If you’re interested in dating a girl, you’re probably also interested in that first kiss. It can be pretty daunting, especially when you’re just getting to know one another. No one wants to break the magic moment before the first kiss by awkwardly asking if the other would like to do. So, we usually take cues from body language.
Usually, guys are the ones to take the plunge and kiss a girl first. Thousands of love stories have been built off this very trope: guy kisses girl. But what does it mean if she takes the lead and kisses you first? Well, it’s usually all good things. Guys, don’t worry if a girl decides to kiss you first. There’s plenty of reasons why.
1. She didn’t want to wait
If you’re on a date with a girl, or hanging out together, and you’re still moments away from that first kiss, she probably realizes it too. She may have been waiting for you to work up the nerve to kiss her first, but decided that enough was enough. If a girl kisses you first, she’s probably just tired of waiting and wants to kiss you. Don’t be embarrassed! It can take a lot of courage to work up to that first kiss. If she couldn’t stand waiting for you to kiss her first, it’s probably a sign that she really likes you, anyway.
2. She wanted to
Simple as that! If a girl kisses you first, it’s probably because she doesn’t believe in the whole idea of waiting for a guy to kiss her first. She’s probably really into you, and really wanted to kiss you. So, she just went ahead and did it. It doesn’t have to be a big mystery. Sometimes, we do things just because we want to. And if this girl gave you a kiss first, it was definitely because she wanted to. Chances are, she likes you a lot and would like to continue kissing you. So, don’t worry – and get back to kissing her!
3. She likes to take control
A girl who kisses first isn’t afraid of being seen as confident and headstrong. She’s probably not the kind of girl that will sit around waiting for your call. If you’re into her, you should definitely know that she’s not a girl you can push around or treat badly. If she kisses you first, it’s probably a sign that she likes to be in control. That could be all kinds of fun for the both of you! She likes you, and she wants to let you know. You’re probably going to get a lot more kisses like that in the future, so get ready!
4. She likes you
Well, obviously. Girl’s don’t tend to kiss guys that they don’t want to kiss. So, if she takes the plunge and kisses you first, it’s a sure enough sign that she likes you. At least, she likes you enough to give kissing a try! It could mean a lot of things, but chances are the most that it means when a girl kisses you first is that she likes you. If you like her too, don’t worry too much about who kissed who first! Just get back to kissing!
5. It’s a test run
This is probably unlikely, but she may be testing to see how you react. Girls generally understand that the narrative usually ends with the guy kissing the girl first. They also usually know that’s not how it has to go. If she kisses you first, she might be testing to see how you react – if you think it’s weird, or if you’re into it, or if you just don’t care and want to keep kissing her. Depending on your reaction, she’ll either keep wanting to be around you, or she’ll realize you’re not the type of guy she wants to be with at all. So, if you really like this girl, play it cool. She likes you enough to kiss you, and that’s kind of all that matters, right? Just kiss her first, next time!
If you don’t have a lot of experience when it comes to girls and kissing, trying to figure out what’s normal and what isn’t can be a little difficult. Luckily, there’s no right way to dating, or the first kiss. You can usually tell why a girl kisses you first by context – or, she’ll just tell you. If she wants to kiss you, she’ll do it! If you want to be the first one to kiss her, you’ll have to work up the nerve to do it before she does. Either way, someone’s face is getting kissed, and that’s usually a good thing all around. Don’t worry too much about who kissed who first – just make sure that you’re treating her right so she’ll want to let you kiss her again!