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What Does It Mean When A Girl Says She Misses You?

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When you’re talking to a woman, you can’t assume that you know what she actually means. This doesn’t just ring true with women; all human speech depends on context. But the way men and women speak often differs and these differences can become more pointed when romance is involved.

So, if you want to understand what your girl means when she says that she misses you it’s worth considering all of the different possible meanings. We don’t know the girl you’re talking to so we can’t tell you exactly what’s on her mind. What we can do is go over the most common meanings behind these simple words.

It’s up to you to consider the context, your relationship with the girl in question, and anything else that comes to mind to decide which of these meanings fits the situation you’re going through.

She’s expressing her emotions

People are emotional by nature, but women are taught to be more expressive with their emotions. This is something you need to remember as a man; women usually want a man who will listen to them and try and understand what they’re going through.

A woman isn’t necessarily asking for anything from you when she’s talking to you; there’s a good chance she just wants to know that someone in her life cares about her feelings. So when she tells you that she misses you, she wants to know that her feelings are understood and appreciated.

One way to do this is by returning the gesture and telling her that you miss her too, though you should probably save this reply for situations where you actually miss her. With that being said, don’t leave a girl hanging unless you’re prepared to let her walk out of her life.

She’s inviting you over

How long has it been since you’ve seen her? How far away is she? Girls tend to be a little less direct than men. A big reason for this is upbringing; the media often says that it’s “unladylike” to be direct with a man.

It’s the reason that women are less likely to ask a man out on a date. With that said, they are encouraged to be indirect, suggesting the things they want in a way that encourages the man to take proactive steps.

If you haven’t seen your girl in a while and out of the blue, she says that she misses you then it’s worth asking if she wants you to come see her or if she might want to visit you. Too many men have missed out on their chance to get lucky by letting this opening slip by.

She’s looking to make up

If you’ve been going through a fight, a separation, or an out-and-out breakup, then she might be trying to reconnect with you. Don’t take this to be an admission of guilt or an apology. If you’re fighting, she might still hold a grudge or be unwilling to apologize. It’s up to you to decide whether or not you’re willing to let things slide and let her back.

She’s lonely

People need human contact and interaction. It’s a basic need that is almost as powerful as the need to breathe and eat. As people go for extended periods of time without real human interaction they become more desperate.

There isn’t an easy way to tell how she feels about you. You have to talk to her more and see how she acts. If she’s always complaining about her ex to you, then chances are she really misses her ex and is using you as a source of human contact since she can’t go back to her ex.

When you meet up to see if she’s focused on you or if she’s distant. If she only interested in fulfilling her own needs and desires then you might not be that special to her. When people get desperate, they will turn to whoever can meet their needs. Once those needs are met, they will start looking for someone they are more interested in. Be prepared.

She’s being friendly

Did she say she missed you out of nowhere or did you say it first? If you mentioned it first then you have to be careful, she might honestly miss you, or she might just be friendly and afraid to hurt your feelings. Jumping to conclusions about her intentions can be dangerous. Don’t just assume that she has romantic feelings; it’s possible to miss people in an entirely platonic way.

How does she act when she’s around you? Does she treat you like a friend or is their sexual tension? Does she always talk about her relationships with other men and try to set you up with other women? In those cases she’s probably just a friend and telling you, she misses you in the same way you might say “I miss you bro” to your friend.

 

Don’t get ahead of yourself

Hope can be a dangerous thing. If you’re seriously crushing on a girl, then you might want to jump on anything that hints she’s interested in you. You can’t go too crazy based on one phrase.

With women you can’t just look at what she says, you need to think about the context she said it in and how she said the words. This doesn’t mean you have to go crazy over-analyzing everything. It just means you should try and find out more.

No matter what the case may be you might as well meet up with her. If you miss her and she says she misses you, then it’s worth getting together and seeing how things go. Just try not to bring too much baggage with you when you show up.

34 COMMENTS

  1. Well I’ve had a crush for about six years now she never liked me because I am younger but our parents always joke about us being together. time passes by and obviously nothing happens but last year on my birthday she sent me happy birthday future boyfriend etc. we talked and obviously she doesn’t like me and Again our parents would joke around us being together ..this year she sent me another birthday message saying “you’re growing up on me too fast LOL but I miss you”what should I reply?

    • It is possible that he is interested in a developing a relationship with you. Take this time to determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Edward!

    • If she has reached out to you and told your that she misses you, then it is likely that she feels an emotional connection with you. She may be interested in developing a relationship with you. Take this time to determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Tim!

  2. Good evening I called her obviously I missed her , she told me I sounded good and that she misses me. I told her I missed her more , did I jump the gun?

