sharing his thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Meeema!

    • It is possible that his actions are due to reasons outside of your relationship. He may be confused or uncertain about his feelings regarding your relationship. If you find that he does not respect you or neglects you, then focus your emotional energy elsewhere. Strengthen your relationship with your friends and family. Speak directly and honestly with your partner about your thoughts and feelings. Best of luck, Moni!

  18. I’m sitting here reading this with my husband in the same room just feet away , and I’m trying really hard to not cry . We have been together 20 years and married twice . The second time just for fun . I didn’t have s dress the first time so I got one and surprised him . When I walked out , one of his friends was just leaving and totally ruined the big reveal ! It killed me and embarrassed me to stand there all dolled up in a beautiful dress to be unnoticed . If feels like that was the turning point but I’m sure it was well before , just didn’t want to see it . Almost all the signs are there . He only complains about everything to do with me . Sex ? What’s that . It’s been 3 months ! We found our way to that the other day and it was awful ! I’d rather not at this point . I’m so afraid of what I or he will do . I was a very sexual loving giving affectionate person but feel like I’m dead inside .
    So unhappy 🙁

    • Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings. You are aware of his actions and your feelings. It is possible that he is confused or uncertain about his feelings toward you. It is clear that you should take this time to determine what you want for your future. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. You may want to take this time to strengthen your relationships with your friends and family. Have a great day, Lisa!

  19. I’m at this point with my husband too! I don’t think he’s cheating but other than that, he fits the rest completely. He told me he felt I neglected him because I didn’t go to bed with him when he went to lay down each night. He gets up earlier than I do and would go to lay down right after dinner most nights and I was still up cleaning up the kitchen, taking care of the pets, finishing up laundry and making lunches for the kids for the next morning. He has never helped me with any house chores. In my eyes, I was taking care of my family, him included, not neglecting him. Not to mention I’d take time out to rub his tired feet and he had the nerve to complain about that too. Said that there were times he asked me to rub his feet when I was in the middle of a house chore and because I told him to let me finish this then I would, maybe 15 – 20 minutes later, it was still not good enough. He told me back in the early part of January that he wasn’t happy and that he didn’t know if he was in love with me anymore. He’s started a fishing business almost 4 hours away from home so he’s gone Thursday through Sunday. He’s home every Monday night and Wednesday night. Every Tuesday he goes to dinner with his buddies, but he can’t have dinner with me or us go on a date. I’ve asked and asked and he refuses to do anything with me. The last time we even had a date night was the first week in January and he didn’t hardly talk to me. Actually, that was the last time I’ve rode anywhere with him in his truck. So it’s to a point where we live separate lives. I’ve made every attempt to change what he said bothers him about me and it’s still not doing any good. I even use my lunch hours to finish up laundry and run errands so I am home to spend more time with him and go to bed earlier and that is still not good enough. The last time we were close he told me he still had his needs…. WHAT?!?! Really? Did he really just tell me that? So I’ve been waiting on him to decide if he can get past his feelings and make this work since January and he still doesn’t know what he wants to do. He even interviewed for a job out of town last week which would have him moving and not being home at all. I’ve done everything for this man. I’m devastated and hurt beyond all measures. I’ve cried so much it’s even hard to shed a tear now. All I feel is numb inside and stressed to the max. My doctor even put me on Zoloft to help with my anxiety and depression from all of this. My world has literally crashed before my eyes. I don’t feel he values me at all, and that he doesn’t want to be around me at all, which is very obvious. I don’t know if I should just pull the plug and tell him it’s over or wait for him to make the decision. And if he decided to stay, I don’t see him spending any time with me after that. I don’t know what to do. We’ve been together for 6 years and only married for 2 years. I’m so heartbroken…

    • He has chosen to disrespect you and not nourish a relationship with you. You have realized that his actions have harmed you and influenced you to turn to drug use. Determine what you want for your future. Decide what is appropriate for your relationship and what is viable for your life. Take appropriate action. Have a great day, JB!

  20. Although I’m not married my boyfriend and I have a son together we’ve been together for about 4 years now I feel like this applies to me like #7 that’s exactly how i feel and he doesn’t show me any kind of appreciation or affection

    • There may be a variety of reasons for his actions. Determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. If he does not treat you with respect, then decide what kind of relationship you want your child to see as he develops. Have a great day, Know!

  21. Although I’m not married my boyfriend and I have a son together we’ve been together for about 4 years now I feel like this applies to me like #7 that’s exactly how i feel and he doesn’t show me any kind of appreciation or affection

    • There may be a variety of reasons for his actions. Determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. If he does not treat you with respect, then decide what kind of relationship you want your child to see as he develops. Have a great day, Trina!

  22. I feel the same way. He doesnt have any love left for me. We were in a long distance relationship and got married. After living together for a whole whole year he would only look for my mistakes. I tried so hard i changed for him. We had lots of fights and arguments. He sent me back to where i used to live . We had a huge arguement and after that he is just not the same anymore. He says ive hurt and broken his trust when in realty i just opened my social media and posted a video of the beach. He feels betrayed because he is not into social media.

    • The two of you are no longer living together and you feel that he does not respect you. It is certainly possible that you are no longer interested in nourishing a relationship with him. Determine what you want for your future and decide what is appropriate. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him a chance to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Anon!

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