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15 Signs Your Wife Doesn’t Love You Anymore

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It doesn’t seem to matter how long you are together with your spouse, there are times where you still catch yourself wondering if they still love you as much as they did on day 1 of the relationship. It’s a horrible thought, but it’s inevitable. Everyone finds themselves questioning the strength of their marriage at one point or another.

It’s extremely important to remind yourself not to jump the gun when it comes to deciding if all is lost.

That means not being assumptive about how your partner is feeling.

The two of you are a partnership, but that doesn’t mean that you can feel what they are feeling or peek into their mind anytime you want.

It’s all about observation.

Just because she forgets to feed your dog that one time or doesn’t pick up your favorite ice cream from the store doesn’t necessarily mean that she’s falling out of love with you.

You have to know exactly what to look for when it comes to deciding if your marriage is nearing its end.



Now you are probably thinking, ‘Well, duh! That’s why I’m on the internet searching for answers.

Of course.

That’s why we have this list of 15 signs that help you identify when your wife doesn’t love you anymore.

  1. She Stops Sharing

One of the most brutal signs that a relationship is failing is when one party decides they no longer want to co-own with their partner any longer. That means to look out for the times she doesn’t want to purchase a new couch with you or that she doesn’t feel comfortable getting a new pet with you. Those are both bad signals that tell you she doesn’t plan on sticking around to take responsibility for those things together, with you. If you notice that your wife is suddenly assigning bills in her name only, you might want to consider that she doesn’t love you any longer.

2. She Stays Silent

You can’t always be chatting with each other, especially if you have been together for a long time. However, when dinner and dates start becoming silent, it could be deadly to your relationship. Women are more talkative than men and they don’t usually disappoint when it comes to keeping the conversation alive. There seems to always be something on their minds. So, if your wife suddenly goes dead silent, be worried. It could mean that she is mad at you, but if you can’t identify any problems and she continues to do it, it could mean she doesn’t have interest in talking with you anymore.

3. She’s Always Cranky… With You

When you love someone, you don’t typically act hostile towards them all the time. Maybe if they do something that really irks you, but if you notice that she’s suddenly irritated with you constantly it could mean that she isn’t enjoying your presence. Women tend to be more vocal than men when something is bothering them, so if she doesn’t love or like you, she might start acting frustrated with everything you are doing. Does the sound of you just chewing or breathing annoy her? Does she suddenly hate the way you say something or do something, that she didn’t previously mind? That’s not very common in a healthy, happy relationship.



4. She Doesn’t Want To Listen

A healthy marriage consists of two people always doing their best to hear each other out when one of them has a gripe. However, if one of the spouses loses their feelings for the other, it’s common that they will stop actively listening to them.

Your wife should always be there to listen to what you have to say and try to help you get through it; just as you should always be there for her in the same way. When she stops doing that, it’s an indication she isn’t as in love with you as you may have thought.

Communication and listening are crucial factors in maintaining any relationship. Without them, the connection has no choice but to crumble, because it no longer has a foundation to stand on.

5. She Isn’t Intimate With You

Intimacy is the glue that holds a marriage together, right next to communication. They are both important, but physical connection is almost more important. Otherwise you would essentially be in a relationship with a very good friend, instead of a lover. Contrary to prior belief, sex doesn’t stop when you get married. Some even say that it only gets better. Happy married couples even have sex into their eighties and nineties, if their health allows them to do so!

Having kids may put a damper on things for awhile, but if you notice that intercourse, cuddles or kissing stops altogether, it may be because your wife is no longer in love with you.

Sex tends to stop when the emotional bond does.

6. She Focuses On Herself

Of course you want your wife to focus on her life and her career. Although you are a partnership, you are still two different individuals who need time to worry about themselves. But if you notice that your wife is suddenly only worried about herself, it could be a bad thing.

When you are married, you should be focused on both people involved in the relationship.

That means being there for your spouse when they need you, cheering them on when they are trying to accomplish something and also giving them the attention they need to do well in their lives.

When someone falls out of love, they don’t continue to focus on the person they have disconnected with. They will start to focus only on themselves, because they know that soon they will be on their own.

Selfishness in a relationship is often a sign that it is no longer working out.

7.  She Doesn’t Check On You

Obviously things will change after your marriage becomes less new. As time goes on, communication will become less, but it should never stop completely. When you care about someone, you have the urge to see how they are doing throughout the day.

