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What Does It Mean to Dream About Someone You Hate?


When you feel strongly about anything, you are more likely to dream about it. Your dreams are populated by your subconscious thoughts, feelings and memories. If you have more memories of someone or deeper feelings about them, you are more likely to dream about them. When you dream about someone you hate, it is often these strong feelings that cause the dream to happen. dreaming of someone who doesn't like you

To really figure out what this dream means, you have to look at exactly what happens in the dream. For example, you dream that you argue with the person you hate and beat them up. In this case, the dream may show your desire to fight back and stop letting the hated person control your life. It shows your subconscious desire to speak your mind and break free of their influence.

In other cases, you might have a dream that you don’t do anything as the hated individual bosses you around or makes life difficult. A dream like this may show how you feel you are treated in real life. It may also show that you feel like you lack the strength or ability to speak your mind.

Before you can really decide what the dream means, you have to look at everything that happens in it. Think about who was present in the dream, how they acted and how you felt. Then, you can compare this to how you feel in your waking life to see what the deeper meaning is behind your dream.

1 You Really Hate Them

This is the most obvious and the most common reason why you had a dream about someone you hate. Your strongest feelings are the ones that are most likely to appear in your subconscious mind. Even though you hate thinking about them or being around them, the strength of your feelings remains cemented within your mind. Unfortunately, this creates a strong, fixed memory. You are more likely to dream about them again and again just because you hate them so much. If you can learn how to forgive and forget about them, your dreams may gradually stop.

2. You Wish You Could Heal the Problem

No one wants to be disliked. Even when you hate someone, a part of you wonders how they could possibly not like you. Even if you can never imagine yourself as being their friend or even an acquaintance, a part of you may wish that you could heal the relationship. You may also want the relationship to heal for other reasons. Having someone hate you can make hanging out in a group of friends or working with that person difficult. If you dream that you are trying to talk to the person, then your subconscious mind may just be reflecting your desire to heal the rift between you.

3. They Represent Something

Our subconscious minds are quite amazing. Sometimes, the people or things that appear in our dreams are actually a metaphor for something that is entirely different. For example, dreaming about a bird flying free through the sky could represent a desire for liberation or freedom in your own life.

Your dream about someone you hate might not be caused by your hatred. Even though you hate them, there might be something about them that you admire. The boss you hate so much may have an amazing family life or unbelievable ambition. You may hate them for the rest of their personality, but you admire their commitment to family or their ambition. If your dreams tends to involve more positive aspects of the hated individual, then it might mean that they are actually serving as a metaphor for another quality or feeling.

I have dreams that I'm friends with someone I hate

4. Danger

Hatred is often caused by emotions like fear. You may hate someone because of who they are, but you may also be afraid that they could hurt you. People generally hate someone who hates them, so it is logical to assume that this person might not like you either. If this is the case, it seems very rational to be afraid that they could impact your life or hurt you in some way. If your dream involves them fighting with you, arguing or actually hurting you, then this might be the interpretation of your dream.

Your dreams are made in the subconscious mind. Each night, your subconscious pulls the memories, thoughts and feelings that you have to create your dreams. Normally, the subconscious choose the memories and feelings that are the strongest. If you think about something or someone repeatedly, you are more likely to dream about them. In this case, your dream about someone you hate may be entirely because you hate them. They hold an out-side presence in your subconscious, so you dream about them more often. If you can learn to let go of your hatred, your dreams may gradually start to go away.


  1. I think I posted on this and got an answer for another dream but this one is different and has a different person in it. This one is about my ex boyfriend I didn’t exactly break up with him for a God’s reason rather a nieve stupid one. I have never regretted it because I knew we probably weren’t going to get serious and I couldn’t se a future further than maybe a month but this was about 2 years ago now and well I haven’t had another boyfriend since. Not because I still like him in that way or anything but just because I can’t find anyone I like. After we broke up we weren’t the best of friends after a while we tried to patch things up but it became a bit awkward and he got a bit weird and then out of the blue he asks me out again i kinda felt sorry for him but I wasn’t ready to have a relationship at the time then things become even more awkward and we drifted apart more I missed it before we began dating and we were just best friends. Anyway about in the middle of last year he moved away and about a 3 days ago now I dreamt that he was back in my school and we were friends again nothing more and I really enjoyed it and his company and I missed it. I woke up and I kinda miss him now you know as a friend. What does this all mean? And what should I do? I want to contact him but I can’t I don’t have his number and I don’t have any type of social media. My friends do but the only ones of my friends that do used to date him (before we become friends but we found out we were his exes after we became friends) and it’s just awkward but I miss him help me please…?

