The stare might be one of the most potent expressions possible. There’s something about it that speaks to us on a very deep level. Something in our genes probably remembers the days our ancestors spent living as hunter-gatherers, staring out at prey and feeling the burning gaze of predators.
Now we don’t have to worry about hunting and being hunted, but the stare still has a deep meaning. These day’s we mainly think about it in terms of relationships, the urge we feel to stare at women we’re attracted to and the complex emotions that arise when we think that a woman might be staring at us.
If you think a woman is staring at you it’s worth trying to make sense. She must feel some way about you, or else she wouldn’t be staring. Of course, the feelings she has for you might not necessarily be positive. Either way, the sooner you understand the meaning behind the stare the better.
If you want to truly understand her stare you need to ask yourself some questions. We’ll give you the questions and explain what the typical responses mean for you and her. Remember to answer these questions as honestly as possible, if you try and hide the truth from yourself you’re the person who is most likely going to get hurt.
A Positive Stare
Is she smiling? Does she look away when you catch her staring? Does she seem like she wants you to approach her?
Positive stares can take several forms. People feel very exposed when they are around someone they like. They have a lot at stake, rejection hurts. So, if a girl is staring at you because she likes you, then there’s a good chance she’ll try and mask her attraction. She might look away quickly when you look her way.
Of course, not every girl is nervous around guys they like. Some girls are very forward, and they will continue to stare you down even when you meet their gaze. Check to see what their expression is like, if they smile, bat their eyes, and bite or lick their lips then you’ve got the go ahead to make some sort of move.
Of course, it will probably be something subtle. Still, if she likes you, then it will be something positive. If it isn’t, then the stare might have another meaning.
Whether she looks away quickly or meets your gaze the important things to look for are whether or not she looks upset and whether or not she keeps looking back at you. If she’s not upset and her eyes continue coming back to you, then the stare is probably positive.
A Negative Stare
What is your relationship with the girl staring? What has happened between you and her recently? Does she have any reason to be mad at you?
There’s a reason that stares freak us out. It’s not just because we’re shy; it’s also because we are fragile humans. Stares commonly set the stage for violence. Of course, you probably don’t have to worry about a girl attacking you in public, but there is a chance that she’s staring at you because she’s angry.
If you have any reason to believe that the girl in question is upset then you need to move carefully. Girls are passionate, they love and hate with all their heart. Of course, sometimes the two emotions are closer than they appear at first. There’s a reason little girls pick on the boys they like, and vice versa. Still, if a girl is staring at you with some negative emotion written on her face you need to move carefully, you don’t want to cause the situation to escalate.
A Mistaken Stare
Are you sure that she’s staring at you? Does she even know you?
The mind has a way of finding what it’s looking for. It’s the reason that we see human faces everywhere; we’re genetically predisposed to look for faces. When you feel strong feelings for a woman, you’re going to look for signs that the feeling is mutual. But the brain can be deceitful, even when it comes to spotting stares.
Ask yourself this question, was she really staring at you? Just about every guy has at one time assumed that a beautiful woman was looking at him, only to discover that she was looking at something behind him or simply staring blankly. If you want to test this try and move around and see how she reacts. She might look away abruptly if she thinks she’s been caught.
Of course, this doesn’t mean she was attracted; it might mean you just caught her staring absentmindedly. The trick is checking back to see if she resumes staring at you later. If she’s truly attracted to you, her eyes will probably wander back to you eventually, even if she wants to keep a low profile.
If you move and she doesn’t react at all, then you probably got the wrong idea. Don’t sweat it too much if that’s the case; it happens to the best of us. It also doesn’t mean that you have no chance with her, it just means she’s not really staring at you.
Returning The Favor
With many gestures, it can be hard to recommend one course of action. However, with the stare it is possible. There are many ways to react to a stare, but it’s always worth trying the obvious approach. Meet her gaze and flash her a friendly smile.
This path of action shows that you’re friendly and you know she’s looking. From there you need to react based on how she reacts. If she seems upset, then you know something’s gone wrong. If she seems confused or doesn’t react at all, then she probably isn’t even looking. But if she smiles back or gets flustered then you can be confident that she feels some type of way about you.
Nothing ventured, nothing gained. After the initial glances and staring you’ll need to talk to her. Just remember to do it sooner rather than later, there’s a thin line between flirtatious staring and creepy staring.