You might have cause to be concerned if your wife no longer texts or calls you to check up on you when you are gone for long periods of time.

Did she know that you had an important presentation today and didn’t call to see how it went?

If so, that signals that she has stopped caring about what you are up to.

Space is great in a relationship, but too much is fatal to your bond.

8. She Cheats

Cheating is always a sign that someone has stopped loving you. No one who harbors powerful feelings for their partner would do such a thing to them. So if she cheats, you can be sure she doesn’t love you anymore.

9. She Takes Advantage Of You

Love, especially in a marriage, is all about give and take. It should never be only give. If you notice that she starts to take from you more than she gives, it’s a bad sign. A relationship should be about equality and both parties doing their part. However, if she doesn’t love you anymore, she may try to take advantage of you. When she stops doing her part and puts all the responsibility on you, it’s clear that she no longer cares about stressing you out or making your life more difficult.

10. She Doesn’t Have Time For You

The one great thing about being married is that you get to spend all the time in the world with your best friend. That’s why when your spouse stops making time for you, it’s one of the worst signs there are.

It’s okay to be worried if she starts making her friends and work a priority over you. That often means that she is trying to avoid you.

You both lead separate lives, but when she chooses not to include you in hers at all it means that she doesn’t want to continue to strengthening your bond.

11. She Doesn’t Want To Fix Anything

When you fall out of love with someone you don’t always want to take the time to fix what’s broken. You feel as if there’s no saving it, because you have already checked out of the relationship.

So if you notice that your wife is refusing to fix your marriage, when you make it apparent to her that something is wrong, then it may be time to accept she doesn’t want to make it better.

When you love someone, you continue to put all your best effort forth to make it work, not give up on it.

12. She Doesn’t Let You In

Most women, not all, are pretty emotional creatures. Of course men can be, too. However, when a woman doesn’t want to open up to you about what’s on her mind, it’s more of a critical sign than when a man does it.

Has she stopped talking about her future? Does she avoid talking about what’s upsetting her? Has she suddenly built an emotional barrier between you?

Those are all signs that she doesn’t want to be in the marriage anymore.

13. She Stops Paying Attention

Forgetting to do a favor for you is one thing, but forgetting an important event or engagement that you told her about is a whole different thing. When she stops trying to remember important information you have mentioned, it’s clear that she simply doesn’t care.

14. She Has High Expectations

You shouldn’t have any high or unrealistic expectations about your partner. When you got married to each other, you both made vows to accept one another for who you are. It’s a negative indication if she is suddenly displeased with something about you that you can’t easily change.

15. She Talks About Someone Else

Suddenly hearing a lot about ‘Jerry from work’ or the ‘nice guy at the gym’ is always a bad sign. Even more so if you find it’s a topic being brought up continuously. When she puts too much focus on someone else, outside of your marriage, it means that she isn’t thinking of you during these times. She may also be forming relationships with others, because she is not interested in continuing yours. That doesn’t mean she can’t have a male friend here or there. It’s only a bad sign if you notice she is obsessively talking about someone or spending time with them.

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  1. You haven’t mentioned that there may be deep rooted reasons the wife doesn’t feel like being vocal or share intimate feelings any longer. Perhaps, the husband doesn’t seem interested, seems pre-disposed, or more interested in conversation with others. Past unresolved problems may also be cause for irritation of similar behaviors. In addition, the husband may be the one whom isn’t interested in seeking counseling.

    • Thank you for sharing your insights. You are right, there is always an interactions between both partners in any relationship. Feel free to share more of your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Monica!

    • Thanks Monica. I was forwarded this article yesterday by my spouse who feels that I no longer love him. You’re right. No longer wanting to share intimate feelings or personal experiences happens when those feelings or experiences are judged and used later against the spouse that is perceived to not be in love. And yes, this is another person who’s husband is uninterested in seeking counseling. People don’t just fall out of love. Experiences in the relationship and resentment build up to it and it’s not a one way street. Husbands reading this article should stop feeling sorry for themselves and reflect on things their wives have probably been telling them for awhile were bothering them. Stop reading articles about “my wife doesn’t love me” and start reading about things to do to improve the relationship. Sorry for venting.

      • Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings. You are right, it is always best to allow negative influences to remain outside of your life. It is always best to treat everyone in your life with kindness and compassion. Please feel free to share more of your insights and experiences in the future. Have a great day, Jenny!

      • Well tell me how would I know if my wife doesn’t care anymore or if she may be with someone else occasionally? I have nooneifeel comfortable talks no to ab this. If you have time to give me some insight that is truth from a lady I would be greatful. Thank you.

        • Your best option to to monitor her actions. Take this time to determine what you think is acceptable for your relationship. Speak directly and honestly with her about your thoughts and feelings. Give her an opportunity to share herself with you as well. Have a great day, Confused!

      • Well honestly there is always two sides of a coin.
        Yet im dealing with a spouse that has always been in control till one day I said enough. Since then like the taking advantage of. Yeah me worked for several years and she got anything she want and would fly off the handle if i even was gone longer then i should of been. Like a extra 15 min. Good grief. Which was a sign to me she was doing something she shoukdnt be. Cheating. Yet here i im still trying to work it out and looking like a freaking fool. My family knows it her family knows . Im nothing but a errand running , cooking cleaning working father of 3 . With a wife who not even remote in love with me. She was in love with the money. Counciling no, texting arguing no, communication no. I said im washing my hands of it . I deserve better.

        • It sounds as though you have made a wise decision. If you have not already ended this relationship, then you would be benefited by doing so. Attempt to spend additional time with your family and friends. Bring your children around these people to help them become more comfortable with each other. Seek divorce and custody. Best of luck, Joshua!

        • I’m in the same situation after a 20 year marriage.
          Stuck to your guns and don’t go back. It’s tough but in the long run once the dust has settled you will be far far happier
          Good luck

          • Thank you for sharing your experiences and insights. We always appreciate when members of our community support each other. Please share more of your thoughts and feelings in the future. Have a great day, Ron!

      • No, you’re right; acting sorry for yourself repels others and fails to address problems in a relationship.

        I won’t speak for all men, just offer my own thoughts. When my spouse seems disconnected from me, I ask about how she’s feeling and what she’s thinking. Clearly, I’ve done too much of this for her liking. So, letting her alone to sort stuff seems the best idea.

        You know, it’s not true, but when she’s very quiet I assume it has to do with me. I agree, don’t assume.

        Attraction requires being the Flame, not the Moth. We men have to remember keep that burning. Good advice for anyone I suppose.

        • Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings. Please feel free to share more of your insights and experiences in the future. Have a great day, Eric!

      • I agree with what you are saying however what do you do when your wife constantantly berates you and makes you feel like you have no value. What do you do when in arguments she never wants to accept responsibility for her actions, but expects only you to apologize for yours. A partnership is when you communicate,listen and acknowledge. Your suppose to work together and treat each other kindly. When it’s only one sided you can’t expect to have engagement. I have been a victim of this for years and I have finally put my foot down and expressed my feelings. The result is that she now wants a divorce. I would have thought that she would have understood and apologized knowing this is her second marriage. Instead I’m the bad guy and have no right to treat her as I have done. For every action there’s going to be a reaction. Don’t expect to feel loved and trusted if you continue to think it’s ok to treat your partner like garbage. I won’t make this mistake again!

        • Thank you for sharing your insights and experiences. Please feel free to share more of your thoughts and feelings in the future. Have a great day, Scott!

      • So true and well said. After 20 years of his parents coming first and physical abuse and laziness, i only stay for childcare so i can work to support him. And he is so clueless. I wpuld repeat the same complaints over and over because the peesent never changed

        • Thank you for sharing your insights and experiences. If you are abused your neglected, then you may want to take a second look at your relationship. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Radgirl!

      • Well just because your relation ship is bad doesn’t give any one the right or justification to cheat you either get help or work on it or just tell them you want to leave but when ur not in love and married I guess it easier to be selfish and get what ever feeling you want at your partners expense either long term or short term depending if they lied for years or got caught

        • Thank you for sharing your insights and experiences. Please feel free to share more of your thoughts and feelings in the future. Have a great day, Dav!

    • Well i think these signs are from both sides means from n e partner who is done with love to other either wife or husband.
      May almighty help every one.

      • Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings. Please feel free to share more of your positive comments in the future. Have a great day, Imran!

