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What Does It Mean to Dream About Someone You Hate?


When you feel strongly about anything, you are more likely to dream about it. Your dreams are populated by your subconscious thoughts, feelings and memories. If you have more memories of someone or deeper feelings about them, you are more likely to dream about them. When you dream about someone you hate, it is often these strong feelings that cause the dream to happen. dreaming of someone who doesn't like you

To really figure out what this dream means, you have to look at exactly what happens in the dream. For example, you dream that you argue with the person you hate and beat them up. In this case, the dream may show your desire to fight back and stop letting the hated person control your life. It shows your subconscious desire to speak your mind and break free of their influence.

In other cases, you might have a dream that you don’t do anything as the hated individual bosses you around or makes life difficult. A dream like this may show how you feel you are treated in real life. It may also show that you feel like you lack the strength or ability to speak your mind.

Before you can really decide what the dream means, you have to look at everything that happens in it. Think about who was present in the dream, how they acted and how you felt. Then, you can compare this to how you feel in your waking life to see what the deeper meaning is behind your dream.

1 You Really Hate Them

This is the most obvious and the most common reason why you had a dream about someone you hate. Your strongest feelings are the ones that are most likely to appear in your subconscious mind. Even though you hate thinking about them or being around them, the strength of your feelings remains cemented within your mind. Unfortunately, this creates a strong, fixed memory. You are more likely to dream about them again and again just because you hate them so much. If you can learn how to forgive and forget about them, your dreams may gradually stop.

2. You Wish You Could Heal the Problem

No one wants to be disliked. Even when you hate someone, a part of you wonders how they could possibly not like you. Even if you can never imagine yourself as being their friend or even an acquaintance, a part of you may wish that you could heal the relationship. You may also want the relationship to heal for other reasons. Having someone hate you can make hanging out in a group of friends or working with that person difficult. If you dream that you are trying to talk to the person, then your subconscious mind may just be reflecting your desire to heal the rift between you.

3. They Represent Something

Our subconscious minds are quite amazing. Sometimes, the people or things that appear in our dreams are actually a metaphor for something that is entirely different. For example, dreaming about a bird flying free through the sky could represent a desire for liberation or freedom in your own life.

Your dream about someone you hate might not be caused by your hatred. Even though you hate them, there might be something about them that you admire. The boss you hate so much may have an amazing family life or unbelievable ambition. You may hate them for the rest of their personality, but you admire their commitment to family or their ambition. If your dreams tends to involve more positive aspects of the hated individual, then it might mean that they are actually serving as a metaphor for another quality or feeling.

I have dreams that I'm friends with someone I hate

4. Danger

Hatred is often caused by emotions like fear. You may hate someone because of who they are, but you may also be afraid that they could hurt you. People generally hate someone who hates them, so it is logical to assume that this person might not like you either. If this is the case, it seems very rational to be afraid that they could impact your life or hurt you in some way. If your dream involves them fighting with you, arguing or actually hurting you, then this might be the interpretation of your dream.

Your dreams are made in the subconscious mind. Each night, your subconscious pulls the memories, thoughts and feelings that you have to create your dreams. Normally, the subconscious choose the memories and feelings that are the strongest. If you think about something or someone repeatedly, you are more likely to dream about them. In this case, your dream about someone you hate may be entirely because you hate them. They hold an out-side presence in your subconscious, so you dream about them more often. If you can learn to let go of your hatred, your dreams may gradually start to go away.


  1. I think I posted on this and got an answer for another dream but this one is different and has a different person in it. This one is about my ex boyfriend I didn’t exactly break up with him for a God’s reason rather a nieve stupid one. I have never regretted it because I knew we probably weren’t going to get serious and I couldn’t se a future further than maybe a month but this was about 2 years ago now and well I haven’t had another boyfriend since. Not because I still like him in that way or anything but just because I can’t find anyone I like. After we broke up we weren’t the best of friends after a while we tried to patch things up but it became a bit awkward and he got a bit weird and then out of the blue he asks me out again i kinda felt sorry for him but I wasn’t ready to have a relationship at the time then things become even more awkward and we drifted apart more I missed it before we began dating and we were just best friends. Anyway about in the middle of last year he moved away and about a 3 days ago now I dreamt that he was back in my school and we were friends again nothing more and I really enjoyed it and his company and I missed it. I woke up and I kinda miss him now you know as a friend. What does this all mean? And what should I do? I want to contact him but I can’t I don’t have his number and I don’t have any type of social media. My friends do but the only ones of my friends that do used to date him (before we become friends but we found out we were his exes after we became friends) and it’s just awkward but I miss him help me please…?

    • The two of you chose to end your relationship. This dream is a reflection of your previous emotional and social connection with him. You do not have a way to contact him. Allow thoughts of him to fade. Focus your emotional energy elsewhere. If the two of you meet again in the future, then speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. You may want to attempt to nourish a romantic relationship with someone else. Have a great day, Aaliyah!

  2. Thank you, but I do have another query…
    You said to let it fade it has been ages since the dream and whenever I am alone I reimagin the dream again and again and I can’t get it out of my head, what am I supposed to do I try thinking about something else but my brain won’t let me..! Again what am I supposed to do?

    • You continue to have these dreams. There may be various reasons for them. It seems as though you feel that these dreams are attempting to guide your actions. Since that is the case, you should think about taking action. If you want to speak with him about your thoughts and feelings, then do so. For now, determine what you believe is most appropriate. Have a great day, Aaliyah!

