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13 Signs Your Boyfriend is Gay

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The last thing you want is to be with someone who really, deep down, doesn’t want to be with you. They may love and care for you, but they’re not sexually aroused by you which is a huge problem. Does this mean they’re a bad person? No, they’re just hiding. Of course, it’s not nice that they’re using you to hide behind but if you know the signs then you’ll be able to pull out of the relationship before you get hurt. So, it’s your job to know the signs and to start looking at your relationship. That way, you can find someone who really wants to be with you. So, let’s not waste any more time. Here are the 13 signs that your boyfriend may be gay.

#1 You feel it

If you’re reading this then you already have some feeling that your boyfriend isn’t who he says he is. If you’ve gotten to this point where you’re researching the signs of homosexuality, then maybe it’s time you sat down with him and had a talk about it. Usually, your instinct is always right, so don’t let him try to persuade you differently, however, do your research ahead of time so you know what to look for.

#2 He doesn’t look at other women

Men look at women, it’s just as simple as that. Even if they’re madly in love with you, they’ll glance at a good looking girl that walks by. But, if your man isn’t looking at women at all, don’t take that as a compliment. This is an important sign we tend to overlook, however, it means a lot. If he doesn’t acknowledge the existence of other women, it may be because he’s not interested in them.

#3 He looks at other men

When he does look at other people, his eyes are on other men. He’ll notice all the small details about them and appreciate their style. Which doesn’t mean he;s gay, however, if at the same time he’s never looking at women, then you should be suspicious. Constantly checking out other men is a good hint for you to pay attention to.



#4 He’s flirty with men

Men usually aren’t physical with other men, however, if your boyfriend is always touching other men and eagerly doing do, then it may be a sign that he’s attracted to them. Now, don’t get me wrong, hugging another man does not mean he’s gay. However, there will be physical gestures that are slightly more sexual in nature, those are the ones you should keep an eye out for. A lingering hand on the shoulder or through the hair are good signs.

#5 He’s homophobic

Many men who are homophobic are actually homosexual themselves, yes, I know, what a surprise. This is actually the best way to tell if a man is gay or not. If he has an extreme hatred towards homosexuals, then there’s a high chance he;s in denial. Straight men are accepting of gay men unless they cross a boundary. However, unusual anger towards homosexuals is an all-telling sign that they’re closeted with their own sexuality.

#6 He doesn’t engage in sex with you
Now some days your partner won’t feel like having sex which is completely normal. However, are you always having to initiate sex? Do they willingly engage or does he usually come up with some excuse as to why he can’t? If he’s not into touching you, this is a great sign that he’s not sexually attracted to you. This doesn’t mean he’s gay, it just means you don’t turn him on. Now, if he’s only turned on when you use a strap-on of when you do things where he isn’t looking at your face – then that’s an excellent sign to show you that he isn’t as into you as you thought he was. Maybe it’s time you sat down with him and talked to him about that.

#7 His social circle is suspicious

If you were to go onto his Facebook profile, what would you see? Does he have a lot of different men on there? Men that you don’t know and have never met? Maybe you’re even surprised he knows some of them based on their own profiles. Maybe you found out he has a separate account that he’s been hiding from you which is another huge sign that he’s hiding something. If either account has copious amounts of strange men, I would be more concerned about the fact that he may be cheating on you.

#8 His internet history is always deleted



When you use his computer, his browsing history is always cleared. No one takes that much time to clear their browsing history unless there was something on it they didn’t want anyone to find. Now, this doesn’t mean he’s gay, but this means he’s hiding something. Now, you’d have to find a moment where he didn’t delete his browsing history to really find out what he’s hiding, but that won’t be so easy. Whatever he’s hiding, he really doesn’t want you to know about it. So, he may not be gay, but he may be chatting to other women or sending nudes to other people. Regardless, you need to do some investigating or just confront him on it.

#9 He has a gay dating profile

Well, this one really seals the deal, I think. If you found a dating profile with him where he’s on a gay dating app or says he’s “open-minded” on his profile, well, then you know. This doesn’t mean he’s gay, he could be bisexual, but now you’re aware that he’s looking to hook up with other people behind your back which isn’t cool. What the important thing here is, is that he’s looking to cheat on you, so his dishonesty should be enough to end the relationship.

#10 He hangs out with the boys…a lot

Men hang out with their male friends – this is completely normal. However, there’s a point where him hanging out with his friends is more important than seeing you. This, again, doesn’t mean he’s gay, but obviously he and his buddies are up to something. So, be mindful of that. It’s okay that he hangs out with his friends but if you haven’t seen him in a couple days, I would start to wonder what they’re doing and if you’re a priority because I don’t think you are.

#11 He’s really into his appearancee

He couldn’t care what you looked like, but when it comes to himself, he invests a lot of time into his look. Taking care of yourself doesn’t mean you’re gay or bisexual, it means you want to look good. However, if he goes with you to get his nails done or spends hours looking at hairstyles that he wants to try out, that’s a tad odd. There’s a certain level where hair gel, lotions and wax are normal and then there’s this area where you start to wonder what’s going on. If your boyfriend is in that grey area, it’s time you asked him some questions.

#12 He’s highly interested in the sexuality of others

Like, who actually cares if someone else is gay or straight. But for him, this is a huge deal. He’s really interested if you tell him that one of your friends is gay. He wants to know how they came out if they were accepted by their family and friends, how people reacted. If he’s always bringing up how someone he knows recently came out or how he’s curious about the gay community, well, maybe he’s interested in coming out himself. You don’t have to look too far to see what’s already in front of you. If he’s researching the pros and cons of coming out, well, then he obviously is weighing his options.

#13 This doesn’t mean he’s gay

Now, if he shows one of these signs unless it’s the gay dating app membership, it doesn’t mean he’s gay. But, if you’re noticing that he has many of these signs, well, then it’s time you reconsidered and reevaluated your relationship with him. Don’t be angry, sexuality is difficult to process, what you need to do is confront him and see what he says. Ideally, if he tells you he’s gay, well, now you know you can move on and find someone else who really likes you and your vagina. But, it could also mean he’s bisexual, which is a very quiet community of men, but it does exist.

Relationships are hard enough as is, so if you feel that your partner isn’t being honest with you, it’s time you looked at the signs and figured out what’s really going on. Though you may like him, if he’s not interested in women, then there’s not point being in a relationship with him any longer. Look for a couple of these signs and then prepare yourself to confront him. He may not admit to it right away, but eventually, since he knows you’re aware, he won’t have much of a choice.

 

4 COMMENTS

  1. I wonder. Been living with a guy for 5mths haven’t had sex in over a month and a half. He became disinterested when he started hanging out with his old friend. I had him grab my boobs and he seemed absolutely repulsed.he makes up excuses of why he doesn’t want to. I have never been so rejected.

    • He may no longer be physically attracted to you. He may also have lost his emotional connection with you. If this old friend is influencing him in a negative way, then their relationship may be at fault. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. Decide if you want to continue a relationship with someone who is repulsed by you. There are other opportunities available. Have a great day, Summer!

  2. My boyfriend enjoys dressing up as a female. And dosnt mind if he looks like a girl as being dressed up as himself. He denies he’s gay. And there are tranvestits that are straight. But there’s just something I’m missing and I’m not sure how to tell
    .when I ask him he always says no.

    • Men may be straight and be interested in dressing as a woman. Take this time to determine what you want for your relationship. It is possible that he is interested in continuing his behavior into your physical relationship. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. You may find great benefit in listening to his response. Have a great day, Lea!

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