    • YUP!!!!! I have asked my old man to do counseling twice and it’s a “no go” on his end, all these signs listed that the wife no longer loves them (in my case) are the result of how I’ve been treated by my husband these past two years

      • Thank you for sharing your experiences and insights. It is clear that your relationship is at a point where you need to look inward. Determine what you want for your future. Speak directly and honestly with your partner about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Become closer to your friends and family at this time. Have a great day, Ann!

    • My wife was the one who cheated on my and I tried to get her to go to counseling she refuses and said she doesn’t believe in counseling. I am at my ends wit always wondering if I should through I. Towel

      • Her feelings toward you have changed. She is no longer willing to treat you with the respect that you require for this relationship. Take this time to determine if you want to maintain this relationship. Speak directly and honestly with her about your thoughts and feelings. Take this time to strengthen your relationships with your friends and family. Have a great day, Tim!

  2. In curomious if these things could still apply if we have children and seems to be more interested in being around her “stalker”

    • If your wife has a stalker, then she should speak with the police department. Stalking is serious, and it may lead to physical harm or death. Your use of quotations may imply that you don’t believe that he is her stalker. If that is the case, then speak directly and honestly with her about your thoughts and feelings. Call these police if she says that she is being stalked. Have a great day, Cloud!

  3. Great information indeed there is another one that wasn’t mentioned which is the fact that if theirs a problem and she doesn’t want marriage counseling or prayer to see if those things could mend the relationship. Thanks again

    • If she is not interested in taking action to work through any problems, then it is likely that her thoughts are decided. Take this time to determine what you want with this relationship. Speak directly and honestly with her about your thoughts and feelings. Give her an opportunity to share herself with you as well. Have a great day, Stanley!

  4. I read this in hopes my husband will notice these signs. I don’t cheat nor try to make him jealous, but he has hurt me to my core…often. at Thanksgiving he chose to go to his sister’s house with the kids and leave me with the food and home alone all day. And it was my fault that I was upset. Planned for two weeks, his sister says something five days before. I even told him I would be upset if he went over there before having our dinner. I have no family here. He gets drunk and calls me worthless etc under his breath. Doesn’t have the guts to say it sober. If I call him on it,it’s my fault. It will take a year to pay off debts, in that year u am going to make him upgrade the house like I want and then he can leave. He can leave now if he wants, but he won’t. I won’t look at him and I don’t share anything anymore. No more chatty Cathy for me. Thanks.

    • He is abusive toward you. He does not respect you. It is clear that the relationship has ended or is near to its end. Take this time to become closer to your friends and family. You do not need this person in your life any longer. Perhaps speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings, though you should not accept his disrespectful actions. Best of luck, Jamie!

  5. I totally relate to this article, me and my wife havent been married for that long but when i read these points every single one checks out, ive tried everything j thought was whag she needs or wants from me, but everytime i suggest something or try something she shuts me out. I can see she doesnt want to be with me anymore but i just cant bring myself to accept that theres nothing i can do to remind her why she said yes. She has gotten to the point where she had an affair for more than a year i caught her about two months into the affair begged her tried to show her that uts not worth it talked suggested therapy but it still went on to the point were she got a call from her boyfriend while in bed, she kissed me on the forehead and went to spend the night with him. I dont know what to do, i love this woman i cant accept that weve failed after 4 years she has completely shut me out but says she loves me. Im confused and i cant stand this life but i cant stand living without her. Im sorry for the long text … i have noone to talk to because if i do i will be ridiculed and laughed at.

    • Take this time to determine if you think it is acceptable for her to continue these actions. Determine if you can forgive her for her previous actions. You may want to end this relationship. Take this time to become closer to your friends and family. Speak directly and honestly with her about your thoughts and feelings. Best of luck, Njabu!

  6. i have read all the signs, i almost relate, to every single one of them.

    i don’t know if could tell my story in such a short paragraph

    i have been married for 3 years now, we were together since high school( we were together 4 years before marriage). our relationship was always difficult, we loved each other to much, but her parents tried their best to separate us, especially her father, he was taking her money, he didn’t like someone taking his monthly paycheck, and he wanted to marry his girl to a rich guy and I wasn’t that guy

     

    in our 4 years of dating we breakup more than 6 times each time for 2 or 3 months, the reasons for our breakups were always about her parents or some details about her parents she hided from me, but each time we came back for each other,(both of us never dated  any one new between our break up) Until we decided to get married of course without the acceptance of her parents.

