It seems like you have met the perfect girl. After talking to her a bit, you are finally her friend. You text each other constantly and hang out all the time. You think that it is almost the right time for you to ask her out, but then she tells you that you are like her brother. What does it mean when a girl says, “You are like my brother?”
In most cases, this is not a good response to get. Either she is trying to warn you away from asking her out, or she never considered you as a dating possibility. We will go through the many different reasons why you might get this response and what to do about it.
What Does It Mean When a Girl Says You Are Like My Brother?
When you hear this from the girl you like, it depends on the situation and how she says it. There are several different reasons why she might say that you are like her brother. While most of these reasons are because she does not view you as a potential date, there are other possible reasons as well, so don’t lose hope quite yet.
1. She Wants to Hint That She Is Not Interested
If you have been hanging out for a while, then she might already guess that she likes you. Perhaps she has had problems with friends having a crush on her in the past, or she just wants to make sure that nothing hurts your friendship. One of the biggest reasons why a girl would say that you are like her brother is because she does not want to date you. For whatever reason, she is not interested in being more than friends.
2. She Is Afraid of Hurting Your Friendship
After you have been friends for a while, she gets used to having you around. She quickly learns that you are the one person that she can always turn to for help and support. When this happens, she is naturally afraid of anything hurting your friendship. Even if she has feelings for you, she may be afraid to do anything about them because she wants to remain friends. If you were to ask her out, then she might be afraid of losing you if she rejects you. If she chose to date you, she could still lose you if there was a break up. No matter what she does, she could lose if you ask her out. Because of this, she is trying to warn you away from even trying.
3. She Has a Crush and Does Not Want Anyone to Know
This option really depends on the exact situation. When you have a crush on someone, you are obviously afraid of being rejected. Because of this, she may be wary that anyone will find out. They could make fun of her, you could reject her or she might just become a source of gossip and rumors. She told a friend or you that you are like a brother to her because she does not want anyone to know her feelings.
Honestly, this is the least common reason why a girl would say you are like my brother. There are some cases when this will happen though, so it is still a possibility.
4. She Never Considered Dating You
In some cases, a girl will say you are like her brother to warn you away from asking her out. In other cases, she won’t even think about what she is saying. One very obvious reason why she might say that you are like her brother is because she actually thinks that you are like her brother. She feels like you are a family member because you are such a good friend.
In this case, there is no way to know if she could like you back some day or not. For this reason, she just never considered the possibility of dating you or not. She thinks of you as a good friend, so it never crossed her mind that you would want something more. If you ask her out right now though, then you should be prepared for a rejection. Since she never thought that you could like her, she will probably say no without even thinking about it. If you want to have any type of a chance with her, you should gradually start flirting and show your interest indirectly so that she gets the hint. Then, depending on how she responds, you can try to make a move.
Overall, the biggest reason why a girl would think of you like a brother is because she does not see you as a potential boyfriend. This could obviously change in the future, but it definitely is a sign that you should move with caution for the moment. Gradually flirt a bit more with her and try to read her body language. If she never flirts back, you might be out of luck.