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15 Signs Your Wife Doesn’t Love You Anymore


It doesn’t seem to matter how long you are together with your spouse, there are times where you still catch yourself wondering if they still love you as much as they did on day 1 of the relationship. It’s a horrible thought, but it’s inevitable. Everyone finds themselves questioning the strength of their marriage at one point or another.

It’s extremely important to remind yourself not to jump the gun when it comes to deciding if all is lost.

That means not being assumptive about how your partner is feeling.

The two of you are a partnership, but that doesn’t mean that you can feel what they are feeling or peek into their mind anytime you want.

It’s all about observation.

Just because she forgets to feed your dog that one time or doesn’t pick up your favorite ice cream from the store doesn’t necessarily mean that she’s falling out of love with you.

You have to know exactly what to look for when it comes to deciding if your marriage is nearing its end.

Now you are probably thinking, ‘Well, duh! That’s why I’m on the internet searching for answers.

Of course.

That’s why we have this list of 15 signs that help you identify when your wife doesn’t love you anymore.

  1. She Stops Sharing

One of the most brutal signs that a relationship is failing is when one party decides they no longer want to co-own with their partner any longer. That means to look out for the times she doesn’t want to purchase a new couch with you or that she doesn’t feel comfortable getting a new pet with you. Those are both bad signals that tell you she doesn’t plan on sticking around to take responsibility for those things together, with you. If you notice that your wife is suddenly assigning bills in her name only, you might want to consider that she doesn’t love you any longer.

2. She Stays Silent

You can’t always be chatting with each other, especially if you have been together for a long time. However, when dinner and dates start becoming silent, it could be deadly to your relationship. Women are more talkative than men and they don’t usually disappoint when it comes to keeping the conversation alive. There seems to always be something on their minds. So, if your wife suddenly goes dead silent, be worried. It could mean that she is mad at you, but if you can’t identify any problems and she continues to do it, it could mean she doesn’t have interest in talking with you anymore.

3. She’s Always Cranky… With You

When you love someone, you don’t typically act hostile towards them all the time. Maybe if they do something that really irks you, but if you notice that she’s suddenly irritated with you constantly it could mean that she isn’t enjoying your presence. Women tend to be more vocal than men when something is bothering them, so if she doesn’t love or like you, she might start acting frustrated with everything you are doing. Does the sound of you just chewing or breathing annoy her? Does she suddenly hate the way you say something or do something, that she didn’t previously mind? That’s not very common in a healthy, happy relationship.

4. She Doesn’t Want To Listen

A healthy marriage consists of two people always doing their best to hear each other out when one of them has a gripe. However, if one of the spouses loses their feelings for the other, it’s common that they will stop actively listening to them.

Your wife should always be there to listen to what you have to say and try to help you get through it; just as you should always be there for her in the same way. When she stops doing that, it’s an indication she isn’t as in love with you as you may have thought.

Communication and listening are crucial factors in maintaining any relationship. Without them, the connection has no choice but to crumble, because it no longer has a foundation to stand on.

5. She Isn’t Intimate With You

Intimacy is the glue that holds a marriage together, right next to communication. They are both important, but physical connection is almost more important. Otherwise you would essentially be in a relationship with a very good friend, instead of a lover. Contrary to prior belief, sex doesn’t stop when you get married. Some even say that it only gets better. Happy married couples even have sex into their eighties and nineties, if their health allows them to do so!

Having kids may put a damper on things for awhile, but if you notice that intercourse, cuddles or kissing stops altogether, it may be because your wife is no longer in love with you.

Sex tends to stop when the emotional bond does.

6. She Focuses On Herself

Of course you want your wife to focus on her life and her career. Although you are a partnership, you are still two different individuals who need time to worry about themselves. But if you notice that your wife is suddenly only worried about herself, it could be a bad thing.

When you are married, you should be focused on both people involved in the relationship.

That means being there for your spouse when they need you, cheering them on when they are trying to accomplish something and also giving them the attention they need to do well in their lives.