     

    first year after marriage we had rough times especially the first 4 months, when they told us that her father had cancer and that he doesn’t have much time to live, of course i told my wife that we need to end the problem with her parents and started seeing them, our problems started to grow back, her father died, i tried my best to support my wife but even after his death our problems and conflicts were unbearable, she seems careless to where our relationship is going she even wanted to leave home many times, her actions showed me that she didn’t appreciate anything that i do for her or for our relationship, at the time i thought maybe the things that’s happening around us are too much for her to take, after many attempts from my side with no results i ended up frustrated, devastated, and i asked for divorce,

     

    Here is the weird part, before i asked for divorce she acts careless and show almost every sign of this article, but when i tell her i can’t take it anymore and that i want divorce, she promised to fix all her mistakes.

    The weird part is that I’m not a stupid person but i do believe what she promises every time and she keep breaking her promises each time.

     

    so at the end i asked her to leave, and started the divorce process, which in my country takes more than 2 years, and more than 50 000$ to accomplish.

    i never stopped loving her, during the 9 months apart i couldn’t forget her tears while she was leaving and i couldn’t be with anyone new, my heart was broken and so was my brain.

     

    she contacted me after 9 month of separation, i missed her and i wanted to believe that maybe this time we could finally have the life together we always dreamed about,

    i thought maybe the stress is gone now she understand better her mind is clear so i accepted to stop the divorce process and we decided to get back together after clearing things up between us (what i mean by that is that we discussed in almost every aspect what’s acceptable and what’s not and how to avoid conflicts and miss understanding).

     

    it has been one year now we fight almost 3 times per week each time for the same reasons, and each time her actions shows she don’t care.

     

    yesterday was our last fight where i told her it is unhealthy to try more and that we need to divorce.

     

    directly after she sense that this time it’s real, and that i won’t change my mind any more she starts again crying and promising for changing and telling me she loves me and that we went thru a lot in our relationship to quit now.

     

    please i need advice on what to do, I’m confused again, i love her and she say she loves me but i don’t trust her action, and I’m extremely unhappy and lost

    • It sounds as though your relationship has been filled with disrespectful actions. You have made a decision to end the relationship. Take this time to determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak directly and honestly with her about your thoughts and feelings. Give her an opportunity to share herself with you as well. Have a great day, Marcel!

    • It could be a bad sign. It is clear that the two of you need to have a discussion. Take this time to determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak directly and honestly with her about your thoughts and feelings. Allow her to share herself with you as well. Have a great day, Chris!

  7. Most of these signs are the same with my wife but she has anxiety about commitments and I see she is suffering with no self esteem lately either. She thinks she’s ugly and old now even though I tell her she’s not. She’s so worried about what people think of her now she’s letting go of real life (and me). We are both 40, been married 7 years and she won’t have children with me as she’s scared it’s like an end to her childhood. she won’t have sex with me anymore too. She says she’s now asexual. It’s been a year now with maybe sex once. She says she has no sex drive and feels strange about intimacy with me. She can’t even look in my eyes without feeling sad. What is confusing is she says not just with me she doesn’t want sex but with anyone and I believe this. She hasn’t even used her vibrator in a year herself which she liked so I know it’s true. I’m worried it will become too late to have children or real love as I’m getting older too. She says shes maybe depressed and has gone though trauma at work (she was bullied for many months) and it making her want to escape life and anything emotional, good or bad. It’s a year now after this trauma but all she does is go away on work trips and spend time with her friends abroad after work trips trying to escape our reality, and is away for many weeks at a time (she’s not having an affair I know this, she just uses work abroad as a way to escape life). But I think she does really has post trauma stress so I stay in this sexless relationship hoping things will get better one day when she become less depressed with herself. Problem is, deep inside I know maybe she will not get better, and I think she only loves me like a good friend now, but I need more than that. We went councilling a few times together so I know it hurts her too. I don’t wont to feel guilty losing or leaving my love of my life by not waiting for her to get better though. She really is a good soul who cares for me (but can’t give me the love I deserve) and she is suffering with this post trauma anxiety, but I am also suffering from lack of intimacy… I don’t know what to do. I am left at home with the dog to keep me company and feel sad she doesn’t love me enough to want to try to save marriage. Again I don’t know what to do. I am alone again for Christmas while she is abroad visiting her family.