  3. I had a dream about an ex who I have a child with and in the dream he was in my house and asking me why I was still there. I couldn’t bring myself to answer him out loud but in my mind I was letting him know he could get out. The dream transitioned to us outside and an anaconda came out of no where. I grabbed our daughter and ran to the back screened area and he followed. The snake kept trying to get in and we tried everything to stop it. I woke up before I could find another solution to stopping the snake from getting in and attacking us but the snake was making its way through. How can I interpret this dream?

    • This dream is a reflection of your previous emotional relationship with your ex. The snake may have been a reflection of his behaviors during your relationship. It is possible that you have other concerns in your life which have manifested in this dream. Ensure that this dream guides you to share your kindness and compassion with everyone in your life. This will bring you many benefits in the future. Have a great day, Gigi!

  4. My dream was about someone I hate for hirtimg me. She brought up irrational things that happened moths ago just to start up a fight with me. Or comment on something that I posted on instagram saying your over exadurating when I thought that I wasn’t. Just last night I had a dream that we were fine and that we had a sleepover with my best friend and we were fine. My mum came in and acted like everything was before the fight. I googled to see what it ment (the dream) and I’m still not sure. What do you think my dream is?

    • Your dream is a reflection of your social relationship with this person. There may have been something in your life which caused the two of you to have stresses in your relationship. Something in your life may have reminded you of this person. Determine what you want for your future, and take appropriate action. Ensure that you share your kindness and compassion at all times. Have a great day, Hannah!

  5. I keep having a dream about my husband’s ex, her and I are enemies, we had a physical fight over him before him and I got together but we were sleeping with each other, here it is, we’ve been together for 17 years and I came across a text from her to him last year, I am still pissed off about it, how she got his number, well, his sister and her are best friends, but the sister don’t like me, but I don’t care for her either.

    • You established a relationship with a married man and ended his relationship. You are aware that he is still friends with his ex’s sister, which likely means that he has maintained a relationship with his ex. You found this text a year ago, and you are still upset about it. It seems as though you need to make a realistic decision about your future. Take whatever action you feel is appropriate. Have a great day, Tasha!

  6. In real life, there is someone I hate the most and he appears in my dream, the weird thing is, in my dream it looks like we love each other. What does it mean?

    • Your dreams about this person are manifestations of your strong negative feelings toward him. If you are not interested in thinking about him, then focus your emotional energy elsewhere. If you think about him in the future, then allow those thoughts to fade. Determine what you want for your future without this person, and take appropriate action. Have a great day, Anon!

  7. 6 months ago in real life, a day after my partner and i broke up i caught him with a skank in our bed. i got her the f*** out of my house – he had her over again the next day even though i told him not to. of course i went there and got her out of my house again. she didnt come back, they stopped talking. anyway as of about 2 weeks ago me and my ex are trying to patch things up. last night i had a very long and vivid dream about beating the absolute sh*t out of her because she wouldnt leave my house (it was at my dads old house in the first bedroom i had when we first moved in) – i could feel so much aggression and hatred!! i had her by the hair and was swinging her off the ground by it and then smashing her down to the floor – super strength. i even broke her leg! and she popped it back into place! no matter what damage i did to her, she WOULD NOT LEAVE. got to the point i was destroying her phone and throwing away her keys because nothing i did was making her leave. i remember her saying a couple times with a smile on her bloody face “youre gonna regret this”. and the more it went on, the creepier SHE got. towards the end of the dream it was all outdoors (my backyard or front yard) , i would think she had left, but she would be watching from somewhere. everytime i saw her when i thought she was gone id beat into her. its fuzzy how the dream actually ended – i think i ended up killing her or she just ended up disappearing. it was a very intense dream and im just curious as to if its just because i hate her guts or if theres a deeper meaning? it was a really strange dream. i cant recall one dream where my hits felt like theyve connected, these ones were connecting and felt weightless to do (like when i was swinging her up by the hair and smashing her down) and they were doing physical damage but she kept getting back up and refusing to leave!!!!! ahhhhh!!!!!!!!!!! >:|

    • Your dream is a reflection of your hatred and anger. While your feelings may be reasonable, you should not nourish them. Clearly your ex is not interested in being respectful to you. Make a decision about what you want for your future. Determine what you want for your future without him, and focus your emotional energy elsewhere. When you have negative feelings in the future, then try to develop positive feelings about the person that you are thinking about. Ensure that you share your kindness and compassion with everyone in your life, as this will bring positive people and energy into your life. Have a great day, Connie!

  8. I had this dream where I kept dreaming of a girl that I used to be friends with. The day I confessed to her, I waa rejected, which I respect. But after asking her if we were still friends, she told me she never saw me as a friend. We stopped talking after that. Unfortunately, I keep having dreams involving her. Sometimes she would appear in my dreams my other group of friends. Yet I still try my best to avoid her in those dreams due to my hatred towards her. Why does she still spear in my dreams?

    • It sounds like the two of you had a discussion during your waking life where she informed you that she is not interested in maintaining a romantic relationship or friendship with you. Your dreams seem to be reflections of your negative feelings toward this person. Since you are not maintaining a relationship with her, you should determine what you want for your future without her. You will find great benefit in sharing your kindness and compassion at all times. Have a great day, L!

  9. Not really any of these. In my dream i was hanging out with my friends and he came by with his friends and i felt like he liked me a little, does this mean anything?

    • Your dream is a reflection of your social relationship with this person. It is possible that you are interested in maintaining a relationship with him. Determine what you want for your future. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings, and give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Nourish this relationship by spending additional time with him in person. Have a great day, Victoria!


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