When someone falls out of love, they don’t continue to focus on the person they have disconnected with. They will start to focus only on themselves, because they know that soon they will be on their own.

Selfishness in a relationship is often a sign that it is no longer working out.

7.  She Doesn’t Check On You

Obviously things will change after your marriage becomes less new. As time goes on, communication will become less, but it should never stop completely. When you care about someone, you have the urge to see how they are doing throughout the day.

You might have cause to be concerned if your wife no longer texts or calls you to check up on you when you are gone for long periods of time.

Did she know that you had an important presentation today and didn’t call to see how it went?

If so, that signals that she has stopped caring about what you are up to.

Space is great in a relationship, but too much is fatal to your bond.

8. She Cheats

Cheating is always a sign that someone has stopped loving you. No one who harbors powerful feelings for their partner would do such a thing to them. So if she cheats, you can be sure she doesn’t love you anymore.

9. She Takes Advantage Of You

Love, especially in a marriage, is all about give and take. It should never be only give. If you notice that she starts to take from you more than she gives, it’s a bad sign. A relationship should be about equality and both parties doing their part. However, if she doesn’t love you anymore, she may try to take advantage of you. When she stops doing her part and puts all the responsibility on you, it’s clear that she no longer cares about stressing you out or making your life more difficult.

10. She Doesn’t Have Time For You

The one great thing about being married is that you get to spend all the time in the world with your best friend. That’s why when your spouse stops making time for you, it’s one of the worst signs there are.

It’s okay to be worried if she starts making her friends and work a priority over you. That often means that she is trying to avoid you.

You both lead separate lives, but when she chooses not to include you in hers at all it means that she doesn’t want to continue to strengthening your bond.

11. She Doesn’t Want To Fix Anything

When you fall out of love with someone you don’t always want to take the time to fix what’s broken. You feel as if there’s no saving it, because you have already checked out of the relationship.

So if you notice that your wife is refusing to fix your marriage, when you make it apparent to her that something is wrong, then it may be time to accept she doesn’t want to make it better.

When you love someone, you continue to put all your best effort forth to make it work, not give up on it.

12. She Doesn’t Let You In

Most women, not all, are pretty emotional creatures. Of course men can be, too. However, when a woman doesn’t want to open up to you about what’s on her mind, it’s more of a critical sign than when a man does it.

Has she stopped talking about her future? Does she avoid talking about what’s upsetting her? Has she suddenly built an emotional barrier between you?

Those are all signs that she doesn’t want to be in the marriage anymore.

13. She Stops Paying Attention

Forgetting to do a favor for you is one thing, but forgetting an important event or engagement that you told her about is a whole different thing. When she stops trying to remember important information you have mentioned, it’s clear that she simply doesn’t care.

14. She Has High Expectations

You shouldn’t have any high or unrealistic expectations about your partner. When you got married to each other, you both made vows to accept one another for who you are. It’s a negative indication if she is suddenly displeased with something about you that you can’t easily change.

15. She Talks About Someone Else

Suddenly hearing a lot about ‘Jerry from work’ or the ‘nice guy at the gym’ is always a bad sign. Even more so if you find it’s a topic being brought up continuously. When she puts too much focus on someone else, outside of your marriage, it means that she isn’t thinking of you during these times. She may also be forming relationships with others, because she is not interested in continuing yours. That doesn’t mean she can’t have a male friend here or there. It’s only a bad sign if you notice she is obsessively talking about someone or spending time with them.


  1. You haven’t mentioned that there may be deep rooted reasons the wife doesn’t feel like being vocal or share intimate feelings any longer. Perhaps, the husband doesn’t seem interested, seems pre-disposed, or more interested in conversation with others. Past unresolved problems may also be cause for irritation of similar behaviors. In addition, the husband may be the one whom isn’t interested in seeking counseling.

    • Thank you for sharing your insights. You are right, there is always an interactions between both partners in any relationship. Feel free to share more of your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Monica!