    • Take this time to determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Reflect on your vows and what they mean to you. Decide what you believe is acceptable for your relationship. Speak directly and honestly with her about your thoughts and feelings. Give her the opportunity to share herself with you as well. Have a great day, Donaldo!

    • Both depression and anxiety can affect sex drive. Her age… She might be having hormonal changes as well. She should seek personal counciling ad well as having marriage counseling and be evaluated for early menopause. Sounds like she is using avoidance as a coping mechanism to reduce stress, this is a common reaction but as you see in the long term is not healthy (it can be good for short term). If she uses avoidance then bringing up painful or stressful topics will drive her away (I am like this), try approaching her with positive things, like I want you to be happy, offer to find and make the appointment as depression is a big de-motivator. And finally realize that you can not force her to seek help, she might be unwilling to try.

      • Thank you for sharing your insights and experiences. Please feel free to share more of your thoughts and feelings in the future. Have a great day, Jessica!

  8. I drove 35 miles to give my wife her favorite cup of coffee because she was tired, but mainly do do something nice for her. I left a text message that I had a surprise for her. She called when she was heading away from her client. I let her know immediately upon answering that I was seven minutes out. Inead, she sounded irritated that I was making her late. I said to continue to her next client and forget the surprise. She called back and wait. When I gave bher the coffee, her response was why would I do that. So I sorta lied and said it was because she was tired and didn’t want her to fall asleep. When really it’s because I like doing nice things for her. I realized then that if bI had to explain that I love her and care how she is doing, that it’s me who didn’t get the message till I realized later that she doesn’t love me anymore. Am I misreading the [email protected]

    • Take this time to determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Decide what you believe is acceptable for this relationship. Speak directly and honestly with her about your thoughts and feelings. Give her an opportunity to share herself with you as well. Have a great day, Teavis!

    • Good luck buddy I feel you same with my wife I’m going to call it quits after 20 years but at least I have some life left to find someone to Love that will actually love me back

      • Thank you for sharing your experiences and insights. We always appreciate when members of our community support each other. Please share more of your thoughts and feelings in the future. Have a great day, Ron!

  9. My wife suffering from depression, she is nice and I love her. In our 5 year marriage we are blessed with 2 kids, but when she is so much depressed she abuse me so much whether at home or in public, most a time she ask for a divorce which I think is not real because if I try to talk to her about divorce she usually show some remorse about what she ask for, I tried to understand her situation but she never see anything good in it. I am really supering

    Kindly advice me

    • Take this time to determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Decide what actions you believe are acceptable in this relationship. Speak directly and honestly with her about your thoughts and feelings. Give her an opportunity to share herself with you as well. If you find that the relationship is untenable, then focus your emotional attention on your children, family, and friends. Have a great day, Ninee!

    • She has shared her thoughts and feelings with you. She has shared her concerns that she is not happy with you. Take this time to strengthen your relationships with your friends and family. She may be interested in ending this relationship. If she does so, then remember that there is a benefit in sharing your kindness and compassion with her. Best of luck, Pasquale!

  10. For months my wife says she’s not happy and I’m boring and she doesn’t want to be with me anymore and there’s nothing else for her to say and I stress myself out over it I don’t complain I pay all of the bills she says I can’t do it on my own she always has to do it I mean I try and try I’m 13 hrs away from my family friends and kids I’m always sick and in the hospital I’ve never done my wife wrong and she wants a divorce I don’t kno what to do

    • Your wife has shared her thoughts and feelings with you. She has chosen to make a decision that may be socially unacceptable. You are sick, and it would be better if she chose to support you. However, she has decided that she is no longer able to maintain a relationship with you. Allow your emotional energy to focus elsewhere. Have a great day, Thomas!

