If you are a guy, being called a tool is offensive and confusing. You were talking to a friend or someone you liked. For some unknown reason, she decided to tell you that she thought you were a tool. In addition to being exceptionally inconsiderate, she is also a bit confusing. What exactly did she mean and what is she trying to signal to you?
According to Urban Dictionary, a tool is someone who is not smart enough to realize that he is being used. According to the site, a tool has a low self-esteem and/or a low intelligence. Other people think that a tool is someone who thinks that he is better than he is without really understanding his limits. They may try to look or talk a certain way, but they never notice the body language of the people that they are around.
Some girls go with the second definition of a tool. They think a tool is the guy you see at the gym, checking out his muscles and thinking that he is god’s gift to women. Before you can really determine what the girl meant by calling you a tool, you have to figure out what definition she means by it. Is she trying to say that you are egotistical and arrogant? Or is she trying to say that you are getting used by someone around you? If you know the meaning she gives to the phrase, it is easier to figure out what she means. We will cover some of the most common reasons why a girl might call a guy a tool.
1. She Genuinely Thinks You Are a Tool
This is the first and most obvious reason for it. She might not be trying to hurt you or push you away. She is just speaking her mind and telling you exactly what she thinks. If she is so blunt and outspoken, just ask her what she meant by it. She might have the wrong impression of you, or she may realize that some of your friends are secretly taken advantage of you. If you want to find out what she meant by it, one option is to just ask her.
2. She Wants You to Stop Hitting on Her
If she told you that you are a tool to your face, it is a rather bold, offensive thing to do. After all, how many people do you call names? Hopefully, not many. Calling someone a name is rather aggressive and it is a clear sign that she is not interested. If you have been crushing on her and are interested in dating her, she might be clearly trying to tell you that she is not interested and does not want to be with you ever. If you have been hitting on her, hearing the word “tool” is a clear sign that you should move on to someone else and forget about her.
3. She Does Not Want to Be Friends
Perhaps you are not interested in dating her—you just thought that she would be a cool friend or someone who could give you advice about your girlfriend. Again, calling you a tool is a clear sign that she does not want to be friends. In addition, it is also a good sign that she is not someone that you would ever want to be friends with. If this is how she reacts to someone who just wants to hang out with her, she is certainly not friend material.
4. She Thinks Your Girlfriend or Friends Are Using You
The girl might take the phrase, “tool,” very literally. The first definition is of a fool that is being used by others. You might not realize it, but someone around you could be using you. Most likely, this person is a close friend or a girlfriend. When you care for someone, you see the best of them and dismiss the little things that seem odd. As an outsider, the girl may notice these little things and realize that they add up to bad friends or a terrible girlfriend. If the other reasons on this list do not match up, you might want to consider if someone close to you is actually using you.
5. She Thinks You Are Arrogant
The second definition girls use for, “tool,” is basically arrogance. It involves someone thinking that they are more awesome, intelligent or attractive than they actually are. No one likes to think that they aren’t as cool as they think that they are, but you may want to stop and think about it. Until your perception of yourself is in line with the reality, you could end up getting this response more often than you would like.