It doesn’t seem to matter how long you are together with your spouse, there are times where you still catch yourself wondering if they still love you as much as they did on day 1 of the relationship. It’s a horrible thought, but it’s inevitable. Everyone finds themselves questioning the strength of their marriage at one point or another.
It’s extremely important to remind yourself not to jump the gun when it comes to deciding if all is lost.
That means not being assumptive about how your partner is feeling.
The two of you are a partnership, but that doesn’t mean that you can feel what they are feeling or peek into their mind anytime you want.
It’s all about observation.
Just because she forgets to feed your dog that one time or doesn’t pick up your favorite ice cream from the store doesn’t necessarily mean that she’s falling out of love with you.
You have to know exactly what to look for when it comes to deciding if your marriage is nearing its end.
Now you are probably thinking, ‘Well, duh! That’s why I’m on the internet searching for answers.’
That’s why we have this list of 15 signs that help you identify when your wife doesn’t love you anymore.
- She Stops Sharing
One of the most brutal signs that a relationship is failing is when one party decides they no longer want to co-own with their partner any longer. That means to look out for the times she doesn’t want to purchase a new couch with you or that she doesn’t feel comfortable getting a new pet with you. Those are both bad signals that tell you she doesn’t plan on sticking around to take responsibility for those things together, with you. If you notice that your wife is suddenly assigning bills in her name only, you might want to consider that she doesn’t love you any longer.
2. She Stays Silent
You can’t always be chatting with each other, especially if you have been together for a long time. However, when dinner and dates start becoming silent, it could be deadly to your relationship. Women are more talkative than men and they don’t usually disappoint when it comes to keeping the conversation alive. There seems to always be something on their minds. So, if your wife suddenly goes dead silent, be worried. It could mean that she is mad at you, but if you can’t identify any problems and she continues to do it, it could mean she doesn’t have interest in talking with you anymore.
3. She’s Always Cranky… With You
When you love someone, you don’t typically act hostile towards them all the time. Maybe if they do something that really irks you, but if you notice that she’s suddenly irritated with you constantly it could mean that she isn’t enjoying your presence. Women tend to be more vocal than men when something is bothering them, so if she doesn’t love or like you, she might start acting frustrated with everything you are doing. Does the sound of you just chewing or breathing annoy her? Does she suddenly hate the way you say something or do something, that she didn’t previously mind? That’s not very common in a healthy, happy relationship.
4. She Doesn’t Want To Listen
A healthy marriage consists of two people always doing their best to hear each other out when one of them has a gripe. However, if one of the spouses loses their feelings for the other, it’s common that they will stop actively listening to them.
Your wife should always be there to listen to what you have to say and try to help you get through it; just as you should always be there for her in the same way. When she stops doing that, it’s an indication she isn’t as in love with you as you may have thought.
Communication and listening are crucial factors in maintaining any relationship. Without them, the connection has no choice but to crumble, because it no longer has a foundation to stand on.
5. She Isn’t Intimate With You
Intimacy is the glue that holds a marriage together, right next to communication. They are both important, but physical connection is almost more important. Otherwise you would essentially be in a relationship with a very good friend, instead of a lover. Contrary to prior belief, sex doesn’t stop when you get married. Some even say that it only gets better. Happy married couples even have sex into their eighties and nineties, if their health allows them to do so!
Having kids may put a damper on things for awhile, but if you notice that intercourse, cuddles or kissing stops altogether, it may be because your wife is no longer in love with you.
Sex tends to stop when the emotional bond does.
6. She Focuses On Herself
Of course you want your wife to focus on her life and her career. Although you are a partnership, you are still two different individuals who need time to worry about themselves. But if you notice that your wife is suddenly only worried about herself, it could be a bad thing.
When you are married, you should be focused on both people involved in the relationship.
That means being there for your spouse when they need you, cheering them on when they are trying to accomplish something and also giving them the attention they need to do well in their lives.
When someone falls out of love, they don’t continue to focus on the person they have disconnected with. They will start to focus only on themselves, because they know that soon they will be on their own.
Selfishness in a relationship is often a sign that it is no longer working out.
7. She Doesn’t Check On You
Obviously things will change after your marriage becomes less new. As time goes on, communication will become less, but it should never stop completely. When you care about someone, you have the urge to see how they are doing throughout the day.
You might have cause to be concerned if your wife no longer texts or calls you to check up on you when you are gone for long periods of time.
Did she know that you had an important presentation today and didn’t call to see how it went?
If so, that signals that she has stopped caring about what you are up to.
Space is great in a relationship, but too much is fatal to your bond.
8. She Cheats
Cheating is always a sign that someone has stopped loving you. No one who harbors powerful feelings for their partner would do such a thing to them. So if she cheats, you can be sure she doesn’t love you anymore.
9. She Takes Advantage Of You
Love, especially in a marriage, is all about give and take. It should never be only give. If you notice that she starts to take from you more than she gives, it’s a bad sign. A relationship should be about equality and both parties doing their part. However, if she doesn’t love you anymore, she may try to take advantage of you. When she stops doing her part and puts all the responsibility on you, it’s clear that she no longer cares about stressing you out or making your life more difficult.
10. She Doesn’t Have Time For You
The one great thing about being married is that you get to spend all the time in the world with your best friend. That’s why when your spouse stops making time for you, it’s one of the worst signs there are.
It’s okay to be worried if she starts making her friends and work a priority over you. That often means that she is trying to avoid you.
You both lead separate lives, but when she chooses not to include you in hers at all it means that she doesn’t want to continue to strengthening your bond.
11. She Doesn’t Want To Fix Anything
When you fall out of love with someone you don’t always want to take the time to fix what’s broken. You feel as if there’s no saving it, because you have already checked out of the relationship.
So if you notice that your wife is refusing to fix your marriage, when you make it apparent to her that something is wrong, then it may be time to accept she doesn’t want to make it better.
When you love someone, you continue to put all your best effort forth to make it work, not give up on it.
12. She Doesn’t Let You In
Most women, not all, are pretty emotional creatures. Of course men can be, too. However, when a woman doesn’t want to open up to you about what’s on her mind, it’s more of a critical sign than when a man does it.
Has she stopped talking about her future? Does she avoid talking about what’s upsetting her? Has she suddenly built an emotional barrier between you?
Those are all signs that she doesn’t want to be in the marriage anymore.
13. She Stops Paying Attention
Forgetting to do a favor for you is one thing, but forgetting an important event or engagement that you told her about is a whole different thing. When she stops trying to remember important information you have mentioned, it’s clear that she simply doesn’t care.
14. She Has High Expectations
You shouldn’t have any high or unrealistic expectations about your partner. When you got married to each other, you both made vows to accept one another for who you are. It’s a negative indication if she is suddenly displeased with something about you that you can’t easily change.
15. She Talks About Someone Else
Suddenly hearing a lot about ‘Jerry from work’ or the ‘nice guy at the gym’ is always a bad sign. Even more so if you find it’s a topic being brought up continuously. When she puts too much focus on someone else, outside of your marriage, it means that she isn’t thinking of you during these times. She may also be forming relationships with others, because she is not interested in continuing yours. That doesn’t mean she can’t have a male friend here or there. It’s only a bad sign if you notice she is obsessively talking about someone or spending time with them.