    • The two of you chose to end your relationship. This dream is a reflection of your previous emotional and social connection with him. You do not have a way to contact him. Allow thoughts of him to fade. Focus your emotional energy elsewhere. If the two of you meet again in the future, then speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. You may want to attempt to nourish a romantic relationship with someone else. Have a great day, Aaliyah!

  2. Thank you, but I do have another query…
    You said to let it fade it has been ages since the dream and whenever I am alone I reimagin the dream again and again and I can’t get it out of my head, what am I supposed to do I try thinking about something else but my brain won’t let me..! Again what am I supposed to do?

    • You continue to have these dreams. There may be various reasons for them. It seems as though you feel that these dreams are attempting to guide your actions. Since that is the case, you should think about taking action. If you want to speak with him about your thoughts and feelings, then do so. For now, determine what you believe is most appropriate. Have a great day, Aaliyah!

  3. I had a dream about an ex who I have a child with and in the dream he was in my house and asking me why I was still there. I couldn’t bring myself to answer him out loud but in my mind I was letting him know he could get out. The dream transitioned to us outside and an anaconda came out of no where. I grabbed our daughter and ran to the back screened area and he followed. The snake kept trying to get in and we tried everything to stop it. I woke up before I could find another solution to stopping the snake from getting in and attacking us but the snake was making its way through. How can I interpret this dream?

    • This dream is a reflection of your previous emotional relationship with your ex. The snake may have been a reflection of his behaviors during your relationship. It is possible that you have other concerns in your life which have manifested in this dream. Ensure that this dream guides you to share your kindness and compassion with everyone in your life. This will bring you many benefits in the future. Have a great day, Gigi!

  4. My dream was about someone I hate for hirtimg me. She brought up irrational things that happened moths ago just to start up a fight with me. Or comment on something that I posted on instagram saying your over exadurating when I thought that I wasn’t. Just last night I had a dream that we were fine and that we had a sleepover with my best friend and we were fine. My mum came in and acted like everything was before the fight. I googled to see what it ment (the dream) and I’m still not sure. What do you think my dream is?

    • Your dream is a reflection of your social relationship with this person. There may have been something in your life which caused the two of you to have stresses in your relationship. Something in your life may have reminded you of this person. Determine what you want for your future, and take appropriate action. Ensure that you share your kindness and compassion at all times. Have a great day, Hannah!

  5. I keep having a dream about my husband’s ex, her and I are enemies, we had a physical fight over him before him and I got together but we were sleeping with each other, here it is, we’ve been together for 17 years and I came across a text from her to him last year, I am still pissed off about it, how she got his number, well, his sister and her are best friends, but the sister don’t like me, but I don’t care for her either.

    • You established a relationship with a married man and ended his relationship. You are aware that he is still friends with his ex’s sister, which likely means that he has maintained a relationship with his ex. You found this text a year ago, and you are still upset about it. It seems as though you need to make a realistic decision about your future. Take whatever action you feel is appropriate. Have a great day, Tasha!

  6. In real life, there is someone I hate the most and he appears in my dream, the weird thing is, in my dream it looks like we love each other. What does it mean?

    • Your dreams about this person are manifestations of your strong negative feelings toward him. If you are not interested in thinking about him, then focus your emotional energy elsewhere. If you think about him in the future, then allow those thoughts to fade. Determine what you want for your future without this person, and take appropriate action. Have a great day, Anon!

  7. 6 months ago in real life, a day after my partner and i broke up i caught him with a skank in our bed. i got her the f*** out of my house – he had her over again the next day even though i told him not to. of course i went there and got her out of my house again. she didnt come back, they stopped talking. anyway as of about 2 weeks ago me and my ex are trying to patch things up. last night i had a very long and vivid dream about beating the absolute sh*t out of her because she wouldnt leave my house (it was at my dads old house in the first bedroom i had when we first moved in) – i could feel so much aggression and hatred!! i had her by the hair and was swinging her off the ground by it and then smashing her down to the floor – super strength. i even broke her leg! and she popped it back into place! no matter what damage i did to her, she WOULD NOT LEAVE. got to the point i was destroying her phone and throwing away her keys because nothing i did was making her leave. i remember her saying a couple times with a smile on her bloody face “youre gonna regret this”. and the more it went on, the creepier SHE got. towards the end of the dream it was all outdoors (my backyard or front yard) , i would think she had left, but she would be watching from somewhere. everytime i saw her when i thought she was gone id beat into her. its fuzzy how the dream actually ended – i think i ended up killing her or she just ended up disappearing. it was a very intense dream and im just curious as to if its just because i hate her guts or if theres a deeper meaning? it was a really strange dream. i cant recall one dream where my hits felt like theyve connected, these ones were connecting and felt weightless to do (like when i was swinging her up by the hair and smashing her down) and they were doing physical damage but she kept getting back up and refusing to leave!!!!! ahhhhh!!!!!!!!!!! >:|