    • Thanks Monica. I was forwarded this article yesterday by my spouse who feels that I no longer love him. You’re right. No longer wanting to share intimate feelings or personal experiences happens when those feelings or experiences are judged and used later against the spouse that is perceived to not be in love. And yes, this is another person who’s husband is uninterested in seeking counseling. People don’t just fall out of love. Experiences in the relationship and resentment build up to it and it’s not a one way street. Husbands reading this article should stop feeling sorry for themselves and reflect on things their wives have probably been telling them for awhile were bothering them. Stop reading articles about “my wife doesn’t love me” and start reading about things to do to improve the relationship. Sorry for venting.

      • Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings. You are right, it is always best to allow negative influences to remain outside of your life. It is always best to treat everyone in your life with kindness and compassion. Please feel free to share more of your insights and experiences in the future. Have a great day, Jenny!

      • Well tell me how would I know if my wife doesn’t care anymore or if she may be with someone else occasionally? I have nooneifeel comfortable talks no to ab this. If you have time to give me some insight that is truth from a lady I would be greatful. Thank you.

        • Your best option to to monitor her actions. Take this time to determine what you think is acceptable for your relationship. Speak directly and honestly with her about your thoughts and feelings. Give her an opportunity to share herself with you as well. Have a great day, Confused!

      • Well honestly there is always two sides of a coin.
        Yet im dealing with a spouse that has always been in control till one day I said enough. Since then like the taking advantage of. Yeah me worked for several years and she got anything she want and would fly off the handle if i even was gone longer then i should of been. Like a extra 15 min. Good grief. Which was a sign to me she was doing something she shoukdnt be. Cheating. Yet here i im still trying to work it out and looking like a freaking fool. My family knows it her family knows . Im nothing but a errand running , cooking cleaning working father of 3 . With a wife who not even remote in love with me. She was in love with the money. Counciling no, texting arguing no, communication no. I said im washing my hands of it . I deserve better.

        • It sounds as though you have made a wise decision. If you have not already ended this relationship, then you would be benefited by doing so. Attempt to spend additional time with your family and friends. Bring your children around these people to help them become more comfortable with each other. Seek divorce and custody. Best of luck, Joshua!

    • Well i think these signs are from both sides means from n e partner who is done with love to other either wife or husband.
      May almighty help every one.

      • Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings. Please feel free to share more of your positive comments in the future. Have a great day, Imran!

  2. In curomious if these things could still apply if we have children and seems to be more interested in being around her “stalker”

    • If your wife has a stalker, then she should speak with the police department. Stalking is serious, and it may lead to physical harm or death. Your use of quotations may imply that you don’t believe that he is her stalker. If that is the case, then speak directly and honestly with her about your thoughts and feelings. Call these police if she says that she is being stalked. Have a great day, Cloud!

  3. Great information indeed there is another one that wasn’t mentioned which is the fact that if theirs a problem and she doesn’t want marriage counseling or prayer to see if those things could mend the relationship. Thanks again

    • If she is not interested in taking action to work through any problems, then it is likely that her thoughts are decided. Take this time to determine what you want with this relationship. Speak directly and honestly with her about your thoughts and feelings. Give her an opportunity to share herself with you as well. Have a great day, Stanley!

  4. I read this in hopes my husband will notice these signs. I don’t cheat nor try to make him jealous, but he has hurt me to my core…often. at Thanksgiving he chose to go to his sister’s house with the kids and leave me with the food and home alone all day. And it was my fault that I was upset. Planned for two weeks, his sister says something five days before. I even told him I would be upset if he went over there before having our dinner. I have no family here. He gets drunk and calls me worthless etc under his breath. Doesn’t have the guts to say it sober. If I call him on it,it’s my fault. It will take a year to pay off debts, in that year u am going to make him upgrade the house like I want and then he can leave. He can leave now if he wants, but he won’t. I won’t look at him and I don’t share anything anymore. No more chatty Cathy for me. Thanks.

    • He is abusive toward you. He does not respect you. It is clear that the relationship has ended or is near to its end. Take this time to become closer to your friends and family. You do not need this person in your life any longer. Perhaps speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings, though you should not accept his disrespectful actions. Best of luck, Jamie!

