Women are known to be masters at subtlety. When they want to hide something, no force on earth can make them divulge it. However, when they have a crush on someone, they have a few telling behaviors that might clue you in on the fact that she’s into you.
When someone has a secret crush on you, you might be the last persona to know unless you really pay attention to her behavior. It can be easy to dismiss them as things a typical friend might do for you. But when you really look at the things she does and how she does them (especially when you’re around), you can kind of tell that this person sees you as more than a friend.
Got a crush conundrum that you can’t figure out? See if she does any of the following.
1. She likes talking to you.
No matter how shy she may be, you can genuinely tell that she wants to talk to you. It may start off with awkward small talk, but it can quickly evolve into more in-depth conversations about your shared interests. This is her way of getting to know you better, as well as her way of telling you things about herself that might make you interested in her.
2. She likes sitting next to you.
You always want to be around your crush. So in her case, she wants to be near you a lot. The best way to be near you while giving you a clue that she likes your company is when she sits next to you. This gives her opportunities to talk to you even when there are other people around.
3. She wants your attention.
She doesn’t have to be attention-seeking, but you can tell that she wants you to look her way. This can be by talking to you directly, by getting all dressed up when she knows you’ll be around, or by talking about topics she knows you’ll be interested in.
4. She gives you lots of attention.
Likewise, a girl who likes you will give you her full attention. She won’t be caught dead checking out her phone when she’s engaged in a conversation with you.
5. She gives you compliments.
Men tend not to receive lots of compliments, but she does want to give you some. She might comment on your nice haircut, your funny shirt, or your taste in music. This is her way of hinting that she likes whatever it is you’re into.
6. She likes having long conversations with you.
Women get to know people by engaging them in conversation. When she has conversations with you that goes through a range of topics, you can tell she doesn’t want the conversation to end because she likes talking to you so much!
7. She tries to be into what you’re into.
When a girl likes you, she’ll try to be a little more interested in the things you like. After all, if she likes you, then she might also like whatever you’re into. She does this so you can have more reasons to talk to her.
8. She is interested in what you have to say.
She might start to ask for your opinion on things, and you’ll notice that she’ll start taking your opinions to heart. This is her way of showing that what you think matters to her. And you might also notice that she’s starting to follow some of the advice you give.
9. She asks you for your opinion on things.
When she wants your opinion, she’s doing two things. First, she’s showing you that what you think matters to her. Second, she wants to genuinely know what you think about things so she can gauge if she’s right about having a crush on you.
10. She asks for your company.
She might be out and about, but she’ll still ask you to come with her on certain occasions. She’s not doing it because she needs someone around to keep her entertained while doing some boring errand. Instead, she’s doing it so she can spend as much time with you as possible.
11. She is not afraid to start a conversation with you.
Some ladies don’t want to be the first to start a conversation. This goes with some age-old relationship advice where men are supposed to be the initiator. But since that no longer applies in modern times, you’ll notice that she’s bold enough to strike a conversation with you.
12. She messages you first.
The above sentiment also applies to online conversations. When she sees you online, she’s not too shy to say hello. This is her way of telling you that she wants to talk to you for a bit.
13. She calls you for no particular reason.
It’s sweet when you know that someone’s calling you just to hear your voice and to let you know that they’re thinking of you, and this might be why she’s calling you for no particular reason. In her mind, she might really have something to say. But once that important thing has been said, you’ll notice that the conversation goes on for longer, mostly because she just wants to talk to you.
14. She asks you out.
We’re not talking about a date since this list is for a girl who has a secret crush on you. She might ask you out to watch a band when she’s out with her friends. This is her way of giving you a glimpse into her world and whatever it is she’s into.
15. She wants you to have a good time.
When you’re out with her, you might notice that she gets anxious. It’s not because she’s uncomfortable in your company. On the contrary, she wants you to be having as much fun as she is. Naturally, when we have a crush on someone, we want them to feel at ease and comfortable in our company. So in her case, you might notice her asking you if you’re okay, if you need anything, or if there’s anything else you want to do.
