If you’re on a first date or end up sitting beside your crush, you now have the opportunity to talk to him. But, what are you going to talk about? You’re probably the most nervous you’ve been since you went to get your ears pierced, which is completely understandable. But now is the time to maximize the chance to get to know your crush and vice versa. With that being said, you’re going to want to have some topics in your head that you’ll be able to use when you become nervous to forget what you wanted to say.
- Your common interests
You want to see what you and your crush have in common. This is a good way to see if you even connect on any level since he is just a crush for now. See if you two have any common interests. If you both like singing or running, you’ll be able to expand on that topic and connect. Maybe you two can arrange to go for a run together. Remember, those that run together, stay together. Basically, by seeing if you two have common interests, the conversation between you two will be a breeze.
- What he’s interested in
If you’re naturally a shy person, the best way to get to know someone is to let them talk about what they’re interested in. This will help you find out what kind of person he is and maybe, you find that some of his interests you’d like to try. Perhaps he’s into basketball or watching horror movies, but you’ll be able to see what moves and excites him.
People love to talk about themselves and don’t think this guy isn’t any different. You cannot go wrong with this topic. And if you’re shy and not into talking, with this topic, you probably won’t have to speak much, if at all. He’ll be rambling on about himself and trust me, he’ll be loving it. So, ask him about himself and start with simple questions working your way up to more complex ones.
- Current events
There’s always something going on in the world. Whether it’s politics, celebrity gossip or something going on within in your community. You can make a joke about Kendall Jenner or Justin Bieber and then watch the conversation take off from there. You don’t always have to talk about a serious event or topic in order to bring up some sort of discussion.
Travelling is a great topic because you’ll be able to scope out how adventurous they are and if they share the same desires for travelling as you. Maybe you hate to travel and they love it. Regardless, you’ll have something to talk about right away. Ask them where they’ve been and where they want to be, you’ll see his face light up with imagination.
- Life experiences
Everyone has experienced an embarrassing moment or even a traumatic event. But the point is, everyone has a story. You’ll be able to discuss whatever you want and he’ll most likely open up and share his experiences. You’ll be able to bounce stories off of each other – these conversations and priceless and usually help you connect. So, think of some of your worst date stories or most embarrassing moments because you’ll be needing to rehash them again.
Men love to laugh, just like women. So, don’t be shy to show your sense of humor to him. In fact, men love a woman who can laugh at a good joke and can give an even better one. When it comes to comedy, it’s important to see how you two connect. You want to be able to laugh at the same things. You can talk about your favorite television show or bring up your favorite comedian. If he loves your sense of humor, trust me, you guy will be laughing for the rest of the night.
If you two work or go to school together, this topic won’t be hard to bring up into conversation. You guys can talk about the programs you’re in and what you think of them. This always leads to you sharing what you love and hate about your work/school, so, there’s always a couple stories that’ll lead to shock and laughter. This also allows the opportunity for the conversation to move into a deeper avenue and discuss what you actually want to do and where you see yourself in five or ten years.
Whether you love or can’t stand your family, they always prove for good conversation. You two will get to share your family structure and the relationships within the family. Maybe he’s a mama’s boy or he’s not as close with his family. It’s always interesting to see what type of background the guy is coming from and if there is anything similar between families. Maybe you’ll share some childhood memories and give you the chance to take a walk down memory lane.
Most guys are interested in sports. Now, not all of them, but I can assure you that most men have at least tried to play one sport. If you already know he’s big into sports, well, then starting this topic means you’re aware that he’s going to talk your ear off about his favorite teams and players. But, if you’re into sports, then you’re going to love this. Maybe he plays football or water polo, who knows, with this question, you may be going to watch one of his games in the near future. If he doesn’t like sports and the thought of a baseball makes you yawn, then avoid this topic.
- List of favorites
What’s his favorite ice cream flavour? Boxers or briefs? Beach or mountains? Okay, you don’t have to ask him like he’s in a job interview, however, when the conversation starts to pitter out of flame, ask him one of these simple questions. Though these questions are straight to the point, but they tell you everything to need to know. It’s the easiest way to see if you two have anything in common. Plus, you’ll never know what he likes unless you ask.
Friends are just as important as family. In some ways, they’re even more important because you can choose your friends. So, you’ll be able to see what type of people they attract and who they enjoy spending their time with. Maybe you have mutual friends or maybe his friends are the complete opposite of yours. Regardless, you both will be able to share some memories of your friends and if all goes well, maybe you’ll get to meet his friends soon.
Music is huge. If you two don’t like the same music, there’s a high chance you two aren’t on the same level. Not that that’s a bad thing, but, people who tend to share different tastes in music and movies don’t usually connect. Music is the window into the soul, so, talk about music, your favorite genres and bands and vice versa. That way maybe you’ll be able to see if you two share the same taste and can connect on that level.
- The future
Not your future together, you’re going to scare the guy. But you can talk about what you’re planning to do or would like to do in the future. You can discuss global politics and where the world is going (that’s a little heavy, but whatever floats your boat) or where he wants to be in his life. You’ll get to see his mentality and what he sees and even if he thinks about the future.
- Last but not least, the weather
Now, you don’t have to talk about this. Actually, try talking about anything before you pull out the weather card. Now, unless the weather is something unusual, such as a snowstorm or a heat wave, leave the weather as the last topic. Why do you need to discuss the weather when you’re sitting in front of your crush? You have all these other topics to work with. But, if the conversation leaves you with no other direction but the weather, maybe this guy isn’t for you.
So, if you’re on your first date with your crush, don’t be nervous. You have plenty of topics to discuss, so don’t think you’ll run out of anything to talk about. Plus, if there’s more silence between you two and he’s not willing to engage in any conversation, then he’s not the one for you. If he was, he wouldn’t have a problem talking to you about anything.