  11. Travis,it sounds like there’s more to your story. If I were to guess, I’d say she’s possibly checked out of the marriage. I say this because it sounds a lot like me when I checked out. And, sadly, I’m still not fully checked back in. If she’s anything like the rest of us women, I’m assuming she probably tried to mend the crumbling marriage by talking/arguing with you about the needs she had and things she expected from the marriage. Remember this: when a woman stops bringing up issues within the marriage(even small ones), she’s given up and bad things are bound to happen, even if it takes years. I know I personally spent years asking my husband to listen to my concerns and fears for our future as a team. He didn’t until I was checked out, and now its boo-hoo my wife doesn’t love me and look at all the wonderful things I do for her. I Do love him,by the way, but it’s been a work in progress and we’re not where we need to be. Conversation is great one day and meh the next. Intimacy is the hardest because 90% of the time I feel violated when he tries to touch me more than a hug. Sad, right? I’ve gone to counseling alone to change how I see things, we’ve gone together, but now I think it’s time he shows he wants this and goes to therapy on his own. He hasn’t yet, which tells me he sees zero fault in his own actions(emotional and physical neglect) and, therefore, has zero plans to meet half way. Fun times, right?

    • Thank you for sharing your insights and experiences. Please feel free to share more of your thoughts and feelings in the future. Have a great day, Ambivalent!

  12. What if your wife tells you that you tell her you love her to much? And that theres no passion or any desire for sex after 30 years . i still wine and dine and bring her flowers as of we were newlyweds.

    • She has shared her thoughts and feelings with you. There is nothing wrong with loving your partner “too much”. This means that she has personal thoughts and feelings that she feels uncomfortable with. Take this time to determine what you want for the future of this relationship. If she is not interested in maintaining a relationship with you, then speak directly and honestly with her about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Terry!

  13. Read all comments, and sadly I’m in same situation with my wife, but I know why and I know I am at fault for her perception over the years. I thought I was doing things to make her happy, but I was wrong. Question that I have, is that I keep trying to fix issues she has had with my actions (for the record, I have always been faithful, just am not a very outwardly emotional person), but it’s never enough. She won’t commit to working on relationship. Its been 2 years now of me trying to be better, and still no apparent improvement in the relationship. I find myself wondering if there is any reason to continue trying so hard to be better for her if she doesn’t seem to even care.

    • You are attempting to nourish this relationship. Your partner has shown no willingness to improve her actions. It is possible that he feelings for you have changed. She is likely confused or uncertain about her feelings regarding your relationship. Determine what you want for your future. Speak directly and honestly with her about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Concerned!

  14. My wife and I have been together for almost 20 years. We are currently separated but trying to work things out, but she literally does almost all the things listed. She doesn’t share anymore, even when she started experimenting with spirituality – which I feel you should discuss with your spouse. She doesn’t talk to me, she doesn’t seem happy when she’s with me, she doesn’t text or call during work because she’s “busy”, she takes advantage of me financially, she doesn’t pay attention to me or remark on how I look the way she used to, she doesn’t try to fix anything and we are rarely physically intimate anymore. I have beat myself up, telling myself I am being insecure or needy because my feelings get hurt so often. She just doesn’t behave in a manner which is consistent with being in love – but she says she is still in love with me?? Do I just look at black and white and walk away without her confirming she’s no longer in love? I am so lost and confused because I am still in love – but I am willing to let her go and walk away if she no longer loves me, but I don’t want to give up if there is still hope…

    • It is possible that her feelings for you have changed. She ma be uncertain or confused about her feelings. There may be another influence in her life which is preventing her from maintaining and nourish your relationship. Determine what you want for your future and take appropriate action. Have a great day, Confused!

    • After 20 yrs of trying to get her needs met from you and getting ignored , dismissed, not taking it seriously hurt her over and over until the love , hope and respect she had for you died. Sometimes a husband can hurt their wives so deeply over time that the love and trust is dead. I’m sorry you need to let her go .

      • Thank you for sharing your insights and experiences. Please feel free to share more of your thoughts and feelings in the future. Have a great day, Hurt!

    • You are aware of the situation regarding your relationship. Take this time to strengthen your relationships with your family and friends. Determine what you want for the future of your relationship. Speak directly and honestly with her about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Joe!

  15. I can relate to this. My wife stop giving. And she will never give me anything even if she know that I have no more money in my pocket and she has much. She just let me borrowing to someone else wherein fact she has extra money with her. She just let me PAY ALL THE BILLS AND DEBTS and keep saving her own money with a padlock in the cabinet.

    • Her behaviors are signs that she does not trust you and that she may not be trustworthy. Take this time to determine what you believe is appropriate for your relationship. Speak directly and honestly with her about your thoughts and feelings. Give her an opportunity to share herself with you. You may be in an abusive relationship. Have a great day, Bebz!

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