Pet names are one of the oldest relationship traditions in the book. They are a way for you and her to set yourselves apart from the rest of the world. When a girl starts calling you hun it might mean that she feels something special for you. But not necessarily.
The truth is that women are complex, and so are the ways that they interact with the people around them. If you want to know what she means when she calls you hun you have to think about things on a deeper level.
It’s how she says it
The words that a woman uses can be very meaningful, but they are just a small bit of the bigger picture. The words she’s using are just the tip of the communication iceberg, and so you need to try and go below the surface to find the whole meaning. For example, how does she say the word hun?
A girl can say “I love you,” but if she says it in an off-handed manner then chances are the words don’t have a truly deep meaning. The same goes for hun, if she just mumbles the words your way or recites them robotically, then chances are she’s acting on instinct rather than any sort of deeper emotion.
Look at how she interacts with other people
You can’t really make sense of the way a woman’s treating you until you’ve seen the way that she handles other people. There are some women who are so open that they can crawl on top of you and it wouldn’t mean anything to them, while there are some girls who are so cold that a smile from them might as well be a marriage proposal.
In this context, it’s worth seeing if she calls other people hun. The word itself isn’t so strong that it can only be used in a committed relationship, most people will get called hun by a friendly waitress looking for tips at some point in their life.
If your girl calls everyone run, then you can’t really come to any big conclusion. She might love you, or she might not care about you, there’s no way to know from the one word. But if she only calls you hun and isn’t quick to give anyone else a nickname then you’re probably special to her.
Going through changes
Ask yourself a question, has she called you hun before or is this a new thing? If a girl uses the word in a very meaningful way, chances are she won’t just use it on a stranger. It will take some time before she considers a man her honey. If you had to earn the title of hun, then it’s going to be more meaningful than if it was tossed out for free at the start of your relationship.
Turnaround is fair play
One way to see where you stand with a woman is by mirroring her own actions while amplifying them slightly. A clear example of this is touching a girl back when she touches you, and allowing your fingers to linger a bit longer.
Verbally you can reply to her calling you hun by giving her your own nickname. Honey is the clear option, but you can go with something else that is similarly low key but still suggestive.
Watch how she reacts. If she smiles and opens up her body language, then she’s probably happy that you’re flirting back. If she recoils and tries to distance herself from you then she probably didn’t mean anything by the word.
The value of a pet name
One of the reasons that relationships are important to people is because it makes them feel special. You might just be one person out of seven billion on this planet, but that doesn’t mean you aren’t special to your romantic partner. Pet names are valuable because they emphasize this, you are giving each other names that only you use.
The problem is that there can be some overlap between romantic pet names and nicknames that have no deeper meaning. “Hun” sits in an awkward position between the two extremes. You can’t make sense of it on its own; you have to look at how it is used.
Watch her body language as she says the word, listen for her tone, and think about your larger relationship with her. When you put all of these pieces together a picture will start to emerge.