    • You shared your thoughts and feelings with her. You spoke exactly as you should have. Take this time to determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak directly and honestly with her about your thoughts and feelings. Give her an opportunity to share herself with you as well. Have a great day, Trey!

  3. I miss him every single day.. I tell him I miss him every time I get the chance to talk to him.. 😔 I mean he does says he misses me too.. But.. Idek if he means it like that.. Aint breaks me.. Because I really like him… I guess I just met the right person on the wrong time..

    • It is likely that he is being honest that he misses you. He may be confused about his thoughts and feelings. He may or may not be interested in developing a relationship with you. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Bexan!

      • Thank you so much for replying~! but the thing is… I already found out he has eyes for someone else. 🙁 But that’s okay. Theres tons of fishes in the sea and to be completely honest, I really dont need a man in my life. Again, thank you for replying. You give great advice’s so keep it up! Im sure I’m going to come back here again! ❤️

        • Thank you for sharing your positive comment. Please feel free to share more of your thoughts and feelings in the future. Have a great day, Bexan!

  4. Hello! Its me *Bexan and I’m back! I wanted to say that the guy I like keeps replying to my selfies with a “Is this my gf” or “Cutie” also he sent a video called “send this to your crush” and I didnt know wether to believe him or not. But he responded with a “This was cute and I thought It worked for close friends too” and i don’t really know what to thiink because I’ve been meaning to send the same video for weeks.. Does that mean he likes me?? Or..?

    • He is interested in developing a relationship with you. He he very public with his expressions of his emotions. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Anon!

  5. Hello.. Its me.. Turns out I cant get over him.. Because he keeps giving me mixed signals and he’s always giving me hope when he comments on my story selfies on Instagram. There was this one time where i posted my selfie and he commented with a “Is this my gf?” and the second time i posted a selfie he replied with “Cutie” and he also sent me a video with a caption of “send this to your crush with no context” and the thing is I’ve been planning send him one way before he sent it to me.. I just didnt do it because i didnt want him to distant himself from me knowing that i like him more than just friends..

    • He is interested in developing a relationship with you. He he very public with his expressions of his emotions. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Kinna!

      • I doubt that… He doesnt want anything serious with me and I’m just so hurt and confused and upset right now. I really want to believe all the things he tells me.. But just one sweet thing he sends me makes my heart flutter and it gives me hope that maybe we could work out as a couple. But no, it will never work out but I cant bring myself to forget him.. Or even hate him.. I think I should just distance myself from him.. If he doesnt even bother to text me to ask if I’m alright.. THen I know its time to move on because he’s not worth my time. I will always be that one girl to him.

        • It sounds as though you have made your decision. Determine what you want and take appropriate action. Have a great day, Kinna!

  6. I was leaving work today and saying my goodbyes and telling them I wouldn’t be there next week and I told my crush I was gonna be gone for a week and she was like “Aww really?” I replied, “Why are you miss me?” “Yeah I’m going to miss you.” Can you tell me is it friendly or romantic tension?

    • It is certainly possible that she is interested in nourishing a relationship with you. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. You may find benefit in speaking with her about your thoughts and feelings. Give her an opportunity to share herself with you as well. Have a great day, Siege!

  7. I have a girl who keeps telling me every time we chat or I call her that she misses me. She keeps repeating it all the time. What does she actually mean? Because she in a relationship with another man and me in a relationship with a another girl.
    Anytime I go to see her she does not look at me straight in the face while chatting and always playing with her hair.

    • She feels an emotional connection with you. She may be interested in developing a relationship with you. You are aware that you are in a relationship. She is in a relationship as well. Do not attempt to nourish a romantic relationship with her at this time. Perhaps spend less time with her and more time with your partner. This will strengthen your current relationship. Have a great day, Joseph!

  8. She used to text me all the time and want to hang out, but the last several weeks she has not done that. I figured that meant she had lost interest, so I prepared myself for the worst. A couple of days ago I tried to meet with her, but she had to cancel due to her health. She told me that she has really been missing me lately and that she really wishes she could have hung out with me more these last few weeks if her life had not been so crazy.
    It’s only been a couple of days since she sent the text telling me that, and now it’s summer break, and we will be away from each other for a while. I’ve contacted her to check up on how she’s feeling health-wise and she responded, but she has not tried to contact me so far. So I’m confused that she says she’s been missing but doesn’t seem to want to know what’s going on in my life? (I realize it’s only been a couple of days so maybe I just need to be more patient).

    • He has shared that she will be busy. She is unable to communicate with you often. She likely does not initiate texts because of this reason. Share your kindness and compassion with her. Allow her the freedom to act as she feels necessary. Perhaps share your thoughts and feelings with her. Have a great day, Archie!

