Just because you like a girl doesn’t mean you need to chase after her like a dog without a bone. Sometimes, after chasing after enough women and not being successful at it, you wish that they would start chasing you instead. Why not give yourself a break and let her do the chasing instead. It definitely would make things a lot easier for you, right? Well, this isn’t a mythical idea, in fact, many guys have conquered the ability to getting girls to chase them. Trust me, once you know how to get a woman to chase you, you’re life will change – for the better!
First Impressions Matter
Listen, if you want to make a girl chase you, you’re going to need to nail your first impression. In the first thirty seconds, people come up with their judgments of the person they’re meeting for the first time. You cannot let your nerves get the best of you which is easier said than done. But, you need to work on your presentation and confidence when speaking to a girl for the first time.
Don’t look thirsty
Now, I’m not talking about water. If a girl has the impression that you’re desperate, then they’ll become turned off. The same goes for guys who feel a girl is too clingy and needy – people, in general, are not attracted to that. You need to make it a little challenging for her as that is what will make her chase you. They want a challenge.
This is really important as this will help you greatly when it comes to building your confidence and impression. Ahead of time, make sure you have a couple questions up your sleeve to ask her. Ask questions which not only show your intelligence but also your humorous side. Whatever you do though, don’t make it feel like an interview.
Don’t be too available
This is the thing, if you like someone, you don’t want to appear to be too available. Sounds a little silly, right? But here’s the thing, it’s important for her to see that you’re a busy guy and you’re not always available to give her attention. Of course, do give her some of your time, but not always being there will make her chase you for attention.
Do give her proper attention
The problem with guys and girls is that when we like someone, we give them all the attention in the world. Now, this isn’t bad when it’s mutual, however, if you’re trying to get her interested in you, then be sparse with the attention. Not only that, give her genuine attention rather than messaging her compliments all the time or buying her fancy gifts.
Connect to her mind
Okay, that sounded a little too hippy but it’s true. You can do everything on this list, but the most important thing to do is to connect to her brain. If you want to be successful, you need to start thinking like a woman. And as a woman myself, I know it’s not that easy to do. But, if you can see what she’s doing and be one step ahead, you’ll be able to act accordingly.
Know when to take control
Yes, you want her to chase you but at some point, if you really like her, you’re going to need to take control of the situation. She’s been chasing you but now you need to take her advances and show her that you want something serious with her.
Be funny and cocky
This is where many guys get wrong. There’s a thin line between being funny and cocky and many guys overstep their boundaries, making them look like jerks. Though girls can tolerate some cockiness, at some point, we become tired and lose interest. But, if you want a girl to be interested in you, you need to make her laugh, it’s the best way to get her to like you.
Don’t give it all away
When you first meet her, don’t make yourself an open book. It’s okay to keep some personal information to yourself until you get to know her more. It’s fine, to be honest, and open with someone, but, in general, you want to open yourself up when you get to know them a bit more. Plus, it adds more suspense, making her more curious about getting to know you.
Don’t chase her
This is the biggest mistake guys make when they sense the girl isn’t chasing them, instead, they start to chase her. Listen, no matter what you say or do, if a girl isn’t into you, she simply isn’t into you. This isn’t a reflection on you, it’s just that she’s not into you. Now, there is someone else out there that is into you. But just because she isn’t into you, doesn’t mean you need to chase her. I know you may be feeling anxiety but chasing her will only get you caught in your own game.
Find your style
It’s important that you find your own style when approaching a girl. Of course, there are a variety of reasons why girls are attracted to guys, however, this doesn’t mean you need to have all of them. Yes, you should cover the general factors such as dressing nice, being groomed and clean. But at the end of the day, women are attracted to different types of men for different reasons.
Put you first
When we like someone, we tend to lose sight of ourselves and put this person above us. But this is the key when you’re trying to make a girl chase you. You need to put yourself first. The moment you put her first, she’s no longer chasing you as now she’s a priority in your life. So, no matter how much you like her, always make sure that your needs are the first ones taken care of. Now, I’m not talking about sex, as that’s a completely different case.
Master your facial expressions
You have the “I want you” look because everyone has this look. The important thing is that you know what your look actually looks like and that you know how to use it. When you look at her, maintain eye contact for a couple of seconds to make sure she recognizes that you’re looking at her. You can smile or simply look away. Then, wait to see her reaction.
I know it sounds weird but it’s not. You have to understand her. To do this, step out of your comfort zone. By doing this, it shows her that it’s safe for her to open up and express how they feel. If you both don’t lower your walls, then this won’t be able to progress into anything. A connection is essential, regardless of what your goal is.
Don’t be a Debbie Downer
This one is important. Okay, girls sometimes like mysterious guys – this isn’t anything new. But, there’s a difference between being mysterious and being negative. Regardless of what’s going on in your life, you want to have a positive interaction with her. You have to show her that even though things aren’t going well, you can pick yourself up and carry on. This is not only a good characteristic for yourself, it’s a huge turn-on for her as well.
You want her to invest in you
This is also another point that sounds a little weird but just wait, I have a point. You want her to feel as though she can invest in you. This could be anything. She wants to confide in you, she wants to spend time with you – these are all components of investing in someone. When you invest in someone, you attach yourself emotionally to them which means she’s more likely to be into you and to want something with you.
Live a life you love
As this will reflect hugely on your frame of mind and outlook on life. If you’re living and enjoying the life you have, she’ll become automatically attracted to you as it’s a huge turn-on to see someone who truly enjoys their life. This doesn’t mean you need to be surrounded by models and expensive bottles of champagne, what matters is what truly makes you happy. In addition, this will only help to boost your self-confidence and self-esteem, thus, making you even more desirable to women. When you see a guy who looks like they have everything, be that guy because regardless of what he has, he’s the one getting the girl he wants. So, put in the effort is becoming the best version of you.
Do fun activities
If you’re going on dates with her, take her out on fun and exciting dates. Anyone can go for dinner and a movie but why not do a picnic on the beach or take her to an amusement park. Use activities around you in order to create a connection and show her that you’re a fun guy who loves to enjoy life. You want to show her that in your spare time, with or without her, you like to take part in interesting and cool things around the city. She may like taking part in them or she may not, but this will allow you to see where her interests are and if you two are compatible. If you’re only into playing Command and Conquer every day, well, you’re going to have to look for another hobby or interest because she’s not going to be into it. Choose an activity which you like to do and she’ll see that you’re genuine.
Just because you’re interested in a girl doesn’t mean you need to spend your time chasing her. If you’re too eager, it can be seen as a huge turn-off which is what you don’t want to happen. So, it’s time to switch the cards and let her do the chasing. If you follow these steps, you’ll be able to have her chasing you instead. Though it may seem challenging to do, it’s not. It will take some practice but once you get the hang of things, you’ll be having her chasing you in no time.