    • Your dream is a reflection of your hatred and anger. While your feelings may be reasonable, you should not nourish them. Clearly your ex is not interested in being respectful to you. Make a decision about what you want for your future. Determine what you want for your future without him, and focus your emotional energy elsewhere. When you have negative feelings in the future, then try to develop positive feelings about the person that you are thinking about. Ensure that you share your kindness and compassion with everyone in your life, as this will bring positive people and energy into your life. Have a great day, Connie!

  8. I had this dream where I kept dreaming of a girl that I used to be friends with. The day I confessed to her, I waa rejected, which I respect. But after asking her if we were still friends, she told me she never saw me as a friend. We stopped talking after that. Unfortunately, I keep having dreams involving her. Sometimes she would appear in my dreams my other group of friends. Yet I still try my best to avoid her in those dreams due to my hatred towards her. Why does she still spear in my dreams?

    • It sounds like the two of you had a discussion during your waking life where she informed you that she is not interested in maintaining a romantic relationship or friendship with you. Your dreams seem to be reflections of your negative feelings toward this person. Since you are not maintaining a relationship with her, you should determine what you want for your future without her. You will find great benefit in sharing your kindness and compassion at all times. Have a great day, L!

  9. Not really any of these. In my dream i was hanging out with my friends and he came by with his friends and i felt like he liked me a little, does this mean anything?

    • Your dream is a reflection of your social relationship with this person. It is possible that you are interested in maintaining a relationship with him. Determine what you want for your future. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings, and give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Nourish this relationship by spending additional time with him in person. Have a great day, Victoria!

  10. Ok so this dream made me so confused and it’s not the first time I dream of this boy from my school and previous class that hates me and I hate him. His behavior shows he doesn’t like me and I don’t either he gives me intense looks and it makes me uncomfortable and he’s everywhere which makes me feel anxious and creeped out and he’s done things to me that anger me so much like looking through my private information/ portfolio of my personal life and acting like he didn’t when I caught him. Anyways I dreamt of him many times but this one dream I woke up mad, basically he appeared out Of no where it was night time and I was lost around a big park and it was raining. He appears and he was following me. He followed me everywhere I ran and ran away and he would run behind me looking for me if I ever did loose him. And I was tired of running so much I realized it was a dream . And I finally stopped running and he caught up to me and I asked why are I following me stop following me and he said Idk I just have too, I can’t loose you he said he had to be where I was because he had to “protect me” and I was like why and he didn’t answer and keep in mind this kid I hate and he hates me and I’m my dream I was so frustrated because he followed me everywhere he wouldn’t loose me at all. So everywhere I went he was as there and in my dream there was a part where I was going to run and it was hard for me and he said “ No your not going anywhere” and he wrapped his arms around me and held me while walking and tried so hard to shove him off and he didn’t Bulge at all and I said why are you doing this and he didn’t answer and then I started controlling my dream and asked if he liked me in real life and he said no and then I asked if he wants to ask me out in real life and he said no and so then I asked why are you “protecting me here in the dream” and he said “because I have too” and then he never let go and I woke up. And this ain’t the first time I dreamt of this stupid kid and it annoys me so much because it’s the same every other time he pops out of no where and he’s always watching me and following me like lurking in my dreams and I’m always confused and it’s annoying because he’s around all the time and I ignore him and now he pops out in my dreams and I hate him for it . So can you please help me interpret these 2 dreams or dream especially the first one thank youuu

    • This dream is a reflection of your social and emotional relationship with this person. The two of you have had negative interactions in your waking life. During your dream, you started to control it. It is possible that this was an indication of your growing feelings for him. It seems that you need to make a decision about what you want for your future. If you want to speak with him, then do so. If not, then focus your emotional energy elsewhere. Have a great day, M!

  11. I kind of understand but the emotional part I don’t. I don’t understand that I don’t have growing feelings for him, and I try focusing on something else I do I ignore and mind my business but no matter how hard I try he’s always there. He’s literally everywhere and i don’t know what else to do? Please If you can give me advice.