  9. The girl I’m interested in used to initiate contact, but for the last several weeks she has stopped doing that. I figured that meant she lost interest. After recently having to cancel plans I was trying to make with her (we haven’t hung out for a while), she said that she has been really missing me and wishes she could’ve hung out more these last few weeks if her life had not been so crazy. I trust her. But now it’s summer break, and she’s still not really reaching out to me. So she says she has been missing me, but it’s always me reaching out. What’s up?

    • He has shared that she will be busy. She is unable to communicate with you often. She likely does not initiate texts because of this reason. Share your kindness and compassion with her. Allow her the freedom to act as she feels necessary. Perhaps share your thoughts and feelings with her. Have a great day, Archie!

  10. At work, I have a friend that began with the little things. Little hugs every now and then. Would tell me how beautiful I was. As the days went on, it became a daily thing. A hug that lasted about 3 minutes everytime he would see me. He would tell me that I’m his beautiful angel & his girl. He would come from behind and give me hugs. Everytime we’d see each other he’d do everything to get my attention. Where ever I went he followed. He would even try to grad my hand. My question is: does he really like me? Or is he just trying to be a good/nice person?

    • It is certainly likely that he feels a strong emotional and social connection with you. He may be interested in developing a relationship with you. Decide if you believe his actions are appropriate. Determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Eliana!

  11. If they initiated contacting you and you haven’t spoken to them in a while, they were indeed thinking of you and obviously miss you. However, just saying they miss you is not enough. Respond back politely but don’t get into a conversation just over that. If they are serious they will contact you again (they are trying to reverse it back to you and make you want to talk about the past, don’t do it). Wait until they say they need you in their life and want to be with you. Until they say they want a relationship with you, just say no. If they do want a relationship with you, then you make a decision on whether you desire that or not.

    • Thank you for sharing your insights. We always appreciate when members of our community share their thoughts and feelings. Please share more of your positive and supportive comments in the future. Have a great day, S!

  12. A girl recently told me that she misses me. And i was into this girl but i stopped texting her and she recently told me that she misses me and that she wanted to text me before. But this girl told me that she didnt want a relationship and all that, she wasnt ready for it. What do i do and what does that mean

    • She is interested in being your friend. She informed you that she wasn’t interested in a relationship at that time. Her feelings may have changed since the two of you stopped speaking. She has reached out to you. Speak with her about your thoughts and feelings. Give her an opportunity to share herself with you as well. The two of you may choose to nourish your relationship at this time. Have a great day, HM!

  13. I really love this girl,
    We were good friends earlier (I didn’t have a crush on her during tat time) but as we got closer in the past 3 months, I developed feelings for her… she shares everything with me, she is really friendly and has a lot of friends who r guys and she’s really open to them… however, she shared some of her darkest secrets which no one knew only to me….
    She tells her other guy best friends tat she loves them and hugs them as well…
    I am really confused…. I have been having a REALLY REALLY huge crush on her…. I used to lose my feelings for girls in a matter of time and she’s knew about that but I guess I have changed ever since she came into my life….
    She’s currently into an FWB and only makes out with the guy… as she’s doesn’t want drama with relationships (that’s what she’s told)
    She’s not always the first one to text tho and active zones me at times… I got kinda pissed and didn’t text her for a week, out of no where she texted that she missed me…. I really don’t know what this means… is She into me? She’s really broad minded and hugs her other guy best friends even more than me but she shares stuff more to me than them….
    I’m always the first one to hug…
    I really don’t know what’s in her mind and i’m Really confused…. should I confess about my feelings? I would really appreciate a reply….

    • She has reached out to you and informed you of her feelings. This is an indication that her feelings for you may be growing. You may want to speak with her about your thoughts and feelings. Inform her that you want to see her in person. This may help you better understand her feelings for you. Before you maintain a romantic relationship with her, decide what type of relationship you want to maintain. Have a great day, George!

  14. I recently started a new job and everyone was giving out they’re cell number because it’s a small team at the job site and one girl in particular started texting me my 2nd day and can only talk to me during work because she has to go home to her husband and texts me when he is away tells me she misses me over sms and said that she has feelings for me as more than a coworker/friend but then took it back immediately after. I’m worried this may affect my job as she has been at this job longer than me and I’m just fresh meat . I in return do like her more than a coworker\friend what should I do?????

    • Your coworker is married. Do not attempt to nourish a romantic relationship with her. Inform her that you want to be friends and coworkers with her, but you are not interested in being her partner. Focus your emotional energy elsewhere. If you believe that this harms your career, then you may want to speak with someone else about her behaviors. Have a great day, California!

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