16. She is willing to shell out money just to be with you.
We’re not talking about her shelling out $1,000 to go on a weekend getaway with you. We mean she’s willing to treat you out to lunch or to some drinks when you mention that you’re a little strapped on cash. Keep in mind that when she does this, you should always offer to return the favor!
17. She tries to look good for you.
When a girl is in love, she’ll do little things to make sure her crush looks her way. She might start to put on a bolder lipstick or do her hair in a different way. However, this isn’t always limited to trying to look “prettier” for you. She might also try to look good for you by wearing a shirt with your favorite band printed on it.
18. She gives you little gifts.
When she goes out of town, she might hand out gifts to her friends. But she never forgets to get you a little something to. This is her way of telling you that even though she was away, she’s still thinking about you.
19. She likes to touch you.
With guys, being touchy-feely with girls can come off as super creepy and weird. But with girls it’s a little more acceptable. If a girl likes you, she’ll try to touch you as often as she can (without creeping you out, of course!). You may notice her brushing her thigh against yours when you’re sitting together. She might brush her fingers against yours when you’re handing her a beer. And she might even try to run her hands through your hair while she’s complimenting your new haircut.
20. She grooms you.
By grooming, we mean subtle gestures that help you look a little sharper. There might be a little fluff on your shoulder that she takes off. She might straighten out your collar or your tie. And if she’s a little bold, she’ll wipe off some sauce that got left on your mouth when you bit into your sandwich.
21. She gives you food.
All women know that the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. So when she starts giving you food, it’s a sign that she likes you. It could be anything from a bite of her sandwich to a home-cooked lunch that she packed for you. This is her way of showing you her motherly, caring side, which you might consider when you’re looking for a potential life partner.
22. She tells you little things about herself.
As we mentioned earlier, conversations are women’s way of bonding and getting to know other people. They like to share little things about themselves to people they want to bond with. So when she starts telling you about her childhood pet, some fun experiences she had in her teenage years, or some of her more recent adventures as an adult, this is her way of opening up to you in the hope that you’ll do the same.
23. She enjoys telling you about her day and asking you about yours.
When she tells you about her day, she does so as a way of bonding with you. And if she has a crush on you, this is her way of prompting you to do the same. She wants to know what goes on in your typical day so she can have a little glimpse into your life.
24. She jokes with you.
Few things are more rewarding than having an inside joke, and it becomes even more rewarding when that inside joke is shared with a crush!
25. She laughs at your jokes.
Maybe you’re not the funniest guy in the room. But you always manage to make her laugh. Even if you’re not funny, she’ll laugh because she’s into you.
26. She catches onto your sense of humor.
Humor is one of the best ways to really bond with a person. It’s tough to meet someone whose sense of humor really jives with yours. However, when you notice her starting to get into the humor you’re into (whether it’s gallows humor, slapstick humor, or even political humor), that’s her way of trying to get into a deeper aspect of your personality.
27. She wants to take selfies with you.
Lots of women love taking selfies with friends, so you might think she only sees you as a friend. However, when she often takes selfies with you, this could be her way of trying to show you through pictures that you look great together. It gives her a photo of you that she can look at when she feels like gushing about her crush. And of course, it’s also a great photo to show to her friends when she’s ready to tell them about this new guy she’s crushing on.
28. She wants you to hang out with her friends.
A woman’s group of friends is sacred. It’s her comfort zone. It’s her realm. And if she invites you to hang out with her friends so they can get to know you, you know that she wants them to see the guy who caught her eye.
29. She wants to hang out with your friends.
Likewise, when a girl wants to hang out with your friends, she wants to see a side of you that only your friends get to see. This is her way of being at her best so that your friends start to like her company to. This is a great way to make sure that when you find out that she likes you, your friends will tell you that she’s pretty cool and give you their blessing to be with her.
30. She hugs you.
A friendly hug can be something she willingly gives to all of her friends. But you can sometimes tell when someone’s hug is more than just a friendly hug. Does she hug you around your neck and place her cheek against yours? Does she run her hands over your back? Does she hug you a little longer than she usually hugs her friends? If you answered yes to these questions, then she could be hinting that she sees you as more than just a friend!
When a girl who might have a crush on you does many of the things she mentioned above, it might be time to realize that she really is into you!