    • It sounds like you need to make a decision about the future of this relationship. If you want to maintain a relationship with this person, then do so. If not, then focus your emotional energy elsewhere. You will find great benefit in sharing your kindness and compassion at all times. Have a great day, M!

  12. I keep having dreams about my boyfriend of 4 years and a pretty girl that used to be his close friend. When we started dating, I found out that they “kind of” liked each other, but she had a boyfriend at the time. I could always tell she did NOT like me. My boyfriend and I have a very healthy relationship. Yet, my insecurity is that she will come out of nowhere and take him, or that they both wanted to be together but they couldn’t at the time. So when I dream about her, it’s always involving the two of them together, laughing and having fun. What could this mean? :/

    • This dream is a reflection of your knowledge of your partner’s previous social relationships. If your partner has not behaved in an inappropriate manner, then allow this dream to fade. If your partner has reached out to her and acted in a manner that makes you feel uncomfortable, then speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Nourish your relationship with your partner by spending additional time with him in person. Have a great day, S!

  13. Hi dreamt of my boss who has made my life miserable. In real life he is trying his level best to let me down and find my faults. He is just 1 month old in orgnaisation whereas i hv been in the same organisation from past 5 yrs. Without any reason he has targetted me and professionally we are not in good terms as of now. But i dreamt of being married to him. Even after marriage I am not talking to him but in dreams he is actually caring about me and asks about me being comfortable or to go for a vacation somehwere together.
    When I woke up. I felt weird. Cant understand what it means. Pls help.

    • You are in an unhealthy work environment. Begin taking notes of his actions. Inform someone that you trust regarding his behaviors, preferably someone who will support you if these interactions need to be reported to human resources. If his inappropriate behaviors continue, then speak with his boss regarding his actions, and report that discussion to human resources. If you find that your business does not support you, then you may want to speak with the government or find new employment. The notes will support your case, so ensure that you write then down and date them. Have a great day, Kanu!

  14. So, the person i hate is my ex. I had a dream that we were doctors in a room with other ones as well, and he got picked to do a surgery that i wanted, and it was my crush who picked him for the surgery. recently, irl, someone took a spot i wanted in a skit and i got the “backup”, but it wasn’t my ex who took the spot. But in my dream it was my ex who took something i wanted, and i felt as if i was trapped in this cycle of anger and being irritated just like the moment that kid took the spotlight. Our relationship wasn’t bad and neither was our breakup, so what could this dream mean?

    • The dream may just show that you have some resentment or hurt feelings that still lurk beneath the surface. Even when you have a good breakup, there are always negative feelings as the relationship you wished for turns out to be impossible.

  15. The person i hate is my cousin , we havent talked in a year because some boys got between us , she was my best friend, diary , ride or die, & my sister all in one person. Weve never fought in our 17 years of living together ive never thought this one fight would get between us . anyways , after we talked about this incident , she told me she would never talk to me again and that i need to grab all my things and find somewhere else to sleep . i grabbed my stuff and moved out and told her shes basically dead to me , we went our part ways and it still sucks that the one friend & cousin that i had wont be here for me anymore and im on my own , i think about hitting her up all the time but i guess it is what it is , i had a dream we made up and i moved back in with her

    • It is possible that she is interested in maintaining a relationship with you again. Of course, you made your feelings clear when you moved. This likely means that your relationship has changed forever. Take this time to make a decision about what you think is appropriate and what you want for the future. If you want to speak with her about your thoughts and feelings, then do so. Be certain to give her an opportunity to share herself with you as well.

  16. Hi! I don’t actually hate this person, but he may classmate. He’s a player cause he flirts with girls all the time, just switch and off. He might not be a player for other’s people perspectives, but I’ve seen him forth and back and I have been one of the girls he flirts with. Idk how to explain the relationship between us but we’re classmate and friends. We used to have a little band together last year and was some sort connected. I dont like him, but I did ages before. Enough of the story behind it, I’ve had this dream twice. The first night was we were a couple with each other, but he never ever talked to me. The same happened in the second dream which happened a few days ago, but he never talked to me again. I’ve dreamt about him 3 times in a row this week even though I never think of him. What does that mean?

    • This dream is a reflection of your previous social and emotional relationship with this person. You are aware that his current behaviors may be inappropriate, which means you need to critically consider what you want for the future of this relationship. If you decide to maintain a romantic relationship with him, then speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Of course, you should remain mindful of his current behaviors before you reach out to him.


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