  5. I totally relate to this article, me and my wife havent been married for that long but when i read these points every single one checks out, ive tried everything j thought was whag she needs or wants from me, but everytime i suggest something or try something she shuts me out. I can see she doesnt want to be with me anymore but i just cant bring myself to accept that theres nothing i can do to remind her why she said yes. She has gotten to the point where she had an affair for more than a year i caught her about two months into the affair begged her tried to show her that uts not worth it talked suggested therapy but it still went on to the point were she got a call from her boyfriend while in bed, she kissed me on the forehead and went to spend the night with him. I dont know what to do, i love this woman i cant accept that weve failed after 4 years she has completely shut me out but says she loves me. Im confused and i cant stand this life but i cant stand living without her. Im sorry for the long text … i have noone to talk to because if i do i will be ridiculed and laughed at.

    • Take this time to determine if you think it is acceptable for her to continue these actions. Determine if you can forgive her for her previous actions. You may want to end this relationship. Take this time to become closer to your friends and family. Speak directly and honestly with her about your thoughts and feelings. Best of luck, Njabu!

  6. i have read all the signs, i almost relate, to every single one of them.

    i don’t know if could tell my story in such a short paragraph

    i have been married for 3 years now, we were together since high school( we were together 4 years before marriage). our relationship was always difficult, we loved each other to much, but her parents tried their best to separate us, especially her father, he was taking her money, he didn’t like someone taking his monthly paycheck, and he wanted to marry his girl to a rich guy and I wasn’t that guy


    in our 4 years of dating we breakup more than 6 times each time for 2 or 3 months, the reasons for our breakups were always about her parents or some details about her parents she hided from me, but each time we came back for each other,(both of us never dated  any one new between our break up) Until we decided to get married of course without the acceptance of her parents.


    first year after marriage we had rough times especially the first 4 months, when they told us that her father had cancer and that he doesn’t have much time to live, of course i told my wife that we need to end the problem with her parents and started seeing them, our problems started to grow back, her father died, i tried my best to support my wife but even after his death our problems and conflicts were unbearable, she seems careless to where our relationship is going she even wanted to leave home many times, her actions showed me that she didn’t appreciate anything that i do for her or for our relationship, at the time i thought maybe the things that’s happening around us are too much for her to take, after many attempts from my side with no results i ended up frustrated, devastated, and i asked for divorce,


    Here is the weird part, before i asked for divorce she acts careless and show almost every sign of this article, but when i tell her i can’t take it anymore and that i want divorce, she promised to fix all her mistakes.

    The weird part is that I’m not a stupid person but i do believe what she promises every time and she keep breaking her promises each time.


    so at the end i asked her to leave, and started the divorce process, which in my country takes more than 2 years, and more than 50 000$ to accomplish.

    i never stopped loving her, during the 9 months apart i couldn’t forget her tears while she was leaving and i couldn’t be with anyone new, my heart was broken and so was my brain.


    she contacted me after 9 month of separation, i missed her and i wanted to believe that maybe this time we could finally have the life together we always dreamed about,

    i thought maybe the stress is gone now she understand better her mind is clear so i accepted to stop the divorce process and we decided to get back together after clearing things up between us (what i mean by that is that we discussed in almost every aspect what’s acceptable and what’s not and how to avoid conflicts and miss understanding).


    it has been one year now we fight almost 3 times per week each time for the same reasons, and each time her actions shows she don’t care.


    yesterday was our last fight where i told her it is unhealthy to try more and that we need to divorce.


    directly after she sense that this time it’s real, and that i won’t change my mind any more she starts again crying and promising for changing and telling me she loves me and that we went thru a lot in our relationship to quit now.


    please i need advice on what to do, I’m confused again, i love her and she say she loves me but i don’t trust her action, and I’m extremely unhappy and lost

    • It sounds as though your relationship has been filled with disrespectful actions. You have made a decision to end the relationship. Take this time to determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak directly and honestly with her about your thoughts and feelings. Give her an opportunity to share herself with you as well. Have a great day, Marcel!